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How do you process your emotions 2017-06-16 02:53:42 Post No.18422731
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How do you process your emotions
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2017-06-16 02:53:42
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I want to know how you guys who can deal with and process your emotions without reacting outlandishly (but also not supressing yourself to the point of which it eats away at you);do it. How do you truly let go of past situations and current resentment towards others; how do you manage that feeling where it seems like you'll always be at the bottom and people will continually treat you as less then.
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>>18422731
Part of growing up. When i was a teen i would repress shit and ended blowing up (punched holes in walls, threw a rake thru the garage door). Even had a fistfight with this dude cuz he would just speed past me in the neighborhood. I just speed up next to him and held down the horn like a badass.
Now I just know nothing is perfect and dont let my emotions get to me. I professionally hold my emotions and even teach autistic kids and yelling at them does no help at all.
Tldr: Part of maturing.
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A normal human can only worry up to 7 problems at the same time and as you get older more and more problems will pops up. Then only the immediate problems will be your main concern; that horrible memory of you getting bullied during a lunch break will be a distant memory since your landlord is a far bigger asshole.
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>>18422757
I thought holding in you emotions was not the best thing to do.
Don't you need to let them process though and out of you?
How do you build that "immunity", so to speak?
I've only used a urinal once when I was a child so I don't know how to do it right. There might be a time where every stall's occupied and I'm forced to use a urinal.
Do I hold my penis? Do I even touch it? Do I pull my pants down or do I unzip them and poke it through my underwear penis hole thing? Do I have to be semi-erect or completely flaccid?
Please feel free to tell me any other things about it
I'm not joking, I'm just socially crippled
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>>18422513
You already posted the how to guide
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normally I just go in the sink
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>>18422513
what the actual fuck? do you sit down to piss every single time? i don't understand how you could ruminate this intensely about something as simple as pissing into a giant hole in the wall
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tl;dr how do I get the hate machine out of my head?
4chan and media have ruined me.
Now, I realize this. I've been a shit beta orbiter in highschool, the girl did me a favor and crushed me. Life picked up since then and I even have a hot gf in my life.
However, I hate and distrust women so much that it is affecting our relationship on a real level. Since I decided to get my shit together I don't spew chan shit in public anymore for attention. I control and censor myself in almost every aspect of it. However, this thing with women has been ingrained on a subconscious level and I am doing it subconsciously to my gf. Main problem is the trust issues, I just can't bring myself to trust her. I want to, nobody deserves to be scrutinized and controlled and she is a standup, trustworthy person. The other is just defaulting into a mindset where she does something stupid and I attribute it to her being a woman, get mad at her for being a woman and then we fight.
How do I get it out of my head?
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Ever heard the tales about Chad Chadson?
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>>18422454
fuck you m8
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Fuck you nigga, you wouldn't have made a good Chad, anyways.
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Complicated Friendzone 2017-06-15 11:36:08 Post No.18422349
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>be me 19yr
>have a 17yr friend from school for almost a year
>Month ago she broke up with her boyfriend
>they were together for almost 3 years
>a lot of mental health problems
>relationship based on helping with problems
>i helped her with breaking up
>6 days after that we fucked
>i fall in love with her
>she said it was just sex
>constantly saying that she love me but in the same sentance she can say that we have no emotional relation
>she dont want to be in any relationship with anyone just want to have fun and fuck guys and girls
>we spend 10hours a day talking on a phone or hanging out with each other
>few times heard that we gonna get married in our 40's couse we are a perfect match
i have no idea what i should do to get her emotionally closer to me. And what she really thinks about me. Should i just be close to her and wait till the end of this fun phase?
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>>18422349
No you should stop giving her you undivided attention, if you want her romantically it will just hurt you more and more because all women go through this phase.
Look for other girls, tell her you don't want to be one other fuck buddies. If she likes you then she will cave, if not then you have to move on.
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>>18422349
You're essentially her bitch at this point. It sounds to me like you're simply a piece of entertainment she uses when bored and convenient, put some distance between her act less and less interested and if she drops you at that point then she wasn't worth it but if she pursues you then you should try. Don't be a beta either, tell her you ain't going to be close to her while she is rooting random guys like a slut, you need to be the alpha male.
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>>18422349
Was it her that had the mental health problems? Ask her what they were. Some of them affect relationships pretty badly
>ex cheated on me
>lied all the time
>still have some nudes
i haven't decided if I should post them yet
When we were together she told me about her abusive relationships and all that shit...
Why I would feel bad if I posted them:
>i would just be another fucked up ex
>i somewhat still care for her wellbeing
>`she just has a lot of issues with herself and it would be fucked up to add to them
Why I would feel good after posting them:
>she cheated on me with a friend and lied about it
>she was driving my car when it broke down and did not call me when I had insurence. When I got back to my car it was fucked, still not fixed btw, and she very well could have paid for damages...she is very priviledged. Whenever I tried to talk to her about my car she would victimize herself or try to change the subject with sex
>I probs have an std from her but haven't gotten checked so idk
>she hasn't apologized for anything she has done to me, probs still in denial bc she lies to herself all of the time
>she is fake as fuck
>she is a cunt
someone help me with my decide.. its been months since I have talked to her and I cant figure out if I hate her a lot or if I just feel bad for her because she is such a hot mess...
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So did your friend lie about it too? What are your big revenge plans for him?
Go get yourself an STD screening, forget about posting nudes. The best think you could do is be happy (STD free) and enjoy life without her. Congrats on ending a shitty relationship. She'll crash and burn on her own.
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>>18422130
She can sue you for posting revenge porn and it will fuck you up even further and once again she'll be the one who wins and you'll be the poor cuck.
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>>18422150
He did and trust man, I got big fucking plans for that kid.
That's true, I feel better without her in my life
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I've had several nightmares about my parents raping me. It's never both at the same time, it's either my father (the most common) or my mother, and I always think in the dream wether I should tell the other or keep it a secret.
I always feel terrible and then I wake up feeling totally disturbed and disgusted.
I was wondering what this could mean, and how do I stop having this nightmare recurringly.
More info: I'm a woman, 24 years old, was molested by an older cousin when I was seven, but my parents never touched a hair on my head.
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>>18422122
>how do I stop getting raped my my parents in my dreams
I mean geez, what advice can possibly help you there? Go see a psychiatrist and talk things through. Or an exorcist. Shit is straight up devilry.
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Do you actually want to fuck your dad?
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>>18422129
:( well
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Not even a little bit. Sometimes when we're alone, especially when my mother goes on a trip and we're alone for several days, I'm afraid he'll do something to me. But it makes no sense, he's never abused me, he definetely has never raped me.
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How does a man erase his desires for romantic love and affection? I would like the stress to go away.
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>>18422024
Same here dude.
I guess the best answer would be to just fake and realize that 'love' is just a feeling you get do to your hormones.
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>>18422024
2 Options:
1.You cut communication with this person, you ignore them all over social media, meet new people.
2.You can try to realize you can love without "wanting". This is, loving (caring, asking, hanging out, everything pretty much) without expecting something in return (which in this case is affection, not love), and you can keep yourself with that. This is the best option, will make you a true succesfull person, but it is hard to do.
But hey, as hard as it is, it truly means its worth it.
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>>18422354
I don't mean desires for a specific person, but rather for romantic love itself. I haven't had the "oneitis" feeling in years, so it's no real problem for me
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How can I improve my life? I'm sick of everything and really want to die please help
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>>18421996
how are we supposed to tell you how to improve your life if you dont tell us whats wrong with it?
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>>18421996
What aren't you satisfied with? Put some BBQ sauce on that bitch and go to flavortown, guy.
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>>18421996
>sick of everything
Then we can't improve it, you already dislike everything. It also might help if you described your life so there's something we could say needs improved.
If there's anything that needs to be stickied on /adv/, it's that people need to actually describe their problem and the factors behind it instead of saying "I need help wat do"
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I'm at my wit's end
My wi-fi works on my phone but on my laptop it's slower than frozen molasses
It's even at full bars
No connection issues
There should not be a problem
This thing's only like two years old goddamnit
Should I just take the thing to Best Buy or what
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Have you tried it with a different laptop?
Perhaps yours is bloated with botnet malwares datamining your web searches.
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>>18421903
No. But the only tablet in the house is apparently experiencing similar problems.
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>>18421903
And now it seems that it's slow on ALL devices
Fun
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Why do I feel good looking when I start at a mirror. But feel ugly when I take a picture.
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Called not being photogenic. I refuse pictures because of it, though I'm a guys looking guy.
Such is life.
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You are used to looking at yourself in mirror, which flips your image. A photo shows what you actually look like. Flip the photo and you'll like it
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>>18421839
Not being photogenic is symptomatic of less than optimal development. Well developed faces always photograph well.
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Advice to Younger You 2017-06-15 08:53:24 Post No.18421814
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What would you tell yourself if you could talk to a 5 years younger version of yourself with your wisdom now?
State your age and gender and I'll try give and categorise it a bit to keep it on point!
Age: 24
Sex: Male
EDUCATION: Take a year out. You're a total retard, and should not go to University yet you indecisive fuck.
LOVE: You were right. You did need to break up with "the one" to meet new people and explore life properly. BUT you should have made it a cleaner break and you should have kept in touch. Love doesn't come by often.
CAREER: Network more. Network all the god damn time.
FAMILY/FRIENDS: Be nicer to your parents. The years go by quick and you can suddenly discover you've never even gone for a beer with dad.
Add more categories if you think of them. Hopefully we can all learn a bit from each other!
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22 y/o female.
Education: you're doing fine, dw.
Love: it's all good in the hood girl, but teach him to give good cunnilingus.
Career: well the shop is a nice place to work and long term dw it'll all come together bbz
Family/friends: don't even try with your sister, she's unbearable. Don't sleep with friends if you want to keep the friendship.
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> 5 years ago
everything I own into bitcoin
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23/f
Love: Don't date any fishy guys and never while taking anti-depressants. Don't trust a man fully on what he says even if it's been years.
Family/friends: Spend more time with your dad, he won't stay for long
General life: Don't take drugs, have higher standards for people and forget everything this society has taught you. Sex is meaningless.
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How do i stop being a flaming fag 2017-06-15 08:51:35 Post No.18421806
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How do i stop being a flaming fag
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How do i stop being a flaming fag? I think I am one and just feel ashamed. I even had the limp wrists and lisp up until a few years ago. I mean, i do a lot of really faggy sex stuff thats... Womanly, feel ashamed about that a little. My voice is kinda gay too.
Even my body is really non masculine and just skinny with no body hair. I just feel like a failure. What do I even do? Should i stop shaving my legs to start?
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>Should i stop shaving my legs to start
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>>18421815
hows it bait im legitimately asking..
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Well, are you actually gay or not?
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I have decided to leave my wife 2017-06-15 06:59:41 Post No.18421492
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I have decided to leave my wife
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So after careful deliberation, I've decided to leave my wife of 3 years. I am yet to file for divorce but I've made up my mind and left the house. The only thing is that she doesn't want things to end. How should I approach everything?
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I think it would be best if you gave us more background info op.
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>>18421492
>3 years
Amateur hour over here.
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>>18421492
I think you need to reconsider your conclusions. Re-evaluate things.
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I'm at a loss.
Do I break up with a girlfriend of 6 years because she wants to buy a house, or do I deal with it and live paycheck to paycheck while I continue to work at walmart and do nothing with myself?
If I break up with her, my plan is to move back in with my parents, continue to work full time for a year to gain monies, then drop to part time and focus on getting my life together and become a career-oriented person?
I'm 32 btw.
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Do you guys have kids? Why are you with her if you don't have the same goals?
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6 years? How are you at a loss? That's one of the best investments you can make.
Buy a house with her, m8. You'll regret it for life if you don't. Seriously.
no, no.... seriously
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You're 32 and you want to start over? That ship had sailed friend. If you're the type of person that works at Walmart at 32, what makes you think you're going to become career oriented. Be grateful you have a girl that wants to live with you.
My only advice is to make sure your name is on everything that you find important i.e. the house.
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Alright, so basically I am married and live with my wife and her mom. Her mom by all means isn't the prettiest of women, and her body isn't very attractive either. A few years ago, I was really horny and for some reason wondered what her panties smelled like, since I loved smelling my wife's. I snuck into her private bathroom and found a pair in her dirty laundry pile. Now, like I mentioned before, I was really horny and was super aroused by the thought of doing something this sneaky and wondering what they smelled like. Surprisingly they smelled similar to my wife's, and I was hooked. I've done it quite a few times since then, and I've always felt bad about it. It's like this force goes through me when I'm super horny and I can't think straight, but once I've relieved myself, I feel nothing but guilt. It's almost as if I've become addicted to it. This eventually led me to use an old phone and set it up somewhere in her room so that I could spy a bit on her. It worked, and I became addicted to trying to film her more and more. Like I mentioned though, I always feel guilty afterwards. I've told my wife about this as well, and she was quite upset at what I've done, but is trying to help me to stop. I don't know what to do to completely stop and I can't stop thinking these perverse thoughts of mine. I guess what I'm asking is advice on what to do and how I could just stop this altogether. I have a shitty job, so going to a psychiatrist is out of the equation. I just want to live a happy normal life with my wife, free of these thoughts. I'm very happy with my wife as well, so it's not a problem that I have with her either.
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That is too funny. I have no idea what to tell you other than to stop. Move your wife and yourself out of there or move your in law out.
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>>18421353
I wish we had the money to move, and she'll probably never leave.
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whats your porn usage like OP?