Hello /adv/ highschooler here. I just want to know what subject should I study at uni. Math or Physics? I enjoy both but I don't think I could major both simultaneously. What do?
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Physics
You're gonna get a shit ton of math either way
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Physics. No doubt.
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What is your purpose for going to university?
>Education for fun with disposable income
Whichever you enjoy the most. Look into what higher levels of each will look like and decide which you're more interested in experiencing.
>Education for a degree in order to obtain a livable job
Determine what your end goal is here, and choose the major that would make it easiest for you to achieve that. Bonus points if your degree allows for a couple backup careers for if you change what you want.
Wondering what yall think is the best VPN out there. Is it possible to get a reliable VPN for free without a data cap? Or should I dish out some money for a subscription? If so, what service would you recommend?
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NordVPN. I paid $72 for 2 years
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It depends on what you want to use it for and how secure you need it to be
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Depressed about who I chose to marry
I have daily suicidal thoughts over the woman I chose to marry. These are some of the reasons:
She's covered in degenerate, ugly tattoos
Has ear plugs which I find disgusting
She used to be a lesbian
She used to be a hard core drug addict
She has sucked one black dick but said she stopped because it was too disgusting, and says they definitely never had sex
(I cuck myself into thinking about this a lot and it literally makes me want to fucking die)
She used to date a drug dealer
She dated a guy she said was very "alpha" and literally beat the shit out of her and "raped" her
She's a different race
She's not really my type at all, and I wish she had larger breasts
She told me she thought she'd had bigger dicks, then said she realized she was mistaken and mine is the biggest. Which sounds like bullshit but she's a very honest person, too fucking honest and I constantly doubt this.
It's been years and I think about this type of shit daily and it makes me want to just get in my car and drive into a fucking wall or something. Or dive under a bus.
All that said however, she is one of the best women I've ever known or dated. She takes care of me like a woman should, and is submissive and kind. She cooks cleans does my laundry and everything else a good wife should without being asked. So in every regard but the things up top, she's perfect. It's just those imperfections bother the fuck out of me. We're married now and I am happy to be, I just think maybe I fucked up. How do I get past this shit? I'm not going to get a divorce, but I don't want to be depressed and suicidal over this. I've tried medication and it did really help me, but it isn't worth it due to the side effects for me. Someone please fucking help me.
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Hey Dude,
Been in a similar situation and found that there is only ONE way out of it, although it's a real tough one:
Sit down and talk with her about EVERYTHING that bothers you OPENLY and FEARLESSLY to exhaustion.
Until you can do this, you'll be a victim of your own consciousness, I'm afraid.
Be strong and straight, my friend, you're facing one hell of a ride.
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Is "traumatized" a diagnosis? What does it mean? 2017-08-22 05:56:08 Post No.18647333
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Is "traumatized" a diagnosis? What does it mean?
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what it says in the title.
My dad died two years ago in October. I won't go into it but it was three weeks of absolute hell.
Two months ago my mom talked me into coming with her and my little brother to a week-long "seminar" (I'm not sure about the English word for it) about families who have lost a parent to the same kind of thing. Every evening we had a short, one-on-one conversation with a therapist. At the end of the week this therapist told me that I was traumatized, and that when I got home she wanted me to get in contact with a psychiatrist.
So... Here's the problem. I have an offer for a couple of free therapy sessions because of socialism, but I'm not sure I want to go.
If I did, what would happen? Is "trauma" even a diagnosis? Would it mean anything if I get it? I just wouldn't know what to do with that information, so I don't know if I want it
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>Is "trauma" even a diagnosis?
In a sense yes. A professional can determine whether an experience had traumatic effects based on how you handled it, and no, you don't have to go into meltdown to suffer trauma.
I'd say since you have a few appointments free why not go there. Therapy can sometimes produce adverse effects but rarely, even moreso if the therapist aint a freudian (freudian psychoanalysis and therapy has the highest % of cases that actually got worse after).
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If you constantly felt guilty, anxious, significantly depressed or socially inhibited since your father's passing, you might be dealing with a form of post-traumatic stress disorder. It's worth going to see the psychiatrist, mostly so they can give an accurate diagnosis and continue treatment or refer you to a therapist that can treat you.
Don't turn down the free sessions. Go and hear them out. You'd be surprised how cathartic it is to talk anyone, really, about this kind of stuff.
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>>18647333
It's free anyway, why not just go and see? nothing to lose
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I feel like I've sexually assaulted my girlfriend? 2017-08-22 05:51:47 Post No.18647324
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I feel like I've sexually assaulted my girlfriend?
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>Have gf of month and a half, have been friends for a year prior
>Everything is great, sex life is very active, trusting, and satisfying
>Gf as a child was molested by cousin, and has submitted to other aggressive advances throughout her childhood as a result in fear of a worse consequence (Being beaten, denied love, etc)
>She handles it remarkably well and has had no breakdowns, but thinks on it every now and then
>Post-wonderful sex, laying there, I get up to put clothes back on
>I hug her from behind
>She jokingly rubs her ass against my dick, I start getting horny again.
>I tell her playfully to stop, I don't want to go again (Have went twice prior)
>She continues, I get erect, and playfully push her down onto the bed, make a reference to how I need to "get rid of this now", explain I just want to rush this one out, she okays it.
>Wrap up what I need to do, I notice she's laying on my bed with a look of ecstasy, then this concerned look on her face
We talked about it, and she said the way I phrased my words reminded her of past negative encounters. My heart sank into my stomach. An intended intimate and pleasurable experience was associated with one of her worst childhood memories.
I immediately felt like a rapist and sick to my stomach, as that was not my intent. We have been aggressive (but safe) during sex multiple times, and she told me she did not regret the sex, nor does she think less of me in any way, and is worried me feeling this guilty is going to strain our relationship. She says that she doesn't think I did anything wrong, however.
I still think what I did was wrong. What do I do?
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Move past it and don't do it again.
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>she okays it.
That is all.
Remember to make her feel loved and never violate her.
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Clearly she trusts you and she knows you didn't mean for it to sound the way it did. She even acknowledged that you didn't do anything wrong. You will just have to continue living with the fact that her past traumatic experience will come up every now and then and cause her to have these brief moments. Kind of like PTSD.
My gf went through sexual abuse when she was young, too, and the trigger for her is if someone takes her hand and tries to lead it somewhere, especially anywhere near someone's lower body. I accidentally triggered it when we were first dating, and she snapped and closed herself off for a minute. I was angry at myself too for being so careless, but she reassured me that it wasn't my fault and that she trusted me and knew I wouldn't harm her. It was just an automatic reflex for her. I'm a bit more careful about it now, and when it does happen she reacts less now.
Continue being caring and sensitive toward her, but don't beat yourself up over this one incident or any future incidents. As long as you continue communicating together about it, and reassuring each other, it will be ok.
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Hey /adv/
About 6 years ago I witnessed a hit and run. A very fatal one. I was sitting in the backseat of the car when it happened. And, well, I was drunk along with the driver and passenger in the front side of the car. I was so out of it that night but the following morning I looked into what happened and it was in fact a fatal hit. I was in such shock I didn't know what to do so I just kept my mouth shut. It worked. The other people in the car ended up asking if I recalled what happened- I didn't want any part of it so pretended like I was sleeping during that part. It worked because I was sprawled across the backseat. I only remember the loud thud and screech. I assumed it was a dustbin he hit. But after checking the news the following morning I came to know it was a human.
Well, I recently found out the same two people have been going around town spreading shit about me for the last few years and I'm thinking of whether or not I should reveal what I know to them or other people because I've never spoke about it to a single soul.
I'm keeping this terrible secret hidden even from them and in return they are trash talking and scathing my reputation. It just doesn't make sense to me.
I also believe karma has a way of sorting things out so I figure I could keep it a secret.
What would you do in my shoes?
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Do you have any evidence that they took part in a hit and run, besides your word? People will also question why you held on to this information for so long.
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My story would easily corroborate with the onlookers' story. That's all I could say.
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>>18647419
However, I wasn't thinking about telling the authorities. I only want to return their favor by ruining their reputation. Or, tell the perpetrator directly and make him feel thoroughly shitty.
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Employers/Graduate School and GPA 2017-08-22 05:45:33 Post No.18647312
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Employers/Graduate School and GPA
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I fucked up hard in my first year of university, and almost failed out. I was dealing with some mental health problems and family issues, so the University cut me some slack and gave me a second chance. 2nd year I was able to get my GPA above passing, and it was like a 2.3 at the end of the summer. Junior year I stopped fucking around and I got a 4.0, and now senior year is coming up and I plan to do the same. But even if I get a 4.0, my cumulative GPA is only going to be at like a 3.2. Are employers or grad school admissions boards going to cut me some slack if my academic issues were all within the first 3 semesters?
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Employers don't care about your grades, never list them on a resume period. They just want to know if you passed or failed. Grad school applications are a whole nother ballgame and tend to require graduating a bachelor degree program with honors, if you are dead set on grad school you will need to go to a smaller local university for your masters.
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Hi anons, need some advice on how to save money. Do I start a savings account? How much am i supposed to save each paycheck? Any tips or advice? Much appreciated. (I have a 40k annual salary).
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This is asking for advice nonetheless. Why do you /adv/ fags only give advice to suicidal kids and people that don't know why nobody likes them? I'm asking advice on how to save money as a lower class individual.
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My advice is to seek help in /biz/ because they are much better with finances than us, dipshit
It's like asking advice for how to beat a video game, someone recommends /v/ and you go all "WOOOOOOOOOW I WAS STILL ASKING FOR ADVICE"
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I have no friends and staying alone at home won't help it but I also am unsure of just going out alone, is it weird? I feel like going to bars to meet people is just a meme that has never been real and you either go with someone or not at all.
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Meeting people in bars is odd. Join activities you enjoy and find people with common interests.
>cute girl's birthday
>don't see her often
>made birthday post involving a self-depreciating joke made a few months back
>16 hours later
>no reply
>no comment
>she's replied and commented on every other one
>suddenly realise that she may have taken it as an insult, despite the smiley face and the x, because it was a one-off joke made between us on snapchat months ago
What do?
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Nothing
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>made birthday post involving a self-depreciating joke made a few months back
Wait, the joke was about you or her? Because "self-depreciating" implies you were making fun of yourself.
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Cringe
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Do women even enjoy sex that much or do they mostly see it as a tool (keeping a relationship, resources, etc.)?
Of course there's exceptions to the rule and there are thots who ride Chad's dick 24/7
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thanks for the cute foxy :3
and yeah women enjoy sex for the most part
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Sigh , youre lost op
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My pure Christian girlfriend who's only had one sexual partner (blowjobs and mutual masturbation) before me absolutely loves sex. She is awkward about sexual teasing, almost cute how bad she is at it, never sends nudes or even revealing pictures. She absolutely loves sex though, any position, light bondage, cock rings, maid/nurse/rape roleplays, the works. When drunk, she gets way more flirty and forward, roadhead, grabbing my crotch in public, whispering dirty stuff in my ear.
However, a previous girl I hooked up who has had sex since she was 15 (18 when I met her) , with a multitude of guys because she felt she owed it to them because they bought her alcohol, drove her to school, etc hated sex. She teased and flirted hard with me, but when the time came she smoked weed and got blackout drunk to the point she was barely conscious. I only had a semi because I felt guilty going through with it in her condition, and after every 3 pumps she forced me out because it hurt too much. Worst sex of my life.
The moral of the story is that some do, some don't, can't judge a book by it's cover, people change.
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What is the best program to convert image files (jpg, png, et al) to pdf? In the past I'd simply use JPEGtoPDF but it doesnt want to work on Windows 10.
Pic unrelated, I just like Francis Bacon.
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a pdf is just a container for the images and text, why are you trying to convert them?
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I want born again documents. PDF saves.
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Say I send a message to my girlfriend
A minute later when she seens that message and before she replies I feel a burst of worry in my chest
I think you know what I'm talking about
How do I stop feeling this?
There are no problems between us
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I don't know what you're talking about
What exactly are you worried about?
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After being in the most stable, loving, and secure relationship of my life (albeit it's only been ten months), I still get this feeling from time to time. Especially over the past few months we've been in separate cities.
Since it's been hard for be to build up trust, I'm guessing it's me still insecure in the relationship, and still feeling like I have to impress/win her over and hoping she finds every little word to be interesting.
My GF has been nothing but supportive, and I plan on communicating my thoughts when she comes back next week. Tell her that I feel I should be more comfortable in the relationship, and should trust that she loves who I am.
I don't know how much of this applies to your situation, but I get the similar texting panic, and whenever I've got an issue with something I'm doing/feeling or something she's doing, the best thing for me to do is lay in bed cuddling with her, ramble on about my thoughts (because I am not succinct) until she gets an impression of where I'm coming from, then we talk it out.
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Anyone know what kind of fungus this could be? At the park and the kids started crowding around it. (They said it was the inside of an egg, so cute)
Thanks.
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Slime mold, it's harmless.
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Looks more like a wild animal ate a fungus and had a wild shitty night
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>>18647147
cunt crust
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>new here
>am i doing this right
>why do we use this format
>is it just bullets or am i missing something
>thanks
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lurk moar.
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Read the fucking faq and lurk moar faggot
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so far i'm noticing that the green format usually contains a bulletted story, and normal typing is just normal statements and stuff. will read the faq, didn't think it would explain that