I'd like a bit of perspective on my situation
I've been good friends with this girl for a bit, we met while we both were in relationships but we're both now single. We've been hanging out quite frequently recently, twice a day sometimes.
The other night I had a few friends over, we're all drinking and chilling, and her and her friend end up coming over, but her friend had to leave. So we're all outside talking and drinking, I put my feet up across onto her chair, and she would touch them, or move forward and they'd end up getting pushed into her boobs. I eventually gave my seat up to someone and I was just standing, she offered me a seat with her on her chair. The night continues, she goes inside and then tells me to come, I follow her into the bathroom. We get in she closes the door and we sit on the floor and she holds my hand. She then tried to pull me onto her and wanted me to kiss her, but I was essentially sober at this point and I didn't want to take advantage of her while she was drunk so I didn't
We left the bathroom when he heard people leaving and while standing around talking and saying bye she kept rubbing her feet on mine.
Everyone leaves except her and my friend, we all end up laying on the floor and me and her are right next to each other. They both fall asleep but I couldn't sleep, she eventually woke up and saw that I was awake and we immediately started cuddling
She then got me up and we went and stood in the hallway hugging and she asked if we could go lay in my bed, which we did we cuddled, rubbing my hands all over, holding hands tightly, hand on her boobs even, didn't kiss or anything and fell asleep
cont.
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She left in the morning, didn't say much, had to go to work, she touched me on the chest before she left. When she got home she sent me a heart emoji and asked if we could see each other later
So we went and got food that night and I asked her how drunk she was last night and if she remembers everything, she says she wasn't super drunk and remembers everything, everything she repeats. Then her friend from last night met us there and she went to the bathroom and her friend asked if I was mad at her for ruining our date, which I sarcastically said no to. We left and had our first hug goodbye. She later sends me a text saying her friend likes me which is good cause she's hard to get liked by
This morning I ask if we can hang after work and she says she'll let me know, she got off and didn't say anything, she got home and then started talking to me a little but didn't mention hanging out, then she just stopped responding
That's where I'm left, I would say it seems pretty straightforward, but I get so paranoid with this stuff, I'm unsure what approach to take to continue, should I just flat our address what happened and our relationship? Or just continue to let it go on how it is?
I would say try and hang out with her again and just ask her, cause to me it sounds like she likes you
>>18643121
missed your window. Go for the hail marry and try to get in for a score but when she shuts down your offense realize its because she left you open you fumbled the ball.
i love her. But she's married. No idea how her marriage is like, but she has no kids. Wat do.
Don't get caught up on her and find your own girl. You can go ahead and keep loving her if you think you can handle it but if you can't and you feel you NEED to have her for yourself then you are fucked and need to cut contact.
>>18643105
Stay away from some other guy's wife and find someone available to love? How is this even a question.
>>18643105
Pursue her if you want her. If her husband can't hold onto his wife, he doesn't deserve her.
Holy fuck i ju st woke up from the nicest dream ive ever had and i legit am crying i cant remember the girls face. I tjink it was real.
I told her i was about to wake up and what if this was another dimension and not a product of my imagination, we were both crying i was legit aware of everything. Then we started getting chased by an oldman with a gun and I woke up shortly after.
We were both at a resort in a place in what should be the equivalent of my country, she even told me the fucking name of the resort. It was the most beautiful place ever. As soon as I woke up I googled the place, it doesnt exist.
Holy shit im legit still crying and have shivers. What if dreams are a portal to another dimension?
This is a board for advice. You are not asking for advice so you should be on a different board. Try /b/ or /r9k/.
>What if dreams are a portal to another dimension?
>Then we started getting chased by an oldman with a gun
SHE IS FUCKIN DEAD BRO. YOU COULD HAVE SAVED HER BUT YOU DIDN'T AND NOW SHE IS DEAD AND ITS ALL YOUR FAULT.
Also if you spin around in your dream it will put you back deeper into sleep. I have no clue how or why this would ever work but it does.
>>18643106
Advice on HOW TO FUCKING REMEMBER HER FACE. You do not understand man. This wasnt just a dream. It couldnt have been. It was way too real and interactive, I refuse to believe
Im no phaggot or whatever and i dismiss bullshit pseudo science like this but i just cant believe my brain would craft the most beautiful place ive legit ever seen in my life, the most beautiful girl, AND EVEN MAKE UP THE NAME FOR THE PLACE that i could memorize and google once i woke up. guess what, no search results. This is bullshit and needs some explaining.
Btw wont mean shit to you in English, but the place was called Dulj.
Have you ever heard of dopplegangers?
They're a bit of a relic of history. Existing long before written history, and often portrayed in imagery as being an exact double. The truth is that exact doubles can not exist. They share similarities of body, mind, and spirit, but they do not share the same history. Dopplegangers are residents of branched reality. The us of a somewhere else, sharing in spirit but not experience. On occasion, some have found themselves to hold memories of a time that isn't their own. Children, brilliant inventors, and in some cases, even the spiritually attuned. In some cases, two have become too well attuned and shift places. Often, some mistake these events as time travel, as they catch a glimpse of an alternate reality not too dissimilar to their own, but time can't change much. Becoming attuned to your doppleganger appears to be something to happen more by chance, than will, though some will claim otherwise. In order to connect with your other self, you must share the same mental wavelength. This sounds simple enough, but never knowing the exact circumstances of an alternate reality or it's history make this rather more difficult in practice.
In that moment, as you lay to rest, you were at peace, as was your doppleganger. Thus in your restful hours, you were able to catch a glimpse of an alternate reality of your own.
It would be dangerous to say much more, but do be careful if you intend to pursue this. The grass isn't always greener on the other side.
SOOOOOO in my culture we have this thing where we're only allowed to marry within our religion, this includes dating n shit. so everything i've done with girls ive kept a secret from my parents, however ive been hanging around this 1 girl for ages now and we started low key dating for about 3 months. I feel like shits getting really serious and we both have really strong feelings for each other, but since shes from out side of our pathetic religion and its rules, parents wont accept her. Plus i cant convince them because they are heavily religious and have been telling me this rule throughout my whole life. right now i feel like i only have 2 options
1. leave my girlfriend now to avoid growing stronger feelings in the future and making it more complicated
2. stay with her and see what happens
lol what do you think?
>>18643094
Tell her to pretend she is practicing that religion. Easy.
Nice things about god is that nobody believes in that shit, but they pretend for others.
At the current stage of your life, how dependent are you on your family?
What's the difference between a club and a bar? Is there a club or bar where I can meet autists? How would I find such a bar?
>tfw googling "goth club" tells me that that scene died 12 years ago
Club is for dancing while a bar is for drinking and shooting pool. Now go get laid pan
>>18643095
>tfw the real Pan got laid
If only I had e-fame like him.
>>18643129
>pan
>getting laid
It's a sin to tell a lie
My friend is dating this girl, they've only been dating for like 2 months or so. The thing is, I really like her, we agree on so much and he get eachother sense of humor really well.
The part where it becomes a problem is that he has been gone for a week with his family somewhere and me and her have been hanging out together. She told me that she is going to break up with him because she doesn't like him. Like today we spent the whole day together and she didn't tell him. We just laughed and listened to music and stuff. And like that makes me feel really guilty but at the same time I can't stop thinking about her. I can't tell if she likes me but I think she does but at the same time I think that she might not. She hasn't told anyone else that she's going to break up with him and she and I have been hanging out a lot but we haven't done anything. Like she won't even hug me when we leave eachother, but when we're together we touch eachother and joke around and really laugh, like we make eachother laugh and I can't stop wanting to be with her. And she hits me up to hang out as well it's not like I'm just the one trying to make plans with her.
But at the same time I don't know if she is just using me as a board to bounce off him with but I don't think that's the case. But also I get sad because after we spend the day together and we're leaving she just gives me a fist bump instead of a hug or something which makes me think that she either doesn't like me or she DOES and also feels guilty about this and doesn't want to make it worse. I know that if we ever hugged I wouldn't be able to stop myself from kissing her and I think she might not be able to stop herself from kissing me back and so she doesn't want to put herself in that situation. And there are times when she will talk about the future after she breaks up with him and like going with me to places together like she wants to stay with me.
Continued...
And she will say things like "I won't be able to hang out with friend X after I break up with BF" but we have made plans to go to museums and stuff after they've broken up which makes me think that she still wants to see me after.
Am I being played? Am I cucking my friend? Am I the cuck? I don't know what to do but I need to be with her, even now being alone fills me with great pain. I can't see any outcome thats good why is this happening to me.
It depends on how much you value your relationship with your friend, and how willing you are to lose everything you have in the event that things go south.
The fact that she's messing around like this behind his back like this isn't exactly confidence inspiring stuff.
I made a similar mistake a long time ago. It was rough. I lost all my friends, and what I was left with wasn't what I had bargained for at all. She changed, or rather, revealed her true colors.
There are a lot of girls out there, man. It's easy to get caught up in the short game, and think that the girl before you is the one, but I don't think this is the right time or place for that. If she really digs you, she'll wait. That said, I guarantee you within 2 weeks of her break-up, you'll see her walking down the street with another dude wrapped around her arm.
>>18643067
Maybe but the thing is she has only been with 2 guys in her life, the first one for 4 years and she thought she was going to marry him. They broke up and she hasn't dated anyone until my friend. She's the type of person to not want to be in a relationship that she doesn't think will be long term which is why she wants to break up with my friend because they won't betogether for that long. Her goal is to be a stay at home mom with a man she loves so she is really looking for the man and I think I can be that guy.
Recently I've been having weird and strange dreams. I'd rather not describe the dreams cause...well they are quite strange. They involve me having sex with girls about the age of 6. When I wakeup I feel terrified and scared. I also feel almost sick . How do I interpret my dreams. Is it a part of me I should embrace or accept?
>>18643037
accept? yes. embrace? no.
remember that humans dont just have good dreams, most of our dreams are nonsense and a lot of them are just nightmares. most of my sex dreams are disturbing sex dreams, not ones i was hoping for.
>>18643038
what if in another sense I liked it.
My 4 month boyfriend is an alcoholic. He doesn't do anything bad when he drinks except act like a dick sometimes and maybe flirt with girls at the bars, (hasn't gone further than that). I have codependency issues and don't want to get attached to this guy if it turns out he can't quit drinking in spite of trying. This last "slip" I left his place and told him I wouldn't come back until he stopped for a whole month because this is dangerous for my mental health. I already feel myself getting anxiety being away a few days.
I also feel bad. I feel guilty that I'm putting him through this silly test instead of being supportive and he's miserable and having a really hard time not drinking and being alone.
Am I justified in this or am I being a dick to him? Is my reasoning not good enough? Is just taking a break when he's drinking a mature way to handle this and show him I'm serious? It's not like he hits me or anything but the flirting and lying are hurting my trust in him already.
What should I do?
blackmailing him is pretty shitty
you can say you dont like drunkards and leave or hang around and argue that hes drinking again or something but withholding contact till hes clean (he wont get clean) is stupid
>>18643043
Not witholding contact. Just saying I'm not going to get deeply involved in the relationship until I know he can stay clean. I still text him and tell him I love him and I'm waiting for him to prove he can quit.
What do you think is a better way of dealing with the situation then?
Is he going to AA meetings?
How do I get a better personality? Apparently nobody likes mine so where can I get a new one?
>>18643018
stop going on mu
Op, I wish I knew.
I wish I knew...
>>18643018
Figure out what's wrong with the one you have first, and try to improve on that in a small way day by day. There are hundreds of thousands of books on self-improvement and/or self-acceptance.
A psychologist or a shrink can also help you with this.
Any tips on how to stop or lessen my stuttering? Mine has been getting progressively worse over the course of 3 years.
>>18642991
Practice rapping, but in such way that you would practice an instrument. Take a good song you like and practice the words, one by one if you need to and with intense repetition.
>>18642996
Eminem is pretty good with this.
But really it's practice.
I used to be quiet, still am, but I used to stutter like a dumb ass, probably from the lack of talking.
>>18643086
Me too. I always think I talk fine (and I do in my head) but every time I try to make a sentence I stutter on one word. Telling jokes is a nightmare. People mostly laugh at the way I tell jokes, and not at my jokes.
Is there any truth to the whole alpha/beta thing?
If so, how do I cope with being a beta male or, even better, become an alpha?
>>18642983
some truth. Like everything else in life Alpha and Beta are just broad terms we use to categorize somewhat consistent behaviors.
imagine any stereotype, lets say asian. You imagine someone short, wtih glasses, nerdy, bad accent. but that doesn't describe all asians, does it? even with the racial features it doesn't describe all asians, just parts you can see in any asian.
Alpha and Beta are essentially the same thing. men are not divided into two simple categories that define them as a human. its really more of a spectrum, and we all fall somewhere on that spectrum. legit the only thing you can do to improve your self is to improve your self. Alpha is not one all encompassing quality. Take the things in you that need work and work on them.
and stop worrying about these arbitrary labels, cuz legit, they're only being used online by stupid people arguing on a boi pucci rating pictograph forum. its a myth that only 'alphas' are getting laid while everyone who isn't is stuck inside watching cuck porn. get stereotypes out of your head and start focusing on what is going to make your life better, piece by piece.
>>18642984
I was typing up my advice when the page refreshed and this showstealers post showed up.
HE SPEAKS THE TRUTH
They're just labels for personality and confidence. It's in no way a biological or scientific category so stop worrying about it.
I've met guys who look like fashion models that look down at the ground and get flustered when hot women talk to them, and I've met balding obese guys picking up girls like no tomorrow because they know how to be funny and boisterous.
Learn to socialise, have fun and exert your personality more and being 'alpha' is the result
How do i not run away from rejection and hatred from another person
>>18642982
by not running.
there seems to be some misconception that in order to do or not do something that you need to be comfortable with it. not the case.
you don't need to be comfortable to do your homework, your chores, your job, or get a shot from your doctor. you do uncomfortable or bad things daily because its part of life, you do what you got to in order to achieve an end result you WILL enjoy or that will at least be better for you in the long run.
if you dont want to run away from rejection, the only thing you have to do is not run away.
I have no ability to weigh my judgements. The concept of value does not even exist to me either beyond bad, better, and best.
what is my major malfunction?
>>18642978
>i have no ability to weight my judgements
>except for bad, better and best
its almost as if you CAN weigh your judgements and thats exactly how you weigh them.
>>18642998
I mean value and judgement as two different things
not the observed phenomenon but rather what actually is going on in my brain
>>18643032
sounds like you're looking for something to nitpick at.
>upload video of myself playing guitar to instagram
>hot girl I met in high school messages me saying "Omg I love your playing! <3"
>say "thanks"
>a few days later
>extremely horny
>not thinking straight due to horniness
>direct message her
>act like a fucking sperg
>ask her person question trying to start a conversation
>she doesn't reply
>jerk off
>wonder what the fuck is wrong with me
Any way to salvage this or has the hormonal autism permanently ruined it?
Time heals all wounds. Also always jack off before making a risk.
>>18642944
Why do male hormones cause retardation?
>>18642943
What did you ask? I had a woman behind me at Wal-Mart at 5 of midnight. She was buying a Phillips head drill bit.
I asked her if she needed any help getting screwing. Sometimes you just have to go for it.
She didn't, by the way, but fuck it. I got a smile out of her.
Even when in a relationship, I fuck anything that's immidiately available to me.
If my gf is away one night, I'll call another girl over to fuck.
How do I get over this?
It's ruined my relationships
Visit a sex therapist. Sex addiction can be real.
>>18642940
> Has the ability to call a girl for sex
> Even knows a girl's number
> Boo hoo poor me I get sex whenever I want
I so want to hit you with a truck right now.
>>18642940
Use adult toys to take the edge off. There's an onahole (fleshlight) general on /jp/, if you're interested.