Thread replies: 7
Thread images: 1
Thread images: 1
File: 1499270370607.jpg (19KB, 540x540px) Image search:
[Google]
19KB, 540x540px
For the past 5 years I've been in two relationships with 5 months of being single in between.
Currently in the second relationship, it doesn't feel like I have a personality of my own, probably because I adopt all of the interests my SO has.
I'm starting to hate feeling this way and really just want to be alone for a long time.
However, I still love and care about how my SO feels, and as much as I want to be alone I can't bring myself to hurt them.
I have no desire to have sex anymore, I'm not that affectionate anymore, I'm not as patient or tolerant as I used to be, and I can tell this hurts them.
Basically I want to be alone so I can see what kind of person I am on my own, but I don't know if this is worth ending a 3 year relationship over.
It feels that by just considering this that the relationship is over.
What do, does this all sound like a load of bullshit, help.
>>
>>18487838
It's called self erasure. You probably did it as a kid because it was all about your parents needs so you adapted to your environment. It's a sad thing that happens to kids.
>>
Maybe take a break and re-discover some of your own old interests again.
>>
I did this. I ended a three year relationship a year ago to be alone and learn about myself. It's a very, very good idea. You're not happy & you already know what you have to do.
>>
>>18488035
That sounds very likely
>>18488056
I've never been ok with taking breaks from a relationship. It either says or ends permanently.
>>18488082
Feels bad man but this is probably what I'll have to do.
>>
>>18488627
I just dumped my gf of two years yesterday for this reason mostly, but partially because I want to see if the degenerate life is the life for me. if you explain your concerns it does damage control, and you won't end on a horrible note but it will still suck. are you male or female OP?
>>
>>18488686
I don't plan on doing anything degenerate if I go through with this. The plan is to just be alone and focus on school, fitness, and hobbies. My gender is irrelevant :^)
Thread posts: 7
Thread images: 1
Thread images: 1