My gf is upset with me because I did not get her a valentine's day gift or take her out for dinner, and I refuse to apologize for it or make up for it.
My defense: She spent the entire week prior talking about how valentines was just a meaningless holiday to sell hallmark cards. She said it's all just consumerist bullshit blah blah. So I took that as, okay, guess I don't need to worry about that.
Who's in the wrong.
Sometimes even if a woman says she doesn't want something she secretly does.
>>18056101
I did and I definitely don't have to apologise for it loser.
>>18056101
Plan some special night with her on a random day a few days from now, tell her you know she doesn't like valentine's but you want her to know that every time you spend together is special to you.
My room mate is a sort of childhood friend, al most family tier. (we were born the same month, and our mothers are best friends so we basically know each other since forever).
She's quite introverted, except when she's drunk.
Yesterday she fondled my pecs and abs from behind with her had on my shoulder (I don't even lift, barely ottermode desu). To be frank, I popped a boner.
She often wants to cudle when we watch a movie.
She moves around the place in her undies.
But nothing really sexual
I have a gf so it feels wrong to me.
But then again it's never something overly sexual so I'm afraid that if I bring it up it will look like it's me that has the wrong idea...
Should I talk about it with her?
> she fondled my pecs and abs from behind with her had on my shoulder
>nothing really sexual
The only thing more sexual than that would be fondling your dick.Yeah, you should talk to her about it next time she does it.
>>18055962
It was more like a playful thing. She pinched a bit of my skin that was going out of my t shirt. Then she jokingly checked my abs and pecs...
We were both pretty drunk desu
>>18055973
Is she going to playfully and jokingly suck your dick too?
i already made a thread similar to this and it helped, but now im even more confused and stressed
this might be long so thanks for reading if you do. so i guess my issue is that im worried im not going to be able to finish college and i dont know what else to do. my living situation is good. my mother said i can live with her as long as im doing something with my life. either if im going to school or pursuing an actual career. i want to stay in school and graduate. im currently in college in my 2nd year. havent even started my major because i havent chosen one, mainly because nothing interests me so far. and my biggest problem in my life right now is living at home. i said my situation is good. stable home and decent relationship with my mother. but there is just something about being home that i cant handle. i get really stressed knowing im not alone here. my brother and his gf also live here so there are 4 of us. i want to live on my own more than anything. i dont want roommates if i move out. i cant handle people and im scared the stress is going to get to me soon. i keep leaving the house just to get away from it. i just drive around for hours because i would rather be on the road than at home. i dont have many friends so moving away is an option but i dont really know how to live. im only 20. i have dreams and stuff but they arent very realistic. i feel with time i could accomplish them maybe. but talking short term i just want to leave home and never look back. i just dont think i could financially support myself with a home while staying in school. i wouldnt mind moving to a different country. im in the US in a very expensive city. so if i moved out i cant stay around here but i dont want to be here anyways. i dont really know what im asking from you guys on this board but i think this is my only way to reach out. whenever ive brought this up with people here they just tell me that if i drop out i will be homeless or a loser. thank you
>>18055907
me again. i guess im just looking for advice. i dont know how to move out and start living on my own. any advice is appreciated
Don't focus on moving out. Focus on what you want to do with your future. Apply yourself towards that. Find a job. Then move out.
If I'm to be honest, don't follow "dreams".
You need to sit down and really think about what you want to do and really think about what avenue you can take to financially support your moving out. You're putting the cart before the horse to think you should move out now and then consider finances.
Pick a major that will allow you to find a job and support your dreams of moving away. I know you feel stuck or isolated being at home but this is what it's like to be an adult. You have a responsibility to yourself to see your education through and ensure the best possible future for yourself.
Look into a major that will pay after college such as:
>accounting
>finance
>engineering
>computer science
>nursing
>medical lab science
If you're more of an academic, look into other STEM areas like
>physics
>math
>chemistry
>biochemistry
>>18055976
thank you, this really does make me think. im also worried i wont pass college so a really well paying job might not be obtainable. i do okay in most of my classes but my school told me i have to take my math somewhere else now because ive failed so many time. if i didnt need math i would have no issues
Hey /adv. How do i meet girls that are just down to fuck? Not really interested in emotional ties right now. Just got out of a long term relationship currently, on day 46 of nofap and looking for fun times.
>>18055879
>>18055879
Bump please?
>>18055879
Bueller....
Tinder, lower your standard
How do you deal with being ghosted multiple times, to the point where you can't even trust someone new out of fear they'll just leave you with no warning again?
I know it's not something I'm saying or doing that's causing this. I'm very self-aware, I don't try to rush things or say anything inappropriate. But for some reason everyone always just leaves. My self-esteem is destroyed over and over again.
I feel you, I've been ghosted by my two best friends, I'm lucky they came back but I'm terrified at the thought of losing them again. Idk why they ghosted me and I was too afraid to ask. I know how you feel when it comes to being afraid to trust someone because they could disappear. I'm not sure if there's really a way to deal with it besides having to accept it
>>18055855
That sucks, I'm sorry anon. People are so shitty.
Personally I meant this in a dating context. Also I'm a femanon.
Im a femanon too. Maybe we need to learn that it's ok to be alone, and that we will get through things like that. You said it was dating context, so maybe those guys were just trying to smash or something. I'm sure one day you'll know to trust a potential date and it will be fine.
So I'm starting a new job doing freelance work for a friend of a friend. I guess the best "title" for it would be digital marketing/social media management. I will be in charge of updating their business website and creating and managing social media accounts for them. They are not a huge company and this will obviously not be a full time job. I'm not worried about offending him or scaring him off with naming my price (which they suggested I do) I just have zero idea what I should ask for.
Googling "social media manager" etc shows that the "average pay" is $30k-50k, but that is definitely out of the question. He might go for that but it seems obscene for what work I will be doing.
How do I figure out what I'm worth? Also how do I stop myself from feeling guilty about asking for <insert amount> especially when they were the ones who suggested I name my price.
picture unrelated
When I first started what you're doing, I made $10/hr, part time. I started out in sales/event marketing, but then they moved me over to the digital space because there was a need.
This was five years ago, and I had absolutely no experience in either. If you think you really know what you're doing, something like $13 an hour might be reasonable, while on the high end, but be expected to produce results. What you're doing is generally pretty easy and can be managed by a local company with more resources and experience depending on the business's growth objectives.
I'll stick around to answer questions for that. I'm now a digital media director for a Fortune 500 company, so it worked out.
>>18055785
$10=15 is around what I was thinking of asking for, but had no clue if that was off base.
They have a facebook and a website, but both haven't been updated in over a year. The owner is an older person (70+) and thus has almost no idea about how this world works, so I'm not terribly afraid of them dumping me for a local company, as they didn't seem to know that people do this stuff for a living. A lot of this will be learning on the job, but they have almost no digital presence so even an "ok" job will be drastically more than they have now.
Do you enjoy it?
Is it hard to get in contact/pay google to get your website bumped up?
Again there is almost no presence so even a little will be more than what they have, but I'm terrified about screwing this up. Although I don't know how I would unless I went on a racist rant on their social media
>>18055810
You can't "pay" Google to get boosted in organic listings, for one. You have to use SEO (search engine optimization) tactics to update keywords and metatags across your site to influence the algorithm to show you first.
To set up paid search ads, begin at https://adwords.google.com. You'll be set up on a payment plan, which can be on a credit card, or invoiced. But, it's not a simple thing, and you should do some HEAVY research into PPC marketing via search. The one tip here - you want to target a smaller audience that is more interested in your business's product, as opposed to driving them to a large number of people who have no interest in what you're selling.
Social media isn't all that important unless you're selling something that makes digital sense. Remember, the point is to not only build awareness, but build people that will become actual, converting customers. A bunch of "likes" on the page may sound great to your owner, but when he's got Pajit and Ranjab from India as his fans, they're just spam accounts that are being paid to do this kind of thing, and won't actually generate business. PLUS -- likes are not a "mailing list." Organically, about 3-5% of your fans will see your posts unless you're a major brand with an existing fanbase... and you'll need to pay up to get past that. Facebook's algorithm works mainly on organic engagement, meaning unless you search for that page, visit often, and like, click, or post often, you'll see less and less of the ad.
Anyways, you asked if I like it... eh. It's better than what I was doing before I got into it, but it's complicated, ever-changing, and people are unbelievably not tech-savvy at all, so explaining this shit can be a pain in the ass.
But it's where the money is, and you'll rarely get bored if you're doing it right.
Should I join the army?
>be me
>2nd year of physics degrees
>love it. Always wanted to know how the universe worked at a fundamental level mathematically (hate physics meme however)
>don't want to work in a lab. Too stressful and depressive plus I don't give a fuck about experimental physics. Other people can do it.
>don't wanna teach. I hates kids, specially the pseudo intellectual fags in the 1st year
>could try any kind of job, but they wouldn't allow me to become a NEET once i retired.
>love my country above anything else
>start looking at the army's webpage
>wtf they're better than I expected them to be
>how to join?
>find out if I get a degree I'll get an official rank as soon as I get in
So I'm just want to finish my degree and get a theoretical physics masters and then join the army. Should I do it? I get to fight for my country and get paid well. Pros and cons?
Where are you from OP?
>>18055817
Portugal
Served in the German Army (Air force branch) for most of my working life.
>find out if I get a degree I'll get an official rank as soon as I get in
You mean Officer rank don't you?
The advice I give to anyone looking into joining the Army (no matter which country as from my experience this holds true in any Army I had contact with over the years) don't join unless you get on the Officer-Path right away.
If you need a degree to do that in your case, do that. Generally speaking the Army isn't as bad of an employer as people make them out to be. In the past few decades they had to try harder and harder to find fitting personal - and that shows by some of the benefits you get.
Especially as an Officer the pay and other benefits are great.
also ask me anything you may want to know.
How do I deal with mistakes and disappointments? I keep replaying things in my head and it ruins my day/week/life.
Do I just force myself to stop thinking about it? It kind of just feels like ignoring the problem and not learning from past errors.
Well think about it. Why do things matter , which happened in the past? This is life. Just do it better next time and don't stop learn things. Maybe you should find a hobby which suits and relaxes you
>>18055750
Sometimes it feels like no matter how much I learn and how hard I try I'll never get where I want to be. Altough you are right, that's the right way to handle things.
Remember that truly bad things happening are pretty rare. Is the mistake imperiling your ability to have a roof over your head and food on your plate? Did it kill someone? Did it destroy a long-term relationship? If no, you're probably worrying too much. Try to do better in future, but don't let the mistake destroy your life.
Ok, so I have this huge crush on Natalie Hershlag/Portman, to me she's pretty much the definition of the perfect woman, which means I have no choice but to find an identical twin sister of hers. Question is... where would one be able to find someone like that?
France maybe? Or Israel? Or Eastern/Southeastern Europe?
>>18055637
#2
>>18055637
Looks like a typical blonde, literally just go outside your house.
>>18055641
Well, being from the Netherlands I've never seen a single girl like her strangely enough
>have chronic crippling nausea
>can't even roll out of bed because of it
>weed is the only thing that helps
>a plant costs every penny I have to not even have enough to smoke
What do
>>18055620
get a prescription for ondansetron it works great and is only like $1 at Walmart
>>18055638
I'm a hippie I only use herbal supplements
I dunno about you, but Ive been smoking almost every day now for over a month and I realised that weed and hash make me feel more naseaous. Take a break from them for a week.
About 6 months ago, my dad was arrested for cp. He swore to my family that he knew nothing about it, and in the aftermath of that was close to committing suicide when he thought we had all turned our backs on him. I thought it couldn't get any worse than that, but today the police have been in contact to say that hundreds more images were found on his computer and he'll be prosecuted. Now he's broken down and admitted it all, saying that he's been feeling increasingly lonely and isolated for years and it led him some disgusting places and made him hate himself. Apparently he's been in counselling for over a year trying to get help, but the damage was done and he was arrested before he could fix himself.
It's going to be in the local news tomorrow. The people I've known all my life will be disgusted and instantly change their opinion of me and my family. My little sisters will be bullied at school. One of them's already become anorexic since this all started, and I'm sure that it's because of this and it will only get worse now. I've just felt completely sick ever since it happened. Not necessarily because of what he did, but because of what it will do to my family. There's no going back after this. The happy childhood I had, the happy family I knew growing up, will never be whole again. We're all going to carry this burden with us for the rest of our lives, and there's nothing I can do to stop that.
What do I do /adv/? How can I protect my family from the shitstorm we're about to enter?
holy fuck op
we need an oldfag and sensible person right here
and seek counselling for yourself
>>18055459
>How can I protect my family from the shitstorm we're about to enter?
you cannot. all you can do is help them weather it. do not neglect yourself in this process- you can do no good for anyone if you are a mess yourself.
my sympathies, anon. this is a pretty fucked up thing to have to deal with.
either buckle down or move on.
your father isnt a horrible person. he didn't molest anyone. he just watched some porn.
either buckle down and stand your ground where you live, or just pick up your family and move a few towns over.
Most people feel awesome when weed kicks in. I don't... I can't understand a simple sentences, not sure if I hear everything wrong or can't focus on words coming from peoples mouth (especially when loud music plays in the background like in bars etc.). This shit is killing me because I'm not like this when sober and when I'm high I sit there like a fucking plant all pale and confused. Anyone with similar/same experience? Wtf is wrong with me?
>>18055442
Don't fucking smoke if it doesn't suit you. How is this a problem?
>>18055448
This OP
I smoke alot of my friends do but it isn't for everybody hell I think some of them smoke just because 'everybody else does'
Try to find a sativa strain, more energetic less "couch lock" than 90% of the weed out there
Title is misleading, because I actually already did leave once, from the january of 2016 up until june of 2016 when I lapsed momentarily and then recovered until the 11th of november 2016.
I felt that I was mostly happier when I stopped using 4chan, at the very least I wasn't troubled by stupid bullshit like /pol/ and sjws and while I was still the same autist I've always been, at least I was working towards some personal goals which have mostly ended since then.
I don't know, whenever I'm off of 4chan for long I end up with an itch for this stupidity and all I can remember are the good threads, and sure enough the first few days after I come back I feel great, but the honeymoon ends and the cynicism and general atmosphere gets to me again. I don't really have any friends in the real world other than a guy who calls me up once a month to talk about life and anime, I don't even know if I can make friends since I'm a diagnosed autist. I realize it's unhealthy to equate 4chan with company, but that's what it means to me.
Should I leave 4chan for good?
Yes anon, please leave. It's for your own good. This site is nothing but a time sink and you even realised yourself that you felt happier without being here.
I might actually join you. Though I have tried several times over the years to get out of here and never managed.
Actually for the same reason as you. 4chan is company for me, it makes me feel less lonely.
Let's try leaving together, anon! There are so many better things to spend our time on than wasting away on here.
I grew up on 4chan. Both parents were abusive, and 4chan was a great place to learn from people who were actually incredibly tolerant of me, and to express myself. I think I'd actually be a massive loser if it wasn't for 4chan. Something about this place is incredibly affirming. Like you're not the only nihilistic retard in the world, fed up with post-modernism, while battling your own degeneracy.
But now this place is holding me back. I've learned everything I can. I come here when I feel alone. I'm still very lonely. I come here when I feel anxious, it calms me. It feels familiar, and welcoming. It's like a friend on demand. But now I'm wasting my time here. It's all so stale, I don't actually enjoy it anymore. It's become a pacifier for a grown man. I want to leave, but if my mind isn't distracted with the inane shitposting that goes on here it begins to wander. I remember how alone I am. I remember how much of a scum bag I am. How I'm so insecure. How I'm confused. I realize I'm just being edgy, but it's what I really feel, so it's like I'm not actually being edgy, which is kinda worse.
There isn't much out there in the world. Thats why people keep coming back, I think. At least in the west. The west is dying. We don't have any real values. There aren't clearly defined roles anymore. You can't aspire to be a father, or a mother, or a pillar in your community, because the definitions of those things have become so broad they can mean anything, effectively taking them out of existence. Everything feels like undifferentiated goo. Reality seems fuzzy these days. It wasn't like this. I distinctly remember the days before smart phones. Everything was more lucid. Especially people.
>>18055424
You described quite exactly how I feel as well. Especially
>I come here when I feel anxious, it calms me. It feels familiar, and welcoming. It's like a friend on demand
And that would be nice and all if this site wasn't at the same time such a huge source of procrastination.
It should be possible to find a healthy amount of browsing. A middle-way between spending every free minute here and completely quitting. I'm just somehow unable to get there. Probably because I don't have enough self-discipline or something.
>Everything was more lucid.
I wonder a bit about this. I generally would agree, but I'm not sure if the world got less lucid or if it's me. Recently I really started noticing that my ability to concentrate has heavily diminished. And I would say that's mostly due to the constant input I get from the internet.
Maybe one just has to distance themselves a bit to get a clear image of the surrounding world again. That won't really fix other people though who are in the same haze. So yes, people indeed got less lucid, I would fully agree with that.
>be me
>talking to a girl
>ask her what kind of music she likes just to continue conversation
>she says she likes indie music and procedes to name some shit-tier bands
>she then asks "What kind of music do you like Anon?"
>tell her I like metal
>she gives me a weird look and says "how can you like that stuff? Its literaly just screaming."
Should I lie about my music taste to please normies?
Yes.
Depends on what you're after.
In this example, if you just want to fuck, lie.
If you want something longer term than that, tell the truth and reap whatever consequences
>he only likes one genre of music
How old are you?
Feeling a bit overwhelmed, guys, I think some objective eyes would do me well.
I'm a 21 year old male in college. I used to work out, for around 8 months, but I made little progress because I didn't track my diet.
Lately, I haven't been feeling well, and I think maybe getting back into exercise would help. I think I'd need a job to pay for extra food. This job requires a resume/cover letter showing experience. I have low self-esteem, and can't see myself doing well in any potential job. I also have no skills, and a low-end of average gpa (3.0) as a junior.
The current blocks to this:
I'm living off campus, but have a 10 meal per week plan. I have no car, so I'd have to walk 20 mins one way to get groceries (which burns calories)
My mom gives me $200 per month, which I spend unwisely (weed and booze, plus emergencies such as having to replace computers and purchasing tickets to travel for holidays)
The house I'm staying in has no working laundry machines, so I have to do my laundry in a laundromat, which costs 3.00 per load. I don't have that many clothes, either, so I need to use the laundromat at longest every 1.5 weeks.
I'm taking Adderall, which will run out soon. I'm unsure if I can get a refill. It also has a side-effect of decreasing appetite, and since I'm supposed to eat around 2400kcal a day, it can damper my progress.
What can I do in this situation? I feel so powerless, and just stuck.
pic unrelated, it's the only pic I have on my new computer.
Bumping, I kinda need help
I don't get it. You described your life and then asked what you can do.
What do you want to do?
>>18055344
Get a job first of all. Even if its only one day a week, still get one. If you don't have job experience, then just put anything you did during high school or college such as club activities, volunteeting, or anything else even slightly relevant to the positon. Apply for positions that don't need any experience such as fast food, retail, warehouse, etc.