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>Been going out with my gf for 4years
>she told me she wanted to wait for marriage
>family matters came up and she had to another country where her dad lives last year
>dad is fine and won't allow her to return, something about having the whole family together
>starts working there since she graduated before going there
>we do the LDR and notices she becomes cold
>asks her about this and tells me he met someone
>tells me since she might be pregnant
>i ask was she raped
>no and its with consent, been fucking him for 5 months
>tells me she doesn't feel anything like love towards him
>hes just someone who she could be physically be with
>tells me she loves me and plans on telling me about him when we're together
>she lost her identy and some crap about wanting to find herself
>happened because she didn't know who she was anymore
So yeah im pretty broken right now any advice on what to do? I know i should leave her but i love her so much, i trusted her too and never thought she's capable of infidelity
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>>18417460
>welcome to the world of women

you're half a man now, the only thing that's left to do is benis im bagina.
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I feel bad for you man but you fell in love with one dumb cunt. You absolutely have to gtfo of that relationship.
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>>18417460
Just say:" I'm not comfortable with this situation. I am breaking up with you." (maybe add some more) try not to be salty or blame her in the text just say that you don't want the relationship anymore.

Alright /adv/, no bully.

>be me
>diagnosed autist as a kid
>probably just a sperg, as new friends/colleagues can't tell
>married for >10 years
>get on great with wife
>wife used to have a lower libido than me
>wife has recently changed medications and increased libido
>our libidos are probably about on par now
>have never, EVER been able to last longer than about a minute
>tried cialis, dindu nuffin
>may have tried viagra, can't remember; if so, dindu nuffin
>pre-sex fap sometimes helps a bit, but not much
>changing positions doesn't help
>fucking again after 5-10 minutes helps a bit, but not much
>bjs usually last longer than sex, but still not very long
>wife doesn't complain, is never really concerned about it
>no, really; we've had honest discussions, she's not fazed, just feelsbad for me
>feelsbad sometimes because she rarely comes before i do

suggestions?
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>>18417301
Have you tried edging?
Surely you can tell when you're going to go. Slow down then and it'll take longer
Other tan losing sensitivity that's pretty much what I can think of
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My ex used to go crazy could I sometimes lasted 2 minutes, then other times 20.

For the 1/3 times I lasted 2 minutes I hoped she'd just shut the fuck up and accept that I have needs.

Anyways by the end of it I ended up hating sex because it was just a big paranoid mess of whether or not I would disappoint her.
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>>18417340
>Have you tried edging?
Not explicitly, no, but I have tried not fucking coming; it never really pans out, though, since by the time I recognise the signs, it's usually too lateā€”if I slow my roll, stop dead in my tracks or pull out, I usually end up coming anyway.

I was trying out tinder last year and well I'm still a virgin.
I met up with maybe 5 girls, dated last one for a few months but it just wasn't it.

I got a good number of matches but I only talked to those who wrote me first. In general I felt a depressing lack of connection with most people there, and talking online with a stranger just felt weird. Didn't help that I was afraid of rejection even online lol.

However, I'd like to try it again and this time actually message girls so I get more dates.

Providing I got a date, when would you guys say it's time to kiss? My dates have generally been pretty awkward.
All those online guides suggest building rapport like it's the easiest thing in the world, but it's hard for me so I'd rather avoid having to touch the girl in 1001 places and ways before kissing.

I'm scared of making a move so I'd rather do it quickly or else I may not do it at all.
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Tell her to put out or walk home.

I take my dates out of state .
Works every time.
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>>18416980
>scared of making move
Dumb frogposter. You have to show girl you find her fancy. Touches, lame jokes, smiling like retard, staring into her eyes, asking for netflix and chill whatever. MAKE A MOVE. Or go on more dates before you meet the qtie for you.

>who wrote first
Lol. That is rare. Try to talk to girls yourself too.

Tldr ask another 25 girls on dates and report after.
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>>18417304
Well I'm scared of making a big move like kissing but I need to do it anyway, I just don't know how to 'prepare' a grill for that since my social skills are poor and random touching feels unnatural (n-not an autist I swear). So I'd rather just kiss her to dispel my anxiety, a drinks date is good for that right? I went for coffee for my first dates and kissing a girl I've just met in starbucks doesn't sound like a good move.

Also any tips how to reduce awkardness during the date? Beeing myself seems to be failing me.

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After a really bad breakup, I found out some of my friends weren't my friends. WIthout going into any details, I can assure you they deserved to be completely cut off.

I realized people usually are friends until the shit hits the fan, and decided that I will have no scrupules to cut off friends that either don't have my back in trying times or actually betray me anymore.

One by one, I have started to cut people calling themselves my friends for years for good reasons, but I now I have almost none left. The ones I have, haven't done me wrong since my resolution to cut off toxic people, but I have no temper left for any mistakes and if they cross a certain line I'll cut them off as well, which will leave me in total desolation.

Some say that if everyone smells like shit, maybe I should check my shoes but again: without going into detail I can assure you that they have betrayed me in shitty ways. I'm becoming more and more bitter at the world and the fact that I can't expect decency or friendship from friends. I have started to not trust anyone, and my fuse is shorter than it has ever been.

I don't want to end up bitter and lonely, but my past experiences with both relationships and friendships have left me in a state of mind that tells me to not get any new friends, be very wary of people and only blame myself if someone stabs me in the back the second time.

Has anyone been through this before?
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>>18416745
be ready to completely isolate yourself at this pace unless you're able to pull off the near impossible, finding actually decent people that want to associate with you actively.
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You smell like my friendo, he got rly sensitive after a breakup and started confronting friends over stupid shit, gave me the cutting off toxic people speech.
How did they betray you, friend?
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Friend 1, maybe just a people-pleaser?
I mean, If you broke up with her most recently, it's not your business if she moves on.

Friend 2, girl, nuff said.

Friend 3 sounds like a riot

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Do men typically continue to gain height after age 18-19?

t. 5'11'' 19 yr old male
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>>18419130

some do. most don't. those who do tend to gain just a tiny bit. 5'11" is enough height.
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Not typically, but they can.
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>>18419130
>5'11"
lol manlet. this feeling you feel now. it will never go away.

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I see an opportunity to get a qt gf. Should I go for it?
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probably shouldn't be stepping outside your comfort zone there op, who knows what manner of terrible ways you could be rejected and socially ostracized
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>>18418837

no
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i'd say no

It doesn't sound like you like her for personality but rather her looks, which means this will be a short and rather bitter relationship. Just bang her and move on op.

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Will I ever make it as a game developer/ work at a game company?

I can't into art, 3d, or programming. I took some game classes at Community College and learned how to use Unreal Engine kind of well. Not like a pro/veteran, but I know how to do some simple stuff.

I guess.. I just want to get into the bulk of it right away. I want to start chipping away at my OWN game. But more then that, i think I'm looking for a guide. A teacher. someone to show me the ways because I'm too stupid to start myself. And because I think this, i never do anything at home, myself. I always push learning to the side to play more videogames or to hang out with buddies.

I don't know. Maybe im just complaining about nothing.

I just want to make games.
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If you have no creative talent, making videos games will be hard.

Being part of the creation process might work for you; meaning you help a team create a video game that someone else wrote/designed.
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Welcome to the fantasy of probably 90% of male children born in the developed world in the past 30 years. Rest assured what you know is probably nothing but a fantasy.

The big games are created from teams of hundreds of talented people working in so many different fields and departments that it would be too alien to even enumerate them for you.

Making video games is work. It's not playing video games, and never will be. It's sitting there going through pages of code, or working on graphics and art for months, pixel by pixel, etc.

Unless you just take some existing game editor and play around with it, but that's not developing a game. That's playing one.

If you're serious you need to get a real education in a field that's needed in the industry, such as pure programming, or be a spectacular graphic designer because that side is over-saturated with everyone who thinks they're an artist.

Some real shit, son. Swallow it. You need a real education unless you're ok playing around with RPG Maker or making half-life maps to goof off on.
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>>18418813
Nobody is born knowing how to do any of that stuff, Practice it until you get to a level you're happy with.

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I'm a girl and I need some advice on how to seduce a guy via texts. I want to build the attraction but there is no way to do it directly (he moved to a different country for summer job) but at the same time I'm too impatient and anxious to wait for his return. I want to make this boy really like me. What's the best way to go about it?
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Fuck em
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>>18418748
Every guy is different. It's like asking how to fix an engine. Well, it depends on the engine.

A lot of guys don't respond well to the idea of a long-distance relationship. Myself and many other people are very hands-on people who can't imagine a girlfriend we can't touch, cuddle, and see.

So, you probably want to start by just basic communication and escalate it to sending him pictures of you. Lots of pictures and flirting and he'll probably respond well if he likes you.
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>>18418748
Well. Does he play some online games? Play with him.

Having personality helps. And topics to talk about too.

But really, until he returns, you will most likely just turn into nagging annoying attention starved bitch.

Dont fall for ldr and take care.

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Have a date tonight with this chick from Tinder. Shes ok looking. Nice rack. She hit me up and it went from there. Also 100% positive we are fucking. I hate condoms. If shes on BC should I go raw? I have a feeling she has STDs cause she seems desperate. She keeps saying she is excited to hang out.

How fucked am I?
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>>18418535
Use condoms unless you're exclusive.
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You sound like an idiot to even consider having sex with some woman you don't know, and without even a condom, honestly, m80. You probably know that already, though, and you're only here to brag, right? Get real, dude, you know it's an awful idea and everyone will say the same.
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>>18418535
She probably has stds, dude is raw cumming worth it. Condom are ur safe bet.

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Tried sucking my own dick now my back hurts, what do?
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>>18418534
Keep going. Don't let your dreams be dreams. Just DO IT!
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I could do it but have never done it since it feels kinda gay to suck dick
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I'm sorry for your loss

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>applied at nearly every entry level/fast food/retail position I can find in my town multiple times
>not a single call back after three months
>falling back into my NEET ways
what the fuck am I doing wrong
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>>18418309
did you put your phone number on the application? verify that it works?
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1. ask someone to review your resume
2. what is the income level of your town? are there lots of more qualified adults looking to flip burgers?
3. how many places have you applied to? pls reply with a number

oh and

4. do you know anyone who can get you an in? for entry level work this is often quite easy for a friend to do
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>>18418318
I try to staple a resume with my work email and phone number to the application and I know I don't any issues receiving calls

>>18418342
1. I've been told it's well done, but the job history is lacking
2. poverty level retirement town, per capita income of $15k
3. I lost count after 40
4. and no, short of a year working in retail I've been a hikki-NEET since highschool

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I lied about being married to a girl to get laid. She found out and is pissed. I regret everything and don't know how to get over it. Kill myself? Help?
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>>18418109
That's awesome. Ditch the mad bitch (what more do you want with a skank who only went for you because you were unavailable), and tell your bros about this hilarious story.
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>>18418109
>I lied about being married to get laid
>don't know how to get over it. Kill myself?
lol
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>>18418109
what the hell are you even talking about?

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Hey /b/tards im going to interview this mentally unstable guy i found on Youtube tommorow on skype, i have a whole list of questions, any questions you guys wanna contribute? Heres a synopsis on why i think this guy is batshit insane

>is obssesed with the "hood" and the african american community, constantly talks about getting "street cred" and "getting a sexy black female" as a wife

>watches child disney movies and gives reviews on his channe, while being in his 30s, i just think thats weird

>grew up rich and sheltered in very "white" places

>his parents have him following a strict religious ideal, not surw what it is but its like cathlicism on steroids

>socially excluded from school, in one of his videos he shares how he would try to be popular by joining sports teams to only get ridiculed (pretty sure this affects the next reason)

> Dude is still a virgin, not just this but, while observing his activity on YT, he bashed like 6 girls calling them whores.

> He no joke talks like Hannibal Lector,

> I follow him on Instagram, and all of his posts are self depricating posts, he talks abour how his life sucks, and many of them have suicidal undertones

Anyone wanna contribute some dank ass questions?

(Might post screenshots of converations if this thread gets popular later on /b/)

- YOSKI
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>>18418095
Ask him if he evet considered going to therapy.

Ask him about how his parents view him.

Honestly he does not sound interesting enough.
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>>18418095
you got a link to any of his videos? he sounds cool.
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>>18418095
>spends days looking up this guy
>studying his channel and himself
>asking him about his sex life
>watching his long review videos
>all of them
>analyzing them and building up his case
>asking for an interview
>looking to prove deeper and psychoanlyze this guy

>"H-haha guys! This guy is so weird! Haha, it's so weird, unlike me, guys!"

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I am probably going to come of as one of the worst persons in this post, but I just really need some advice.

My gf and me met about 2 years ago when she was 17 and I was 22. A few months after her 18th birthday her mom died which was her only family member. Not having money or a place to stay I offered her to move in with me. (We lived in different countries in Yurop, about 1000km away from each other.) She already had a rough childhood before that happened and some kind of mental unstability, but her moms death obviously made it much worse. I took 2 months vacation and tried to be there for her as much as possible. It was a very tough time.

Things slowly got better until one month ago. Until then I worked a lot to support both of us and still tried to be there for her as much as I could. Then she had a seizure, went to the hospital and got diagnosed with multiple sclerosis. Since then her emotional state obviously got far worse. She is constantly crying, breaking down and sees no purpose in live anymore. I try to pick up the pieces and talk positivly, but it's starting to get really hard. My days consist of either spending hours on the phone with doctors (she doesn't speak the language) and then driving her to one, trying to cheer her up or doing chores or driving my dog to someone who can take care of it for the rest of the day and then spending the day with her in the hospital if she's there.

And I know I should'nt be complaing, since she has it so much worse, but it is starting to wear me off. I have problems sleeping, barely getting more than 4 hours a night and completely lost my sex drive. I never had much responsability, I was basicly still a child when we met. And she is also treating me pretty poorly lately (similar to after her mom passed away) which is really hard to overlook.

I'm lost, what can I do?
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>>18418057

oh wow. you are not a bad person, but i understand why you feel that way. she has it worse sure, but its not like your life is a cakewalk. your life was essentially taken away from you before you even got married. her burden is your burden, just in a different way.

i just looked it up and unless there's some extenuating circumstances they seem to live to old age just fine, they only die 7 years earlier.

jesus OP i really dont know what to say. it seems wrong to tell you to leave her, but it also seems wrong that you have to give up your entire life to take care of her. is it a bit selfish to leave? I don't think so.

it would be exceptionally virtuous to stay. but i dont think that makes it immoral to leave.

that wont make it easy. that wont make it feel any less shameful. it wont make it any less sad. but if this looks like it will be your life for the rest of your life it isn't wrong to leave. especially if shes giving up on life - something that is ab it understandable but if shes going to live only seven years less than most people there comes a point where you gotta embrace.

honestly man if shes wanting to off her self, id turn a blind eye. i dont blame her for wanting to die if she can't embrace it, i believe in euthanasia.
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>>18418089
The desease is very different from patient to patient. She could be lucky and it won't effect her much more in the future than being forced to take medicine against epilepsia. Or she could get bad nerve damage and have problems with her eyes or legs. It is impossible to predict. So far it seems to be more on the worse side since she is just having her second relapse in a month.
I could never leave her, especially right now when she is at the worst she has ever been. I also could not turn a blind eye, wtf, I could never look at myself again.
But her mental state seems to become worse from day to day.
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>>18418120

okay so whats happening here is

>i have a problem
>but i refuse to do anything about it

and thats okay, but doesn't really make this an advice thread, does it?

How does therapy work?

I've never been to therapy before but I'm pretty sure that I really really need it? How do you cjoose a therapist and what do you have to do while you're there? Also how do you convince yourself to take the first step and even contact them?
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All it is, is someone intelligent to talk to, dude. And many aren't even all that intelligent, just have a list of shit to talk about to come up with some diagnosis for you to work on.

It's for people who have more money than sense, honestly, and a close friend and confidant is a million times more valuable than someone you're paying to listen to you whine and bitch once a week for them to tell you "Hey, it's fine, see you next week"
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>>18417694
I don't have any friends I trust enough to talk about my problems with. In fact I don't even have any real friends when I think of it.
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>>18417687
It does depend a little bit on what you're going to therapy for. If you're going in just to have a place to vent your anxieties and frustrations, it basically becomes like bitching about things with someone.

Which honestly is useful, while friends are good for that kind of thing you can burn them out. Paying someone to listen to you is lame when framed that way but it helps lighten the load on your friends / support.

If you go to therapy to change a behavior (in my case, I'm trying to speak to people better and be less nervous). Then they can help you understand those feelings and root out where they come from. As well as provide mental frameworks to help you work around those problems. I've had therapy legitimately help me with social anxiety. I haven't gotten to the point where I can get a girlfriend or anything, but it helps me sperg out less in public.

One thing I'd add - when picking a therapist, it might help to think of what kind of person you need to talk to. For example, I usually work with women but I'm starting to realize that they don't understand my troubles speaking to women. So I'm thinking of switching to a man in the hopes that they'll understand my situation better.

Give a therapist a few weeks and see how you feel. Best of luck anon.

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