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Nothing. Let the emotions ride out.

>>18419764
Fuck her best friend obviously.

>>18419764
Yeah, this is all a you issue, write a letter to them on paper telling them all about how it makes you feel, then bury it or burn it.
That'll make you feel better.

tell him to wait til you can ditch your boyfriend

>>18419740
If that's what you really want then OK. But don't be a fucking coward. I don't care how shitty your relationship is with your boyfriend. If you wanna be a whore then be an honest whore. Make one allowance for your moral code and more will follow.

What you should really do is have a conversation with your boyfriend. A relationship based on a lease isn't a real relationship. Fix it or end it.

If that isn't up your alley, you can let your kinks go wild and rack up some money in the meantime. I don't recommend this because you will eventually destroy your boyfriend and it will probably end badly.

If you're going to go for the money, make sure he's serious about the payments BEFORE you give him anything.

You could always just dump your boyfriend and then go be a sub.

>>18419678
Can always just try to grow your own if you can't find somebody who sells

>>18419678

It's fine dude. If the guy is young he won't care. Our generation doesn't think so much about what's perceived as "rude." Just be nice with the way you ask. I'd say just text.

Hi, I sell drugs to older dudes at work.

Are you comfortable bringing this up at the workplace? I know a lot of people get weirded out by that, but I find it's easier to facilitate first time deals in person. Do you know this guy can get mushrooms? Or just suspect it?

I was going to make a joke about just selling them to you myself, but then I got thinking. I've come across people I know here many times over the years. You don't happen to live in New Hampshire, do you?

>>18419653
What airline?

>>18419653
Don't know. Be polite to your rowmates. Try to keep trips to the bathroom at a minimum unless you have to. Also, don't fall out of the sky

>>18419653
1. Board plane.
2. Sit down
3. Read book or watch movie.
4. Get off.

>>18419620
Write a letter telling all your feeling about those situations and burn them. Make sure you get all of it down and be honest about it.

you can't really stop thinking about them. just accept them. >>18419632 this can help you accept them.

You will create cringe moments your entire life. Like literally everyone human being. They're laughable lessons learned. Joke about yourself.

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Always remember that there will be happy days in your life, no matter who you are. Right now I am struggling with some stuff too, talking with my mom about it really helped me out. Talk with someone that is close to you, talk with us about it; just vent. I feel that your problems cannot be answered by one post in the internet, you gotta look in yourself; how your life is and where you're heading and how you can improve on it. My advice is to take some time in reflection, hope you feel better.

>>18419652
Thanks anon.

I don't really have a close person to talk about my problems. I do go to a therapist but it's not much help. She just tells me to calm down or generic things that are easier said than done. I don't know where I'm headed. The only way to improve this would be getting a diploma and even that has gone wrong already. I have ADD and I suck at school so it would be setting myself up for failure. Not to mention that how am I supposed to study and get good grades when my dayjob drains me.of every little ounce of energy and spirit I can have. No other places have called back in a year. I'm also in debt for failing the first time I tried college. I don't know what to tell myself to feel better because the only thing I have going for me is being alive and even that feels awful right now.

>>18419686
not him but I feel you anon. I was going to suggest adderal to help with motivation, but seeing as you've got legit ADD that's probably not enough.

I'm in very similar situation to you (depression, no friends or girlfriend and no motivation beyond working for shitty wage). Maybe what we need in our lives is a radical change or something, because I can't figure this out myself. Sorry anon. The only advice I can offer is if you haven't already, take up running 3+ times a week. This is what got me ready to be able to work, before I didn't even have the motivation for that because life seemed pointless.

>>18419545
>non-sexual spooning
you what?

>>18419545
why are you using the third person plural pronoun, you twat?

were there multipke partners involved?

quit the 46 gender bullshit and spit out : are you a man or a fucking woman, and what does the other party have between "its" legs - you ought to know by now.

Well it was just a cuddle in bed basically. Nothing sexual.

>>18419365
Sex with girls you barely know is more of a foreplay kind of thing, it doesn't just rely on penetracion.
Be more rough, bite, grab, pull.

Can't you just rub their clit or eat them out?

>>18419407

Yes, but it doesn't work. I feel like I'm doing a decent enough job too...

Get some good footage of it in action, it sounds like the odds are a bit stacked against you.

1. find people who will be your witness
2. get a lawyer
3. sue

All of the above.

I'd get concrete proof, call the news station, and then look for a lawyer, and finally speak to the admin.

Before you consider the news, though, consider figuring out if they can omit the kid's name. He could be more embarrassed. But there are lawyers who deal with this and whatever the settlement, it'll be a good college fund.

>>18419299

is it really a betrayal?

is your friend making a LOT or is he struggling along with you?

either way its not betrayal to go make more money. especially not if hes making great money and wont share.

you will probably lose a friend but you have to take care of your self in life.

>>18419308
Knowing him, he's going to most likely be seriously pissed off. He is making a significant amount more. Enough for me to scratch my head. I agree. I feel like if he really gives a shit about me, he would understand and get some other schmuck to do my work while sending me a thumbs up but I don't see that happening. This bums me out but I have to follow my ambitions. This is tough.

>>18419327
Sure it's tough but you know it's the right decision. Anyone who would call themselves your friend would truly understand wanting improvement.

>>18419228
>should I just go to a therapist?
If the therapist is good, and you are truly receptive, this is one of the proven methods

>it feels like the chance at being normal is getting smaller every year
in a very general sense, it is

>confidence
>respect of other people
>interests
>lack of insecurity

Gaining interests and losing insecurity is hard for a person who is depressed, and living in today's crazy world, but all of these things are just ways of being. You can start being more like this right now.

>>18419228
Literally none of that matters if you're good looking.

Post pic of yourself.

>>18419206
Her father had been diagnosed with cancer just then. I told her I was going to work things out, and that her father had enough money to pay for top-tier surgeons and live a while, but she didnn't have a clear enough head to calm herself this way. She went on a serial relationship spree, cheating on me with these guys I'd only describe as "any takers." Those relationships were short lived. Maybe she doesn't care about people. I don't know.

When confronted, she denied everything and become so defensive that she started blaming me, saying I left her. I only left school, and got a GED to *advance* a year and go to college. I also visited her twice a week, spending the entire day with her, so I don't see what the damned difference was.

I remember one time, her dad opened up the door drunk, "Oh, you want me to go get her so you can have sex with her, right?" That was a pretty forward and drunk thing to say.
I said, "This would be a really long way of going about that, wouldn't it?" to which he just said, "Fair enough," and went to go get her.

Even uglier, I have also adopted my father's habit of being verbally abusive, which is a fucked up craft like what a drill nasty drill sargent does but only with worse intentions. It's white trash shit, not to be racial or anything.

So our relationship became really whacky and on-and-off, hot-and-cold stressful stuff, all the while her family came to resent and resist us being together. I was also a bit of an dumb kid then, so I didn't know how to act socially, and the parents held that over me a bit.

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>>18419206
>>18419207
Now that I've improved my life, I've dated supposedly better women who have supposedly had more to offer, but I'm starting to think that my fantasies of going great lengths to keep my ex weren't so insane...

The three women I've dated since her have come to me, and I was just driven to respond to them out of emotional desperation. That being said, my finger was always hovering over the "scold" or "dump" button if they ever tried to pull any shit. They were just puffed up phonies, and I was desperate to fill the void my ex left. These people were supposed to be somewhat of a score, at least for a small town person like me, but I couldn't see that or really give a shit, so that was short-lived.

Guy seems to think of her as low-hanging fruit, and my family said she was ugly. She had a dad that was very old and drank, and a mother who was not the prettiest, so that kind of explains it. Despite all this, she honestly looks like the most beautiful person to me. That sort of thing is (or at least becomes) subjective. Nobody excited me as much as her, not even really attractive women, maybe because I couldn't imagine having fun with someone who was really high on themselves.

If I was going to entertain the idea of being with her agian, I would have to make improvements, so I did.
>moved from a middle-class town of 5,000 to an upper-class town of 15,000
>went from being a drifter to renting a room in a nice house
>saw all the doctors and therapists that were necessary to see
>figured out how to get funds for school
>made close friends with (relatively) mature professionals, one who is a CEO
>had extended relations with two supposedly classy woms
>decided to go into the medical field instead of my other shitty idea
>get a luscious mane instead of being buzzed
This seems like a substantial improvement for a young person who found themselves sick and at rock-bottom.

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>>18419206
>>18419207
>>18419215
I could scavenge for leads, since it's such a small town. I've been operating under the assumpetion that such an idea is ridiculous, and she is gone for good, but I don't ahve the same interest in new people that I used to. My mind keeps drifing all over. These new people wear me down, and I only have an ounce of love left for them.

I have a few ideas for hobbies, but maybe those are just another pipe dream. More likely, I'll end up taking transit to work so I can slightly upgrade my clothing and have no perceptible effect on my own life.

All in all, do you think pursing again would be worthwhile? I just hope her dad doesn't shoot me or some shit.

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>>18419072
is that seriously tai lopez with a dp12 in a lambo? that's bad ass.

as far as your leading girls on thing. idk man it sounds like we should trade places, I always have sort of the opposite problem. I'm pretty selective about who I date so I only go after certain women one at a time, they get really into me, but there's always a problem on their end that either means they won't let me make a move or I can't make a move because of my values. either they're stressed with some stuff in their life and they don't want me to have to deal with it even though that's my call to make, or they get scared about how good things could be and how serious they could see things be so they go off and find some retard they barely like to fuck. or here's the big one, they have a boyfriend they never told me about until after we're at the point where we know everything about each other and we're all over each other, and then they drop it, and its an emotion clusterfuck cause there's been all that buildup and suddenly it all rams into a fucking wall.

every time. every damn time. its like the timing of my life is just barely off. or I can't get these women to trust that I'm making the decision to deal with whatever issues exist on their end. I'm aware of the problems, I'm making the call to still want to be with you. and then there's just the dishonest women that lead you on when they have a bf for some reason. I can't mess with that. I've been cheated on, I don't want to pass that shit feeling on, and I don't want to be the guy that possibly introduces a good girl to being a cheater or hope she doesn't do it to me.

I could go find some slut to fuck just about any weekend. shit I don't even have to go to the clubs or bars they hit on me and talk about taking me home or them coming home with me on their way home. it's not interesting to me though, and all the women I am interested in, even if they are interested in me, there's a problem. the boyfriend one is big.

>>18419072
So you're basically a woman then

>>18419276
spbp

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Are you high? While you pretend to be special, we're already fucking another chick.

>>18419077
Wot

>>18419067
No. How would they even do that if women virtually never take on the role of active pursuit.

>>18419024
duuude, you are the perfect cuck material.
I would be realy surprised if she wasn't fucking with somebody else already

Why on earth would she do anything if you just do it for her whenever she throws a hissy fit? She's not managing her emotions like an adult and you enable it through your lack of boundaries. It's possible her hissy fit in this case is because she doesn't like to be told how to solve her problems. For everything else, why aren't you guys making a list of chores and splitting them?

>>18419209
>you just do it for her whenever she throws a hissy fit?

Then it doesn't get done. I don't want to live in an apartment that smells like cat piss so I do the litter. She just never remembers to before it gets filled with shit and piss.

I get the "I'll do it later" bit alot. and if I'm like "no, do it now because I'll do it later means I'll never do it" she gets all upset and tells me not to tell her what to do.

But that's the only way you can get her to do stuff like that!