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Would be nice to know how i can do something agains this.

>>18056169
Changing yourself is a long and difficult process, especially when youre an adult. But the hardest part IMO is realizing your way of thinking and wanting to change it. Behavior and habits are hard to break so you when you do realize youre doing something you want to change, take it slow and steady. I would seriously suggest going to therapy since this is pretty big and would likely need outside help. I hope you get better anon, I know how hard it is to change yourself.

OP, I can coach you into becoming more responsible and realistic in life.

Life has it's ups and downs. There are so many things that can harm you but helping you is as simple as finding how to motivate you to do the right things, for you and your family.... Eventually all on your own.

Hit me up on Snapchat: rawfoodravenous

>>18055829
If you have a pulse you'll be fine. They hire literal retards

>>18055829
go and tell us what happened

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>>18055919
huh?

They show it to the upper 20% of men.

As I say every single motherfucking time: the upper 20% are the ones who showed up and did their job. The lower 80% are failures. The lower 80% ends up marrying washed up ex-stacey while she continues fantasizing about sex with chads.

Because
1) they have less than guys do, so they'll show less naturally,
2) if they express desire in most contexts, they'll get a ton of unwanted attention, because girls also tend to be much pickier than guys, and
3) they're taught from a young age that being openly sexual makes them a slut who'll be loathed by women, and used by men for sex and then discarded

Plus, unlike us, they actually have self-control sometimes.

>>18055804
I have plenty of self control, and mostly i also supress my desires. I think its less safe for men to express it than it is for women. You can easily get charged with harassment, have people talking behind your back or lose your job if you act creepy towards girls in your proximity.

I try my best to avoid shitting where i eat.

Too little info to give advice.

Major?
Are you working?
Do you genuinely enjoy and want to do your major as a career?
What would you do if you dropped out?
What year are you?

>>18053611
>Major?
Mechanical Engineering
>Are you working?
No, schedule's too spread out and I want to be able to focus on school.
>Do you genuinely enjoy and want to do your major as a career?
No idea, I only chose ME because I was good at math and science in high school but thats not true anymore. Don't know what kind of jobs they do or if I'd enjoy it.
>What would you do if you dropped out?
Maybe apply for an apprenticeship at a shipbuilding company but the thought of doing manual labor until I can retire isn't appealing.
>What year are you?
Freshman, 2nd semester

Right well I'll give you my experience first, then some thoughts.

Finished HS 2 years later than I should've because of bad grades that I had to fix. Went to college after, thought I would love it, hated it. Dropped out second year (anthro major). Worked in restaurants after that, decided to pursue fulltime my biggest passion (illustration). Worked hard on it but after awhile I've come to realise that as much as I enjoy it, I'm not great at working long blocks of time at it (4+ hrs). Realised I don't want to work in kitchens till I can be a pro artist, so I'm goig back to school in the fall for CS. I would've done CS originally but my math in HS was a disaster because I had such an incomplete knowledge of it.

1/2

Youre like a little baby

I sniff assholes for a living

>>18058667
Butt does it pay well?

>>18058679
I do it for free

sometimes they let me do it and they laugh

other times I get a big whack in my head. the booty meat and stink is worth it tho

>>18058115
Stop putting out.

>>18058117

We haven't fucked. Neither of us has any respect for cheating. We'd both rather him break up before we get together. We have made out a few times and cuddle while watching movies.

>>18058120
>We have made out a few times and cuddle while watching movies.
Still cheating.

Maybe he doesn't even intend to break up. He's could be just juggling two chicks and expecting to get away with it.

Just tell them that they should mind their own business and that you're not going to see anyone.

>>18057732
First off, you need counseling, whether or not you want it. You think you're unique in not wanting to see anyone? Nobody wants to be made to do that, no matter how egregious their behavior.

Second, welcome to the healthcare field. You picked a field that -- unlike, say, economics, or Portuguese literature -- means you get to be directly responsible for the health and wellness of other human beings. That means that your school's responsibilities extend beyond pure academics. The school that trains and eventually vouches for you (by awarding you a degree) has a responsibility to make sure you're mentally and emotionally fit to do the job they're training you for, which means that self-destructive behaviors that suggest serious emotional problems absolutely ARE their business. Guess what? If you had a serious communicable illness like HIV or some other condition that affected your ability to do the job, they'd make that their business too. Wouldn't necessarily mean you'd have to leave off studying, but damn sure you'd have to disclose it and take whatever special precautionary measures they told you to.

Don't like it? Pick a different field.

>>18057757
The fit for placement practicals were designed to see if we're fit for placement. What they're doing is adding an extra criteria for me on the suspicion I'm self harming, and surely that isn't fair? If the self harm or stress caused me to fail the practical, fine, I'd accept that, but to be dismissed from it before I've even done the practical is something else.

I mean, they made this practical to see if things like self harm or stress was getting to someone, and I'm not even being given the opportunity to prove that it isn't.

Trust me, I know what you're saying. And if they came back to me after the practical and said "You're not fit to practice at the moment" I'd book my ass into therapy so quickly. But I know I'm still fit, and don't want this to ruin 5 years of uni.

>>18057706
Sorry typo. I meant his left hand will constantly be on his penis


I'm exhausted

>>18057706
It is awfully nice to have a pennis, I touch it all the time but only in private, it's just nice.

>>18057706
Often do it in winter to warm my hands. During rugby season a lot of us would cup our balls during training.

>>18057618

I meant to say we have never talked about these moments of intimacy even after they happen. The most she has ever said to me about them have been things like, how they were some of the best days in her life so far. I never tell her that I honestly feel the same way.

>>18057618
why did she chose him to fuck and not you?

>>18057618
You have to choose between the two

Keep in mind that if he's a good enough friend he'll probably forgive you 2 years later, especially if he or you is in a different relationship after her

>>18057179
How do I subvert the goyim?

>>18057179
Sure I'll bite--
How do you become an extrovert and have endless energy for doing deals and conveying impressions to people?
Seems genetic. Most of my Jewish friends have this trait, observant or not.

>>18057222
Oy vey! I won't spill the eons old secrets of the Talmud and YHWH to a goy

"MY BOYFRIEND THINKS I'M ATTRACTIVE" - you

Kys

>>18057115

No I mean should I be offended he finds me prettier than sexy? He says I'm not the one he lusts over the most because he prefers taller girls

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>>18057106
This is bait

You seem to have a decent life from what you posted.

You have a presumably full-time job making more than minimum wage and are actually working at becoming the profession you want.

There are many 25 year olds in worse positions than that.

>>18056968
Well, I cannot argue that position. I am making enough to be drinking a $200 scotch while posting on a fucking $2.5k desktop build that, at worst, I use to play 7 days with my 120lb c-cup gamer/board game loving wife.

I would literally give every penny and aspect of that up to have a job where I got to spend more than 1 day awake, got to sleep regularly and got to challenge myself mentally.

I won't say I'm a genius, but damnit I know I could do more than sit there and take down paperwork onto MS word for a prison 12 hours a day, where the hardest part of my day is keeping the desk fan on since my sergeant hates having the AC running.

It's like first world problems to an ethiopian, but if all there is to life is to keep making 750 a week so I can go to work, sleep and then do nothing because I'm only awake at night, I literally might as well kill myself now because all I am doing is sustaining my existence until the end.

>>18056968
Sorry, I missed the part about working at the profession that I want. Didn't actually read the whole thing.

I literally have no clue what I want to do. I just looked at the course listing and went "Computer Engineer. Math, Science and Programming. That will work."

I have no idea what the fuck that means in context, but I assume that it will eventually mean something.

I just also don't know if I'll make it that far. Since I started working at the prison and doing nothing with my life I put on ~100lbs, started smoking, starting getting drunk at home, and pretty much started hating life in general because I cannot spend time doing anything but work/sleep/school.

Sorry for coming over here and unloading on this place.

Just hug him and say he matters
A man lives a life where he never gets to know he matters

>>18056874
Show him respect, leave little notes for him to find, compliment him uniquely.

>>18056879
Underrated post, sadly.

>>18056752
The best way to get over someone old is to get under someone new.

>>18056759
I've already tried that and it doesn't work.

>>18056752
cut contact and find some other dick to jump on.

>>18056492

They can sense a strong surge of mana within you and wish to deplete you reserves and dry up + dehydrate the mana glands within your balls, killing any potential for powerful wizardhood.

As it turns out, autists can't even become great wizards. Chads have the most mana still, but if only they could resist the succubi.

>>18056499
well i just had to urban dictionary mana, I guess that means power. I don't get it? If they like other races of men that's fine, but what the fuck do they want with me? Im asking because once I figure this out Im going to stop it so they leave me the fuck alone.

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>>18056492

>Im also white, pale skin with brown hair

Sorry, man. That sucks.