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Same until recently. I had a friend who would record fun things, so i went back to look at those to feel joy again. Try literally capturing special moments.
Perhaps if its rude with using a phone you can use a diary.

>>18056859
look into CBT. it's literally thought control but it works. Also gratitude journalling, (also known as appreciation journalling)

getting over any faer isn't easy, nor is it necesserily possible. But there is a chance. In general first thing needed is bravery - you need to stop acting on your fear and start listening to your rational mind instead. Step into darkness. You will fear, that's normal. But don't step out.
Once this is done, start relaxing. Breathing slowly and deeply, informing yourself there's nothing to fear. Repeat as many times as possible. The more scary an enviroment will be, the better the results. Hopefully this'll diminish your emotions to normal levels. Remember that some fear should always be present, as this is healthy

>>18057100
fuck that shit.

No there's a whole genre of psychology about getting over fears. Go read a fucking textbook about it.

it will generally say to ease yourself into it. what if you wore a blindfold? Do that each day for a few mins until you are comfortable doing it for a few hours in a row. Then try other similar situations.

>>18057126
first you disagree, then you suggest basically the same thing.

>>18056822
Dubs.
Sorry m8. Can't rel8. I dont have gf. All i do is masterb8.

>>18056822
You should kill yourself you cheating promiscuous piece of human trash.

what about killing yourself

keep it subtle OP. and does that girl know you have a girlfriend already?

>>18056789
She knows I have a girlfriend, and she also knows my girlfriend hates her guts. She always tells me not to let her run my life, and says she doesn't like how demanding she is.
How exactly would I go about asking her to be my date to the party?

>>18056812
"hey, some friends are having a party, wanna come?"

So you're letting your docyor tell you about romance? Dude there is someone out there for everybody, plus there are more females in the world than males. And plus you are still young, I didn't lose my virginity until 24.

>>18056755
The excess females are the elderly, who outlive males. There is an excess of young men compared to young women. The sex ratio at birth is about 1.07:1 male:female in the U.S. (historically higher e.g. 1.15:1 in the developing world e.g. China, India due to female infanticide and sex-selective abortion). Male babies are a bit more fragile, so historically they died slightly more often, and men were more prone to dying in wars, but in the modern developed countries neither of these things happen anymore so there ends up being a surplus of males.

>>18056755
Yes, but when you do your best and still fail at your conquests; for me finding someone to reciprocate my feelings and a few other things, the problem is me. My entire family has had relationships well before my age. I'm constantly asked about my lack of a girlfriend.

My last acquaintance to be as much as a social and romantic failure as me found someone at 19. I do my best and consistently get rejected and crushed. Online dating didn't even get me a date. The problem here is me and I'm trying my best to fix it. I've worked out, dress far better, and try to be more socially compatible with people yet i can't do something as simple as pair up and find a partner; something written into our DNA.

>>18056680
most important thing is to find out what she likes to hear, chances are, if she likes to talk dirty, she likes it REALLY dirty. i often tell girls that i want to hurt them, or torture them

>i want to choke you while i cum deep inside you
>i want to suck on your clit until you scream
>i want to ruin your pussy
>i want to make you my little pet/slave

>>18056680
>I want you to shit on my fucking chest

>fist my anus and call me Samantha

>>18056582
>single ladies
now its stuck in ma mind

>>18056582

by creating a club. someone at your school is in charge of those, so talk to them about whats required. make a plan to host 1 or 2 events a month, try to come up with a list of different ideas you can do for them. singles dodgeball? singles dancing? singles movie night?

if you just make it a party each month no ones gonna go. they'll get tired.

>>18056582
>a club for single people
You mean something like a night club?

Why not join literally any other club?

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heuy bb want sum fuck??
(you're not gonna get any pussy with that mindset retard)

>>18056565
>If she orders something expensive, split the check and never talk to her again
She's looking for free meals, brah. If you're lucky, and she finds you attractive, she might put out. Chances are she has a date lined up for every night this week, and you're just one of a couple dozen guys she's mooching off of.

>>18056651
Lol so bitter.

>>18056565
Make your intentions clear. Give her a hug the moment you see her. Flirt a lot.

Stick with her and stay miserable maybe be happy if you guys figure it out or whatever.

Or

Break up with her and maybe stay miserable and alone but more than likely meet someone you're more compatible with.

>>18056555
Fuck this is tough, but as real as it can get

I want to say first of all, a partner of yours initiating "break ups" is not usual... if someone is pulling that shit on you that means it's probably time to leave.

I'd say that its honestly the better choice to just break up with her. Even if you're afraid of being alone; it's better than being in a relationship you don't really believe in anyway.

. I was still apprehnsive though and we spent a lot of time together and I kept telling her that the drinking I could kinda deal with, but that alchohol has been a big problem in my family and that I didnt want to fight her because I spent my entire life hating my parents fighting. We made out many times and two weeks ago she kissed me goodnight after I dropped he roff home, and said she'd rather kiss me than some guy from a bar. Then on Tuesday I decided to formally ask her out and make dinner for us. That we could work it out somehow and that I could be a rock for her. She told me that she was on a date. THen my one friend toldn me that she had been dating some guy for about three weeks now that she met at a bar, and my heart kinda sank. Because I put two and two together and ralized that ngiht she told me about kissing me rather than some bar guyt, was becaus sshe had already been doing so. I felt betrayed in a way, we'd been friends for about two years and I'd always hel[ped her with so many things. A part of me told me I dodged a bullet and that it was for the best because she was still unwilling to face her demons, but that I too had trust issues due to my parents and other girls, and that maybe it was just time for us to work out our own problems and then perhaps date in the future. But I feel sick knowing that she's with some other guy, we'd become so close.

ANd now I'm just drining, even though I don't drink. I want to cry, evberything is going wrong in my life and I can't even get my business off the ground. What do i do?

That's fucked up anon. I'm sorry about that. Drinking won't help you. It'll make you feel worse. You need to accept these feelings you have and not run from them. Be sad. Cry. But don't allow yourself to get stuck in that place of sadness and betrayal. Talk with friends you trust. Get out and keep doing your thing. You're strong anon. You can do this. This time of sadness will pass.

>>18056890
Thank you. I'll try.

>>18056469

You're retarded.

>>18056469

Worse.

You've been shart-zoned.
She literally associated you with her stinky, disgusting, bacteria-infested bodily waste.
That's a stink that will never wash off, mate.

To her, you're so creepy that the best way she thought of rejecting you was to talk about faeces. no "you're not my type", "I have a boyfriend" or even "creep, this is crossing some serious boundaries, GTFO".

She felt that the only thing that would deter you and compel you to stop right there, would be to become as disgusting as possible.


You've discovered the worst possible zone. By the gods, everyone who thought that the friendzone was difficult to escape from should be thankful they haven't found there way to your newfoundlands. The Shart Zone.

>>18056480
oh no

Same happened to me in July. Still haven't found a stable job. If you have any savings of any kind consider trying to further whatever career choices you've got for yourself.

I have no practical advice but I want to remind you that you will be ok. It will work out. It always does.

>>18056385
Take a couple days to pull yourself together and think of what you want to do. After that, start looking for another job. It sucks, but hang in there.

>>18056327
Lay off the porn.

Stop jacking off indefinitely.

>>18056327
>I looked online and it's most likely Death Grip Syndrome.
Geez... Do Anglos really have a word for everything? I used to call it discomfort.
>Luckily she's been super understanding, but I still feel extremely shitty. How can I cure Death Grip as quickly as possible so I can get to pleasing my girl?
Wait a minute.

Have you ever fucking noticed condoms come in different sizes? E.g. I rely on 56 mm by Glyde, which are branded as "maxi" (yet nowhere close to super-maxi).

Just shop around for fuck's sake.

On top of that, try to have her give you a decent hj. Plus you last longer, but don't think of it as a competition..
Finally, why the fuck would she ask you to come for her? I mean, some girls do and really want their guys to come... But still, can't you just come at Your own pace? If she really had been that patient, she wouldn't have put pressure on you

>>18056279
Girl? I can't give very good advice if you aren't, since I'm not a man.

>>18056279
You're born alone and you will die alone. That is life. Your goal should be to enjoy the ride while you're here and for that to work you need to be happy with yourself.

Life does suck more often than it's good. Everything in the universe is against us and would kill us if given the chance. You need to enjoy the fact that you're even alive. You'll look back on this moment in 20 years and either...

> A: Remember the struggle it was to get out of this rut and be proud of your strength and progress

or...

>B: Look back on this moment of failure, still stuck in the same mindset wishing you would have took the first step to better yourself.

There will always be better men out there, statistically even when you marry a man there will still be a better match somewhere in the world. Enjoy what you have and try not to dwell on what you don't because eventually you'll have nothing anyway.

Sure, but you have to acknowledge your failings. Moreover it's going to be a slow thing that requires major effort. The easiest starting point from my pov would be to address why the fuck you're so hateful to begin with.

Eat out before and do something else that isn't a movie

sitting for 2 hours in silence does not a fun date make. go mini golfing, bitches love mini golf

>>18056288
but I want to watch John Wick 2

You shouldn't be thinking of it as romantic instead of friendly. Romantic would be going to some fancy restaurant and spending money on her or something. You can do things like put your arms around her and see how she responds or hold her hand or something. Heck you can even do the thing where you stick your elbow out for her to hold on to you and see if she goes in.

Find out if there is anything else around the movie theater and after you guys finish the movie ask if she wants to go do something else close by. Heck you can even go walking. That'll at least turn it from just being friendly if you guys keep touching each other.