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Pills are the easy way, mental training is the right way.

You can train yourself and your brain out of a depression but it takes time and willpower.

Of course pills bring side effects, that's the negative side.

>>18351566
just fuck off m8

>>18351541

As always when comes to meds, talk to your doctor. Just tell him that there is tendency to addictions in family and he will take that into account when making decision if it's safe to prescribe you pills.

I'm on antidepressants over a year now, and together with psychotherapy drugs helped me to change lots of things in my life. Medicines may not necessarily fix you, but surely they will give you strength to work on your life and yourself.

>>18350436
Don't be a faggot and tattle tale. Word will get out and no one would trust you. Nobody likes a rat.

Why would you be a snitch for?

It's not your choice just because you don't like it. Put it back and shut up unless you want people throwing your things out every time they don't like it.

>>18354806
so basically you're an unlikable faggot who doesn't like other people for no good reason at all, but you want other people to like you for no good reason at all.

You sound like a bitch.

>>18354811
>so basically
no, basically you just misread my whole post


Also, I don't like other people for their beliefs and opinions. how's that not the only legit reason to dislike anyone lol

>>18354816
How do you know who they are if you don't get to know them? You're judging them superficially.

Are you in philly?

Have you been in a relationship before? Man or woman?

>>18354257
no

>>18354267
I have been in two relationships, one female (psychotic and terrifying) and two males (separate occasions, both violent, screaming ragebeasts)

don't text anymore if she doesn't write back that's an message in itself.

>>18353630

Never more than one text.

Move on.

>>18353630
The date evidently didn't go as well for her as for you.

Back off. See how she reacts the next time you run into her. If she apologizes and is enthusiastic, maybe you just caught her on a bad day. But it is more likely that she thinks she's letting you down gently by blanking you, so be prepared to move on.

>>18353618

Don't say shit and lawyer up, you fucking scumbag.

>>18353629
This

The college will drag you through the fucking dirt, there's no stoping that. Just make sure they can't hold it against you outside it,

genuine question:
if you can't be held accountable for consent when you're drunk on account of your impaired decision making, how can you be held accountable for fingering somebody?

>>18353330

>I'm almost 25 and maybe the culture has left me behind but I don't understand this non-committal culture that's so prevalent nowadays.

Culture isn't doing anything to you. Girls don't like you because you suck. Own up to your inadequacies and stop looking for a scapegoat to pin your failures on.

>>18353342
>Girls don't like you because you suck.
You know what? You could be absolutely right, and I could suck but how does that address anything I just brought up? It's not like I can't get a date, I can, I just have trouble figuring out what happens after which is what I'm asking for help on.

>inadequacies
Everyone has inadequacies

>>18353352

>Everyone has inadequacies

Are you owning up to yours?

Don't "follow up" - when you leave your soft music place, tell them to call you, and that you won't text or call them (say this with a smile). Ball is in their court, no anxiety for you.

If you can't figure out how to reply in an interesting manner (maybe reply with a question)? then maybe you do have some conversational issues.

> sometimes a girl will text me out of the blue asking me mundane boring question
>this just pisses me off to no end, I have no problem with small talk but if you're gonna try and talk to someone then do it with purpose

I somehow doubt you are a scintillating font of amazing conversation - if so, accept that your standards are keeping you forever alone.

More likely you're an insecure and entitled nerd. Relax and learn how to make better conversation, and don't worry about "double texting" - just make changes to where you don't do that.

You've started a journey.

Don't go back to psychedelics for your answers. Let the universe be your guide.

I believe every person who tripped will relate. What is it that you discovered? Im sure we experienced that before.

I don't think I can exactly convey the things that I learned with words, but it seems to me like there is no distinction between myself and the world.

also on a personal level, it seems like there is a place where all of my experiences are completely connected and make sense, in a weird kind of "everything is what it is not and it is funny"... idk XD

Lol if this isnt bait then this is gold.

Fuck off and die in the gutter.

>>18353052
shut the fuck up I'm sick of you virgins you don't even have a life I'm in the real world this is serious I need a girl's advice or a lawyer he pays for my tuition how am I supposed to get a degree now??

Good, you should kill yourself while you are at it cheating scum.

Philosophy? Try to find a job you would like to have and see what it takes to get there. Or at least get a good paying job !!!!

>>18352886
I just don't know what i'd enjoy doing. I do genuinely enjoy the subject matter but it doesn't directly translate over into any particular job.

>>18352896
Have you thought about being a professor anon? I'm an Islamic studies major and am aiming to be a professor. For a lot of majors like philosophy, you can go straight into a Doctorate program without a Masters, as long as your GPA in major is good and you have some papers under your belt. Plus, Doctorate programs ae paid in full, with some extra if you work as a TA while you're there. Also, perhaps look at double majoring as a backup plan? If that hope fails, at least you can stay out of working a wagecuck job.

Stop trying to be what you imagine the girls wanting in a man, and be enough of what you are, at your best, for them to discover what they never realized they wanted. In other words, show them something they might've missed out on in other
guys they've dated.

The list is kind of obvious when you change your mind about what women want. Protip: they pretty much want the same as men do - assertiveness, attraction-building, tender loving care, sex, humor, honesty/sincerity, positive body language, touching, a good listener, outcome-independence

Leave whatever reasons you think you got for bringing your depression into this, let go of your worries when you're with a woman - she isn't asking for it - and deal with your depression as a separate part of your life. Seduction is an art form when done right, and from what little you're telling, I suspect you might come off as an anti-seducer.

Dude, you got hundreds of matches. I've been doing tinder for three years, only got 70 matches, and only met six or seven women in that time - but atm I'm into six months of dating a girl I matched with in November, and she pretty much loves me. Two years ago I was depressed, and would scare women away in no time. Become the change you want to see. Hundreds of matches shouldn't go to waste, and you deserve to stop hurting inside.

Look up videos on YouTube on letting go (sedona), how to hold a conversation like a man and mistakes intelligent guys do with women, word for word

>>18352761
Stop acting and being like what girls say they want and act more and be like what you observe girls actually wanting. That said, I hate PUA shit but that's pretty much the foundation it's built on, with layers of insecurity on both sides. From your self description, you're wayyyy too inside your own head. Live a bit more superficially and you can learn to appreciate things at the surface level.

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>wants to be what girls want
>gets tons of tinder matches
Go fuck yourself OP. These tinder bitches swipe right on me

Starting this off with a dumb question:

To males:
How would you feel if the person you texted used emojis in all of their texts? Would you think they were flirting, retarded, expressive, etc.? How do you feel on yourself using emojis?

I'm asking because I tend to use an excessive amount of emojis to express my emotions in texts (to lighten up conversations and not seem as serious mostly) but I read online that it could be seen as an act of flirting. The person that I'm currently texting also does not use them at all, which would definitely make me seem like I am flirting with him. I also have a few other males friends that don't use emojis at all, and if they do it's very rare.

>>18352210
Try using ascii emojis

>>18352210
I'd find it cute, just that. If you use those kiss and heart emojis, then you might send the wrong message.
I use emojis, because that's just how I am. :)

don't inter breed. the children are fucking ugly. interracial marriages and children are wrong. black leaders like MLK and Malcom X believed this

>I believe that my soulmate is white.

Why do you believe this?

>>18351824
there are ugly and not ugly members of every race/ combo. But definitely less so in mixed race people as they're less inbred.

Because then you will never have any chance at ever doing anything ever again.

No matter how bad things may seem, they can get better, but you have to make an effort to make things better instead of just waiting for things to get better.

I've been in a similar situation before, and it's then I found that in order to have a happy life you need to focus on the things you like and explore those instead of wasting your time on things you hate.

You still have a lot to experience in life, and to throw that all away would be a waste, even if it may not seem so you can still achieve happiness, but you gotta work toward it

>>18351688
i just feel like i'm a walking disaster. Wherever i go whomever i meed I'll spread misfortune and misery to. Therefore it would be better for me to not exist; to alleviate a great source of pain from everyone's lives would be the greatest thing I would or could have ever done.

I've decided to just see through tomorrow to the end and then I'll decide. But I already have a feeling tomorrow wont bring any change and in reality im just afraid to die.
Sayonara

Tide, Febreze / scentless if possible.

>>18351103
Is Tide Botanical Rain less intensely scented than regular Tide?

>>18351115
I'd say it's more cloying.