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have you been banging lots of women? if so then you should probably get checked out. If not maybe you should do it anyway for piece of mind, also because I'm not a doctor qualified to give you advice on the matter.

No, Its just kinda like this now, I dont know weather this is a good reason to get my balls checked or that I'm being a hypochondriac.

Get yourself checked mate. It could be testicular cancer. Chances are it's not, but if it is, early detection saves lives.

>>18643319

Because it won't bring you happiness. And you know it because you've already been doing it. Find a passion. I have no idea how but you need to find direction.

>>18643319
instead of claiming to be powerless to making a change why not grow a fucking spine and do something to change the way things are.

>>18643319

There's nothing inherently with with it, except maybe leeching off your parents is morally questionable. But lacking any purpose in life is a usual way into depression, because it eventually leads to that "why get out if bed" point. Just think of the ridiculously rich people: they could live doing jackshit and yet most opt for some sort of projects or charity. Why? Because aimlessness and purposelessness is ultimately boring and unsatisfying.

>>18643305
>so many people ''suddenly die'' when they're close to discover something.

Name two.

You're the victim of some weird urban myth.

In fact, no medical researchers work alone, and even if some potential Salk or Lister were to die just as he was approaching a breakthrough, the rest of the people in his lab would carry on and the work would get done.

>>18643303

Judging by pic related and your post it probably is stress related. Hows life been lately?

Personally, I would sport that shit like a boss. I understand your concern (not really), but being insecure about it will turn you into a betabot.

>>18643303

Grey hair can be hot af, if you've got a decent face to go with it. Insecurity, however, is always unattractive.

>>18643282
>I am very unhappy with my life in general and depressed

If you feel this way about life in general, it will naturally reflect in your relationships too. Addressing the issues that make you feel depressed is the place to start. If your relationship is part of the problem, then you've probably fallen out of love. If you're losing interest in your relationship as a result of feeling depressed, then you might still love her, but the strain on your mental health is making it more difficult. If the first, letting the relationship go in order to improve your situation otherwise might be necessary. If the latter, you could try talking about this with your partner. If you talk wih her through your situation, she might be willing to help you figure out a way to change your life in a way that will lead to improvement.

love is an abstract concept. There are songs about it even, for instance what is love - by haddaway. My advice is take some time to reflect on things, it seems like you have a lot of time to do that anyway seeing as you don't see her all too often (good, I think couples need some space). I would say if you care about her you still love her. How you feel when she isn't there could be how you project an image of her in your depressed mood, and not a particularly good one. It's a struggle to find out what's what, but you'll get there.

>>18643282

DO NOT END YOUR RELATIONSHIP!!!!

I know EXACTLY how you feel. Difference is I was married. I ended up filing for divorce, destroying her heart, and ruining my life. All because I had a personal depression and was unhappy with myself.

I don't know your living situation but if you are happy around her then make that happen more. Whatever it is that is making you unsatisfied with your life then work on fixing it.

>>18643263

You don't need motivation, you need self-discipline. Motivation will always fade over time, but determination and discipline will get you places. Schedule your life for productive and free time and stick to it. Assigning a different place away from distractions for productive time is also helpful. Sometimes some sort of a reward/punishment system can help too. Forming habits is important too: if you stick to your productivity for some time, it will get easier to maintain.

I'm pretty sure they'd just reject your application if you didn't put an actual residential address.

>>18643262
Lets say I use a PO box, but write out the physical address of the post office instead of just "PO BOX #" would that work?

People have told me they used virtual addresses at mailbox centers for their license, but the post office is a whole lot cheaper, and more secure, since I'll also be using it for important mail.

>>18643246
Repeat as desired

Licked where?

>>18643246
>What to do?
Get tested for oral herpes.

That should read 17 months btw

You have BPD. Seek professional help.

>>18643228
>you have a severe personality disorder because your ex is a bitch
no but really OP cut contact with her and see therapy if it's affordable

In that stage where I'm fighting to be alright with myself alone. Tried a date it became a one night stand and I learned prett quickly that I'm not ready to date or fuck strangers.

In time I know it'll be better it's just you waiting to be ready to not feel worthless again, you know?

>>18643165
Hey. Thanks for coming back and talking about your experience and how this place has helped you out. I really think people need to read these kind of threads to see that this place can make a difference if you talk about what is on your mind.

There are a number of things on my mind and experiences I would like advice on and would like to sit down, think things through, and write it out.

>>18643742
>>18643165

BTW if the relationship was long distance how could you tell the weight gain and drug use?

>>18643160
>tfw have a donkey shlong but no sexual talent to make girls orgasm ever

Anyway, have you asked her what's going on?

What did she say?

>have talk with her about it
>She's tried masturbation a few times but it never worked at all
>She thinks she's asexual
>She feels as though my need for sex is treated as "an obligation to her role as the female" and claims that it's degrading that I turn to her for sexual release
>Sees nothing wrong with the concept of me jacking off just so that she doesn't become bothered

Is there any salvation? Is there any way that I can point out to her why this is a fucked up situation? This has happened over the course of a year to get to this point and I'm getting sick or it. I love her emotionally but this is too fucking much.

>>18643160
>>18643167
This all reeks of a shit test my man.

>>18643140
>ptsd
If it's not literally from fighting for your life yeah I'd say probably an hero

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>>18643140
I got into a nasty car accident last month and I've been suffering from all of those.

I use to think PTSD was for soldiers and rape victims. I'm a strong believer and getting back up and keep pushing forward.

After my accident, I'm incredibly unstable. Everytime I'd go out of the house or drive, I'd get lighthead, emotional and get the urge to start to cry.

It would frustrate me. Because I was mentally aware of my scenario and tried to fight these urges. But it was my body that kept doing it.

Doctor said I had severe PTSD and I would be fine. Subscribed me some antidepressant and anti anxiety medicine which has now left me severe anxiety attacks.

Never had anxiety attacks before and now they come 3-5 times a day.

I can no longer sleep. And the depression has made it where I don't want to do anything, no vidya or Netflix. I'll lay in bed from 930am to 6pm. And be dead tired. Even when I do sleep, my body never reaches REM sleep.

I have kicked all my friends out of my life during my recovery and I can't work, I just want to be alone, and not alone at the same time. Essentially my life has stopped. Physical therapy is the only thing healing me.

Shit I can't drink beer anymore without getting sick.

And after all this. Being the failure that I am and the person I hate, I still push forward.

Fuck this... I'm still gonna conquer my dreams and become the person I always wanted to be. I've taken the liberty to get that doctor into some serious shit and have had myself checked in into a mental therapist and psychiatrist.

All of this I am doing to not an hero. At the time I write this, I crave nothing more than a ciggerate, fresh air and a woman's touch.

But here I am fighting this battle all alone.

Seek help anon. Talk to people. Keep your body clean and healthy is one of the many things we do that sucks. But it's necessary. Like brushing your teeth or showering.

We do it because we need to maintain ourselves.

>Feels good to vent
>god I miss Sunsets

>>18643217
I was raped

Go and see other ones. If you're hearing the same shit over and over, it's you.

What you think of yourself is very important. Go see other psychologists as the anon above said and try changing your habits and routines. Going to the gym or doing some kind outdoor activity can really help build your self steem too.

>>18643131
Yeah basically

>>18643131
Yup. I know there's some qt's out in those no name towns since I'll see them working the stores but trying to do online dating has got to suck.

You're basically announcing to the entire town of 500-2000 people (which there might only be a few hundred near your age) that you're single.

where do the cute female anons go to look for guys?

>>18643128
9/10 times people think this about themselves and it's really just nothing, these posts are common on /adv/. I analyse everyone no matter where I am like there's a random database I put my perception to and I've never understood love but I'm no anything -path.

>>18643128
How long have you been together?

>>18643609
just about to start dating soon but I can already tell she wants me