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I'm afraid I will be the only short guy while all the women are way taller and probably older too.
Im 21 and 5'4 or 5'5 not sure. I look like a teenager. I live at home still.

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How should i respond when she wants to bring her friend along?

Me and the girl i've been talking to have planned to go kayaking for awhile, and we finally are able to next week. She just texted me saying:

>do you know anyone who'd want to come too? Asking because roommate said she'd want to come.. If that's cool

Now i'm pissed. I don't want her roommate to come, i thought it was just going to be us. Her roommate just ruins the whole thing. I've already hung out with her plenty, and i hate when it's the 3 of us. Usually we hang with her for a bit until she goes out and it's always such a huge relief when she leaves. Her roommate doesn't even like doing outdoor shit at all, so i'm just annoyed as fuck.

I just said "oh, i'm not sure". Now what? Should i just put my cards on the table and say how i thought it was just gonna be us, and if we're just going to be a friends thing, i need to know?

Or should i play it cool? Really do NOT want to waste time with her friend.

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Is anyone else really okay with dying? I'm not depressed or anything, I love my family and friends and everything but it is something that is always on my mind. I see pointless bombings in the news and I had a friend kill himself not to long ago, and it just scares me to die like that, for no reason other than shock value. I joined the army and i leave for basic soon obviously to serve but maybe also to get a death that maybe the people i know could be proud of. Anyone else in this mindset, or do you think I'll grow out of it (i just turned 19). I don't wanna die as a shitposting alcoholic.

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What's the problem with getting an escort? I see many people here advising against it, why?

Online dating is gay as fuck and so is changing my lifestyle and interests just to get laid. The only thing that bothers me is that I'm barely 20 years old but I miss getting laid so bad, but I can't just get a girl because I'm not doing too well in life and that's not going to happen.

So what's the fucking problem?

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>27
>resident at hospital
>first real gf, lose virginity to her, she doesn't know
>she's a cute indian girl
>be white christian
>dating for 6 months
>say we love each other 2 months in
>she's already talking about getting serious

the red flags i need advice on
>her family is super indian and hindu, i've been told by her and all her cousins and sister that i met that they're going to hate me for the first few months / years
>already hate her mother who is hideous and all i do is hear her yell on the phone and make demands out of gf
>she's a hindu vegetarian, i feel like if we settled down I'd never have a wife to actually cook me dinner
>hindu, would never convert (fine), would want our kids hindu or to practice both that and christianity (not fine, already made jokes about not having baptisms)
>she has a bunch of guy friends, kissed one of them on new years when we were already hooking up for a few weeks before we were dating

idk what to do, first real gf, my first lay, so i dont wanna rush into something like an idiot but i also really love her. the red flags are what really scare me

this is like life changing shit and i dont wanna talk to anyone else about it so i figured i'd go to /adv/

sincere thanks for any help

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21 year old male here. I have never understood the big deal of gym bro culture and working out to bulk. I have been ostrovegan (vegan with oysters, mussels, scallops and clams) for six months now, have minimal body fat and have feel better than I did when I was omnivore. My focus and mental agility is razor sharp, I am able to walk long distances and climb hills swiftly, my libido is high and I an get through an intense day of study, work, reading, practicing and socialization without being overly exhausted at the end of the day. My sister keeps on telling me I need some muscle definition on my body, because I look abnormally thin like an some kind of anemic or anorexic and claims the majority of women won't sexually/romantically involve themselves with people like me. How much does physique truly matter when it comes to dating and relating to women on an intimate level? Why should I conform to a superficial archetype of what a cismale body should be? I have been immersed in the seduction community for a year now and I have solely focused on cultivating a likable personality and verbal communication skills, as well as fashion and personal presentation.

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my girlfriend is overall pretty hot but the one thing holding her back is her bad teeth and It's honestly making me not attracted to her anymore (they look a lot like pic related)

I've looked into it and i think that a procedure called Gum Sculpting/Contouring would be a godsend for her, and I'd be 100% willing to fund it.

She once brought up that it's something she's insecure about. How do i sensitively bring something like this up / suggest she get this done?

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People who've had an unplanned pregnancy (or impregnated someone unplanned) how did it happen? Not being judgemental, just curious as to how it goes wrong. I'm surprised that around half of pregnancies in the UK are unplanned. Birth control doesn't seem that hard to me? khv though.

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Can you please list all the places you've met boyfriends or girlfriends? I'm wondering where are good places to meet people other than the obvious pubs/ bars/ online/ through friends.

I'll go first (excluding the obvious ones):
>museum
>park
>political party
>AA
>dog track
>giving blood

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How do I not cum so fast? It's to the point where I don't want to have sex with my girlfriend because I don't want to cum quickly. What do I do

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Seriously /adv/, how do I meet people?

I'm 28 and the closest thing I've got to "friends" is this small circle from work that very occasionally meetups. Lotta "banter" goes on in this group and about half the time it's aimed at me, I put up with it cos I don't really have any alternatives. Today though, one of them told me to kill myself cos "banter", and while nobody egged him on, nobody really defended me. I asked him what the fuck, and he just laughed it off.

I really wanna find other human beings I can relate to with similar interests and age but I've kinda realized that I've missed the boat on geek circles for my age group and that my interest in it has waned a lot. I mean, I went to watch 4 anime movies in cinema because I finally had the opportunity but was bored to tears at all of them except for Akira.

/adv/ give me some decent advice.

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So I have a friend, who has mental health issues and is having a really tough time.

Sadly, she lives many hours away so I can't go see her. Keeping in contact with her is strictly via phone/text. Even that is minimal though, she goes through phases where she doesn't want to talk, or is very selective about what she wants to talk about.

I sort of get the impression asking how she is is something that she doesn't want to talk about too much, as it's obviously bad news.

But what else can I say in my texts? I can say what I'm doing sure, but I want to ask about her, what sort of questions can I use that aren't "how are you?"

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/adv/
What's up dudes

What do you do to relax and stop over analyzing things? I can have some perfectionist quirks that makes any little mistake seem like total failure. I've had some changes in my life recently and I'm having a hard time from keeping myself from being discouraged.

What do you personally do to clear your mind? Mantras? Exercises? my go to hasn't helped much and I need to keep stride.

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So around 3 weeks ago I got in a car crash and totaled my first car. I was supposed to move out around June 12th ( I'm 18). I was going to move out to a different city for a new start. My time in highschool was very mediocre and I feel as if I wasted those 4 years. I thought moving to a new city would be a good way of starting over. Anyways the money I was going to use to move out I instead used to buy a new car. None of my friends know about this because I decided to cut every friend I have (had?) except for 4 who don't hang out with the friends I did cut off. I feel as if abandoning almost all of my past life is going to help me as I continue to better myself and would allow me to be more proactive in meeting new people. So far I've felt really free and feel alot more relaxed, the onlt thing that's been kinda bad is that sometimes when I'm by myself doing something I'll be thinking "I wish someone was here to help me with this blunt", or playing Basketball with me, ect. But I havn't really missed them to be honest. Today one of them called asking me if I wanted to hangout, and why I had deleted them on social media ( just SC I deleted twitter). I told them I deleted SC (lie) and they said they knew I didn't (idk how). Anyways I was trying to get them the hang up and they did. But I wanted some outside input on whether or not this is a bad or good idea. For the record I was going to cut most people off anyways, but not everyone when I was going to move out. There are some other reasons I'm cutting people off, but I've already written alot. Any advice is appreciated, thanks.

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Looking to get a fidget spinner. Does quality matter? Should I care if it's name brand or does it matter. The variety store has them but I don't know if they are cheap crappie ones. Does it matter?