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>>18058119

idk anything to help you but

>labcorp bro

shiggy

>>18058119
So, I was exactly in your position a few months ago. The truth sucks.

I'm 5'3, weigh 95-100 pounds and am a female, so i guess i'd have more fat than a guy, but i'm really small. I did smoke about 1-2 grams a day, day & night like you for about 4 years.
I stopped smoking for a pre employment drug test and physical test and was testing myself with at home tests every few weeks. It was only by day 55 that I started peeing a faint negative line. I still needed to dilute my pee the day of, which was a nerve wracking process, but I was able to do it.

You're almost a month sober. The best thing to do right now is to invest in at home tests to know where you're at. In my opinion, if you're getting a faint negative (not a ghost line, but a very faint pink line) you should be okay to go the dilution method. Or you could substitute, but I was too scared for that.
With dilution you need to practice the method, with the creatine & vit D.

>>18058189
& yes, you should be worried. You're most likely going to test positive at this point, but if it's a faint negative you have a slight chance.
You said you want to drink two gatorades but they're going to know you diluted because of the lack of colour and your creatine levels will be off and so will your specific gravity. You need to start taking creatine supplements 3-4 days before the test, and vit d in the morning of your test.
You need to do more research

>>18058095

If you think there's a remote chance you'll ever work through your autism, don't do it anon.

I did and regret it wasn't with a girl I cared about.

It wasn't that great, I didn't even cum because I'm so desensitized by porn. Plus she was chubby. but it was paid for by my uncle so I don't really complain about that.

>>18058101
I thought about it for a good while and I'm ok with the consequences. I just wanna get a sexy chick to suck me off, ride my dick for a bit and finish, see what's it like. I actually don't have many expectations nor do I expect it to be some magical thing or whatever.
Though, I find it more likely never to work through my autistic quirks. I'm not that fucking great with girls obviously and the few ones that I ever even get are turned off by me being so clueless when it comes to getting intimate and sexual.

>>18058101
Basically this.

Talk to a counselor about your insecurities and see if they can help you work on your confidence. It's so much better to be with someone you really want

>>18058094

AA uses religion the same way christmas does. its just the back story. when you pray, you pray to a higher power, or rather your higher self, asking yourself to give you the power you need to get through it.

no reputable programs would promote temperance. if temperance would work, you wouldn't need a program.

>>18058100

Let's not bother to debate AA. It didn't work for me, and "praying" does me no good. Sorry if it's worked for you or others.

I personally don't even necessarily need this to be a "12 step" program, I just could use some like-minded people that discuss the ways they go about holding back from drinking in an honest, open, and anonymous fashion.

AA is way too heavy handed for me.

>>18058094
Look into moderation therapy. There's an organization for it, and it's about reducing and managing alcohol use rather than replacing it with god and church and support groups.

This generation is nothing but a bunch of pussies.

You've got to get over yourself and stop this woe is me special snowflake shit.

There's no pill that's going to do it for you, and all a therapist is, is a paid motivator.

>>18058099
>This generation is nothing but a bunch of pussies.

All generations are like this dumbass, only difference is now we can it all because of the internet.

>>18058102
Take whatever problem you have.

Remove the internet from your list of possible solutions.

Actually solve your problem.

>>18058081
same boat bro

I just ran some hot water on a paper towel, and put that on my sinuses for a minute, was pretty nice.

>>18058081
I feel ya, bro. Often when I'm at home I just cram some tissues up there and they're good for a while.

>>18058081

id suggest oxymetazoline but thats more for colds and definitely not for more than 3 days of use.

>>18058037
>>18058037

I had a similar condition anon, being able to get into a great routine only to have my depression collapse on me. The best advice I can honestly give you is to please seek professional help. It will give you the guidance that can't easily be given online, because depression can't be solved in a simple post, rather your thoughts and reactions and patterns will need to be analyzed

Maybe you are trying too hard? Im mostly cured of my anxiety and depression, still not in top form but I am really better. I honestly just take life day by day, yeah when I didnt do a homework I feel shity but I wont destroy all of my happiness cuz of that. Find something you reaply enjoy and do it regulary, for me its insulting my redheadedbastard friend. The best thing to get out of that shit is being with people, even if it hurt ans is stressfull at first. You cant burst in full responsability mode you'll only selfdedtruct.

>>18058046
I see a shrink every 3 weeks it helps but it hasn't been enough. Been seeing him for about a year now and prior to that I had been seeing a counselor. I don't know why but I think I might have a prejudice against what they tell me maybe its because I don't find it real? Idk

>>18058084
I cling to video games since I dumped my weed smoking habits but I have a pretty bad addictive and compulsive personality, I find myself saying "just one game" and it turning into the entire day. I think trying hard is whats gonna get me through this though. My whole life I've been an underachiever, I've never ever tried to do anything

Agreed, yet I can't bring it to routine

How do you meditate?
Is simply sitting down and doing nothing enough?
Or should I focus on my breathing?

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>>18058090
You will find that it is very difficult to silence the mind. Try to close your eyes for 10 seconds and think no thoughts. You will realize that thought is not an abstract action coming of choice, but rather are determined (in other words, you don't think thoughts, thoughts happen TO YOU.)

Meditation, the "doing nothing" aspect, is actually a very gruelling process for novices that takes considerable effort and determination. In concentration meditation, this is the part where you continuously return your attention to the object of meditation every time your mind wanders. The goal here is to let the object of meditation "consume you" (be it your own breath or a physical object outside via open-eye meditation)

>im ur gf I'm entitled to part of YOUR tax return :^)

>>18058031
That's just it, $1,000 of it was from writing off school stuff I supplied (and other things, not she how she did it). So right there I knew that would be hers, no problem.

It's when it's my money (checking, saving) etc. I get stupid and greedy.

On one hand, I want to be supportive and providing, that's my role naturally in this relationship.

On the other hand, my debt is beyond awful, and my credit score is shit, I just want all my god damn money so I can get rid of it and finally be at peace.

Where's the middle ground in that? Is there one?

>>18058049
The middle ground is that there is no budget for compassion. You don't buy things / give things to your gf because you're budgeting for it. You do it because you want to and you love her. The same applies from her to you. It doesn't even have to be expensive things. Would a treat / meal / flowers chocolate be that much of a drain on your finances once in a while?

Take a step back and calm down. You're overreacting about this.

>>18057969
I suggest try them if possible. In Australia and Europe they listed the lifespan, weight capacity, etc. Doesn't look great.

>>18058150
Impossible to test them sadly, in fact, the major question that I ask is about the height, some people say 1M80 too tall, some other say even 1M90 is ok ..

Why don't you spend the same money on a much nicer office chair, instead of getting some meme streamer chair?

>>18057956
"Absolute". The answer is absolute.

The answer to this one is obviously "strongly disagree". The purpose of these tests is to gauge what your answer is, but the answers are so fucking obvious.

Seriously, isn't this one self-explanatory?

>>18057956

They're basically like a low-level psych evaluation. Most normal people will pass this, or at least be smart enough to cheat the answers, but some people are either completely nuts, or stupid and rigid, and will answer this like a complete dumbass.

It puts their judgment into question and gives the hiring manager either a green light or red light to bring you on board. Sometimes these answers and qualifications may vary by position.

For example, when I hired for Abercrombie & Fitch, if you were applying for a job in the front, you would have to answer these in a certain, very outgoing way. If you were a little more introverted, the position may not be recommended to you.

However, being too extroverted and cheery in one of these for a position in stock was considered to be a bad thing.

I hope that explains it.

"Human Resources" firms (entire companies of their own) provide bullshit like this to reduce the number of applicants. That's all it fucking does, reduce the number of applicants to sift through. In some cases, it also provides a service of giving you only the applicants who tell folks what they want to hear, or say what they're supposed to say.

If you have small (5~15 people) but not microscopic (one dude self-employed or a married couple and their adult kids) businesses in your town, ask every single one of them if they need help. Big companies are always going to give you the HR runaround, which basically means your job application is a lottery ticket. If you win, a human being looks at your case and considers you for a job interview. 99 times out of 100, this human has nothing to do with your interview or position.

>I need help, but I can't afford to pay anything because I'm already struggling to keep the doors open
Story of my town. =/

What part about the abortion did you freak out about? You both agreed it was the best option, so why did you get all frazzled that it occurred? If it was because it happened on your birthday, it's OK to be upset about because she an schedule it for nearly any day of the week. But again, not a freak out.

How did you let a 10 year relationship go over a abortion, anyway?

Also, it could be the fact that she just wanted to to fuck around with other people after being in a 10 year relationship.

2 things to think about.

For your tl;dr question: time, booze, new pussy, and drugs.

>>18058196
It pretty much started when we found out she was pregnant. I was suspicious that she was like a month before we even tested for it. She kept denying it as just hormones. I really couldn't fight for my side as it was her body. I started to mentally prepare myself for the possibility that I was going to be a dad.

When we took the test, and both came back as pregnant. I tried to reassure her that things were going to be alright, and that with some work we would be okay.

She freaked out, and started off with "I don't want to get fat, I don't want to quit school, etc." I guess that broke my composure and I suggested abortion then.
A week went on we argued about her getting one and I told her to just get it if she wanted it, and she got her ultrasound on Thursday, and on Friday (my birthday) after her being quiet for a bit, told me she had gotten it done.
I fucked up by not asking when she had scheduled it, and by not telling her that I was thinking we could have talked about it.

She got it and filled up with guilt, and started to blame me for being pushy with her getting an abortion.

Shit spiraled put from there and we broke up a day after her abortion.

>>18057872
>they say

Yes, hear say is a reliable source on health related issues.

Easiest thing to do here is to do a simple google search and read up a bit. There's plenty of sites which focus on offering info on this in a reliable but concise manner. Generally speaking using a condom protects from STDs, but only if its used at all times whether with vaginal, oral or anal sex. And no, STDs do not transmit over skin contact.

>>18057872
Get tested, date and fuck girls who also get tested

>>18057888
Herpes and genital warts both transmit with skin contact.

you've said it yourself, your friend is entitled.

you are her friend, not her fairy godmother. you are there to enjoy the laughs with her, maybe some sad times.

if she wants to be hard headed in regard to who she dates, let her be. life is a learning experience. what she prefers, is what she prefers. she will find out sooner or later that not every will try as she wishes.

the she will have to "Settle". but such is life.

be her friend, not her love guru. separate the two

>>18057885
Right. So how should I respond next time she brings up someone who is interested in her such as I described above, without seeming too disinterested with her? I am the main address for details and stories.

>>18057917
"damn thats crazy, but let me tell you about _______"

you are no longer involved in her romantic life, keep it casual, change topics

>>18057861
Me to be honest

>>18057861
Elon Musk

>>18057861
Dalai lama?
Is he a good one?

>>18057853
distract your mind with something else.
time will heal that and one day you will find someone else new to love

>>18057879
Thanks man,any ideas on what to do?

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>>18057853
>when you call a new girl the old girls name in your head and ahe was 3 girls ago