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>tl;dr Should I leave my gf / friends / family / hobbies / career prospects behind and move to an eastern european shithole to study medicine?
I'm a 25 year old german guy who just finished his B.Sc. in CS. I was able to work besides uni (and we have no tution fees), so I don't have any debt or student loans to pay off. Got ok grades and am accepted into several Masters tracks at my uni, while having a nice job that pays enough to survive. I'm into computers and programming since I was 13, so I thought Tech would be my (well paying) future. I have a nice little appartement near my family and friends and recently got a nice girlfriend.
Yet, due to sheer coincidence I started volunteering for the Red Cross as an EMT four years ago. While in the beginning it has been just a of hobby to spend my time on, I somehow ended up loving this kind of work far more than sitting in front of a computer. I never considered myself as a big altruist, yet working in a hospital / an ambulance, helping/serving people and being there easing their suffering (I've seen some serious shit in the last years), somehow gives me an immense feeling of peace, purpose and belonging.
Soon I have to confirm my applications for a Masters program, but the more I think about it, the stronger grows the idea of becoming a doctor. The thought of spending the rest of my life programming some shit for a big company repels me. Studying medicine however, would only be possible for me at some eastern european universities (due a variety of reasons). There I would spend at least three years working my ass off, before I could maybe transfer back to Germany. I would need to take a loan (estimated 60k - 80k €) and the possibility of dropping out is huge.
Every logical bone in my body screams, that this is a stupid ideay, but I just can't silence the voice in my head saying 'Do it!'.
What should I do?
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It depends man. If you can pay off the loan, go for it. Just don't do a job you don't enjoy. My dad thought he would enjoy being a lawyer, the poor man went full gray by 35, and is bound to have cardiovascular issues from all the stress. Do what you love as long as you're able to
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Thanks, I think could handle the loan somehow (it's just that my father always raised me to avoid debt).
I'm even more afraid of failing miserably and having given up so much for nothing in the end...
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>>17393324
At least here in America, there's money to be made if you have medical experience, I'm sure you don't really care since your motive isn't based on material things which is honorable. If you're good, you have the opportunity to do extraordinary things and have access to the best things to save people with, while getting paid well. If you go through with it, I don't think money will be an issue and you'll be able to pay the debt
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Gf won't sleep at my place 2016-07-26 03:08:00 Post No.17393276
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Gf won't sleep at my place
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Let me start with some context:
>be in long distance relationship for 2+ years
>both 23
>finally move to her state
>get a place of my own
>it's small and just a sublet
My girlfriend is still living with her parents since she's still in school and has been saving up money. The problem is that she will not spend the night with me. She tells me it's easier to stay at home and more convenient for her since all of her things are there. Which I can totally understand but I've only got her to stay a few times and I've gotten frustrated and have had a few fights over it. Other than that we have been getting along fine. It's just upsetting to me because our whole relationship I was looking forward to falling asleep/waking up with her once I moved closer to her. We live about 20 minutes away. I just feel kind of deceived moving here to sleep alone every night. Don't get me wrong, I see her side of the story but she won't make a compromise which is why we keep arguing.
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lol
are you mentally handicapped or just stupid?
if she wanted to, she would. she clearly does not want to.
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>>17393308
That's why I made this post.
I clearly wasn't direct enough. I just wanted some insight and advice and if I'm in the wrong here. she did tell me before I moved that she would stay over most nights and now she went back on her promise.
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Seems like kind of a big issue, especially considering you made the sacrifice so to speak, of moving over there to be nearer to her, and to bridge that gap in the relationship.
If she were 18-20 or so, I'd understand her reluctance, but you guys are pushing into mid-20s territory... So it sounds like a personal issue on her part.
Does she give you any other more honest reasons? That whole thing about convenience and her stuff is horse shit. Also, honest question, do you guys fuck? Good sex life?
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For a while I've wanted to join the military, but recently I have become so opposed to war and the like. Does anyone have any other organizations I could join to travel and actually help people? Preferably not the Peace Corps. Just need help on this. I want to make a difference in the world and I want to help people because I am happiest at a job helping others. But for a few years I wanna do it in some place exotic.
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AmeriCorps maybe, but you'll have to forgo the exotic setting. There are probably quite a few NGOs with internships out of the country but your access depends on connections and which university you're at.
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>>17393260
Get teaching credentials. Then you can go just about anywhere you want. Taught with a guy in the States who has left and taught in Myanmar, Taiwan, Congo, Egypt.
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>>17393260
The Church does a lot of shit in Africa if that interests you. If you're not religious, it's kind of hard to find an organization that lets you travel the world and do work in exotic places that's also not inspired by religion.
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Over the past year, I have gone from depression to severe depression. Basically all I think about is ways to kill myself and how much I absolutely want to die.
I never talk to anyone about how I feel and I just keep all of it bottled up. Reason being, the past two times ive tried to get help through a friend, they've cut off contact with me, which just makes me feel like an asshole.
Nobody even really talks to me anymore either, outside of family members. I honestly feel truly alone and worthless.
Should I just make an exit bag and get it over with? I really cant think of anything to live for at this point, and I cant think of any other solutions.
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Unfortunately lots of friends are shit friends in the sense that they only want to stick around when you're having a laugh. When shit gets real, they bolt. Don't let assholes influence whether you live or die, or find happiness.
What do you want in life? I know it's tempting to say "nothing", but don't. I've been severely depressed before, I know how it feels
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If ima be completely honest, i just want someone to care about me. It seems that every time i meet someone, they leave as soon as they realize what a sorry fuck I am. So im basically alone. Im too scared to even talk to people anymore because i know ill start getting attached to them and ill feel awful when they leave. Which has rendered me socially retarded, because at this point i dont know how to act like a normal fucking person around people because i try too hard to make them like me
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>>17393256
Seek therapy from a professional.
Don't seek help through friends because they're not trained professionals and trying to unload your emotional baggage onto them will just make them run away.
Psychiatrist, now. That, or die. Up to you.
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How do I stop fucking up greetings? 2016-07-26 02:58:24 Post No.17393252
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How do I stop fucking up greetings?
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There's this one thing where people do this weird handshake thing where instead of gripping eachothers hands they like slide their hands against eachother and latch onto each others fingers on the end its really fucking weird
I can tell when someone wants me to do it and I can kinda do it but I know they must be picking up on me not doing it right
What do?
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>>17393252
How it it difficult exactly?
You simply slap their hand, pull your hand towards you, curl your fingers, then let go
>What do?
Have better hand eye coordination possibly
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oh is that the motion?
I could have sworn there was some kind of gripping involved
how much curling curling fingers is needed?
like just a tad or do your fingers need to be hooking each other?
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No worries man, it's calling dapping. Look at the guys elbow I guess? It's like a sideways high five. Once your hand is touching the dudes, it's just sliding your hand and locking up from there. No one did it in my hometown, when I met guys from outside my town they looked at me like I had three heads because I had no idea what dapping was.
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Seeing as this is basically a relationshit board, I figured I'd ask as someone from the other side of the equation:
Anyone else never really get this "lonely" feeling everyone always talks about? I mean, I have my parents and my siblings, I have friends and coworkers, hell just look at this miracle we call the internet. I can talk to people from around the world about specific interests I have that I may never find someone irl who shares that interest. All for free (excluding the cost of the internet itself I mean). I can play games with people online and form relationships of mutual respect through skill. Honestly several of my Steam friends are closer to me than people I have known and forgotten irl, to the point of even when I came back from being off of Steam for a few YEARS they remembered me and replied asking how my life was within the first day.
I just don't get it. I'm not autistic or anything either, I know that might be the go-to explanation, I'm actually sort of the opposite: I'm highly empathetic and feel other people's emotions to a degree. I have good social skills, if a stranger comes up to talk to me or I meet a new person I can naturally strike up a conversation with them without any problem. I have good manners and help people a lot, so I'm generally pretty popular wherever I go... basically I don't have any social problems. I'm not a basement dweller virgin or something. I also love flirting, but I've never really wanted a romantic relationship or felt "lonely". I like my freedom, in fact as I get older I've been working towards getting greater and greater degrees of freedom.
I guess what I'm asking though is, and maybe this is a bad place to ask considering the normal topics, but: any of you guys out there never feel "lonely"? I don't know whether to think of myself as lucky, weird, or both. Seems uncommon, but at least it allows me to do what I want and not be dependent on anyone. Pic unrelated.
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More people feel lonely than we tend to think.
I've gone through times where I felt like Mr Popular and times where I was just walking around by myself, and times where I felt terrible. Life changes.
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I used to feel lonely all the time. Very lonely. I browsed /r9k/ daily, I'd get angry when I saw people socialize in public, etc. Not anymore. I just have two family members and one friend I talk to occasionally, and all of them live at least several hours away. Loneliness is a stupid memeotion
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I personally get bent out of shape if I don't get time alone. Like I need it. Some people if left all alone for a day feel hollow I guess. If the house is empty I sing and dance while I do laundry. I love it. I enjoy it.
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I want to restore an abandoned bike. Do you guys know how I can legally get ahold of one? I live close to a big city. Also if any of you have restoration tips i would like to hear them. I planning to paint the frame, replace brakes seat, you get the jist.
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>>17393226
There are choppers that get stolen ones and re-sell them. They can't really track it if you buy from them. Just ask around for 'cheap bikes' downtown. Maybe bring a knife though haha.
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I am 18 and i never had a gf 2016-07-26 02:49:36 Post No.17393221
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I am 18 and i never had a gf
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i am 18 and i never had a gf, if i do not get a gf in 2 years i am going to kill my self
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See you in 3 years.
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>>17393221
no you wont
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>>17393221
Stop with the shit posting. If you plan on killing yourself call the suicide hotline first.
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Guys want me to model for him 2016-07-26 02:48:36 Post No.17393219
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Guys want me to model for him
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>Posted an ad on Craigslist for sex
>Naturally get a bunch of spam and dudes answering me back wanting to blow me
>One guy responds saying he works of an agency looking for guys with attractive bodies and finds them modeling work for underwear companies and whatnot
>Not wanting to get possibly raped or have a bunch of nude pictures of myself circulating around somewhere that could be used against me
>Still tempted to hit him up for his offer so that I can make some extra money
In all likelihood, it's just some older perverted guy who wants to take some nude pictures of me or something.
What's my likelihood of getting raped and/or getting my life ruined?
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Come on genius, use your head
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>One guy responds saying he works of an agency looking for guys with attractive bodies and finds them modeling work for underwear companies and whatnot
If he said that he'd like to personally take pictures for himself, then that would be real. Still could be dangerous, but real.
Since he said that, he's straight up lying. Expect bad consequences (also if you aren't a gay guy you shouldn't use craigslist. Try okcupid, tinder, or something else, and always meet up publicly first)
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>>17393219
Your main concern shouldn't be rape, but a scam. If they say they need money for like a demo photo shoot, then they're using you. They might say you're 99.99% going to make it big or whatever, but in reality they'll hardly bother marketting you and you just paid a lot of money for a professional photo shoot.
I used to be skinny spaghetti dropping 150 pound skeleton. I worked out and I've got a respectacle body and I've always been kind of attractive, but I'm still as autistic as when I was super skinny. I don't talk to girls since I go to an all-boys high school. Let me get on with it
>At friends house
>His super hot cousin is there
>She plays sports, is athletic, nothing particularly wrong with her
>When I walked in she looked at me and smiled
>She laughed at all of my jokes, including the shit ones
>Caught her staring a few times
wtf does this mean. I'm dumb and I didn't want to drop my spaghetti so I didn't talk to her much. Help me out fellow anons, what did I just experience
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I can relate. Ever since I can remember I've never really been able to open up to people either.
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>What does it mean?
It means she likes you.......??????
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>>17393242
but what do I do if I think she's into me, flirting is an abstract concept to me as its only been recent where I can consider myself attractive
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How do you avoid being bitterly disappointed on your birthday? I'm assuming from being on 4chan and all a lot of you guys don't have friends/have shitty, disappointing birthdays too.
Mine's coming up soon.
Do you have any tips or tricks to deal with it? I usually end up crying at least once every birthday and I'd really rather avoid that. This year it's a bit different than usual, I have a significant other and I've made a few friends, but that's all very new so I can't imagine them putting in lots of effort for me. Having friends and shit might feel even worse since if they don't do anything nice for me I'll feel even more crushed.
How do you deal with your birthdays?
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I just treat it like every other day.
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Doesn't not having anything big or special happen feel upsetting? I can't really get over the feeling of just being disappointed every year
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It's just another day for me. I usually don't tell anyone, so that no one tries anything funny.
If you can afford it, just do/buy something you really want.
So I'm late for my period. I know because I track it and have been tracking it for several years. I know my cycle.
Problem is, I'm gonna get the Depo-Provera injection tomorrow and it HAS to be done during my cycle so they ensure I'm not pregnant.
Last month I lost my virginity and had sex a total of three times, using a condom each time. No rips occurred. Yesterday I bought a pregnancy test and took one: it came up not pregnant. Then I took another test this morning and it came up not pregnant.
So should I cancel my appointment (and call when I DO get period), or go through with it, since I'm clearly not pregnant? If period happens Wesnesday I could reschedule the appointment. I just don't wanna take a day off of work or come in late.
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>>17393205
You are asking in the wrong fucking place.
You seriously think you're going to get advice here? This is a question for your OBGYN. Call them in the morning and schedule an appointment with them ASAP.
That's the best advice I can give you.
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Niggers, I'm officially /stumped/. I was texting this girl while playing a game of chess with her, and this is how the conversation went down:
>me: horrible move btw
>her: you meant "horrible game btw" XD. Seriously, you should go and teach me.
>me: that among other things. What do I get out of it though? lol
>her: depends on what do u want to get out of it.
Did I just accidentally my way into an opportunity? I don't know what to make of her last message. Then again, I'm terrible at picking up meaning from texts. What just happened?
ITT: texting advice for the extra-slow
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i think she wants to help you file your taxes OP
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this is easy as fuck bruh
tell her you want a blow job
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Fucking hell, help me please. Can someone here actually give me some advice? This board is a fucking meme
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Just a tip for everyone involved in some divorce-like situations
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>>17393182
What's the tip? Always remain positive?
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>>17393186
Don't be a zero-personality cuck like OP and you won't be cheated on + dumped
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>>17393187
Good thing I surpassed 3d years ago
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Hey guys so i've been to a party at the beggining of the Month and i made out with a girl, after that i got a bit drunk and i didnt want to disapoint her on the kissing so i didnt talk that much with her, we danced a bit and stuff but i think she thought that was i being rude and stuff, i forgot to get her number and havent seen her ever since, but this next week i think i'll see her and i have no clue if its a good idea to go talk to her and stuff or pretend like she is a complete stranger to prevent some rudeness from her.
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I 100% guarantee you that you have thought about this way more than she has. (Probably zero times)
No offense but this is such a trivial issue you could do either option. Talk to her or don't