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anyone?

>>17395057
Odd questions but excellent answers. Relax.

>>17395057
You did well. I wouldn't have answered these questions in the first place, but you did alright with your answers.

Be happy you have someone who is caring for you and your feelings.

Be happy you have someone who spends time with you

>>17395014
Understand what you have going for you. Its someone you care for and they return that care and affection. Someone who wants to spend two days with you. Be yourself, and sometimes its ok just to chill and be quiet with people. There isnt anyone alive in this entire planet who has enough content to talk for 2 days. Be it best friends, or a married couple thats been together for 50 years. If the person is right then if your just chilling watching tv or just doing whatever and its not super akward or you feel like you have to talk then your fine.

>>17395014

you are a bit of an introvert. its hard, but if you guys are going to eventually move in together or that sort of thing, then you will have to adjust to longer periods of itme with her. this is mostly done by doing your own thing in the same space. awkard at firstb ut you get over it.

this is the first thing.

for the next two days just 'do it'. when/if there is any downtime just lay down and relax. if she asks 'what do you want to do' just suggest that you guys should relax, and offer her options like movie, facebook, tv, etc. if she cant decide, set something up for her.

if she has issues, simply explain. if a girl cant understand your tired, then shes going to cause more big problems down the road.

but she should be content with whatever down time you have being down time.

and if there is no down time, just do it. if she asks whats wrong, again, explain the tiredness. people have to be exhausted a lot of their lives, its no big deal

Go about your morning and take a piss.

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>>17395013
>Take a piss
>Dicks rock solid

>>17395015
It's called morning wood and it's how your body keeps you from wetting the bed at night. Piss and it'll go way almost instantly.

bumpng

>>17394984
Two step process:

1. Chat with her the next time you're there, about anything or nothing. Then "It's fun talking with you, but you have to get back to work. When is your break? I'll buy the coffee."

2. Chat more at the coffee and then ask her out.

>>17394984
Small talk, and bring up how you'd like to go to the country fair and about some of the attractions. If she seems interested in the subject, stay on it. She'll ask if you're going to go. Say you don't want to go by yourself, then ask if she'd go with you.

>>17394973
change your diet

>>17394973
eat:kefir, fish, and curry spices, other anti-inflammatory food, get a decent amount of fibre but not too much, you may want to experiment seeing how much you can tolerate

avoid: sugar, red meat, especially processed meat, try to stay cool in hot weather if you can because it stresses your body and fucks with your gi tract's flora

>>17394973
First, be absolutely sure that you have IBS. There are other conditions which have similar syptoms, like celiac or diverticulitis. Has your doctor diagnosed you? Have you tried an online consult?

Give it a month, then check back on the New Users tab.

Or continually lower your standards in each search. I found looking for older women on dating sites to be awesome.

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>Grill said she'll suck my dick
>Different grill literally wanted to fugg
>another one was clearly interested in me
>Turned them all down

>>17394908
Focus on single moms, that way everyone's happy.

>>17395016
+100, go this route.

>>17394908
You're going the right way for bullet in the gut.

>>17394893
Is this thread bait

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>>17394893
>>17394907

>>17394907
>>17394925
Not bait. We're both big fans of pamperchu.

>>17394892
Swimming.

Soccer

Badminton.

For real. I fucking love it. It's intense if played well, indoors so you never have to worry about rain. It's hard to learn though.

Also, tried an online dating site and there was literally only one girl from my area. Otherwise have to make a 3 hour drive to the next town. Yay.

>>17394886
If it's a tourist town there must be other things tourists do, even if it's just hanging out at the chalet or whatever.

Meanwhile there has to be a whole separate locals and workers culture - what the staff do on their time off.

Go where the people are

>>17394999
It changes with the season, but generally they're here for the snow, or for the great outdoors. That's usually it. If you aren't doing one of those things you are seen as weird or a shut in. Plus it's hard to meet people like that when they're scattered about or moving at high speeds.

>>17394869
dude if you do that you would come out as a stalker get arrested put on a restraining order and so on. I suggest you give it up since dating sites aren't that helpful to say the least.

>>17394864
You clearly stated what you want to do with your life. You also said you need higher education to be able to do those things. So clearly you need to try and get clearance to attend university. There's no real decision making needed here.

>>17394864
Is there an alternate road to university? For example, a practical letter plus some practical experience, or a practical letter plus a year of pre-university courses? It would be odd if the only way you could get into university was to go through all of high school again.

he needs to figure out for himself that he is better off without it. that's hard for other people to figure out for him.

maybe counseling could help?

>>17394844
Lock him in a room for a month with a bucket and a supply of food

No, seriously, it's up to him. Suboxone takes a long time to get off, and even once the major withdrawal symptoms stop he'll probably be so miserable that he'll come right back to it out of desperation.

The important thing is you're not giving up on him.

Nothing's going to change until he wants it to.

Have you talked to a doctor or pharmacist about things he could use to wean off of subutex? What did they say?

Wait. Someone will come along that's single, or someone will break up and you can go in for the kill. Thats literally all you can do man.

>>17394831
Study, work out, go to work.
Build yourself up and then girls will follow.

A lot of men get caught up looking for the right person, but I think the trick is to become the right person.

Honestly man, I know you probably love her to pieces and all that, but there comes a certain point where you need to make it her problem, not yours. That means fewer, if not no more, car rides for her, no lending your car(s) to her, no helping her find a new car, etc. She seems to not care and is freeloading until your resistance becomes an issue to her. It's probably for the best that you help her become more independent and actually become responsible once in a while.

>>17394818
One of the many differences between men and women is that men are instinctive problem-solvers and women tend to think in large holistic pictures.

Example: She needs a car. You think "I'll find on line leads to some decent cars in her price range and send them to her." She thinks "I have to be in just the right mood to be able to think about this at all, and will get around to it when I can."

Her response drives you crazy and makes you feel unappreciated. Your response feels like nagging to her.

Welcome to the world of men and women.

>>17394847
This.

She's never going to straighten out and fly right if you keep giving her a safety net.

Also, she sounds straight up dumb. Doesn't mean she's a bad person, she's just dumb. I personally can't stand dumb people, no matter how nice or otherwise "good" they are. You're a saint for dealing with her.