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>>18360741
If you live in some regions like Asia you are normal. Both guys and girls. Though people would expect you to marry and have first kid when you reach 28.

>>18360746
I don't live in Asia. I'm not so sure I'm normal either, even in Asia.

>>18360741
Why didn't you have one?

>>18360687
Lol fuck I'm 26 and feel like that already, was thinking of meeting a cool female and just asking to give birth to a son. Raise on my own I guess.

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>>18360695
>Raise on my own I guess.
This.
I want a kid to teach them how to hunt and build greenhouses.
t.hermit fag that can have a conversation.

How old OP?

Also life sucks for the most part. It's just a fact. You can attempt to run from it, hide from it, convince yourself otherwise etc but the fact is life sucks. Either you live in the wilderness and die, work full-time but feel burned out and jaded, or work part-time and be looked at as if you're a disgusting manchild. Personally I think not having children is a good thing, but if you do want children then age isn't a problem for men. Just dress in a conservative, kempt manner. Maintain a stable lifestyle. Exercise and be disciplined about what you eat. Then use a dating app / site or try and meet a woman who is ready to settle down.

Post a pic if you want more detailed feedback

>>18360461
This is why you don't get married without getting to know someone first.
Being drunk doesn't magically change people - these issues have been there
Marriage also will not magically change people

Honest answer? Abort. You dodged a bullet. Same advice I'd give to a man telling the same story (as it should be).

you must have been a piece of shit to him and he was gulping for long

i might blow up on my little princess gf aswell, sometimes shes just an ass

this is why I don't drink heavily even though I've always been either a friendly or somber drunk. it's just unpleasant to be anything other than buzzed imo. you either need to have a serious conversation with your guy or break up. frankly I'd suggest breaking up because you present the very valid point of future problems.

>>18360304

Why the fuck do you people do "let's call ___ bob" or whatever

Like if you say "Jessica" we know and call her up? Fuck

Anyway, ask her out. If she says no, at least you know. Standard shit man

Just tell her straight up how you feel. If there's any chance she has something for you, the more and more you drag it on, the more she'll lose interest

>>18360315
You're right about the name thing haha

But what if when I ask her out she says no and kind of ruins everything. Because we have the same circle if friends

all started when in the early months of when we started dating...I went on holiday with my family it was a very sudden holiday, unplanned and taking advantage of a cruise deal. Apparently he thought I would be off screwing - even though he knows me extremely well, and the reasons why I just cannot ever have sex with a person I'm not in a relationship with. Right after this is when I first caught him sending the inappropriate messages.


These girls were girls he wanted to get with before he met me and in one message he reminded one of the girls of how he wanted to be with her but he wasn't sure if she picked up his signals.

Now during all of this I had changed jobs, I went from a nice easy job to a well paid, high mileage, awful boss new job with a gap of a few months inbetween. However money was never an issue, I paid my rent in full and on time and lived on my own and was dating my BF. He took to living with me during this time and I never asked for any contribution or even thought about it. He brought it up in passing once but I didn't really pay it much attention.

He never gave me a solid reason for why the inappropiate messaging occurred but here are the two I remember:

"They were easy and they were there"
"His bi-polar made him do it"

I continued to ask him for a reason and he kept saying he didn't know, and he couldn't live with me asking so often. He yelled at me and eventually I relented.


So I felt not even second best, not even the sticker you get for trying. I felt so ugly. So I did a complete rehaul of myself. I was already the type to dress well and do my hair and makeup but it felt like it wasn't enough. I paid a professional to teach me to apply make up and everything about and in it . I threw out my clothes and bought new ones. I had to feel beautiful again somehow.

He promised to be better and make it up to me etc etc. He left that job and broke complete contact with those two girls. He changes jobs often and then it's apparent he no longer likes the field he's in and wishes to change. He gets a different job but finds the work tedious and is now unemployed and has been for quite some time.

During this time I am financially supporting us both and doing all the housework,under the guise that "things will get better when he has a job. " I have less disposable income so I feel stuck and bored.

To top everything off, my sex drive plummeted thoughout this..I thought something was medically wrong with me. My BF constantly berated me about not wanting to have sex . I couldn't figure out why, is it stress? Is it because I can't afford to go out and do enjoyable activities? Am I stifled? He blames me entirely for my now low libido and says I'm not attracted to him.

get rekt roastie

Not sustainable in the long run.
If you never see each other in person the relationship will die quickly, may last a bit longer if you actually see each other.

>>18360098
Pointless.

>>18360098
They work only when they're temporary situations

Link

>my ex gf is a whore
>i'm in love with her again

no you're not. you're just transitioning into becoming a full blown cuckold.

>>18359842
Not a cuck I plan on having an exclusive relationship with her

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XfkG_0hyIoc

>>18359626

maybe you could try offering to make replacement videos for them? Film the two of you fucking and suggest that it would be a better alternative to regular porn.

>>18359649
We havent had sex yet

>>18359459
Sorry, reposting because I arrived right at the end of the old thread.

Girls: There's a chance my gf and I might run into the guy that leaked nudes of her online at an event tomorrow (a guy she hasn't spoken to in half a decade but who was the only person who could have had those pics). She's telling me to just ignore him if we do, but I want to punch his teeth out or at least tell him I'm going to. How should I proceed?

I know nothing positive could come out of violence but I don't know what, if anything, I could do to not let his shit go unpunished. He caused a lot of stress and personal/family problems to my gf with his actions.

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Men:
Do you prefer really girly girls with 'feminine' interests and appearances?
I'm not like that at all, I believe the most accurate word would be gamine (like Twiggy in pic related, or Audrey Hepburn or something). I also don't really like 'girly' things like hair and makeup and craft etc. I prefer playing music, reading, sport, video games, etc.

Yes, I posted this in the other thread but it seems to be dying.

>>18359459
For guys, how big of a deal braker are kids? Would you ever date a girl who has children?

>>18358608

Nah. I'm a guy and quite honestly I have platonic feelings for a couple of my female attractive friends. Sure they are physically attractive but overall just not my type/not much in common but I enjoy their company. So no it's not fruitless but human nature dictates that men will want to breed you so expect lots of unwanted male attention from the autistic faglords you surround yourself with you fucking Hermione Harry potter looking wand waving fuck

PS: I'm an alcoholic

It's fruitless. Guys want to fuck girls. They are programmed to do so. Instead, learn to like being objectified, and turn it to your advantage.

>>18358619
You're a rarity. Weirdly, most addicts I've met have a broader perspective on life and are usually in the position they are because of some trauma. But you should probably try and stop.

I'm a little autistic myself so most days are usually filled with awkward encounters... Sometimes I'll stop talking randomly. They usually think I'm a bitch, but I actually just have high anxiety and am afraid of being judged.

I would want them to tell me the truth. That regardless of what anyone has to say or what society portrays, you aren't ready for a relationship. Whether you're not emotionally or fiscally there, whatever it is I'd understand.

Take these experiences as good instead of bad. The reaction you get is telling of how the relationship would go had you said yes.

Here's a simple answer: you loose all leverage you had (potential partner) so now you're seen as trash.

These people were obviously not your friends and just wanted to get in your pants.
>2017
>still believe a guy would be friends with a girl without having an ulterior motive

>>18356898
only if it's on a multitool. knives are extremely deadly even with one quick jab.

>Why
They're useful aside from self defense
>Why not
Shopping for the best one. And I want a little 2 inch one to hide in little pockets I sew at my cuffs for whatever my nails can't do.

>>18356898
Yeah, it's great.

Pros:
>can open any package/container
>can cut things that need cutting
>can sharpen pencils
>is generally very useful

Cons:
>might forget to leave it behind going through airport security
>occasional flipouts from urban numales who will be like "WHOA WHY DO YOU NEED A KNIFE" when you whip it out to use it for something that you need a knife for.

>>18356665
you had an online boyfriend. Which means the only way you knew about him cheating was him telling you. Why let one quasi relationship shape your image of all men?

>>18356665
You're sampling from the wrong places and it's creating that view. Saying someone's hot =/= cheating. Also people online talking about things don't make those things actions. I've said before I'd love to be an astronaut but if someone hears me say that it doesn't make me an astronaut.

In a 2006 paper Smith reported: “The best estimates are that about 3% to 4% of currently married people have a sexual partner besides their spouse in a given year and about 15% to 18% of ever-married people have had a sexual partner other than their spouse while married.”

>I hear men in public talking about how hot girls are when they already have a gf.
Do you expect them to pretend other women are ugly once they get in a relationship? As long as they're not rubbing their SOs nose in it I don't get the issue. Those are some 16 year old tier expectations.

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So you told her that you like being fucked in the ass and you're upset that she's treating you like you're gay?

You're retarded.

>>18355174
You could tell her that this kind of treatment emasculates you but isn't taking it up the ass also emasculating? Maybe just ask her to stop calling you a faggot.

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>>18355174
lmao, this has got to be bait

make a thread on /adv/ about how your girlfriend is great and wonderful and you love her but man you really just want to dump her and fuck bar sluts.

then, in 5 years come back and make a thread about how you dumped the only girl you ever really loved and you want her back but now she's a lesbian

>>18359683
Wow, except for the lesbian part, that's what happened with my ex boyfriend. I guess it's pretty common.

>>18359703
as in he left you for bar sluts or you left him etc?