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>>18058889
It's fine, she's clearly showing some interest, but the line you have to walk on becomes even thinner from here.

From this point, keep an eye out for some things:
1. Is she making a counter-offer if she turns down a time to meet up?
2. Is the tone remaining connected to the conversation i.e. is she dodging the question entirely?

From here, make sure you turn down your own message tone to something very casual and off-the-cuff. Make it seem like you have a bunch of women in your life.

Don't bombard her with offers, make her come forward with some ideas.

And in future, give her a single offer which she's more inclined to take. Perhaps do this by asking for a couple of days she's free and see if they work in YOUR schedule (by listing a few that you're free). This only works if she's not a total bimbo though.

She's got a boyfriend. Stop this shit.

>>18058921
No she has a long distance girlfriend

Uh well, idk if you really want my advice, since mines basically bulimia/anorexia speaking
When I started starving myself, essentially, what I did was purge all the food from my house. It was a pain in the ass, but I did my grocery shopping every day. I ONLY bought what I was gonna eat for the day. If I ate it all in one sitting, oh well. It's much easier to will yourself not to get in your car and drive to the store for more food than it is to will yourself to stop eating once you've started imo.
If you don't live alone, you'll probably have a harder time with it, but you can still try it. You just have to will yourself to remember the food in the fridge is not yours, and pretend your family/roommates will be mad if you eat their food (if they wouldn't actually). Do your own shopping, only buy what you're going to eat for 1 single day. Then you won't have anything more to eat.

Baby steps. You'll get there.
I eventually was able to work up to where I don't need this anymore. I can stock my fridge full and not overeat now. I know I only get 1 lean cuisine a day and then I go to bed.

It also helps to get yourself away from food as much as possible. Find places outside your house to go and spend the bulk of your day at.

I think I have the same problem. I'll happily fast - and enjoy it - for two weeks at a time, not eating anything except water for 16 days. Then as soon as I start eating, I'll eat uncontrollably and binge on icecream and candy and potatoes and gain it all back. I'm not obese nor scarily thin, and never have been, I just have really variable willpower.

>>18058784
Thanks, I can give this a shot. I do have a hard time keeping my hands off my roommate's food when I'm in binge mode, but I like this daily allowance idea. I'll work on that.

>>18058793
Fuckin tell me about it. I'm sometimes great and sometimes horrible. But I'm gradually getting worse. How to strengthen willpower?

Buy yourself a litecoin mining rig and start cranking away, baby.

>>18058681
Not sure how I would go about doing that. Can you elaborate more? I'm guessing it's something to do with computers? How steady is the profit? How much would I be able to gain, in say, a month?

>>18058699
Turning money into more money doesn't happen quickly

>>18058611
Kek. Never but never buy a prebuilt pc. They're way more expensive and parts like the power supply are chunk shit. Go to /g/s pc building General. It's pretty easy to build a pc. If you can't do it, you can always order a pc with the components you want in most computer stores.

>>18058611
>doesnt list price
>doesnt list specs
>"is this good"
Hey guys im gonna buy a truck are black trucks good

>>18058631
That's not true and you can even save money on the same parts buying prebuilt.

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Next time:
Think before you loser

>>18058598
>Twerking team

I'm sorry, what?

>>18058598
By linking said videos here

1099 is so an employer can put the tax costs on you. It's also illegal to be 1099 if you are full time. Just imagine a few thousand out of your paycheck gone when tax time comes.

>>18058874
To be more clear take about 20% of every pay check and that is the minimum you have to pay. You will also have to start keeping track of expenses like miles driven for work and money spent on work materials. That will help a bit but really it's chunk change.

>>18058591
You owe the IRS about $4k when you do taxes.

Maybe peyronies disease?

Also go to you doctor god damn it, the internet isn't reliable for this shit.

>>18058578
I'm embaraced to going to a doctor But I guess I have to :/

>>18058600
Is it high blood pressure?

>>18058554
Some sidenotes, she used to have a crush on me like 6 years ago.
She also mostly Starts convo on facebook. And last thing, she's working and I'm not sure she has a really active social life arm so she might just be using me for that.

>>18058554
just ask her. jfc.

if you have so many "females" interested in you, why do you care so much about fucking this one girl?
be flirtatious, lead on and see where it goes.

Chose the first pic I had in my comp...

...just realized no one is going to reply because of the picture... fml...

>>18058516
>go to google
>X online
>insert the name of the movie to X
That works like 99% of the time. If you like a website then just use it again

>>18058409
Kind of annoying, honestly, unless you REALLY like her back.

Doesn't feel like anything unless you like them back.

Remember that ugly, weird girl with the mole that smelled bad that you didn't even want to hang out with, or be around? You probably don't remember her to be honest. But, that's what it's like if it's not mutual.

>>18058415
I don't think any girl has liked me honestly.

>>18058351
Realize people think about themselves more than they will ever think of you. You're just a background character in their movie. Maybe they will think about you in the moment but after they are thinking about how others perceived them, what they will have to do at work, about their families, about what's good on Netflix. if someone like Trump doesn't give a fuck of others and bullies back why can't you just not care? Try to repeat daily when you get up and go to bed that no one gives a shit what I you do/did that day and tomorrow is another day and another opportunity to make things better. I care that you do well anon. If you really can't get past these feelings go to therapy. Also I suggest volunteering with animals and old people. They appreciate the company and someone listening to them and with animals you get to focus on socializing them and giving them walks. Good luck! I believe in you. :)

>>18058351
Why are other people so important to you? In the end your life and your happiness is dictated by you and you alone. Why would anyone's opinion of you even matter if they aren't important to you?

>>18058376
Thank you very much for your extensive advice. You're probably right with saying that I matter less to people than I imagine, as everyone matters to themselves more than others (with exceptions of course, but I'm talking about a relationship between e.g. coworkers).

>>18058380
I believe that I judge myself based on other's reactions of me. I know that I have issues with self-esteem. It's not critical and I'm not antisocial either, but at times I tend to take peoples' opinions too seriously.
>Why would anyone's opinion of you even matter if they aren't important to you?
Because I want to know about how my presence, appearance and person appeal to others, even strangers.

Back when I was a kid in school I was bullied. I didn't understand the reason why, so I started being overly considerate about myself, trying my hardest to fit in. By the time I got out of school I was so eager on not drawing attention on myself that I didn't even had noticed at first that it actually affected my personality. Needless to say the bullying stopped, but I'm still constantly overthinking.

Neither. Two stable adults who are of similar age are the most likely to work out and be compatible.

The one around your age.
Seriously, you go through so much development in your teens and 20's, you really don't have anything in common with someone who's in their 30's.
Given the types of dudes that much older who go after women that young, they will likely lose interest in you when you're older, and move on.

The dude with potential depends, in terms of starting a family. He can't say for certain if he will be successful or not.
If you want a stable relationship, emotionally, mentally, financially, you're better off sticking to people around your age, but just keeping in mind you can change your mind later. If the kid drops out of college and starts losing a grip, you don't have to stay. You can find someone else.

Not enough information. Either could be the better choice depending on other factors.

hey I was in engineering, and i hated every waking moment
i got through it with substance abuse, cheating, and netflix

>>18058289
Graduating with a BS in chemistry. Hated every second. Sciences require dedication to the material. Read the book, do the homework, go to class and always ask your professir for help.

Currently in engineering. Interning at a brake supplier.

My suggestion is to forget about your GPA and focus on truly learning and understanding the material. Engineering to me is like playing with Legos. I have different sized pieces for different purposes, and it is up to me to arrange/use them in the way that helps me achieve my goal.

For example, brake torque is found by using the basic formula for torque, force times radius. I now can find the brake torque my car puts out depending on the force my calipers apply.

It's not easy, but once it clicks in your mind, the fucking world makes soo much more sense. It also makes you want to improve everything around you because you now have the knowledge to build your world as you see fit.

You're at the point where the idea of having a panic attack is causing you to have a panic attack. You need a professional to help break this trigger.

Maybe not the answer you're looking for, but when you're in a situation like this, medication may not be a bad choice as an adjunct to therapy. Therapy tends to take longer to have effect, and you don't have to feel ashamed for taking medication at all in a situation like this. Life is too short; make sure you live it well.

Get rid of the benzos, though. The risk of them making it worse long-term is not worth it. I know they work, but so do other things which don't seem to fry your brain.

Have you ever taken any medication?
Get some hydroxyzine (Atarax, Vistaril) for your panic attacks. It's an antihistamine with anxiolytic properties and doesn't fry your brain. It could make you more sleepy than benzos do, and maybe it doesn't work as well for you as it does for some others, but you don't know if you don't try!

Many people say antidepressants are as effective as therapy, but most of these people haven't felt what you feel. You need something that enables you to not think about your therapy to stop yourself from going crazy too, for situations like when you're just lying on the couch watching TV.
Look into buspirone (BuSpar) before you try SSRIs. If you do decide to take this in agreement with a good doctor, give it some time as well. These medicines need time. Use the hydroxyzine to stop your worst panic attacks in the meantime.

t>>18058294

Oh, I almost forgot:
Try some cannabidiol (CBD) oil.

CBD is a non-psychoactive cannabinoid and could help you think in a more positive way in general. Look it up to see what its mechanism of action is if you're interested. Avoid THC, the risk of it inducing anxiety is not worth trying it.

CBD 2.75~10%
THC <0.5%
...is what you're looking for when you get the oil.

>>18058188
Read the trick is to fast and have breakfast in the morning.

>>18058188

If this is a daily problem, you're most likely simply not getting enough sleep. How many hours do you usually get? Do you let your sleeping schedule slip on weekends?

>>18058197

Agreed with this guy. If you're SO sleepy that this is repeated behavior, it sounds like you're not getting enough rest.

Alternatively, set your alarm across the room, so you HAVE to get up. And no snooze. Ever. Amazon sells alarms without the snooze function. Get one of those.