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Sleep, i havent seen any other thing that gives you rest and energy than that, or drugs if you dont mind to spare some years of life

Melatonin at the same time every night. 3mg. Natrol is a good brand, or you can get Meijer brand.

Anyone? this is much harder than a simple forget about her etc.

>>17392993
Try to better yourself for her. Lift if you aren't already, try to get a better job of you can, etc. by the time you've completely bettered yourself, chances are better looking and overall better women are already in to you

>>17393264
Actual solid advice thanks.
Still feels weird having these feelings and not having anywhere for them to go.

iktf op

You could either embrace solitude, which is for a very select few. Given the context of this thread, you want to meet people. You know what you don't want
>narcissistic or vehemently atheistic or religious or defeatist or something equally repulsive
and have an idea of what to do
>Should I try to meet fresher, younger people in college or something?
So what is stopping you?

>>17392995
>you know what you don't want
okay so I want people who are

not very strictly religious (tack atheism on as a "religion"), determined, utilitarian, polite, not drug addicted, not gross

I guess that's not too tall an order. Maybe 30% of people pass through that filter. It just doesn't seem like many since they're all different ages, genders, and races...but they're out there. I didn't even specify that they had to be smart or good looking, because who really cares at this point - we're not gonna have kids with them.

This is starting to seem difficult but possible.

>meet people in college or something
>so what is stopping you?
time. I can't get a loan for a few years

>>17392986
>For instance, this website is a human cesspool

I think it's a pretty good sample size of the general world population that are online. I started off here as a lazy college stoner, and now I'm a 30 year old surgeon with a mortgage and a faggy country club membership

>Should I be a loner until I reach some higher places in society?

You think after months, maybe years of being a weird loner with a superiority complex, that you'll easily be accepted in high places in society, let alone -any- place in society? You should learn some humility and empathy. Because you're really sounding like Elliot Roger my dude

>>17392979
Dude, I know exactly how you feel.

It feels like a lesson that everybody else learned/figured out.

>>17392979
Post what you look like and I might have the answer to your question

>>17392979
You can't keep waiting for it to come, you gotta go out there and nitpick. Experience, experiment, and understand, my dude.

Does anyone have any ways that I could calm myself down? I am running out of ideas.

run up and down stairs 20 times

Smoke weed. Seriously, it helps.

Usually if someone is paranoid of their partner cheating, the accuser is often cheating themselves. I've personally witnessed this several times.

Why is this even a question? You should respond by breaking up.

>>17392920
Both of you are shit bf and gf lmao that is probably why he cheated.

>>17392918
You're fucked m8.
Take that from someone typing this message to you.
That's all that I can say.

>>17392918
Take as many as possible and watch a Donald Trump speech

Just make sure you're in a comfy, private environment or else shit could go bad. Get some good music and see if you can have someone watch over you just in case you try to do something stupid.

Where do you live? Literally 30 minutes ago some fuckface cooked some burgers and filled my apartment and the hallway with smoke.

>>17392921
We dont live in a hallway but you know what I mean. One thing to heat up a frozen burger another thing to try to grill in your apartment.

>>17392929
>We dont live in a hallway
What?

I just want to know if your boyfriend is the same asshole cooking smoky burgers in my apartment. It's possible

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bamp

Hi, I just finished a peripheral course on cystology for my gynaecology Ph.d
Could you upload a picture from left, right, and straight on?

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>>17392968
I keep dat 70's jew bush because the husband is into it, so I'm not sure how much you would see.

I can say this though, the area isn't red or even pink with inflammation. Still, it's only been maybe an hour since I did it. I did this once before with just one cyst because it was huge and it caused no problems, but this time it was so many cysts, that's why Im worried.

I also worry they will come back, since I know if you don't get it all they can. I watched a couple professional dermatologists remove them and while my method is primitive, I thiiiiink it's safe - I just don't know.

take a swinging, wild fucking guess m8

>>17392898
I didn't come here for my own thoughts, I came here for others' thoughts

Generally one of three things:
1) They just wish they hadn't been caught, and are trying to deflect blame.
2) They know what they did, and are ashamed.
3) They don't believe that what they did was wrong, and feel they've been unfairly judged.

Nope

Plenty of fish and all that

>>17392871
No. Why deal with that baggage when I can date another guy who doesn't have issues?

>>17392871
nope. I think it's wrong on its face, plus it would create a bunch of drama in the household and mess up the kids even more than they already are. and even if my morals didn't stop me, I'd still be afraid of his wife coming after me (even if she supposedly doesn't care, you don't know that's actually the case). even if I didn't care about drama affecting the kids, *I* don't need it.

if he is having problems with his marriage then he needs to get in some marriage counseling and either work out something with his wife or figure out how to have as amicable a divorce as possible. (I say this because I honestly don't know if it's worse for kids to be with two divorced parents or two married parents who are cold to each other. obviously if the parents are fighting I think that's worse than them being divorced.)

source: used to have a crush on a married-with-kids coworker. idk if he ever knew. I always wondered if it was mutual. but I respected him enough not to ever go there.

Stop caring about other's people perception of you. Something actually bad happenned to you, and you feel bad about what others thought of you. Try to stay logical. The other guy did something wrong so why would you have to be the one paying for it. Your friends know, that's the most important.

As for your reaction try to ground yourself more and not be as emotional. It is normal that in that kind of situation when someone tries to take advantage of you, you will freak out and be scared.
Don't worry, at least nothing too bad happenned to you. You werent hurt or abused which is good.

By realising that you're a human being with strengths and weaknesses just like everyone else. Dont put too much pressure on yourself

Don't dwell about that things that you can't change about yourself, and focus on things that you can actually improve on.

>>17392861
I have had problems with myself since I was younger, I hate how I am emotionally and all of that other stuff. I suck ass at talking to women and when I do get one that is slightly interested in me something always goes wrong and I can't help but blame myself so I have no idea what to do.

I was talking to this girl for a couple of months recently and it went downhill, I beat myself up over it and I can't help it. I've gotten into this deep pit of depression I can't get out of and it's the second worst time I've had in my life so far. I'm not depressed just over this girl, I'm having self image problems on top of other life struggles, everything that can go wrong has and I feel like since all this has been going on that all I can do is blame myself.

Seriously OP; you are doing this to yourself.

1. She don't owe you shit.
2. she aint perfect, she shits, farts, pukes, etc.
3. Start loving yourself instead of some fantasy in your head. Please for yourself, MAN THE FUCK UP.

for a guy in his late 20s you sure as hell have some basic concepts to grasp.
She wasn't perfect. Not for you, not for anyone. If she were perfect for you she'd be with you right now.
The only reason you think she's perfect is because you developed a crush on her. Yes, it's not love, it's just a crush. But because you never let go of that crush, because you kept clinging to it and trying to make it work it became an obsession.

Cut all ties with her. Tell her you don't want to interact with her anymore, tell her the truth or give her a bullshit excuse, I don't care. And then delete her from any social media you have, from phone, from everywhere. If she's working with you or something change jobs. If you keep bumping into her move in other town/part of city. I wouldn't normally recommend something so drastic, but it's been 5 years already, if you don't do something about it you'll be miserable because of it for the rest of your life. And yes, if you cut all ties with her you will get over it. It might take time, since you spent so long sniffing her farts, but it will eventually happen and be free again. And hopefully you'll have learned a lesson.

>>17392853

I understand all of that. The problem is that time is running out. Once you turn 30.. it feels like you die. Like what would a 30 year old like me do? I fear turning 30 a great deal. I know I have a few years left but god damn. I feel like I am wasting away with no option. I pretty much only like girls like her.

and it feels like girls like her only come around once in a blue moon. I missed my chance.

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I have had quite a few friends do that exact same thing. Tell them to grow up and seek help. When they don't (because they won't, they'll argue against it) cut them out of your life.

let them attempt or learn a new way to get the attention they require. if they have to say that stuff to get insurance to cover them, fine. if they're causing their friends grief, fuck 'em. you should consider calling the police, since that's not socially behaved behavior and it would force them into mental health treatment.

It's a thing of people to want to help their friends and loved ones during times of need, but don't let them drag you down with them. There's only so much you can do for them. After that, it's up to them. If they do end up killing themselves, remember that it's not your fault.