keep being called into work, with texts from my bosses begging me to come in due to the store being in "dire straits". I nearly always say yes, but today, for just the third time in a year, I said no. I always end up either coming in on a free day, or extending my shift. Should I be grateful for the extra hours or stick to my guns?
>>17394264
Stick to your guns. Your free time increases in value exponentially the less you have of it.
Maybe try to negotiate a salary raise if you do go back.
>>17394264
Well...depends on how you look at it. Because you say no people know they cant take advantage of you but because you say yes a lot you seem dependable. Good attitude in a work environment
>>17394264
Do you need the money and extra hours?
Could you stand it if your position split into 2 part-time positions?
It's not your job to make sure all hours are covered, that's the boss'job - but he will end up screwing you if can't make it work as-is.
My mind is different after recovering from an awful event/period (1 year ago). It feels like my character skills have gotten shuffled in an RPG game.
I believe I have mild-moderate PTSD. I actually don't want this to go away (especially from exposure therapy or medication). My current brain seems super-powered.
Hyper-vigilance, zoning out when overwhelmed, autistic social impairment, and triggers upsetting me are some downsides. Never out of control imo. My job is helping me learn to manage it.
My previously-decent art has 200x more emotion and form. A reddit post of mine reached the front page. If I try drawing things 'normally', they tend to morph abstractly and expressively.
After studying for a physics class I couldn't sleep because formless equations and graphs were floating in my vision. Chemistry is straight-up too exciting before bed. Occasionally a spurt of ideas has me writing pages of notes before bed.
Wikipedia browsing is probably the only thing that is always comfortable. Before sleeping I once procrastinated on turning off the lights by browsing articles on my phone.
I'm reaching the point of changing my undergrad major at university. I was never confident with my previous degree. My past fear of math has diminished, and I now think it's always been a strength.
I'm working alongside two professors with an image processing project. I suddenly have an audience to discuss ideas. I'm trying to become more active on Github.
I scare myself when I feel respected smart people are missing the big picture about something. To be clear, I'm often wrong, or I struggle to grasp concepts. I just notice underlying behavior and constantly check my thinking.
Posting this on /adv/ since it's difficult to discuss elsewhere. Can I have input about this? I'm aware this post seems delusional/manic. I don't see these changes as much until I am successful applying them. Day-to-day I'm cautious and skeptical of everything, especially my abilities and this topic.
Sounds like you are 18, got triggered when you were younger and associate your brain growth with meme magic.
>>17394247
Check for what grades you write and then see maybe?
Your "savantism" might only be imagined if it cant be proven through anything...
Good luck OP.
Does sound like mania though, which doesn't mean you have to be utterly delusional. When I was manic before it took a bad turn into full blown psychosis, my thought process was just overclocked, I could reel in pieces of information out of the corners of my mind that I had just skim read years ago, etc. It was crazy, almost like the film limitless. Also I could totally relate to whole staying awake at night with information floating around your head like that.
You need to be very cautious man, people who are manic do not know they are going manic.
I'm preparing for Armageddon, I'm working on a plan to build a survival shelter I already have a pretty good idea of where and how I'm going to build the shelter.
I'm expecting to shelter as many as 15 people (including myself) for about 7 years.
So my question to you is...
How much will rations for 15 people over seven years cost?
>>17394246
Really? I figured they only talk about weapons, I mean I'm bringing weapons to my shelter but I think that's besides the point.
>>17394244
my patriot supply dot com
1 year supply for 4 x 4
Roughly $21,000
Also, >>17394246
I have this close (best) friend from high school, I'm almost 20 now btw. We used to be really close, telling each other real life issues and stuff so I know him very well. But ever since high school we grew apart because he got into another college and I got into university.
Things would be fine as it was if not for the one trip I have with my university friends. Thanks to the trip I learned about better things, about what I should do with my life and not waste my time... Me and him used to play video games, like a lot and he still does and me occasionally. But since the trip I decided to do something with my life by gaining real-life experiences, working part-time, and be out of the home much more. But my friend, he stayed the same. We did chat a bit after my trip, but I still remember he saying how I was growing apart from my old high school friends and that I was just being delusional. He also gave me a scold about how worthless I was, and I did appreciate that. Like how I always ask for pocket money and live depend on my parents so much.
After that, we weren't talking for months. But today I bumped into him and to my surprise, he stayed the same. He always struck me as a independent and smart guy, mainly about how he hated to ask for his allowance and wanted to be adult fast. At 6 in the morning, I was driving to my part-time work. And when I met him, he was just coming home from his friend house. He talked about a few things, mainly I asked though and he acted like I was a stranger. The way his life is going is like, exactly like when in high school. He hang out in his friends house playing video games, go to college.
To be honest, I was quite disappointed. We were both a massive slob in high school, but we were proud that even though we didn't study much, our grades were still top of the class. That and our closeness in personality made us friend.
What should I do? Should I just let him be as he is or try to convince him choose friends wisely?
English is not my native language so pardon me but I tried my best here.
I doubt trying to change him would give any result.
Also, as long as he has a goal and is working on it, being a slob in his free time doesn't make him a bad person.
Imo let him be, part ways, and find new friends you get along better with.
>>17394215
People change man as you obviously have, he seems happy with who he is and you seem happy with who you are. If he has a problem with the your life is he wasn't a very good friend from the go.
This is fairly long winded but will explain best I can
>Britfag, 20, living with fiance (also twenty) at home with Father and Brother. Fiance moved in because of domestic violence against her by her stepfather who is now in jail for 20 years...
>Have scumbag brother (19). World revolves around him, he steals from everyone, gets violent with my dad, leaves dirt everywhere through the house because he refuses to wash after his shitty tarmac job. Just a typical bully, and a fucking waste of space.
>For some reason everyone seems to ignore this because he is apparently "mentally ill". Every doctor he has ever seen has said he is fine, and mental health services have refused to treat him because there is "nothing to treat".
>Treats me and my father like shit. I've beat him pretty bad before as younger teenagers, sent him in to hospital once, but as always I've been in the deepest of shit and obviously was easier to threaten a 13 year old with mediocre crap. So haven't hit him since then.
>Police are round more than once a week for domestic situations. They refuse to arrest him because my dad keeps saying "oh he''s mentally ill" when actually he fucking isn't. He's stolen about 1500 quids worth of tools, that are in our shed, which we've showed the police, and they've done nothing. He's been smashing plates, swearing at cops, smashing the house up while they've been there and they still do nothing.
>Girlfriend and I could move out, but we will be moving again in just under a year as she is going to university, and where we live just having a 1 bed flat will suck up all the savings we have and would save over the next year, so I don't like the principle of being forced out by this little shit and being condemned to being poor.
>No love for brother anymore, would genuinely feel very little if he were to run away or end his life, as he's creating a premature grave for my father and I know he will use and abuse every person that comes into his life when he moves on.
>con
So that's basically where I'm at. Can give more details about any of this, not hiding anything.
I'm not sure where to go from here. Really feeling like kicking the living shit out of him, because I'm pretty sure his predicament is simply from a lack of any real discipline his whole life. My dad won't throw him out, because he is spineless and always has been (love my dad, good dad, apart from this has never done wrong by any of us but he has no backbone and would probably admit I'm the man of this house). Had a row with him this morning, he went mental because I put three beers in our fridge saying "[brother] will just steal them don't put them there he will drink them" And I don't really believe we should live in fear of that so I said "control your son, if he touches them I'll smash his head in or ring the police" but my dad seems to think I'm insane for being upset about all of this....
If anyone has any better ideas or thinks they can help any other way please let me know because if I deal with this cunt I will probably get thrown in jail.
Cheers
TLDR fuck you limmy cunt
Hey /adv/
I'm 19 and soon I'm moving into a house with several people, all a few years older than me, to be closer to my college
I'm nervous about moving into an already established living situation, particularly because I haven't lived out of home before
I would love some tips or advice on making this go smoothly because I'm extremely nervous, cheers
>>17394141
When in doubt about ANYTHING, ask someone. There will be all sorts of unofficial House Rules, so before you do anything (laundry, cooking, music, guests, smoking, whatever) the first time, ask a housemate if it's OK or if there are set hours or whatever.
>>17394141
Just dont be an autist and be friends with them. Also dont disregard friends at uni because you get your social needs met at home, I did that and regret it a bit
>>17394222
Okay that's a good point
My main fear is how they're all a bit older. I guess that means I won't be as likely to just hang out with them but it's intimidating
>>17394212
Ahh okay I think I might ask them to go over all that when I first move in
Is this saying that 90% of women using it will get pregnant? Or is it talking about the ones that STOP taking it?
>Once the injection has been given, the hormone cannot be removed. If a woman wants to stop the Depo Provera she has to wait for it to wear off. In some women, periods can be slow to return after the injections are stopped – sometimes 6 to 12 months. However, more than half will fall pregnant within 12 months and over 90 percent within two years.
The ones who stop taking it that try to conceive retard
I need to know the adress of this guy, or even a phone number.
How do I go about this?
Fardin Mourali
Bergen op Zoom, Netherlands The
Fuck off
We've been together few months she has a lot of feelings for me and even written me a love letter (pic). Always has a big smile on her face when with me. She wears my hoody a lot, I'm her first kiss, her first real boyfriend etc. Send me pics (nothing nude) but out of the shower type stuff, always hugging and kissing, telling me all the things I do that turn her on etc.
Then out of nowhere last week, she just said she's dumping me, I knew that was BS so I kept trying and she told me she has low self esteem, depression, self harms, I told her she doesn't need to do that she's my girl and I'm not going anywhere, she calmed down after a while and said sorry and she misses and loves me. She also told me she's scared of attachment and not ready for a relationship, I said okay I'll give you your space, no talking and stuff I just want her to get past this. She said thank you and that she loves me, and says she has so much going on in her head right now. The no contact didn't last long though because she spoke to me later that day. After a few days of not seeing me we walked past each other (live in small village) and she messaged me saying 'when I saw you I realised how much I miss you'
Then the following days (still haven't seen each other) she acts cold, says we can't be together because she's busy with work and how it takes up a lot of her time, I told her I know she can get busy but that doesn't mean we can't be together? She just says how I don't understand, I said this is all in her head and I know she wants to be with me and she said 'No I don't and you know I can't'. She keeps pushing me away and says she gives up and is going to sleep (she's done this a few times) so for the first time, I'm fed up and tell her whatever bye. Then she is like 'see no one wants me or needs me' I told her how can you say that when I do, and this was last night, haven't spoke since.
What do I do?
you stop talking to her and look for another little girl
shes fake as most of the teenagers nowadays, she doesnt actually mean any of it
Girls like that are toxic.
Run. You can't save her, all she'll do is drag you down in her depression.
Sounds like BPD. Nothing you can really do OP, just move on (and block her). She may chase after you and pull you back into her shit.
If you want a healthy loving relationship, this girl cannot provide that for you.
I have a co-worker who is continually lazy, rude, and generally unable to realize how his actions affect others; I dislike being around him, but I pity him, because of his situation. I want to try and help him, but every time I do, he just becomes angry and throws a tantrum towards me; how should I proceed? I'm scheduled to work with him tomorrow. I don't expect many answers, because I feel like he's a lost cause.
Tell him that nobody's going to be nice and understanding to him if he keeps being a dick.
Maybe he will change, maybe he will not.
Attitude is not about where you are in life, its about how you deal with life.
>>17394093
You tried. Now leave him alone, work around him, and quietly make sure you are not blamed for his screw-ups.
>be 26
>just failed 3 of out 4 subjects of my of my first semester of nuclear medicine
>feel like a massive failure
>should I continue? I do have an interest but had a tough time with family, gf etc halfway through
>can't bear going back and redoing the same subjects like a failure to the same teachers
>thinking about changing to something different maybe social work
>never really had a mentor or someone to direct me in my life and don't know wtf todo now
What should I do?
If you can minimize distractions in your life
and increase your odds with tutors/find more effective study methods
then yes.
But I realize that might be hard to guarantee.
So that means you have to reflect REALLY hard and see if you can come up with a plan.
If you can't, then take a break.
If you failed 3/4 of it then you shouldn't even be thinking about going back, it's obviously not for you. Don't do social work either, find something you can actually make money with.
>>17394084
Take stock. Be honest.
Did you really fail because of all the family stuff, or did the family and gf stuff happen because you weren't functioning very well in general?
If specific outside problems caused the failures, try again. (Incidentally, universities are very familiar with that problem, and will happily overlook one bad semester if things pick up).
If, on the other hand, you probably wouldn't do much better if you tried again, it's time to consider a different path. (Even that is not necessarily "failure", just a belated discovery you were going in the wrong direction.)
>partner is religious and conventional
>starting to refuse to have ANY kind of premarital sexual contact, because an imaginary being says it's "wrong"
>I thought such puritanical devouts no longer exist
>I though they are now dust in their graves
>but I guess not
>this must be a violation of at least one international convention
>how do I tempt him into dropping his moral beliefs and misplaced "shame" once again
>I'm too socially inept to do this Casanova shit without some advice
>right now I'm so sexually desperate and flu-addled, I can only think of begging and crying and whining and pleading
1. Stop being sick.
2. Watch videos that excite YOU. Take notes.
3. and SHOW them that you want it.
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>>17394085
What kind of videos, if it's good porn, then that would be a matter of watching those to improve sexual technique and mannerisms right? Which I'm sure I do need, but what about the part in which I must persuade him into sexual acts to begin with? He seems ok with the quality of the acts themselves, once he caves in and consents to sexual things happening. Unless there are also videos on the pre-sex routine (?? Idk a better name), in that case, I need to know where they may be
Do I just jump him and attempt to display sexual technique? That seems a bit rapey
>>17394078
>be flirty and touchy but not too aggressive
>when you two are alone at home dress revealing
Enough for me to absolutely want to fuck the brains out of a woman.
>be me
>get molested as a kiddie
>You have acquired: Rape Fetish!
>reach age of sexual maturity
>have sex with gf
>sort of
>takes forever to actually get me turned on enough to fuck
>feels good but right before orgasm-!
>its gone
>cant cum
>apparently cant cum without rape fantasy
>well shit
>luckily gf understands
>have successful sex when she pretends to rape me
>all is well
>be 3 years later
>be single
>be horny
>want to have sex
>but the rape thing
>no idea how to explain that to potential fuckfriends?
>fear my fuckedup-ness will scare everyone off
>or at least offend anyone considering having sex with me
>what do?
stop watching porn
>>17394071
Isn't being raped a top fetish for women?
>>17394122
i guess? i but i think most women can get off on vanilla sex too. I cant.
Ok so I am new to this board, but I need help. Some days ago(not sure when exactly) I hit the floor very hard with my fist. It is now very swollen, and is not particularly improving. It hurts to try to extend my fingers(even my front and middle a bit despite the initial pains In my pinky and ring) as well as trying to close it.
Is it a boxer's fracture? Im on a trip so I don't think I can get to a doctor for x ray real soon
It's Floor Punching Syndrome.
Somethings fucked. Better figure it out.
>>17394042
I also want to know if I can do push-ups with it. My skin is feeling very tight so I've lost flexibility
I got this bump or something near my genital, in the pubic area actually for 4-5 days now. I don't know what it is. I'm afraid to tell my parents or anyone personally. I'm 19 and never had sex, so this its a good chance its not an STD or anything right? It fucking hurts like hell when it gets in contact with anything. Shit idk anymore. Anyone can tell me what this is?
Pop it
Its a zit. POP DAT MOFO! POST PICS
Perhaps an ingrown hair/zit.
Also perhaps an allegric reaction but not likely since it's a very small affected area.
Also might be a cyst.
Either way, that stuff in there needs to get out, it's just gonna get infected if you leave it alone.
Apply a solution that will dry it out (toothpaste, mint cream) and see if that will weaken the skin enough to pop without hurting too much.