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are you stickles?

>>18367492
only in my dreams :'-(

>>18367488
I don't really get it. Do you not like being fat? Lift weights, add on a lot of lean muscle mass.

Literally every bodybuilder has an eating / image disorder but they're pretty healthy from having lots of lean mass I guess

What else?

An unreasonable lack of respect for women, maybe outright hate.

>>18366975
I was called mysoginist for being too anxious to trust women intimately lmao

>>18366951
If you have to ask...

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>I'm so sick of, "everyone's beautiful," bullshit. Not everyone is and I'm tired of being lied to.

Beauty is subjective though friend.

Idk if it is for you, but lifting (as in going to the gym) helped me both with liking my body more and caring what people think less. When you have shaped yourself through pain and investment, you can't help but to take pride in that.

>>18366932
>I'm an objectively ugly girl
>My boyfriend
Fuck off please.

>How does one go into the path of self acceptance WITHOUT constant lying?
By winning over cinism. I know that most of the time the optimist approach sounds like the most blissfully ignorant one, but that is not the truth.

As long as you are relatively clean and relatively healthy, you ARE going to match someone's idea of a 10/10. So don't be overly harsh on your boyfriend: unless you have hard proof he's settling just accept the fact he might just find you pretty - even if you're not what the majority might call pretty.

As for "accepting" your appearance, you have to put it in a way that is meaningful to you. Your appeareance does not define you; but those are just words if you do not belive them. Knowing it in your head without applying it doesn't help either.

>>18366877
Wishes have a funny way of becoming true if you do something here and there.

>>18366877
I'd wish that the nature of reality changed so that it can no longer accommodate the "humans" that call themselves humans in this world. It won't, though.

>>18366877
We told you to leave, OP.

Why do you come here if you don't want our advice? What's the point?

girls: would you rather if you dated a virgin guy or someone more experienced? talking about a lasting relationship

>>18366490
This one's a bit out there so bear with me.
I've been seeing this guy for a bit and he's coming to mine for the first time tomorrow.
I have a dog (my parent's dog really- everyone else is away) and she's not very well behaved. I'm worried that I'll look bad to him for this. How big a deal is this?
Just to clarify she's really well taken care of, two walks a day, all her vaccinations etc, house trained ofc. But she jumps up at people and sometimes barks for attention.

How come women say that dick size don't matter yet buy dildos that are 9x7"?

>>18366420

How do you think you gonna ruin it?

>>18366429
hes gonna lean in for a kiss and im going to freak out and avoid him for the rest of my life

its stupid but i just get so frightened

>>18366420
>have casual sex and feel miserable for the rest of your life
>save for marriage and feel the coarse warm motherhood
pick 1

>>18366312
I guess just avoid going down on her and you shouldn't really smell it.

>>18366316

It just happened when she spreads her butt, holy shit dude, that's so antisexual.

>>18366318
Did she wash her ass prior or what?

>>18366194

Chill for a second. Go to sleep, and try to relax. Go at it again with a clear head.

>>18366202
I. CAN. NOT. FUCKING. SLEEP. LIKE. THIS.

I CAN'T. FUCKING. CALM. DOWN.

THAT IS LITERALLY THE FUCKING PROBLEM THAT WE ARE HAVING HERE RIGHT NOW.

>>18366194

Realize that getting pissed off isn't making things any better, and in fact tends to make the situation worse, and escalating.

Calm the fuck down, figure out your situation, do something about it, don't punch more things/commit crimes because you're pissed.

Here's the things she cannot forgive me for:

1. I wasn't always there for her when she needed me in the past when we were seeing each other less often and I missed some important things. I apologized at the time and we continued to have a great relationship, I apologized again but she can't seem to move on from it.

2. That we didn't live together (we agreed to wait until she knows where she is going to med school, because I wanted to do it that way)

And with these factors, she simply does not understand how I am there for her now and can be with her every day when I wasn't doing so immediately. She tells me she was willing to do everything for me from day 1 where as I only slowly get more and more involved and now the last 4 months she feels like she's "worth it".

We had a discussion that she needs to move on from it and I need to feel more loved again, and that I will be very careful in not making those kind of mistakes again that have long lasting consequences on her. But at the end of the day shes still depressed.

I don't know what to do. We are both unhappy, her with her depression and how I treated her early on (she says the way I treat her now is great but that also makes her sad because she thinks it should have been like that all along), and I'm unhappy that she made me feel loved and wanted earlier on and the more I have done what she wants the less she seems to want me.

>>18366032
Sounds like a spoiled bitch. Thank god my GF isn't like that. Fuck her OP you haven't done anything wrong, she wants you as a lapdog and is using sex to mess with you.

>>18366050
Man it really hurts a lot to have 2 years of someone asking you to spend every day with you and then you do it for 3 months and she says everything is amazing and then bam shes so upset about the past that we see each other like once or twice a week now. She says she takes so many shifts at work because its the best thing for her depression.

Speaking about the sex messing with me, 2 nights ago night bro, she called me saying she loves me sooo much and misses me soo much and shes so damn horny. Last night when we could see each other, she was depressed as fuck and thats when we had this big sad convo (she texted me in the morning i feel like we're drifting apart)

she says the depression makes her moods change from hour to hour.

This is weird as fuk but tell me about your gf? What is it like not having these problems? I find myself day dreaming about how we used to be for the first year the honeymoon phase when things were just great

>>18365914
inb4 link to blog

no

>>18365914
>>18365915


it's all over google dude

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>>18365914

Oh look. You must be new.

25 isn't too late. Just go do it and don't be a fuck up like the youngins there.

I don't know. I'm planning to go to college and I'm 28. I don't care what the kids are doing. I'm there for myself and no one else.

>pic way more interesting than your post.

>>18365558
Don't ask to kiss a girl. There are some exceptions if you do it in the right way but if you're unsure and don't do it playfully then it will come across as weird. Typically if you're in a group find excuses to get her away from the other people. Spend time just talking with her and then offer to go explore or something dumb like that. If she's into it she will go along with it regardless of what you say as long as it isn't a horrible suggestion.

Get a group of your friends to go down where their at for a concert or whatever then invite them . Have a boat party and invite all them hoes . Lots of liquor

>>18365558
>I just don't know what to say since she lives 3 hours away. Any takes on that?

Probably not gonna work if she lives so far away.

>going for it or asking?

Neither. Get a feel of the mood by touching her (hugs, arms around her shoulders, touching her shoulders, light playful pushes, etc.). Then, if she is comfortable with you, you can go for the kiss. She might still say no, but at least you didn't jump out of the blue and ended up looking like an autist.

>What's the best way to get a girl by herself in a group setting?

Depends on the setting, the girl, the group, etc. Sometimes just saying "I'll go grab a beer" means she'll reply "I'll go to" and you get you alone time. There's no method here.

Dump her.

She's probably fucking other dick, and if she isn't she'll use whatever you do as an excuse to escalate to that

She could be just enjoying the attention. Just ignore it.
Still childish, also low self esteem. You really want that to raise your children ?

>>18365469
1. Realize what happened to you.
2. Assure yourself that it wasnt your fault.
3. Assure yourself that being it done to you doesnt mean you are inferior or damaged.
4. Find somebody who cares about your (friend, mom, anybody willing to liaten without criticizing you)
5. Talk to them about your problems and dont hide your feelings about it.
6. Wait a week.
7. Repeat process until it gets better.

Bonus step: eat ice cream / chocolade and learn how to forgive yourself for being weak and how to hope for better future.

>how is your life going
I can assure you that with a bit of luck, some endurance and hard work your life will only get better in time.

Yes take boxing classes MMA work out and when your ready bump into him somewhere and slap the shit out of him

>How to get over extreme bullying at younger age? Like physical and all up to age of 14. Still adhere most of my problems to that at 19. I can't view the world the same as everyone knowing how evil it can get. I don't even know how normal humans function at this point like all I've ever known was dysfunction.
>Anyone else here who was bullied? How did it affect you? How's your life going now?

I was bullied. Some 77% of students are bullied, you are far from alone. It hurt me but now it doesn't effect me at all. I'm a grown woman now.

You'll make lots of new experiences which will overwrite your old and shitty ones.

We put kids into a very artificial environment. Dumping them into a whole world made up of other kids and minimal adults. Personally I don't like it, and I don't even think its healthy at all but its the best system we have so we just roll with it. There's a reason why homeschooled kids end up doing better academically and having higher self-esteem (even if they get a reputation for being "weird" by other kids). Kids are infamously cruel and callous and jr high/early highschool in particular is when peer acceptance is everything. Most kids end up both bullying and being bullied. Bullying is how they establish their pecking order.

Some adults are the same way. There are abusive and bad people. But the vast majority of people grow out of it. They get out of the artificial all-kids environments, they mature, they gain perspective. You will too. Just keep living your life. If it helps, you can try talking to a therapist.

>>18365035
>I have been drinking for years to cope with all of the problems and it's part of the reason he stopped having feelings for me
huh

>>18365035
If he did all that shit to you before he cheated why the fuck did you invest your time of 10 years to him? Sure at first he might have not been a drugging and an abusing asshole but you did invest your time with him for too long.

>boyfriend of 10 years
>10 years