Say I send a message to my girlfriend
A minute later when she seens that message and before she replies I feel a burst of worry in my chest
I think you know what I'm talking about
How do I stop feeling this?
There are no problems between us
I don't know what you're talking about
What exactly are you worried about?
After being in the most stable, loving, and secure relationship of my life (albeit it's only been ten months), I still get this feeling from time to time. Especially over the past few months we've been in separate cities.
Since it's been hard for be to build up trust, I'm guessing it's me still insecure in the relationship, and still feeling like I have to impress/win her over and hoping she finds every little word to be interesting.
My GF has been nothing but supportive, and I plan on communicating my thoughts when she comes back next week. Tell her that I feel I should be more comfortable in the relationship, and should trust that she loves who I am.
I don't know how much of this applies to your situation, but I get the similar texting panic, and whenever I've got an issue with something I'm doing/feeling or something she's doing, the best thing for me to do is lay in bed cuddling with her, ramble on about my thoughts (because I am not succinct) until she gets an impression of where I'm coming from, then we talk it out.