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What are your parents like? 2017-05-28 12:39:18 Post No.18357682
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What are your parents like?
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I really want to know. Were they abusive in any way while you were growing up?
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They were fantastic and I appreciate them a lot
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>>18357682
Absent father who I saw once or twice a year, never did a damn parenting thing, I won't say I hate him (I don't) but I don't love him either, he's basically a stranger who gave me life but that's it, not even a fucking father joke.
My mom tried her best and I love her, however she placed more importance in her career than educating me, something that I honestly think is the best she could've done for herself and I would hate it if she had given up her dreams for me.
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I lived alone with my father as a kid, states away from any other family. My mother was a junkie and didn't give a shit, one less ass to wipe and one less mouth to feed. My father was an abusive alcoholic with diagnosed agoraphobia and generalized panic disorder. He also had a history of abuse and violence towards his mother and girlfriends. I suspected a little more was floating around in his head, but he was a very paranoid man and refused/weaseled his way out of psychological evaluation whenever it came up. He binge drank to "feel normal". I guess his version of normal was beating the dog shit out of me for reminding him of my mother and forcing me to sleep in his bed each night, woke up to him masterbating next to me enough times to royally fuck up my gourd. Ran away when I was 15, was placed in foster care, 22 now with my own apartment, I don't talk to any of my blood relatives.
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>tfw my university is forcing me to work a 10 week fulltime job to get my degreee
>tfw i only get accepted for positions without any form of payment
>tfw i will waste an entire summer as a slave
>tfw 25 and still no bachelor degree
>tfw 25 and still living at home
>tfw 25 and no gf
fml.
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>>18357491
You're still young, stop complaining, work and then you'll get a real job and live your life.
I don't have a degree and work a minimum wage job, you have no idea of the luck you have
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This.
>>18357491
OP, I'm more or less in the same position as you. About to turn 21, and I live with my parents as I'm going to community college. Shit I'm so fucked that I even get dropped off/picked up by them. Remember that this is nearly the end. At least you have friends OP (I hope) I don't have a single friend and the majority of my socializing is to people on Discord and Rainbow Six Siege.
God speed OP. Remember that all suffering is temporary
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>>18357491
These guys are right.
Learn about how to deal with the bad stuff in your life. Accept their existence do not wipe them under the rug, only then you can turn them into lessons to improve upon.
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ITT: Ask the Opposite Gender Anything 2017-05-28 09:38:30 Post No.18357468
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ITT: Ask the Opposite Gender Anything
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ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything
GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.
FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.
>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.
>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.
>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships, fart guy and the guy who stuffs his pants
Fuck off
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Girls: I've recently started on tinder and all that shit and obviously I'll be meeting up with people soon. Obviously in public places in case they're weird or think I'm weird etc.
Would it be weird if a guy just wanted to go driving around with you? I really just like cruising around and I know of some nice beaches and other areas.
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>>18357473
I wouldn't 'go driving' with a fucking stranger. That's just asking to be the victim of a crime.
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>>18357476
I don't mean just straight up meeting at my car but like meeting somewhere first, talking, seeing where it goes and then offering up the drive idea.. Still bad?
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Girlfriend's brother made a pass at her 2017-05-28 09:25:53 Post No.18357456
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So I'm on my phone with my gf who is in hysterics, having a panic attack, because her brother just propositioned her for sex.
So pretty much they were at the beach with their parents, the family is somewhat emotionally distant and she never talks to her older brother (he's moved out and she's in college), but she was having a really good time drinking and bonding with them today. But then the parents went to sleep, gf and her brother decided to go swimming, when the creep asked her to have sex with him. She ran away and locked herself in her room. I told her to get some sleep and tell her mom in the morning if she's ready.
tl;dr wincest in real life doesn't exactly work out and totally ruins your relationship and trust with your sibling
Anyway, I know fuck-all about how to handle a situation like this. She's worried about telling her parents because she feels like they'll somehow blame her and take his side (he's a firefighter and a "stand up" kinda guy or what the fuck ever, sure bud). The scary thing is, they might. Like I would sincerely hope they wouldn't. But theres a chance they might.
Anyway, does anyone have any advice on how she should approach this? I currently live entirely across the US from her (enlisted) or else I'd be at that beach house now taking it out on the pavement with his head. Regardless, how does she tell her mom, causing the least amount of family damage?
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Is there any possibility for you to get to her? Even if it takes a day of flying. It's best to physically be there for her, she would feel much more safe.
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why would he ask that, completely out of the blue?
there got to be some history.
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Well, if he just asked her once, I don't think there's any need to do anything other than tell him that it's really weird and not to ask again. I mean yes it's very strange but it doesn't sound like he actually threatened her or persisted asking. You said they were drinking, maybe that played a part in it.
Of course if continues doing it or if he starts asks more insistently you have to take action.
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how do i seriously learn to be more sensible?
somehow i manged to make my bf cry two days in a row without wanting to do that at all.
i just kond of overboard and say thing i do mean, but maybe i say them in the wrong situations, tone or to people who can't cope with it.
the first instance was that i told him that i think he isn't very good at managing his energy resources. he is always tired and it's often because he can't say no and never prioritizes his earned rest time. this results in him being stressed, lacking docus, being exhausted and generally an emotional mess. i told him that he can't go on like that, even thought being "selfless" (aka putting everybody else's needs above his) is one of his deepest values. i told him that nobody benefits of him burning out, not even the people he usually puts "above his own needs". so he started to cry because i "know exactly that that's just how he is".
cont.
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a day later we briefly touched on the subject again whilst laying in bed, ready to sleep. he said that he "won't be able to sleep anyways" (because i said that). to which i, admitedly annoyed, told him to "stop doing that". i told him that i really dislike him trying to make me feel bad for telling him something i felt like i needed to tell him. i told him that when he tells me stuff like that i feel guilty for even opening my mouth and will seriously consider not saying anything in the future because i don't want to be the cause for him being even more exhausted. he started to cry again, telling me i hurt him very badly by essentially telling him to "pull himself together". i tried to explain that that's not what i wanted to say, and that it would have made a big difference if he had said "what we talked about really makes me think and i might have to dwell on it for a little longer" instead of "thanks for giving me insomnia". i know he has a habit of dwelling on shit long past their time, i tried to make him see that this fucks him over badly and that the healthier approach would be to think something trough, come to a conclusion and then give it some rest. but he prevers to brood over it for nights.
what now? i feel like i'm breaking him...
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He's being a bitch. Are you in philly? I'll take care of you.
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He kind of sounds like a baby.
6 months ago my ex-gf broke up with me after 4 years together. She didnt want to stay in contact nor be friends anymore(1month post breakup she said this). A few times these last months she has initiated conversation randomly about tax returns on the house we had together. One month ago she wrote to me again randomly about tax returns and bank things, and I answered very simple and short and didnt ask about anything else going on. Ever since she told me to fuck off 1 month post breakup, I havent initiated any contact at all. I came over a picture of her recently and she has gotten a new tattoo sleeve. A few days ago I heard from some mutual acquaintances we had, that she has been incredibly depressed and gained alot of weight, quit her job and isnt working much anymore since the breakup. We havent seen eachother since we broke up so I didnt know. Last night I was checking up an past event on a club in town on fb. I remember I chose "Going to" this event a few weeks before but I removed it the same day it was happening because I couldn't go. I checked up who went to the event and my ex-gf apparently "went" to this. She never goes to these kinds of events, and this is the only thing she "went to" in the last 6 months. It would have been the only time we could have met eachother these last months. I just felt it was to random considering she probably saw I was going until I cancelled the same day.
What I am asking is, do you think I should continue not contacting her or do you think she actually wants me to talk to her? I feel like she wants me to, but I dont want to ruin it and make her think I'm dying to talk to her. I still miss her alot, she was the love of my life. But I have kept image on social medias and irl that I am doing fine and is happy being single.
tl;dr Been in no contact with ex, signs tells me to contact her, dno what to do
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What do you think of the hypothetical situation in which she wants to talk to you again but doesn't want to be the one to initiate the conversation? What does that mean to you?
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>>18357223
It makes me happy if that was the case. But I am afraid it will backfire if I do initiate contact and that I misunderstood the signs. She is a really stubborn and prideful girl who rarely admits her faults when it comes to these kinds of things. Should I just contact her and hope for the best? I rly dont want to fuck this up, considering I want her still
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>>18357252
No no no no, you'll lose the power if you contact or try to reconnect with her. Stay the course. You're are doing everything and so beautifully too. I wish I had half the discipline you do. Don't mess it up. She'll find you or contact you eventually and beg for you to take her back and you'll have all the power. On the flip side if she never does contact you that's good too because why would you want to get back with an ex that broke up with you and is now a fat depressed slob?
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Dealing with politically correct strangers 2017-05-28 06:52:59 Post No.18357208
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Dealing with politically correct strangers
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Hello. How does one correctly behave in the midst of nowadays political-correctess fever? You can no longer do jokes that might ''offend'' someone. One girl lashed out just because i made a joke about entitled fat people. When is it the right time to use humor? I can no longer just appear and make people have a good time and meet new friends.
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It's called not being an autist. Keep your 3edgy5me jokes to yourself until you know what the other person is and is not offended by.
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>>18357208
Don't say stupid shit to people you don't know
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No, it's called not giving a fuck about what they """""feel"""". What are they going to do if you offend them? Go call the police? Fuck em. I'm not saying be a faggot and try to offend everyone but if you do and sometime voices their feelings to you, ignore them. The end
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Why do I get depressed with the end of shows/books and shit I like
It makes my depression unreasonably WORSE
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Because you don't have an emotional output in real life, so you project everything that's inside of you onto that screen of yours.
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>>18357700
Sort of like RLM stopping me from killing my self each week.
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>>18357700
thanks there Freud real helpful, real paragon of /adv/
OP it's because in media, characters are designed to be likable, settings are designed to be immersive, and everything that happens is designed to appear extremely important
it needs to be this way for it to get you to feel certain things and when you lose that it doesn't feel great, that is the desired effect of the creator
it's a very common feeling
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How do I stop procrastinating ?
I always start doing something important and then I find myself wasting time on useless stuff.
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Id love to write a longer reply but ironically Id just be procrastinating then aswell.
Look up "howcto stop procrastinating" on your search engine.
Other than that, what has helped me is daily meditation (morning and evening, and/or whenever ai feel like i need it). It makes you more conscious in general and more aware of how you function when you feel like procrastinating, which makes it easier to manage.
Peace
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Dopamine addiction.
Your dopaimne sensors are dulled because probably too much porn/vidya/internets to the level when nothing "normal" seems absorbing enough.
Go cold turkey, you will feel like retiring drug addict but you will see the change.
Install some blocking software, or simply turn off your pc.
Shit, I have to do the same right now. Bye.
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>>18357078
The cure to procrastination is simple .
Just realize you don't have to do anything . Literally . You don't have to write that paper . Go to work . Call your mom. You don't have to do any of those things . None of those things will lead to your immediate death .
Procrastination is subconscious attack by our mind . It's like a slave who makes the master the slave by being Innefficient or disobedient . The slave is lazy and doesn't work because the slave doesn't WANT to work . If you want to "cure" your procrastination in anything , you are going to have to fundamentally WANT to do whatever you are doing . Then you will never feel bored with it and not do it .
I'm not saying it's easy , but it's simple .
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I seriously think I am going insane. Please help. 2017-05-28 04:57:56 Post No.18356989
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I seriously think I am going insane. Please help.
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I think I am going fucking insane. Like seriously fucking insane. I didn't want to talk about this because it is so fucking stupid what I have been doing, but I can not suppress this anymore.
I am a diagnosed Bipolar Type 2 with ADHD and Aspergers, and before acquiring access to medication to regulate my moods, I was always a depressive individual with constant ups and lows.
I have enjoyed a stable 2 years since starting my meds, but recently I have gone foff the rails.
How?
Because after binge watching Doctor Who and Rick and Morty, and reading of the exploits of Nikola Tesla, I have become obsessed with the idea of mastering different fields of science and mathematics to bring my insane fantasies of escaping this world to life, even though I know these shows are both stupid fucking shows created by Liberals and are full of pseudo-science shit that is impossible for one man to do alone even if it were real.
I have been studying non-stop mathematics for the past week straight, and I actually am learning it. It actually is sticking. I have little difficulty with reading retention now, whereas before I was convinced I was retarded, as I could not read something without going over it fifty times. I feel sharper, I can think clearer, I keep telling myself "I am a genius"" and it seems to be whisking away the insecurities I had before. I feel confident and like I can be as smart as fucking fictional TV characters.
So, it may seem like this is all fine, but I feel fucking HORRIBLE. Like, I feel so fucking numb and bored and fucking empty. I feel depressed as shit. I can't play video games anymore, I can't watch tv, I can only study.
I desperately want to just give up these delusions and just focus on my welding classes and living a normal life and maybe keep Electronics and Science as a hobby, but I can not stop.
Please, someone out there has to know what is wrong with me. Fucking help. If anyone has a background in psychology I would appreciate some assistance.
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Coming from someone with diagnosed Bipolar 1 /w psychotic features, get to a psychiatrist and tell them this asap. Don't let anyone on 4chan convince you against taking meds for bipolar.
The symptoms you just described sound almost exactly like what I felt before going full on manic - and I fucked my life up pretty hard at the age of 18.
If anything I understand what it's like to have that numb feeling while also feeling like your going off the rails. Racing thoughts and everything. Get to a psych asap and try to get stable again, that should be your absolute first priority.
Aside from that when I have episodes like this I just accept that they're happening and acknowledge them. I don't allow myself to be destructive personally and I try to autopilot life for a bit until things stabilize
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What can she do for me? I recently started taking my Focalin again, since I lost my first container last month and just got it refilled, and it feels like this shit was brought on by starting my dose of it, but fuck.
Today, I didn't take my dose of Focalin, I just took my normal dose of 750MG Depakote and 50MG Zoloft, and I still felt pretty low all day. I did not get any studying done either.
I LIKE the feeling I have in regards to my mental proficiency now. I am banging out math notes left and right, and that is really helpful because I take a college entry test soon and I have always struggled with math, but... This fucking depression. It really hurts. It feels like a fucking weight is in my chest.
Obviously I must be manic, but I am not sure what my psych can do, other than throwing more pills at me and telling me to get the fuck out.
Do I just ride this shit out and stay alive as best as I can?
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>full on manic
What OP is describing just sounds like his in a long hypomanic phase. People with Bipolar 2 can't have mania, that's why it's called Bipolar 2. This, or you have been misdiagnosed.
Is there any chance you can get access to antipsychotics like Seroquel or Promazine? Promazine will also be anxiolytic in smaller doses.
The standard medication for Bipolar 2 is Depakine (might be called differently depending on the country). It will pretty much solve your problem with the hypomanic phase.
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Is overdosing a good way to commit suicide? Serious question.
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No just shoot yourself with a high calliber gun or don't kill yourself at all
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My brother overdosed and he had a very long and painful death. So no
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depends on the drug fucktard
>serious question
no it isn't
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Is wanting to be friends with your ex wrong?
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My relationships never ended on a particularly bad note, but context means everything in this situation. To the point where it's completely on you if you think it'll be weird.
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>>18356778
Only if they don't want to be friends with you.
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It's just a bad idea the vast majority of the time.
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My girlfriend of 2 years has a history of disregarding my feelings or what I say, it created a lot of trouble for us and she desperately begged me not to leave her and said she'd always listen to me no matter what so I decided to give her the chance. Recently we started watching a show together but I've been working a lot so there are times where we won't watch for days at a time, I told her not to watch ahead without me, she said okay, I go over her place tonight, I see she's watched all of it. I feel like the underlying principle warrants breaking up with her, I love and want to be with her but I can't take this repeated bullshit, on the other hand I do also think it's just a show and that doesn't matter, but it's the underlying principle. What do you think boys? Am I over reacting?
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Bro it's just a show and you have to accept that shes human too. Are you really gonna throw two years away just because she wants to watch a show ahead of you? Really?! Come on
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>>18356756
It's not the show it's the underlying principle
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>>18356733
>What do you think boys?
I think you've made the conscious decision to stay with her despite the fact that you don't like the way she behaves which, in turn, has completely neutralized any justification you have to complain about it.
Either leave her or shut the fuck up. Also, its a stupid television show. You're being a baby.
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>attend community college for 3 (three) years
>mediocre gpa, no extracurriculars, no volunteer experience
>get accepted as a transfer student at a really good university
>university is in an ultra liberal city in an ultra liberal state
>start getting emails about diversity
>start getting emails from latino/chicano (whatever the fuck that means) organization on campus
>dean of admissions is strong black woman who don't need no man
I can't help but think my offer of admission was based on affirmative action. I feel like if I didn't get in on individual merit then I don't deserve to be there. I don't want to be anyone's token, and now I feel like the university only sees the color of my skin. I didn't ask for an existential crisis. I just wanted to study math and science... :(
Of the other universities I got into, one is really small and the other is almost as good but on the otherside of the country. I want to go to my first choice, but I don't know if it's worth feeling like shit for the next two years.
[spoiler]Also,fuck hippies.[/spoiler]
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University of Maryland?
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>>18356700
Yeah I hear were you're coming from with not feeling like it's deserved, but you should try and forget about that honestly. Even if that is the case you should still take take advantage of it regardless. You've got a good opportunity it sounds like. Also yeah I hate hippies too.
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>>18356700
who cares how you got in, think of how many people struggle their butts off to get there! take advantage of it for all of those who didn't get the opportunity to learn at a university like that!
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Today a guy pretending to be from the water company came by and tried to come in the house. He left a letter which is fake. I googled his name and nothing pops up. The number he left doesn't belong to the water company.
I asked my parents what they want to do about it and they said they'll just file a complaint.
I'm kind of pissed because that will do nothing and he'll get away. I don't see why I can set up an appointment for him to come over and the cops can wait for him and arrest him. I feel like even if they don't want to that I should take matters into my own hands.
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The police can't arrest him if he hasn't done anything illegal
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>>18356680
He's trying to enter people's houses impersonating someone he isn't.
I'm not worried so much about myself. I'll be fine, I'm just worried it'll happen to some old lady or a teenager who doesn't know any better
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>>18356674
Hes probably from the water company and you have no idea what you are talking about.
Furthermore theres literally nothing you can do until he does something. You can pretend to be whoever you want, just as long as you dont disrupt anything.