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>>18643817
>consider the following
your neighbor is a nigger,
you my friend are not a nigger
if you want to be a nigger you respond disproportionately to this bullshit, at the same time, you do have to do something called being assertive

you are allowed to say any of the following: what the fuck are you doing? are you retarded?
I'm getting you a nice fine for that asshole
Something to rile him up, but never respond physically or anything unless he throws the first punch. You have to not be afraid of confrontation but at the same time give them the message they can't step on you without some banter or resistance. Rest assured you are the bigger man for walking away though.

Getting into a verbal argument with you neighbour is a waste of time and won't make you feel better. They're getting fined, so you should be glad.

How about putting up a fence, or something? I'm having a really hard time imagining the physical space from your description.

Might be worth mentioning I am in college and the whole town is a college town, so people being shitty is normal.
>>18643854 - this neighbor was in fact a nigger so there is that
>>18643870
Driveways are about three and a half cars deep, and about a 4 foot space between them of grass. Its a place Im renting and im not sure the landlord wants to worry about a fence for some college students being shitty. The fine is also just if the borough happens to go through and inspect. I mean I can probably call and ask them to walk through, just to be a dick about it

>>18643816
>pronouns game
No advice for you

As the person who usually does the sulking and aggression, you need to negatively reinforce their behaviour. Let them know if they continue it they're going to lose you. Never reward their behaviour by caving in and saying sorry or dropping the issue.

>>18643820
Op probably scwred to be caught on here seeing how vague and generic xe speaks.

>>18643800
Debating with Strawmen episode 4.

It can only be the same person posting that shit daily over and over...

>>18643800
Ask your friends on /r9k/ my dude

>>18643794
write to the police telling them you are concerned that the issues with your neibour might escalate, because he started a fight over nothing and threatened you verbally with violence

Cops won't do anything, but if the stupid mexican does anything more serious the police will take one look at the issue, see you're a civ and have filed a complaint before; and they will come down on him like a ton of bricks

anything that happens after you write the first report could be construed as "police inaction", so the sooner you involve them the better

...or you could just put up with shit for no reason, and be bullied out of your neibourhood by a mexican

Kinda sucks it really sounded like he was trying to get his life together :/

Buy a guitar or some instrument of craigslist and teach yourself with youtube vids

>>18643784
>3 months of nothing to do before I start basic
run miles
do pull-ups
do sit-ups
do push-ups

why are you retarded enough to volunteer to kill people for shit pay?

>>18643839
I'm not going into the army

Fuck you adv

>>18643815

found your problem.

>>18643779
make a list of things you want to do in your life time and write down how much the total cost will be next to it

of course i would know from men if they were interested in such a service and from women if such a show would have any effect on them or if too light

>>18643777
when the women find out and start gossiping with their friends your business is going to be bombarded by people complaining that it's manipulative. it'll also end the relationship between your client and their female companion.

>>18643813
i know about that, would have to keep a very low profile. counting on the fact that a guy wouldnt willingly go around saying he resorted to something like this so easily
also it's for couple in crisis, where it's only a matter of time anyway
also this was just a standard plot but might offer different strategies to make it harder to detect

Don't give a fuck about what they think. We all die so just do it. Even if you think you fuck up they all tend to forget such events in minutes. As for talking good luck because I'm as socially retarded as you.

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>>18643760
So they just forget things? What about when Ive been told all my life anything I say/do will have consequences/stay forever? People who are scared of me will just seriously forget?

I seriously doubt that anon

>>18643755
>permavirgin
Ask girls on dates then pic related.
Badoo, tinder, okcupid, social events you hate.
>social skills
Practice makes perfect.
Fake it until you make it.
http://www.improveyoursocialskills.com/conversation
>neet
School or
https://www.mcdonalds.com/us/en-us/careers.html

>>18643771
>consequences
Nobody cares what you did or didnt at highschool.

>>18643745
How problematic is your drinking? Have you tried quitting before? Have you tried AA? Do you have friends, family, a job, hobbies, ...? All these factors are important.

>>18643749
>>18643749
i drink about 8 us units a day. i tried quitting meaning thinking "today i'm not going to buy beer" plenty of times. haven't tried aa, i mostly drink alone so my family friends and coworkers don't officialy know but probably suspect. i'm 35 and single btw.

>>18643745
you didnt say the reasons why

>>18643736
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Well atleast you can still see your oneitis

I'm a very lonely guy in general, I have one friend who often comes out to hang out with me when I ask him, and another who does so on very rare occasions. Both of these friends sense my social anxiety which is why I can also clearly see how they purposefully leave me out of group events because of this. So basically, I get to see two people, and even then it's usually for only a moment. Well, three days ago the closer one of the friends introduced me to Xanax, as I was panicking over a thing which is now thankfully over. I took the pill and the second it kicked in, my social anxiety disappeared entirely. I had a great day, small talked more than ever before and met new people.

The next morning I woke up and it was over. I know the risks involved with Benzo drugs, but I couldn't handle the temptation to get more of this stuff. I had to get more. After using my poor social engineering skills, I got a hookup and now I had multiple pills. I popped one, and went to the grocery store to buy dinner. While I was there, I bumped into an old friend from high school. As my typical social phobia was nonexistant, I mastered our small talk. He was kind of taken aback because he surely remembered my anxiety too, which was even worse during my time in high school. But right as I was leaving, he asked me if I wanted to come to a fairly elite party as a VIP-guest. He had a bunch of those tickets, because he was working for the party managers or something like that. I told him sure, and went home after he gave me his phone number.

As I came in, I dropped the shopping bags on the floor and just stood there. "What the fuck just happened?" I thought to myself. All this time I've been an outcast loser, and now all of this happens, just because of a fucking pill? I was euphoric and confused at the same time.

CONT.

>>18643737
The party was the day after tomorrow. I put on my smart casual look and headed over there, right after taking another pill of course. It was fucking amazing, the last party I was in was in high school, and it was nothing like this. Strobe lights, loud music and tons of people. I saw the aforementioned guy with his group and I joined them. Never felt so bad ass as we walked through the dancefloor. So we decided to dance and hit up some girls, and I was so excited it felt like I was going to explode. I danced, and soon I was brave enough to go up to a girl. I danced with her for hours, in the end I was sweating like hell.

The DJ played the last song, and it was over. I then asked the girl to come over to my place, and she FUCKING SAID YES. At this point it felt like I switched universes or that I was in some video game. Did I really just manage to do this? I brought her over, and yes, we hooked up. In the morning she left, and that was that.

But in the morning, as you can guess, my old self was back again. Anxious as hell, worse than before the pill. In addition to that, my old friend asked me to come out to hang out at his place. I had to take more Xans to keep up my "newly established lifestyle". I did and left for his house. When I got there, I quickly got to know all the others and made some new friends, AGAIN. Everything was perfect.

So, here we are. My social being is suddenly expanding rapidly, and everything seems more than fantastic on the surface. But my doses are growing, and the withdrawal effects are worsening. And like I mentioned, I keep losing my memory, which is part of the drug. Some days are completely wiped out from my head.

So, two things:
1. What the fuck am I supposed to do?
2. I imagine some of you have some questions, so go on.

p.s I am on the drug right now and I couldn't have written this without it. I can do nothing without popping one, other than feel like I'm living in hell.

>>18643735
Nobody's problem is worth my reading a long story. Ask again in 2 or 3 sentences and you'll get replies.

>>18643730
If he is a shut in, he will struggle talking to people.
He might be getting bullied, he might also be imagining it because he is anxious.
Ultimately, him bitching out and running away is his downfall, because he doesn't socialise, he doesn't get any better, because he bitches out and runs away, he doesn't socialise.
This happens to other people, but your cousin is a special case, because he doesn't talk or improve his situation.

Tell him about a website called meetup, he can meet other social retards and improve his situation.

>>18643730
He is expecting life to come to him, without being willing to make any effort to go to it.

EVERYONE has a bad time in their first few days in a new job, but it gets better very quickly. He didn't want to wait for that to happen. If it wasn't easy and fun right away, he quit.

Hving friends takes some patience and some work. You have to be friendly to others for them to be friendly to you. But he won't bother, and then he blames everyone else for being "bad people".

He has to learn that the ordinary things of life - working, getting along with people, finding a girlfriend - actually take some effort and patience. Nothing is going to come to him if he just sits and waits for it.

>>18643682
size of your dick isn't the only thing she's concerned about. even when it comes to fucking its more about technique

>>18643682
#lildickgang

Look at small dick porn

when i talk to my friends they all have these lofty goals and ambitions of how they want their 30s to look like but i have nothing.

has anyone been in this situation and turned things around?

any advice?

If your meds are for your noggin, my advice is to take your meds.

>>18643660
Go with chocolate because vanilla is very probably artificiallying flavoured.

Unflavored if you can find it.
They always use these shit sweeteners in all the flavored stuff, and it tastes like ass. Unflavored just tastes like skim milk.

Buy unflavoured in bulk and if you absolutely need to, buy flavouring separately.