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>I refuse to try getting into disgusting things because it's just wrong.
No it's not

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> I refuse to try getting into disgusting things because it's just wrong.
Is masturbating and sex really not disgusting enough already that you have to look down at even the implication of a fetish? You need to get over yourself.

Go get a vibrator or dildo or some other toy. Maybe a Hitachi wand. That or try some sleep aids, like melatonin. Oh, and maybe talk to your doctor about the stress and trouble sleeping.

Sounds like you need to take a break. Wait until the weekend (or whenever you can afford to lose some sleep) and then just quit cold turkey for a few weeks at least.

You'll probably find that your usual stuff (or even nothing but your imagination) will get you off just fine after that. Maybe don't it it so hard from there on out...

Why?

>>17364255
I would accept it for money and something to occupy my time.

I'm debating on accepting it because it feels douchey to be trained and then almost immediately leave the area, it also could potentially burn a bridge later on if it is douchy as I know a couple people that work there.

You'll look uncommitted to future employers if you have a job that you quit almost immediately. If you don't need the cash look up jobs in the area your moving to or treat this as a 3 week break.

I was once in a very deep depression , and the one thing that got me out of it was finding a hobby. My particular hobby was music. I found a bass for cheap and I downloaded pdfs of music theory books from the internet and I made a point out of learning something.

After that I seemed to blossom in terms of hobbies and I had something to look forward to at the end of the day. It took a lot of patience and will to start the hobbies, but it really did pay out in the end.

After that it was fairly straightforward to find people who shared hobbies with me, now that I had some. Not only that, I had GAD and it turned out that it was cured via me calming down and setting time aside for my new hobbies. Before hand, I would struggle to be attentive to one thing before I would dive into being an anxious mess.

Hopefully this gives you a bit of advice.

>>17364268
Thank you. I am into drawing, playing the piano, and writing. These things used to usually calm me down, but i'm at the age and time where you need to start looking at your skill level for higher education.

Ever since, I have ceased to grow at a positive rate. All I do nowadays is frustrate myself over how inconsistent my gains have been in these art forms. Sometime I could be doing just fine, attempt a sketch, and manage to throw myself into a depression that lasts the rest of the night.

It's funny to look at my art from middle school/freshman year. Back then I lacked technique and drawings took hours to complete, but the end result looked alot better than what I have now. My theory is that because I was in a better space mentally.

>>17364284
>fustrate myself over how inconsistent my gains have been
I know that feeling. It's important to take a step back and look how you can improve. As with everything in life, taking a step back and observing it from a non-emotional point of view is a great tool for moving forward.

For art, I might suggest some of the Loomis books if you are at that beginner-moderate skill level. If you are better than that or just need some critique, visit /ic/ and post in one of the beginner threads and keep an open mind (along with realizing some people will say your art sucks because people on 4chan just behave that way sometimes). Improve from there. Heck, if you wanted to you can post some of your art here and I can give you some suggestions!

For music, since you are into piano I am guessing you are probably more skilled than most people. If this is true, then it is all about honing your skills further. Take a look into composing and the likes, maybe look for bands, plays, or concerts that need pianists.

For writing I do not have much of a suggestion for it since I myself am not good at it. It also is one of those hobbies that you can have a gift in and never know. So maybe if you have something finished up, you could always take a stab at getting it published if you think it might be worth it.

As for higher education, what is it that you were thinking of taking in college? I get the frustration aspect of it all entirely. But again, sometimes it just takes us coming back at it again and again and again before we finally break down some obstacle. Then we progress. It's tough and a lot of people give up which only reinforces the terrible idea further that if you don't do it at once, you'll never do it at all. But you ought to keep at it.

>>17364216
>Next day I ask her on a date.
What'd she say to this? If it was anything other than an unequivocal yes, then she's not interested

Oh she was completely for the date, we met 3 days ago, and had the date yesterday, and that was when she mentioned the coffee shop thing

She mentioned the coffee shop during the date^

I'm actually getting mine done on Tuesday. It costs around $5000 no matter were you go in the US unless you have a sketchy ass doc.

>>17364265
Sheeeit. I thought it'd be cheaper than that. I can afford it but still.

>>17364269
You can usually make payments through Care Credit. I'm on a 24 month no interest payment plan so I'm paying about $220 a month.

Drop something really heavy on the ground

Or move out so your parents can enjoy their sex lives without having a NEET listening in on them

Fap along

>>17364186
Absolutely. Do that. This guy gets it.

What's the worst that could happen?

It works. I can't count how many times I've managed to help a lost dog get home by walking with them. They'll usually walk up to the front door that they recognize.

Yes try it. They usually find back. Just let the dog kind of lead the way.

Also I just realized that I fucking forgot to shave, so no need to point that out.

Buy shampoo and conditioner (not the two-in-one bullshit) that offers volume for starters

>>17364132
Any specific recommendations that aren't too expensive?

If it was warranted (ie they were threatening to hurt him or other loved ones), then aroused. There's nothing more attractive than a man who knows when he needs to step up and protect.

I'd question why I was dating a violent vigilante

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>>17364144
A vigilante?

Are we reading the same story

Is this a joke or not?

I'd tell you, but I'd have to kill you.

>>17364116
If you plan on using a gun use a shotgun, ballistic forensics can't be used to trace the gun back to you if you use buckshot

Buy alot of hot pockets. Then tell girls you have hot pockets. Too easy.

>>17364136
That's a good idea. I'll take not of it

Tinder if youre goodlooking and funny

be more spesific

>>17364109

In what sense? At least from my amateur understanding, the question as to whether or not you can challenge the accommodations that are supposedly there to protect you isn't something that's come up too much in caselaw: It's all about whether or not the person really is disabled, and whether or not those accomodations are reasonable, because the assumption is that the disabled person wants as much as they can get, and the employer wants to do as little as possible, as opposed to my case where I want those accommodations removed and being treated like one of the boys.

Uh, anyone?

If you're having kids it might be a deal breaker depending on what was done. Otherwise not so much.

I would only care if i planned to have children with the person

Why does that matter if you want children?

Oh look, another depressive joins the fold

>>17364106

I wouldn't be this way if getting a girlfriend were not such a shitty ordeal. Its horrible. You need so much fucking capital. Particularly, a car if you don't live in a city with a good metro. Then its excusable. I however live in one of those "cities" but lacks good public transit, so everyone just uses a fucking car.

FUCK THIS WORLD!

Depression.
Please visit a psychologist.
And stay strong, you hear me ?

>>17364052
>>17364052
forgot to say I'm 22 now, age is irrelevant now that I think

You're 22... You're supposed to be getting drunk all the time. Start hanging out at a new bar, start a conversation with the bartender, then the regulars... Come back in a few days. Repeat until you are a regular with cool new friends.

>>17364073
>Start hanging out at a new bar, start a conversation with the bartender, then the regulars
I'm somewhat shy to go into a bar and start drinking alone, people always go in big group of friends.

Also I'm very annoying and impertinent when black-out drunk or borderline black-out drunk, I've done or said shit that could get me seriously injured or killed if I was in a dangerous place.