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Oh, and my ex (only girl I have ever managed to get to, because she was a complete slut I suppose) also told her therapist, friends and also these online dudes she liked to talk to sexually that I was some sort of monster. All for fun I suppose. I am tired of people's reckless faggotry. What am I even ranting about?

>>18630948
Nice blog post faggot

>>18630960
Yeah, I just needed to get this shit out somewhere so it doesn't stay inside me.

>>18630824
It won't lead anywhere but it's probably for the best. Find a girl you can actually meet up with and put your efforts there. Curious, what religion do you belong to?

>>18630830

Its not important. But long story short, after failed overtures of trying to plan out a day to come out and meet her, I found out that she was being courted by someone else and that she hadn't bothered to disclose it to me. She even went so far as to ban me on her social media to hide me from the guy she was seeing.

I knew the truth; she valued her image of herself more than she valued our friendship.

I was so upset at the revelation that I threw myself in front of a car. I told her things about myself that I wouldn't tell anyone else; nothing bad, just things I would tell someone I trusted. I felt so betrayed.

So I told her such in a final message and then I messaged the guy who was seeing her.

I told him to be careful, and that he should demand the truth from her and to have her not withhold any information from him and to hold her accountable.

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>>18630840
>I was so upset at the revelation that I threw myself in front of a car.
Holy kek, you idiot

>>18630722
No, it's not bad if you spend the night and don't have sex. It means you're both attracted to each other but one of you is not ready to have sex. Prove your worth by being an awesome cuddler.

If a girl does not co-operate at all in taking her clothes off it means she doesn't want to take her clothes off. Wait. It's just polite to wait until she's fully ready to get naked.

>>18630722
It isn't necessarily bad as long as you made an effort 3 times to make something happen.
Typically for me it's
>kiss
>makeout
>grope ass/tits
>hump
>touch vag over clothes
>slip fingers in
>get her to touch my dick
>help her take off pants
>finger more
>kiss different places of her body
>take off my clothes
>slip it in

there are breaks inbetween those steps and naturally things can deviate but thats generally how it goes down for me. Foreplay may take a while to get her randy but be patient with it. Make it clear you want sex and you don't just want to hump her all night

T H I C C

>>18630667
Report it to the police or just let it go and learn some martial art so you can defend yourself if something happens again

You have to be 18 to post on this site.

>>18630672

I did report it to the police, but he'll probably only get a caution since it's my word against his.

My friends all want to get a bat and go beat him up but I'll be the one in jail if I go do that, so I would prefer to fuck with him a little.

>>18630657
Go to places where rich milfs go. Go to nice neighborhoods with wealthy people and look for local areas where people go to drink. I have a few near me and they get a reputation for the older women.

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>>18630657
What do you have to offer to rich milf?
Charm?
Sexy chiseled body?
Tall?
Handsome?
Gentelman?
Manners?
Big cock?
Clever conversation?
Flirting?

Go back to your basement. There is a reason why no milf have seduced you yet.

Sign up for SeekingArrangement. Look for a sugar momma.

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We came into contact again, because of that. And because of said circumstances, she didn't mention why i stopped the contact.
Turns out i still have these feelings for her, i think it's genuine Love. Actual Love. How rare is that?
So yeah, last month, i crashed at her place. We were holding hands for hours, not saying anything yet saying so much at the same time. I semi-jokingly asked her if i could massage her feet. She smiled, didn't say anything. I, fearless yet unsure, proceeded to remove her socks, she didn't resist. I just started massagin them, i am very good at it, always been. Being a male, i did the expected and slowly went up, caressing her pale, soft, cloud like legs. Skipped the dangerous parts of her body and went straight the her cute, baby-like belly. Looked up, she had her eyes closed.
Cont.

>>18630574
>says he is smarter than most people
>wants to fuck a family member
Nigga, you just a (white)trash

>>18630586
Without thinking twice about it, i made my move down there.
She slapped me so fucking hard guys, so fucking hard. I never recovered. She was so pissed off, i was so confused, so very embarassed, wanting to hide/disappear somewhere.
Basically i fucked up. We didn't talk for the rest of the night and i left quietly at noon the next day.
Do i tell her how i feel? She obviously doesn't feel that way judging from her reaction.
She is also 23, i am 2 weeks older.
Please help.

Nothing, it was just a polite way to end the message because they used a pet name with you.

Give us more context
How do you know this person?

>>18630496
I work with her. We matched on tinder and became close but then had a falling out. We'Ve started talkin again but it is a bit strained atm.

That's all I know.

I'm sorry you're dealing with this anon. It's really hard to not blame yourself, if you're like me. The way I'd handle this is probably smoking myself into a coma but that's just me. Can you spare some more details? You seem like you need a friendly ear.

>>18630448

well he lives in another city, was here for a holiday. that's another reason why he didn't want to start anything. I insisted on meeting once more before he left and that also made him uncomfortable.
I feel like I've done harm but it wasn't my intention and now he said he'd talk to me again "sometime" but that he doesn't want to be with me anymore.
When we were together it was great. I felt great and he loved my company too. I really want to fix it.

>>18630456
I hate to be this guy but have you had any suspicions that there's another person on his end that he might have interests in? Long distance relationships are extremely difficult (personal experiences) and oftentimes one leaves the other for someone that seems more available.

>>18630315

I lost my virginity at you age but didn't get my first girlfriend until I was 24.

It sounds like you have some issues with loving yourself that you should take care of before you bring a companion who will get close to you into your life. You mentioned suicide in your post.

>>18630315
Listen man, I don't know your story here or anything. You've had pleasure of missing out on plenty of bullshit, and that's something you should be happy about. You're now at an age where things can begin to take on some level of seriousness. When people say wait and be patient, it may seem ridiculous, but it's absolutely true. The best things in life come when you least expect them. what I can suggest to you is this. Develop hobbies, get into working on yourself, gather all the information and facts you can on things. Make yourself someone that you want to be, someone that has endless conversational topics, and takes pride in themselves. Work out, get into rock climbing or bouldering, start running or biking, take interest in the world, and get out there and experience everything you can. If you can imagine yourself at 80 and think of why you didn't do something in your present moment, go ahead and do it. Most of all, learn to talk to people and meet everyone you can. One day, you're going to stumble upon someone, or they'll stumble upon you and you just do something together and go from there. Life isn't a competition where you compare yourself to others, stop trying and just let life happen. You can't control it, and the things that do happen are entirely external from your control. Just make yourself available, and things will fall into place.

>>18630340
I mention suicide because I genuinely think I'd be doing the world a favor. In college I just got made fun of when trying to contribute to a group project and people just made fun of me. the professor didnt care, no one did.

I dont hate myself, I hate my family, I hate A&M because thats the college I've had the displeasure of going to (people there have the most fake smiles ive ever seen)
It doesnt even matter now because my dad ran out of money and i dont go there anymore. (My mother never paid for tutition to begin with)

Only reason why i didnt jump through the window of my 3rd story balcony was because I didnt have the energy to do it.

Been to multiple therapists, none have helped in the slightest. Meds do nothing but give me a headache

Still waiting for people to stop lying to me and quit giving me bullshit.
thanks for the advice though.

Well is she clingy?

All this 'personality types' and 'reading people' is bullshit.

Everyone is different.

Is she clingy?

if you love her it shouldn't matter how clingy she is as long as you love each other

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What steps have you taken to try to reduce this loneliness?

>>18630245
welcome to modernity?

>>18630246
Tried to make friends, have only made acquaintances who don't really like me

>she's smart

Women aren't smart bro, that's your dick talking lol

>>18630232

You may never feel better about a person than her. You might just not produce the same chemical response that other people do. So possibly you like her her as much as you'll really like anyone.

But a separate issue is whether you still want to go out and be single/dating again. It's a hard thing to just start to get into dating and find yourself locked out of it shortly after you begin. I stuck with the first girl I lost my virginity to for way too long out of a sense of obligation (dumb, I know). I loved her, but I also lost a lot of time I could have been playing the field and years later I view it as a poor choice to stick with her for so long. Your experience may vary.

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>>18630232
I've been with my girl for almost 4 years now, so I'll give you my perspective.

Emotions are complicated. I don't know what it means to "click" with someone at all and I never have. My girl and I didn't click, we built a mutual respect and affection for each other over years of friendship. Dating wasn't an "aha" moment so much as a natural progression. With that said, here's some questions I would suggest you ask yourself:

1. Are you bored when you're with her, specifically bored of her company?
-- I feel bored most of the time but never of my girl's company.

3. Do you feel content, or peaceful?
-- Happiness is momentary and you shouldn't expect to feel it all the time. Look for stability and peace in a relationship; basically, look to feel comfortable most of the time and happy sometimes.

4. Are you thinking of other women out of sexual desire, or emotional longing?
-- You're going to think about others sexually forever so don't focus too much on that.

5. Are you feeling down or depressed about this?
-- You probably should feel down about your relationship.

At the risk of sounding like a faggot, don't worry too much about it. As long as you are open and receptive to love, you'll find it eventually. It will come. So do what feels right to you. If you think you two aren't working well together, talk to her about it. Let her know what's happening in your head. In a serious relationship, you share problems. She should be able to handle your thoughts. If not, you're already off to a bad start. Maybe in talking about it, you'll see something new in her that ignites that "spark." Or you might figure out why you two won't work. Either way, an answer will come to you. Good luck, comrade.

>>18630203
Post up on ad on craigslist

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>>18630203
Check inside your local pharmacy. There's usually few hanging behind a counter. They usually wear white coats.

>>18630203
Go to your local body of water. Rivers and beaches are best but lakes will also work in some places. Find the sketchiest person that you can and offer them a beer and a cigarette and then ask them about it. Pretty old school but it will work in 1-3 goes.

Wait a year. Don't worry if things will be better by then, just wait.

Change things up. Keep being healthy, that's a good thing. Maybe find a new job, move somewhere new, find new friends. Stuff like that. If your stability is gone and you want to die, why not? I mean, fuck it, right?

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>>18630152
Want some motivation?

I moved into a new big city to be closer to my girlfriend of 8+ years, as we had talked about moving in together. The very day I'm moving my stuff up she breaks up with me via text and proceeds to ghost me, deleting me from every contact.

The following day, when the movers move my stuff into my now empty house, they steal my wallet. Aside from being a gift from my mother, and being worth quite a bit of money, it also had precious irreplaceable mementos inside. One of which was given to me by my now ex.

Two days late. Being depressed, I stop answering my phone calls and shut my phone off. This leads a family member into thinking I've either gone and killed myself, or am about to. The police come out, knock on my door and the next thing I know they put me in handcuffs and parade me about in my new neighborhood like a criminal. They take me away to the hospital and put me on a 5150 hold, assuming I'm suicidal. Once they deem me not suicidal, and far from it, I am released to come home. The police took away my firearm I own, and upon going to go retrieve it learn three very important things.

1. I cannot own a firearm for 5 years, not without going through hoops and a court hearing to proof I'm capable of owning one.

2. Not counting the first point, I would have to jump through so many hoops and go to therapy for multiple months that in reality it wouldn't even be feasible to get my gun back.

3. The cops put this down on public record, as a "suicide attempt". Even though there was no attempt to be made. This directly impacts my career choice that I put on hold till I moved to where I am, and now because of all these marks against my record(unfounded of course), I will never be able to complete and go into the career that has been my lifelong dream.

Trust me, I know how you feel OP. But even with all of this going on, no matter how hard I want to end it, I will not be tempted to do so. It will get better. Stay in there.

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Edit: We dont have starbucks or anything like that near here (I live in Finland)

- OP

you have nothing to lose go in for the kill