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>>18056484
They probably aren't lying, but the thing with online dating is that progressives and liberals are heavier users of online social sites in general. Liberals cling to technology and innovation a lot more than conservatives do so most social media/dating site demographics tend to have a large left-leaning side.

Obviously there are exceptions but if you are just on a generalized "meet people near you" dating site then you're usually going to end up with more non-racists than racists.

>>18056484

Let me get this straight, you are racist and only date racists and you're confused when you meet other girls who aren't racist?

>>18056515
How do you explain the conflicting answers then?

I also don't know if I buy the second part though, considering either way I've always dated younger women than me, and I doubt there's a very large difference between left wing and right wing white women when it comes to internet usage when they're 19-26.

What reasons might a girl have for completely avoiding me? We met about a little over a month ago and have been getting along great, we have a lot in common, our personalities work together, etc. It was good enough that I was going to ask her out the next time we met. However, about two, going on three weeks ago we spent the night together. We didn't have sex, but we came pretty close and we probably could have if I pushed it a bit more. In fact, I am pretty sure she knew what I was hinting at(you would have to be stupid to not have known, from my perspective). The night went great, pretty sure I didn't push too far for sex, and I thought we were still friendly. She hasn't contacted me since then, not even a reply to a text asking if she was doing anything that night. I briefly saw her in person, explained the screen on my phone broke(which it did) and to send me a text so I can add her to the contacts on my new phone. Brief encounter, but she seemed friendly. Of course she hasn't done so. I am definitely not bad looking(athletic, dress good, decent face), and as I said we get along great. Am I overthinking this or is she avoiding me? We are university student if that matters.

>>18056326
What kind of hints do shy girls give that they might be interested in you?

How can I date brunettes if my penis likes pretty much only blondes?

>>18055778
So what is working for me and actually isnt suppose to be the reason to lose weight is lose it for someone else. I lost my chance with a girl in my friend group who I met and she was perfect for me, we connected so well and all the other story book bullshit but I wasn't good looking enough and I didn't want to drag her down a level to mine. So I am losing weight so if I get lucky enough to get another chance by meeting a girl who is like her again, then I won't lose her.

I'm a femmanon and boy still call me cute. That's not helping, I feel great so I don't stop eating shit. I have such a weak mind.

>>18055789
You wont be able to do it on your own, if you were then you wouldn't be in this problem, same like me. Just find someone you want to be with, get denied and build from there. I was actually alot worse off then I am now. Before I met her I was like 240 and all gross, was talking really cringey, did really weird shit but she in a way made me grow up and mature alot more than I ever would of on my own.

>>18055443

Have you addressed this probelm with him? What was his response?

>>18055443
My fiancee and I have been dating for almost 3 years now and I still can't keep my hands off of her. Seems like he must have a low libido or something as you suggested. I still find it strange that he couldn't notice when you are trying to seduce him. Sounds like he might have low energy/potential depression if all he wants to do is sleep or play video games.

>>18055443
I've been in your bf's shoes, femanon.
After dating my ex for a year or so, I started worrying about coming across too touchy or "rapey", if you will,
and started slowing down on the hinting for sex, since I figured it might make her think that I'm only interested in her for her body.

In retrospect it was a dumb thing to do, so it'll be a load off his and your chest (and a load on your chest if all goes well) if you just put your cards on the table.

Also, don't pressure him too much.
If you need sex to function and wondering if you can live without it, you may have some problems of your own.
Don't wear him out too much, is what I'm saying.

Talk about it, and I'm sure you'll have your answer.

Good luck.

>>18055285
Jesus thanks OP you made me realize that I'm weird but too normal to be on this site

>>18055285
>you are female
+6 points

Wow. Good game.

>>18055301
what's the issue?
Females are automatically much more normal than males because just by carrying a pussy with them people will pretend to like them a lot.
Should be more points than that but then even the worst women couldn't be grand wizards

I feel you anon

> college dropout
> move back in with parents
> no friends in the area
> Something is wrong mentally, got 2 parking tickets in 3 days as I forgot to register my car as parked both times
> fuck up on the job a lot

at least i got a job

>>18055288
Try not to mess up at work and you'll be aces man

I'm setting a calendar reminder on my phone every two hours that reminds me what you said to me while we were together last night.
>You will never be with me. Ever.

bumpbump

>>18055143
>if I take a step out of college I will end up in army, cuz Russia, you must go to army if you don't study or already got a degree in some shitty uni/college without army protection
Why not try that? Learn some discipline.

Haдo жe, y мeня тaкaя жe хyйня. Ecли нe ceкpeт, в кaкoм вyзe yчишьcя?

Go to therapy (as I have), take meds.

Yes

Yes

>>18054597
Stop talking to vapid cunts with no interest in you?

>>18054597
By your 20s you should have learned that physical appearance is not the dominant factor for women as it can be for men. By all means look your best, but give serious consideration of what it is in your personality that isn't drawing women to you.

>>18053501
Stop masturbating to porn.

>>18053542
Yeah, well, how do I find the self-control to not go on sadpanda and wank it every couple of hours?

>>18053553
Stop masturbating to porn is a good start. I think you just have to stop masturbating so much, like, just start masturbating once a day. Eventually, make some hobbies and then the need to "wank it" won't be so predominant when you hace free time.

Also kys desu

>>18057372
still you probably made some friends dealing with it while studying, didn't you? Still, you'll need a way of proving that, and given your employer is in the same field of experience he may know how to avoid it...
Is facing him openly an option?

>>18057372
Out of curiosity, how did you come to learn this?

Personally I'd march in there and demand the salary you deserve, plus a little extra for the money you SHOULD have been making all this time. But if you do that you're going to need something in your arsenal if he blows you off, which he'll almost certainly try to do at first. Basically you have to be ready to threaten to quit, and that means you have to be willing to follow through if he calls your bluff. I don't know how practical it'd be for you to find a comparable new job, though I wouldn't be in a hurry to keep working for this guy if I were you.

I kind of doubt he broke any laws, I can't imagine there's a law against employers giving their employees bullshit excuses, but really I have no idea - I don't know the first thing about any kind of law.

>>18057372

Unionize.

>>18057338
Think about the best version of yourself. Then strive to be that person.

By assuming other people as role models, instead of your parents. What are your interests in life? Find a couple of famous people who did great in those fields and see if you can see something of yourself in some of them, and try to get that as much as possible out of you, in your everyday life, always considering your specific cirmcumstances which are only your own and have nothing to do with those people you chose as role models.
It is this interplay of your specific situation and the ideals and ways those famous people hold which you can see yourself in, that is ultimately going to shape you into who you are, eventually allowing you to contribute to your interest in a meaningful way .

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>>18057338
SORT YOURSELF OUT
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL22J3VaeABQApSdW8X71Ihe34eKN6XhCi

>>18057296
Suck my fat black cock.
You know peoples lives/struggles?
Who made you fugging demigod of the universe?
But nice bait mate.

I'm God and I'm here to help mortals in their petty problems because I feel like it.

I am gonna take the bait:

The thing is that you are even partially right, but there is one thing you are missing in your equation, and that is "having the knowledge".. Having a inteligent mind that can deduce things, and the emotional power to cope with things is not everything you need to solve problems in your life. You also need the knowledge usually gained from experience with life, which people can lack. Either by sheer bad luck, or that the circumstances and priorities in their life withold them of certain experiences to let them get the knowledge some of us share in certain life topics, so those people come here to ask for guidance since they either dont have somebody else to ask, or are too shy to do so. Its really understandable actually.
Asking for advice is in the end just the pursuit for knowledge in an urge to better ourselves and the life we have.

>>18057263
Don't do it. Unless you are 100% sure that you can happily raise a family with someone, it is not a good idea to purposely have kids.

>>18057268
have you seen the 2006 movie idiocracy?
here's a clip jump to about the 50 second mark to skip the bullshit.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=icmRCixQrx8

>>18057263
>i think is a step i have to do sooner or later
Its not. Back away from that thinking.
>she's not an easy person to deal with
This will get worse when you have a baby and you "need to man up" to be whatever she thinks a good daddy should be.

I don't want to plug someone's blog but read this and think about what having a kid with this chick is going to be like vs having a kid with a chick that would make a good mother
https://boldanddetermined.com/pick-the-right-wife/

What do I do. How do I handle this ?? Usually I guess I am alpha with most things but I feel too attached to her to ignore her or be up front

You know you're being catfished, right?

>>18057223
I have voicechatted and videochatted her.

There's no guarantee of that. Not like it's that much different anyway

>>18057149
yeah but they make you do shitty group exercises that are designed to judge your character and confidence

>>18057159
Yes, and? What do you think they're trying to do in interviews anyway?