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>>17700510
You'll* sorry, dictionary sucks

Noone has answers I seek?

They are that way presumably because that is the shape of your body. Why is this happening and why do you need it fixed?

cliff notes

>Lonely af
>Met a girl at a rave in March
>7/10 face with makeup, 5/10 body.
>Dated (her 21, me 25) for 7 months.
>She had a history of being a party girl, slutty. (told me she cheated on her ex with a fwb).
>Initally she wanted a bf/gf relationship (afraid of being used), I always wanted just friends, but it became more as we both grew more attached.
>She loved sex. That's all we did. She was down to be really kinky with me
>I could never get around to "trusting" her.
>Told I was her first true love.
>Recently I fell on hard times, relying on her more financially
>We fought a lot. Our fights escalated to more physical
>We fought a lot, I gave her a black eye.
>This pissed her off and she ran away from me like 2 weeks ago
>Ends up staying with her druggie friends (who all hate me) and finds a new rental in town. She still has no car.
>Even though the past 2 weeks we've broken up and she's been away at her job and doing her own shit, we still meet up sometimes and fuck.
>Tells me she wants to keep our relationship to just sex

There's no evidence that she already found a new person, but it still feels weird because I did become attached to her. I mean, yeah, the sex is still fun, but I still kinda think of her as mine.

what should I do?

Any advice?

Is she helping you financially in any way currently?

You'll get over it. Don't tell her, it'll be awkward and kind of annoying for the girl

>>17700393
Sucks to be you. Take a lot of drugs and find another woman to cherish

Oh damm how clearlyfying

This is really poorly written lol

>>17700384
No it could mean you're are shit at fucking.

>>17700415
*you're shit
Oops

Leave him

>>17700290
You are right. He is wrong. But guys can't interpret hints and clues. You have to say out loud, in simple statements, "Being in the same room is not being together. Rushing through a meal so you can get to your gaming is not being together. I need some quality time when our attention is entirely on each other."

>>17700290

You need a hobby, or you need some girlfriends, or a job. One of the three.

I think it's okay to have preferences, but it's a problem when you won't consider dating anyone outside that preference. That's when it becomes something like yellow fever, for example. Not only are you shallow or whatever, but you're also severely limiting the people you can date, which is even more of a problem if you're not a similar sort of person and that type of person wouldn't normally date someone like you.

>>17700280
>but it's a problem when you won't consider dating anyone outside that preference

Well help me understand then. What is the point of having a preference? If you date someone who isn't your preference, isn't that settling? Isn't that damaging in the long term, having a partner who you never truly wanted in the first place?

>>17700293
Hey, having preferences is okay and pretty much preferred! There's nothing wrong with it.

But as with anything, it only gets wrong when it's not done in moderation. Preferences should serve as a guideline to get the sort of couple you want, but they shouldn't be so exclusive literally nobody will fit the bill. Maybe if you could give up on some traits for others that are more important for you?

Priorities, anon. Priorities.

Over time you get used to it, because there really is no changing your fate and it'll come whether you're ready or not.

As you get older you start to come to terms with that reality, it's why you never see a middle aged suicide bomber, young people don't really understand the true reality of death.

>>17700248

Stop giving a shit about it - death waits for no man. So live your life to the fullest instead of crippling your own health with fear and anxiety over something that 'could' happen, but clearly hasn't and probably won't for another 50-60 years.

Stop bein' a dingus, bro.

>>17700283

I was thinking the same too. Maybe because I'm young I keep freaking out about it, but as I get older and build a family maybe I'll be able to come to terms with it...

The problem is the panic attacks I get. Like I even hyperventilate when I start thinking that someday I'm gonna be in a dying bed in my 80s if I'm that lucky before a car accident or some crazy shit happens before and kills me... Like what if right now after I walk out of work I get robbed and shot at for whatever reason and I just disappear? How can I let anyone know? It would cause a lot of pain to others as well... I just need to get it out of my head.

get a job and get /fit/, people will look at you differently after that. Its a sad, but surreal truth.

Try being less of a hateful person. Get some exercise, take up meditation, stop collecting pepes, get fresh air, stop focusing on the negative, try and better yourself.

>>17700209
>>17700212
Might as well said "Good luck, faggot" instead of spewing the same shit OP has probably heard.

No-fap is not a meme. Death grip and jackhammering paired with the viewing of images that often escalate in their extremity has a psychological effect with a physical effect. Just keep away from frequent masturbation, especially masturbation facilitated by the viewing of images you codify as pornographic. It will go back to normal.

Sometimes this shit happens
Usually around a stressful event in life
It progressively became more difficult for me to keep an erection the three-four months leading up to college graduation
After I graduated tho I was back to normal

>>17700179
My problem is it has been months since I've looked at any porn or masturbated and I'm still having these problems. You're saying I just have to continue waiting?

>>17700171
I dunno mang. I'm a high school drop out and I started studying at university at age 26.

The reason why I was allowed to enter was because they had too few students as it was. The course was bioinformatics and, after a quick talk with the dean, he said I could do it. According to him it didn't really matter since if I sucked I'd drop out fairly quickly anyway. Other deans of other institutes of the same university told me to go fuck myself, as they had too many students and thus only took those who had the proper papers.

I am in Switzerland, for your reference.

>>17700182
Ahh okay! I know that in the UK they have this thing called "clearing", which is basically what you described. Unis will post courses in which they didnt manage to fill up their quotas, and so entry requirements are exceptionally low.

The thing is though, that my feeling is that those unis, or courses, are bound to suck. Why else have they not filled up? I am not sure if I would want to be in so much debt as I would probably end up being in, just to study at a bad university. Then I would prefer just to further teach myself coding, I guess, and eventually land some mediocre coding job.

But I reaally, really want to experience university life. Like damn, getting accepted in to a good uni is my dream.

>>17700192
wow this might come across wrong. I am not at all trying to say that your uni is bad man!

>>17700158
If you have insurance, have either your doctor or your insurance company refer you. Say you just need to be evaluated. If not, you can look for one yourself, but some can be a bit pricey.

If you want therapy, you need a psychologist or therapist, if you want meds, you'll need a psychiatrist. If you want both, you'll either need one of each category, or one that does both.

>>17700164
I forgot to mention that therapists/psychologists and psychiatrists usually refer each other. So if you find one, they'll most likely point you towards the other.

>I can't do this on my own

neither can I

let's date

>>17700156
You were lucky and you fucking wasted it. I want to punch you in the face

>>17700162
She didn't have any manners, she didn't even introduce herself, nor ask for my name. And besides, I was blasting A Blaze In The Northern Sky and I was at the middle of In The Shadow Of The Horns. She wasn't deserving of my precious time.

>>17700166
You got me. Nice bait

To me it seems like you already know what you want, you just need a "push" forward.
>I don't want any friends
seems pretty straight-forward. So yeah, ignore her completely for a few days (more if you talk to her only once in a few days. Basically stay absent for a longer period that you tend to). If she stops bugging you then that's that, you get your peace of mind and free time. If she doesn't tell her you're really busy in this period and don't have time for platonic relationships. You're basically saying "jump on my dick or fuck off", but you're being nicer about it.

>>17700150
I didn't talk to her the whole day and she texted me asking me this evening if I was busy. I replied, kind of, I'm studying. She said okay and after a couple of hours at night, she calls me and tries to initiate convo. I'm uninterested and obviously she senses it and tries to spike interest. I said, I want to get dinner and hang up. She wanted to hang out tomorrow and told me to inform my schedule before sleep. Late at night, I call her and tell my plan and she listens half asleep. I kind of talk and half way our convo, she says she missed me the whole day.
She is a good girl and most probably she didn't date the last year because her last relationship didn't go well with her ex treating her like shit. It's been two months since we started getting close.

Giving her an ultimatum may make her do it just because I want it, not because we both want it, and I don't how to feel about it.

>>17700178
Well you don't want her to keep being clingy without putting out. You don't want her to fuck you just because you want her to fuck you. You need to make up your mind. So you either put up with the current situation in the hopes that she'll eventually want the good dick, you tell her to fuck off directly or you do what I suggested.

You can't have your cake and eat it too. Yeah, I know that in an ideal situation you wouldn't have to make this choice, but this isn't an ideal situation. You need to play the cards that you've been given.

read the sticky at

>>>/fit/
and
>>>/fa/

>>17700076
I already browse /fit/ and I've looked at /fa/.

If you actually read my post I'm not asking for workout/fashion advice.

>>17700072

here's the thing: there is no on going source of information about life. within a week or two you'll have heard everything, and you'll use maaybe 5% and because you will be working you might not even get that.

what i mean to say is this isn't about listening. this is about learning. its not like a radioplay or general subject. its something that only works if you put it into work in your life. its a practice. and you wont be able to commit, write things down, focus, or think about whats being told to you while working.

and none of them are going to help you get fit, get fashionable, or figure out what skin care is, cuz all that shit is personal to you.

address each of these individually with trial and error. what looks good on me wont look good on you, and words cannot teach the basics of a visual medium like fashion or hair.

>>17700013

it depends which hate you're talkingabout but for the most part you just build up your own life and let the world take care of itself.

when you are an adult you don't have to talk to who you don't want to. just because people love to talk about politics and argue doesn't mean you have to. just cuz other people are evil or just an ass doesn't mean you have to deal with them.

and the few interactions you do have doesn't have to ruin your day. its a small moment in time, one that doesn't effect the next unless you let it.

be more specific and i will too.

>>17700013
You train yourself to not be so reactive. Honestly, just focus on your own shit. Let other people live their lives. Know what you can change and what you can't. That's the most important.

You can't change the world. You can't even change individuals. You can only change yourself. Don't seek to do the impossible. Live and let live.

>>17700013
embrace apathy