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>>18358448

Bail...YESTERDAY

Sounds like your relationship is over.

>>18358448
Not at all they're just friends

http://www.nlpinfocentre.com/nlpebooks/NLP%20-%20Pilinski,%20Michael%20-%20Without%20Embarrassment-%20The%20Social%20Coward%27s%20Totally%20Fearless%20Seduction%20System%20(b).pdf

Hi, I'm>>18358382
I'd say work on your self-esteem first, then on your fears and shame, with a therapist or with some books. Then (or at the same time)connect with your emotions (listen to them, put a name on them, try to know where do they come from...) That will make you able to read emotions on others (i.e. empathy). Having worked on all of this, you will know know that people are by default midly nice with you. This will make you able to get friends. The book I posted is basically a mix between a seduction book and a self_help book and seem to be aimed at people like you...

>>18358373
A classic way to connect with people, besides empathy, is to have interests or hobbies in common.

>>18358338
I wish I could help you but this is something you need a trained professional to help with. You may not believe me but everything is going to be ok. not good but ok.

>>18358345
Yeah idk what to do cant afford therapy....

Should I just go straight to a dr?

I have felt empty and hopeless the past week and a half. I sit inside my closet crying in the dark listening to sad music all day.

>>18358350
if you talk to your normal doctor about it and tell them you're unable to afford therapy they might know either sliding scale places or some that even offer free therapy for people without money.

>>18358294

jump rope
squats
pushups
planks
crunches

>>18358344
I cant even do one pushup

>>18358294
Go to the fucking gym you skinnyfat manlet

>>18358396
>I cant even do one pushup
Pushups should be easy if you're slim, c'mon man

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>>18358272

Obviously she had to call CPS - which I begged her not to do because it would make things a fuckton worse and I knew even then the foster care is a nightmare in the UK.


I was pulled out of school within a few days after I had a complete meltdown and the doctor refused to let me go back. My parents fucking hated me for telling and starting 'all this shit' because now CPS was at the door and - while not taking me away - demanded that my brother be moved out.

So he got shunted off to my grandparent's house, my parents don't believe me and called me 'a lying whore' and it all generally just went to a whole new level of hell that I didn't think possible.

I'm turning 20 in a few weeks and since school I've joined several clubs, took classes at community college to get some basic education qualifications, and volunteer at a charity store to get out of the house.

>>18358285
The problem is that nothing sticks. I haven't had a friend since grade school, I do my best to socialize but come off as weird or unfriendly despite my best efforts, and as much as I try I just know that something inside me is broken and it's not going to be fixed. I've made a lot of progress over the years but I don't think I'm ever going to get better.

I freak out if someone touches me, I'm emotionally repressed to where I can only identify when I feel hungry, horny or sad, my family hates me, I have no friends, and I still have nightmares about it. Therapy hasn't worked, and anti-depressants come with too many ill side effects to stick with.

I'm a trainwreck of a person who, even though I've made some progress and stopped losing my temper every 5 minutes and become more socially aware of how to act in public and around people, still has to drink herself to sleep every night just like my fucking parents.

The kicker is that my brother, after staying with my grandparents for a while, moved into a rented house. Where'd the money come from? My parents. Did my grandparents kick him out? Nope, he just wanted his own place.

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>>18358289
They also paid to put him through college (which he failed, so at least he's not as perfect at they thought, kek) and fincially supported him.

From there he met a girl who runs some pet grooming buisness, has a cat and a dog, and the house. My parents (still living at home, should have clarified) just told me today that they got engaged.

So what I'm taking away from this: molest/beat your kid sister over the years for kicks, get a free education and house.

It's one thing that my parents are constantly ripping my head off because I won't come to christmas dinner and stay in my room, that I won't wish him a happy birthday, but to expect me to go over to him and his fiance and congradulate them and drool over the ring?

Get. Fucked.

I was having an okay day, and then this happened. Cried angry and jealous tears.

That fucker destroyed my life and did irreparable damage, and he's living the dream. It all came up roses for him and I'm stuck clawing my way out of hell and constantly falling back in.

But I do have a concern about this wedding - which of course I'm invited to - because my brother's such a stand-up guy, he'd never have kids out of wedlock.

He's going to have kids at some point soon, and I know my parents won't say anything, but I don't even know if his fiance knows about the shit he's done.

I'm worried he's going to fuck with his children.

I just don't know what to do. Thanks for reading this if you got this far. I just needed to get it out.

>>18358234
Do you have a union? Also sorry about your soon to be wife.

>>18358234
USA? call the department of labor asap.

https://www.dol.gov/general/contact

>>18358237
Thank you. I'm afraid not and HR are practically non existent.

>>18358181
Well according to you, the interest is mutual so why the fuck would you stop caring about her without giving it a shot first? Have you ever asked her why she takes so long to reply?

>>18358181
>I know she likes me she's told me
Then make a move instead of doing snaps, whatever the fuck that is. By not making a move after she's told you that she's into you, you're letting her know that you're not interested.

what the fuck are snaps?

also people have lives you know.

>>18358179
I love you too!

>>18358179
Is the goal keeper Feels Guy?
Also I thought the L word was Lesbian

>>18358231
Aww, thanks babe.
>>18358247
I think it is, maybe I'm not using it right.

You don't. Date both of them without mentioning it. See which one you have a chemistry for and chase her.

>>18358080
"If you chase two rabbits, both will escape." - some chinese cunt

>>18358067
Choose one. If you choose both, you're going to fuck up.

>>18357918
Short answer: yes, lube helps. It's a godsend.

Long answer: if she doesn't want to be penetrated, she doesn't want to be penetrated.

>>18357918
sounds like she's could be a he and had surgery to invert her penis. they look like real ones if done properly.

>>18357921
She says it's ok as long as it doesn't hurt, just the problem is that it does.

>>18357923
She's 5'6 and has an obviously female skeletal frame and no surgery scars anywhere.

>>18357838
When that mess was over, the husband went and passed out on the bed and the girl followed, while I laid down on the sofa in the living room to go to sleep. Not long after, the girl comes back out to get some water from the kitchen, and makes some small talk with me. I drift off to sleep again, and then she comes back out and lays a blanket on top of me, leans in and kisses me on the cheek again. Then she holds my hand for a while and just starts gazing into my eyes lovingly. I've known her for over a year and this is very unusual for her. Then she got up and walked away, and while she walked away she looked back at me with a sexy smile, and I shot her a really solid wink.

Then she came back and I was pretending to be asleep. She sat down next to me and kissed me on the cheek again and grabbed my hand again. She kept pulling my hand to her body like she wanted me to caress her, which I did sort of clumsily. She told me to take off my jeans because they were still soaked from earlier. And for the next few hours we were just kind of hanging out in the living room, occasionally getting playful and flirty. She grabbed my ass a few times, I grabbed hers for a brief moment, she told me about how I must have lost weight and gotten a little buffer since she last saw me, I rubbed her neck and her back a bit, we had some long hugs... but that was about as far as we ever got. Eventually she went back to her room and I laid back down in my couch but neither of us got any sleep before sunrise.

(cont)

>>18357839
I'm sure a lot of you might be thinking I was just passing up a million opportunities to smash but remember that A) she's married and B) we weren't alone in the apartment, so it's possible that she was holding back a bit given the circumstances, only doing things we can do quietly, and making sure she's not in a compromising position so if anyone else in the apartment came out to use the bathroom or something, she'd be able to straighten up quickly and pretend nothing was going on. But that's just me speculating.

Also you might say she was just acting stupid because she was drunk. I'm not ruling it out, she is quite the drinker. But by the time she started getting playful like that, she had to have gotten a lot of alcohol out of her system already. To give you an idea, I had already puked from being too drunk at the party when we stopped drinking, and I was mostly vigilant and level-headed by the time she started nuzzling me.

>>18357842
So fast forward to when everyone is sober and well-rested. We occasionally lock eyes and smile, but it's brief because I'm trying to hide this from her husband. We haven't said a word about what happened that night, which makes me wonder if that was the end of it. I am head over heels for her, and while I'm prepared to drop this whole thing and move on if she's married and wants to stay married, I would absolutely go as far with her as she's willing to take it, even if it meant divorcing her husband. I just need to know what we are right now and what we want to be.

Her and her husband left this morning to continue traveling around on their own. When I was seeing them off, the last time we made eye contact and nobody else was looking I silently mouthed "I love you" to her. She smiled and they drove away. I will actually see them both again four months from now, but I'm dying to know what's going on. I've thought about messaging her but I worry about making things awkward (if I didn't already but telling her I love her). I thought about writing something like this: "Hey, you and I got really playful on Friday night, and it left me wondering if I should just dismiss it as drunk you, or if it's something more that we could talk about. Either way we are friends no matter what."

How do I gauge the situation? How do I get confirmation? Thoughts and ideas?

I am doing nofap and I'm on my 13th day. It's hard, but if you're rally committed you can make it withouth going mad.

>>18357843

Yeah I joined there site as well, watched some of the videos they have posted there, read some threads on how others are coping. I hope to make some progress. I think most i've ever managed is two weeks or so. Need to try harder.

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For me, I went on a several day trip to an amusement park with a bunch of pals, we all had a blast and I started to actually get feelings for one of them. Sense then I haven't felt the need to fap or look at porn. Even being surrounded on it on here doesn't set me off. I haven't fapped in a month now and I haven't felt the need to since then. And that's saying a lot because I was a porn fiend.
I'd do this:
1. Leave 4chan or at least get on a board that isn't littered with porn (maybe this board or interests).

2. Go on a multi-day trip with friends, or be in a situation where you're forced to not fap for an extended period of time

3. Get a girl you actually have feelings for an start talking to her. Hopefully a shot at real love might distract you from masturbation.

4. Get your dick wet, fuck someone, most people who I've seen lose their virginity don't go back to fapping.

Hope this helps.

>>18357794
Don't fall into the quarterlife crisis myth. Time has changed so don't feel pressured to have a child now. Give it time.

>>18357797

This is my thinking. I know people who have had children and seem very happy, but it limits your life so much. I don't know if I feel enthusiastic about that level of commitment.

My major worry is that I'll put having children off until 32/33 and then find I'm unable to have them, or potentially experience problems where it takes us longer to conceive. I'd also like more than one child, which is where it causes issues waiting longer.

>>18357802
My mother was 31 when she had her first child and its not that uncommon

>>18357774
this sounds like a movie, and the logical conclusion would be you dating the chubby but sweet girl that was always by your side.

Overpay for low quality drugs

The final boss is killing yourself

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>>18357716
>Is it foolish to try to become rich
Yes. The chances of you escaping your class is very low.

I think you, somehow, made this issue more complicated than it needs to be.

>>18357716
You can fuck very attractive and sometimes beautiful sluts. It isn't the hardest thing in the world. It would certainly be easier than trying to become rich. You see a dark part of women that makes you realize most "ain't shit". I'd recommend achieving your goal for yourself. If you do end up becoming wealthy and go solely for looks, you might get a gorgeous woman but I'm not sure you'd be happy with her.