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I don't think there's any way of preventing him from feeling that way. Just keep a positive attitude and reassure him that you don't mind and don't mind keep trying. Just say something like how you get to enjoy a little more time with him in bed or whatever.

>>17360763
Give him a blow job, or 69 if you're still trying to get off.

When I 69 my girl, I don't know what it is, but she gets deep as fuck, must be a good angle or something I dont' know, but I dont' get deep throats unless we're 69ing.

first of all, get over the conditioning that penis-in-vagina is the only form of sex. My boyfriend is a trans dude (as in, yeah, he has a vagina) and we have great sex. Think outside the box

If a middle class lifestyle is your main goal, I would say that the tech industry is a good one to look into. Also consider the trades, maybe?

find a blue collar job and join a union. dont have kids until youre 30. trying looking to work for the city, a warehouse, or learn a trade

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>>17360764
Alright, trades sounds like the way to go. I'll form a plan around that. I know the best philosophy is to do the jobs nobody else wants to do. Maybe I'll study plumbing

let her the illusion. might atleast have some placebo effect

>>17360731
Yeah, well, the problem is the "doctor" leading this MLM crap gives out awful health advice. Also it's a scheme designed to trick people out of their money. It's doing far more harm than good.

>>17360729
Tell her the reason you can't OD on supplements like this is because they don't actually do anything.

I miss my childhood when i wasnt just a fake ass push over bitch -.-.

I can relate very well. Parents that never felt responsibile of teaching me shit nor giving me any safety or stability yet expected me to be perfect child in every way. Constant infighting, being used by both of them like a weapon against one another. My father who told me that he never wanted to be father, my mother told me in one breath how she was strongly thinking about geting abortion (she got couple before me) on me but it was too late and yet somehow nobody will ever love me like her... I could go on and on, and on. How the constant mindfuckery destroyed everything good that I managed to build around myself, how they scared every good person that wanted to help me, how they taught me to hate myself... Point is...

You are not at fault here. As a child you are hardwired to trust your parent. It's an evolutional thing. Your parents are the ones that has responsibility to teach you and care for you. It's not your fault that you weren't strong enough to resist sociopathic fuckers that are able to trick even adult people. You were child and you had no different point of view. It was only world you knew and what is worse, it was probably showed to you, as the correct one. TBC

>>17360796
Now what you say about wanting to improve world, help community. In reality it's coping mechanism. Mesianic complex is quite comon in troubled children. They feel something is right, but naturally they don't want to blame their parents. Suposedly only people (I feel rage building just thinking about it) that care for you (What a joke) so you put it outward into the world and inward into yourself. You want to improve whole world so that your family would be normal and at peace, you also learn to hate yourself. What you are feeling now, this feeling of regret of hate towards yourself ("I wasn't strong enough") it's them still fucking up with your head. It's afterfallout. Path to health and happyness is lond and diffcult but as hell I hope it's there because for sure I am not there myself, but I'm climbing up.

One of my advices would be: Love. It's a tricky thing for you, for sure. If you are anything like me, you don't know love. It's strange and alien feeling to you. It scares you, it makes you feel vulnerable, you run from it. You hate people that love. Because of it, troubled children has tendency to involve themselves into destructive and bad relationships with bad people (it's the only time they feel "good". They don't feel good enough for people that would love them, they want to be hated again, like their parents hated them). You need to be carefull about your relationships. Good relationship could make a world of difference, bad relationship will be abyss.

It doesnt matter who asks first. If you want to ask someone out just do it and dont make a drama

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Don't hesitate.

"Faint heart never won fair maiden." (Shakespeare, I think)

>>17360676
depends on what kind of guy you are and what kind of girl she is and how well you know each other

I'd ask a guy out if we were already really good friends and having a blast spending time together

but otherwise I leave the burden of proof on the guy, because he might just be lying to use me so it's up to him to show me his character.

>>17360658
There is literally millions of fucking movies/books on this bullahit. Imagine these nuts.

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I caught my ex-wife of 5 years cheating on me with my former best friend last year.

I walked in hearing noises, I heard her moaning a bit, but it didn't totally register in my mind that something was off. I never really came home to hearing her like that. When I walked down the hallway and looked into my room, I saw them. I stood there in absolute disbelief for a few moments, hardly able to fathom what I was looking at, and then they noticed me.

They both jumped up immediately and started stuttering random excuses and lies to me while she struggled to get dressed and he covered himself with the blanket I bought her for Christmas. I probably stood in that doorway for 10 seconds from start to finish and just walked out. My ex-wife started following me and said the typical "Babe where are you going?" "Please wait". I ignored her and left the house. Went for a very, very long drive.

Sweet thing is that it kinda ruined both of their lives. My former best friend's marriage broke up soon after and I didn't even have to tell anyone. It all happened on its own.

>>17360717
That's rough man, but hell at least they got what was coming to them.

Practice makes perfect, just pay attention. Eye contact and playing with balls helps.
You should only give oral if he reciprocates it though.

>>17360438

The only men who are going to be able to help you are sodomites. And other women fool themselves with their own perceived prowess.

From my experience, women tend to lick and play around too much because that's what they like done to them. And it fuckin hurts when you suck balls.

You'll just have to get him to tell you what he likes. Sex is 90% in the head and 10% in the dick. The first time was so good because it was a surprise. Now, not so much.

Do it in unlikely, dangerous locations. Do it when he least expects it. Dress up like a slut. Talk slutty.

Hope that helps… but it probably doesn't.

i think it's awesome you waited to suck cock till you could get excited ybout it. ecause being eager, enthusiastic and willing are the most important ingredients to a really good bj.
other than that, it is NOt easy to get some dudes off. he might have gotten nervous or your first time was just such a big success because he was overwhelmed by finally getting some. maybe you need to work on timing and pacing more. it's not easy to get someone off when YOU dictate how fast and hard you go. you need to be able to read him like a book and play with his arousal curve. this is what will come with practice. watch out for signs that indicate that he likes what you're doing, that he's nearing that point of no return, or vice versa, that he's starting to go limp or getting bored.
you can ask him what he likes and what to do next, but do not expect him to have a scrpit laid out about his perfect bj. he might not even know what gets him off and what doesn'.t besides, a bj is all about sitting back and enjoying the ride on his end. not telling you every step you should take.
try to bring the point across that you are enjoying this very much. also, tease him at first. get him really horny and hard before you start. you probably know how to et him really aroused. do taht. make out with him, dry hump, flirt, tease,, and so on. rub his hard cock trough his pants first, then trough his panties. then undress him. let your lips gently graze his shaft. make him twitch for you. then do some slow, warm, wet licks all over his cock. make him move his hips. he should practically be begging you to take him into your mouth. then use a LOT of drool. you can produce more by scraping your tongue agains your teeth or thinking about biting into a lemon. but that's the watery kind. what you need is to get some "throat snot". that's the good stuff. it will lubricate him perfectly for a long time. you get that by taking him down your throat as deep as you can. but i'm going too fast. cont.

>>17360254
you need to have a talk with your man about putting a little more effort into it. Really selfish to only think of his nut. I'd go buy the toy and not tell him

>>17360254

Speaking for myself, I'm supposed to be the sex toy. I don't want to be competing with some dildo. I also don't feel like I've done my job if my wife doesn't get off. Too bad you are married to such a jerk.

>My husband doesn't like to do the positions that get me off
such as?

>>17360239
your sex drive will fluctuate and a month is nothing to worry about. longer you might check if there is something physically wrong. Otherwise suck it up and fuck her. Women fuck their husbands all the time even when they are not in the mood because they love them and want to make them happy.

why can't you look at porn just because you now live with her? i'm going to move in with my bf soon and i sure as hell will continue to watch porn.

>>17360692
Not him but I can't watch porn around my girlfriend because she takes it personally like "What am I not good enough?"

It's still cheating, even if it's a girl...
Does your bf know you WANT him to lick your pussy? Maybe you have turned him down a few times at the beginning or it seemed like you were uncomfortable or not enjoying it. Talk to him instead of just looking elsewhere.

>>17360023
Only if you don't inform your bf,and don't take the right action to sever romantic ties beforehand. Nothing wrong with getting the old lickaroo. He might even be ok with it if you tell him

>>17360032
He knows. Some context: We have been together since we both were 15, hes my first and me too, I'm 19 now so its a long time. He has never, ever done it. He says he doesnt like the taste.
I started going to college this year and made friends with this girl and one day we were talking about our sex lives and I tell her this and she starts saying shes a lesbian and the thing she loves the most is to go down on women and so on. Ever since then she flirts with me kind of aggressively and is always sending me pics and messages on snapchat.

How do you know illegal? It you report it falsely because it's a person you don't like then you could face criminal charges.

>>17359876
I know for a fact that they are illegal. My neighbor has tried to speak with them before and nothing came of it other than they now are even more rude to us.

>>17359848
Here's the thing, OP. They're immigrants, which mean they don't have much money. They live next door to you, which means you live in approximately the same conditions. Which means you live in a poor neighborhood. Which means you're just as big of a garbage heap as they are.

Poor people need to stick together. Go be friends with them.

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>>17359836
>using snapchat
>being this basic

Just delete the app.
You should only contact women if you're setting up a date. That's it. Sending snaps saying "hey" will only do more harm than good

As far as the no response thing, who knows? Maybe she just didn't know what to say. Maybe she was really busy. It's not a big deal

Just set up another date through text/call in a few days. Nobody cares about snaps

>>17360134
nigga how old are you? This chick's 20, snaps are an essential part of communicating

As you said, certain legal provisions and tax related matters.

If I were me, I would argue to get rid of marriage entirely. Simple registration system little different than a change of address.

>>17359736
>All I can find is the benefit of medical decisions and social security payments.

bingo

It permits you to have sex without offending Allah.

You're a beta

>>17359656
you are around douches

I'm male that doesn't get along with anyone, so I can kind of relate. I know I'm not building any kind of social relationships or network I'll make use of, I know it doesn't get me anything in the moment, and I know it won't get me anything later.

And, the conversation isn't enjoyable in the moment. A lot of this aspect is my fault. I'm either in pain or anxious about being crippled by the aforementioned pain, which has wired me over time to deal with things in discrete "chunks". When I communicate there's no flow. It begins and it ends, because I rigidly keep to what I have in mind.

With women I'm either detached or apathetic. I just don't attempt connection. People are probably readily aware I'm in a sense talking -at- them, rather than with.

Anyway. No one can give you answers here. You'll have to plot out the dynamic for yourself. Maybe what I said gives some means to begin considering what constitutes a given interaction.

Do you want his dick?
If yes, accept.
if no, decline.

>>17359649
He is hot but I am not the type of girl into one night stands and hookups

>>17359650
I would decline, it doesn't seem worth the drama. Spanish is one of the easier languages to learn, especially castilian. Unless you're trying to learn the clusterfuck of spanish that comes from mesoamerica.