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if you actually have a Sehun-tier resting bitch face I would advise you to not change a thing

>>18056042

i have the same problem. i tend to look angry. i've been telling myself that i should practice smiling more but it's not easy to remember to do that when you're thinking of other things like trying to decide which coffee to buy or looking for the right bills to pay at the counter. it's only afterwards that i realize that i wasn't smiling and probably looking angry or scowling when i was talking to salesperson or paying for something.

i look forward to advice from other anons on this.

you could also have your eyes checked. it's possible you look scary because you're squinting.

>>18056047
I wish I did honestly.

>>18056096
I reckon it's cos I used to frown a lot when I was younger and furrow my brows because I thought looking angry was attractive or looked cool -_-.

Tbf I have glasses these days(that I rarely wear) so that could be so idk I really want to get rid of this problem

>>18056034
Are you even allowed calculators on tests? Literally the only use for a calculator in college. All homework you can use a computer for.

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Get a TI-89. Being able to solve multiple equations with RREF instantly is a god send.

>>18056070
>Are you even allowed calculators on tests?
Nigger what. I'd never be able to solve the shit they did if I had to manually do long division for every damned problem. During my chem sequence you weren't allowed to use a calculator capable of graphing (in which case get a Ti-36 too), but that's a whole separate beast.

83 is fine and does rref

i went through high school and electrical engineering in college with an 83 plus
it was fine
save the money for groceries, pirate textbooks

>>18056017

Therapy. Feeling a little bit down once and awhile is one thing but if you are actually experiencing some kind of clinical depression or personality disorder there is no home remedy. The whole "meditate lift weights and crush pussy" meme here is great if there's nothing psychologically wrong with you and you're experiencing just mild depression and self-esteem issues but if your problems are seriously disrupting your life then you won't really know what the severity is until you go see someone and get a professional opinion.

It's hard to love something or someone that's ugly or uninteresting.
You can't love yourself and be an ugly person inside and out at the same time.
The way I see it, you're just not good enough to love yourself.

So improve yourself or die hating yourself and alone. It's pretty simple.

(Weak love and or settling for something or someone isn't an acceptable answer.)

>>18056039
Fuck you.
I'm 6" 3, do MMA 6 times a week, study hard for my CS degree and constantly work on my social skills and get new friends.
I still hate every second of my life.
First post is right, Im gonna find a therapist soon. Thanks to the guy above, you opened my eyes.

wat

It hurts for some. It's pleasurable for others. Just ask.

>>18055983
Consider rear entry positions (like doggy) and pressure on the front wall.

>>18055978
i dont sleep well when im next to someone. i sweat profusely and usually cant get comfy. this is detrimental to my functioning the following day. it has nothing to do with whoever that person may be. maybe your bf is the same and you are overthinking this.

So... we can't sleep together? no solution? We can't open up a window? Give a lighter blanket?I even bought an extra BED that he could sleep on in the other room... I dont want that kind of relationship were we never sleep together.. were I have to almost beg for him to sleep over... do I break up over something that stupid?

>>18056005

Take some time apart. You're not getting a chance to miss each other and appreciate the time together.

You are definitely a shit parent.


And a dumb bitch to boot

so no fixing this one eh?

Start accepting responsibility rather than prioritizing your feelings.

I think it varies, but isn't necessarily taboo. If the mood feels right, go for it.

People have done way more their first date.

It varies, but err on the side of caution and don't do it.

>>18055965
I treat first dates like they were treated traditionally - as a way to get some basic info on the other person and see if you're even interested in each other in the first place. It's like visiting someones profile page on a dating site. So if it was me, I'd attend the date without high hopes, because anything more than a talk isn't the reason why I'm there, but if she would seem interested in me I'd try sending some signals, and if she tried sending some, I'd go for it. Sure, it's a little risky, but I like it that way. And I fingered a girl in a coffee shop on my last first date.

>>18055953
Also another thing that happens today was him arguing about the temperature in the house being too cold. Normally I set the thermostat to 25 because it's +7 outside and the snow is litterly melting. It also doesn't help that it's the third floor so all the heat goes up in the building. I come home to find that he switched the thermostat to the regular temperature. What in the fuck man this shit is not normal.

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>>18055995
Pic related

Hongcouver?

>>18055917
>prostatitis
ask your doctor

>>18055941
been to countless doctors.they have no answer.just live with it and when you can't take antidepressants

>>18055917
wear a condom

Can you give examples?

>>18055916
Start attempting to be more empathetic by listening to people. This means actively listening when they speak to what they are feeling and thinking instead of trying to conjure a response as they are talking.

>>18055967
I have extremely weak emotional boundaries due to previous abuse, depression, and anxiety. I kinda assumed that love is devoting completely to someone else and forgetting about yourself, but that means that other person needs to do that too, and so I pushed, manipulated and gaslighted them to go in that direction.

Making things worse, was madly in love with them and I had a problematic thing with sex, so, I overstepped my boundaries there too.

Basically, I have no clear identity as a person and I try to get my loved ones to give theirs up too so to achieve "love" (codependency, actually)

>>18055909
I can't speak to your situation, but my girlfriend is healthy and typically initiates in incredibly subtle ways. She's not one to push me up against the wall or anything, but I'm able to pick up on her signals pretty well at this point.

>>18055909
Pretend like you have other options and are ready to dump her ass.

Dread game works

>>18056512
This will almost assuredly get you what you want in the short term and fuck you in the long term.

Break up with her.

>>18055807
I find that when you ask a woman what's wrong if you approach it like a brute and demand they tell you they won't say anything/

You need to butter them up. Talk about something else and slowly escalate until she feels comfortable talking to you. You should volunteer a few things to her as well.

>>18055807

From my experience of growing up with a bunch of sisters: girls do this when they're so angry or sad they might cry. They bottle it up so it doesn't spill over and pressing for answers will only make them clam up harder. Give her space and chill out. Distract her from it, make the situation less tense and then try again carefully, once she's calmed down some.

>>18055690
Hipsters are what normies call anyone different than your average 9-5 cookie-cutter wage slave.

>>18055712
>implying anybody but hipsters LARPing as le misfit use that argument

you're so misunderstood by society anon not just a loser ;____;

>>18055690
Hipsters are the shocktroopers of gentrification. Culture thieves and faux-liberal cunts.

>>18055661
They're lying about being tight?

>>18055661
tight has like 50 meanings, please be more specific

>>18055667
>>18055671
>ITT autists who cant into reading

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>>18055537
a path to the dark side, the fear of loss is
on the present, you must focus
discuss these things with him, you should

>>18055575

I don't even know how to start discussing it, Yoda. Asking my own damn SO if it's okay if I text him on occasion seems just stupid. Theoretically I know he'd be fine with it, but if I have nothing really to say, I'd just send pointless harassing messages, and I talk myself out of it. I'm probably gonna go full sith some time soon like this.

Well the best solution, as almost always, would be to talk about it. Just explain how you feel and see what his thoughts on it are. It's probably just your insecurity, but if he really is the kind of person who needs a lot of own space then it will be good to know that. It's impossible to try and guess what someone wants and needs, maybe he actually wishes that you would contact him more, and is also anxious about the same thing. Communicate, no accusing or drama, just calmly discuss how you feel and what is bothering you.

But yes, it's normal to feel nervous about losing something or someone you really care about, and becoming so careful that it starts to stress you out. But a good relationship will last through problems and conflicts. There will be disagreeing, fighting, needs not meeting and not understanding each other. But you'll work through it. Try not to be too scared about doing something that he doesn't 100% like, you should be yourself, and be honest about what you want and need.