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Hello /adv/,

I'm in need of advice. I'm a 21 year old guy, and I've been a NEET ever since I graduated from high school ( The reason is because I felt like complete fucking shit due to all the stuff I had to endure for so many years).

I'm fucking tired of doing the same thing every single day so I'm trying to change. I'm currently looking for a part time job and looking into going back to school, which leads me into the main reason why I made this thread.

Should I apply for University, or should I consider other options like Community college and Trade school?

On one hand, going to uni will allow me to study the ONLY thing that interests me, which is computer science (programming, software development, etc). But the thing is that its expensive as hell. It will cost me about $13,000 per year.

On the other hand, going to CC/Trade school will be significantly cheaper, but nothing that they have to offer really interests me, though I'm willing to bite the bullet and just study something that is in demand in my city.

What would you guys suggest that I do? I'm very confused and need to decide where to go asap. Any input will be greatly appreciated. Thank you all in advance.

Also I wont be able to reply right now since its late and I need to sleep, though I will try to respond to messages tomorrow.

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I want to take abusing my conscience to an extreme and become a complete derelict with 0 standards. I was dog shit at being a virtuous person and all it's done is cause me pain and make people think I am a hypocrite. It's gotten out of hand. I can't afford to be a full blown drug addict and don't want to steal from people, just desperately want to feel better and don't really care how it would be poetic justice considering I looked down on people before. I want to stop caring about that shit and just seek meaningless creature comforts that slowly kill me. I know how retarded it sounds but I don't think I can keep pretending to be okay.

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>apply for all the fast food jobs in town
>none of them wanna hire me
Where do I go from here? How in the world am I supposed to get a job

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Is it worrying that I'm not concerned about pursuing a career anymore?
I studied graphic design for 2+ years and dropped out a couple of months after I got my first job. This year I switched to CS and just abandoned at the sight of the first obstacle (I was lacking the time to do my math homework, kek)
Above all, I lack motivation. I can't see how this effort is going to pay off. I don't mind studying if I had the rest of the day for myself. But studying+working feels like being dead inside. I feel some guilt because uni is 100% free in my country.

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Autist here.
So, a year has past in college and oh boy. I literally haven't made any friends besides getting cozy with my roomies. Ouch.

>really bad body image issues, might(?) be justified
>feeds into social anxiety, so I feel tense when out
>think I might come off like a bitch to most people, get asked "what's wrong?!" a lot
>am pretty monotone. Not always - sometimes I break it to make a joke or something, but nothing more than that
>during talk with therapist: "I'm afraid that I come off as...intimidating" and she went "really? You seem more...distant more than anything"
>admire passionate, spontaneous people--they inspire me, fill me with life. I wanna be like them
>tfw don't know if I have that in me, am emotionally stifled
>only display full spectrum of human emotion and am passionate (also happy, which is rare) when drunk

There's one moment that really made me realize how much of an awful human being I am (with or without my insecurities)...
One of the rare times I was out, I sat down at the student cafe and this wonderful cute girl actually asked to sit next to me despite there being plenty of open tables. And then I went ahead with my assignment like some sort of worker drone while she attempted to chat with me...
...I got up and heard the saddest "well, see you..." while I basically assumed that she wasn't interested in being my friend and was just talking for formality's sake. Usually I realize my blunders hours after the point--like a shower thought; "oh, shit. I am a monster." And for whatever reason, this regret has stuck with me the longest.

So. Yeah. I can feel as if I'm being "scorned" by the public, but as you can see I FUCKED up when I could have made a friend.
Always bought into the "personality being the most important" thing, trust me. Yet here I am. Unable to be myself (aside from a childhood best friend who's no longer with me)...and, to hell with it all, I don't even know who I am anymore.

So, guys, what should I do?

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Do girls care if you're visibly nervous when you ask them out for there number or on a date? Does it bother them if you're red in the face and stammering?
>a-asking for a friend...

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Her parents doesn't believe in a relationship where two people can live with each other unless they are married. I am in US and she is in Asia.

I like her. She reminds me of my Mom, has the same middle name as my mom, will be getting her Masters degree in Business Law, fluent in English, Chinese, Vietnamese and Korean. She comes from a wealthy family in Asia and the only way for her to get permanent residence is for me to marry her.

She resides in Europe (studying masters) and we FaceTime before work and after work. 3 hours a day if talking and I visited her abd stayed with her for 8 days and will be visiting her parents soon in 3 weeks. (Going to Asia) for 2 weeks.

I am 26, she is 25. I have a job steady tech earning 65k with no debts. Also working on a side business. I am active in my community as well and do get invites to city sponsored dinners and can definitely pass her resume around so she can score some type of career relating to her study. Her parents are loaded and they can sell a piece of land they have for her to have money to buy a home in US when we marry.

My question is, what are things I should worry about? Me? I been around the world and been around lots of women and I'm finally starting to settle down. She never had a bf before and When we went Facebook official (bf and gf) all of her friends liked and commented the status. 160 comments and 220 likes. I was thrilled too. She's good and I think she could be too good for me and that can't be a bad thing. I want to marry her. Anything I should worry? Looking forward to meet her parents soon.

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I started dating a girl at my old job, we had been dating for about a month, we fucked around a bit but not a whole lot, and then after I quit, about 2 days after I get texts from my friends who still work there telling me she's making out with some other nigger out in the parking lot, I called off the relationship and of course she had a whole bunch of bullshit to spew, haven't spoken to her since, now two weeks later she's "sorry" and wants me back, what do.

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>21 years old
>Have come to acknowledge that I'm very ignorant
>Can't see a reason to live in this world and have a job
>People are always very extreme to me
>Entire existence is contained in the span of 8 hours that I can't bear to be awake through
>Don't believe there's a job in the world that I can like, let alone tolerate

I wish life could be different, but it can't possibly be so.

I think I'll just wait for my mom to be gone, and then I'll see if I can commit suicide.

I've never had a girlfriend before, but I don't think getting one will make-up for the rest of the pain I go through in my life.

Does anyone know what I should do?

In the life that I currently live, I don't see a reason to continue it aside from trying to play video games. I wish I could stay in front of computer monitor 24/7 as I have for the past 1/2 year, but I'll never get the chance to do that.

A part of me resents my father for bringing me into this world. He claims to be a Christian man, but I've never caught him reading a bible.

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I am at a point in my life where I want to finally further my education and am done slacking off. I have always been completely fascinated with computers. I know a little HTML but nothing more. I am headstrong about making this my career choice and want to start schooling for it. What degrees would be needed/helpful to have in this field? Is there a legit online school I can do to achieve this? I also need my highschool diploma and have found a school called Penn Foster online that claims to let you actually get your HS diploma online as well as "pretrain" you with the field you plan to go to school for, ie., IT. Is this school any good? Where should I start? I have never been more sure of anything that I wanted to do in my life. Any advice you can give me to get started in the right direction would be very much appreciated. TIA!

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6 months had pass, and i cant get over my last girlfriend
>Still wake up every morning thinking about her first
>say her name when i am alone
>say her name when my mind its free of distractions
>dumped all i had of her, still not enought
>had tried date somwant new, havent worked so far

I tired of have this demon over my back, any advice?
(sorry for my broken english)

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Hello /adv/

Wednesday morning my father died from an unexpected heart attack at 50 years of age. It has shocked our family. He didn't smoke, barely drank, was moderately fit but his body just gave up.

I come here asking you glorious bastards if you have experienced similar situations as this and how you coped with it. Hearing other peoples experiences may help me.

RIP Dad

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FUCK

I cheated on my girlfriend with a girl I met at a Jazz Festival. I offered to drive her home and when we got close to her house, she told me to pull in to the park near her house. We ended up making out in the back seat of my car.

I cant tell my girlfriend, she's super sensitive, and if i tell her she'll never be able to trust anyone ever again. we've been together for a year and a half now but recently I began to get bored which most likely contributed to what I did. How can I live with myself and how should I navigate this situation?

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Hey I'm a gay dwarf and I find it really hard dating other guys.
What can I do?
>pic related

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Going to spend 4 weeks in America and was thinking about working to do something productive with my time.

Basically need some advice. What jobs to look for, how much should i expect, etc.