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impossible. you are fucked.

What you need the most is more experience. With practice things will improve. People talk bad about PUA stuff, but if you don't take it too seriously there's plenty of good suggestions about where to go and how to open a girl. The rest will come with practice. Torrent PUA material don't give your email or money to anyone online.

>>18667661
Yeah, that's where all the evidence points

>>18667677
I'm not sure. I don't know much about PUA stuff, but it seems too insincere. I want a relationship, not just someone to fuck. And if that were the case I would just lie about my age (I have a serious baby face).

>>18667605
if thats you in the picture you ugly af

>>18667616
see thread subject

It seems like you've provided the the answers you're looking for yourself.
Surely you didn't come here to boast?

How old are you OP?

>>18667623
32 now.

>>18667574
>>18667658
Kind of feel you though I'm a decade younger, I came to believe that the only solution would be to chemicaly castrate yourself, just getting rid of that instinct, haven't come to it yet cause I still hope... yeah...

If you think like this you should break up with her, I wouldn't want to be with somebody who didn't feel sexually fulfilled by me. And to learn that was the case after being with them unaware for a long time would suck even more

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>>18667552
>Should I try
if you're questioning it now, you WILL regret it later.

Honestly the best course of action, for both of you, would be to break up. But for god's sake do not tell her that its because you want a hotter girlfriend. That'll destroy her and probaby ruin her chances for romance in the future. Since she's your gf you'll have to figure out the best way to do it.

For god's sake, don't cheat on her either.

>>18667559
>>18667566

I live with her though, and honestly if it wasn't for her being fat I would marry her this second. I know it sounds shallow, but its how I feel.

Maybe there is a chance she will lose weight in the future?

I'll have sex with your girlfriend for you, anon!

>>18667499
Does your girlfriend need sex?

>>18667533
yeah she complains we never have it
I honestly just don't want to do it, always wonder if something is wrong with me

>>18667427
bump same

>>18667427
i just behave according to my mood, who ever gets it depends on my mood. its so much easier that way.

You need to find you're identity OP.
Check out real social dynamics on youtube. It's mostly about pick up but I've learned some valuable life lessons from the group. The day you stop comparing yourself to people is the day you stop suffering.

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>>18667420
Limit your binge eating to a set time once a day and pretend you're doing intermittent fasting.

I have an eating disorder.
I deal with it by drinking water to make myself feel full.
If you start exercising, it will help a lot too because you will start to consider everything you put into your body and how it affects you.

>>18667420
You will binge eat by having a thought and following it through, just cut it off, or better yet relax... When you're relaxed, you don't feel like doing anything, otherwise you just have to feel the torture of wanting food and denying it to yourself.

Just my opinion, I don't know for sure.

I am heartbroken obviously at what had transpired but also was also worried about my sisters wedding being ruined such last minute. Dealing with both was truly challenging. We could the wedding squared away and I did not hear from my ex for a month. April 2016 was one of the worst months of my life. Everyday was a struggle and I felt so lost.

One day, in May 2016, I was cleaning my room and found shoes she had left in my room. I called her cousin to pick up the phone and asked her to pick them up so she can give it to my ex. She tells me that my ex had been trying to get a hold of me for months but I had changed my phone number. She was contemplating suicide and that she was trying to work things out with me but I was unavailable.

I call her, and I tell her much I've been hurt for the last month. She apologizes but finally forks up the truth behind her break up: She started talking to some other guy. She had been with me since she was 19 years and she is now 26. She had to see if she can be with someone else other than me which was her excuse for leaving. It was all a big bowl of bullshit and I distrusted her almost immediately.

Unfortunately for me, I loved her so much, I decided to take her back. I couldn't feel but feel attached to this woman after all we been through and all that I had done. So I told her she had to work in order to earn the trust back. 2016 until early 2017 was all her working on trust and I was beginning to be happy again and trying my best to trust her. She had promised me that she would be with me forever, have my children, and marry me.

Early 2017 I started to feel that the trust was back in our relationship and that I had learned to move on and forgive. The ball was set in motion for me to propose to her again as she gave me hints with her planner. She drew a ring on our anniversary date implementing that she hoped we would get engaged.

Valentines Day of 2017 me, her, and another couple whose mutual friends go to an expensive Brazilian steakhouse. We eat and have a great time. She spends the night and gives me this letter expressing her love for me and how she wants to continue spending more experiences for the rest of her life with me. The letter meant so much to me and I said to myself I was ready to marry this woman. She leaves and that was literally the last time I had ever seen her.

A month goes by, and she goes quiet and distant again very familiarly. I get concerned but at the time she was dealing with a lot of school stuff so I let it slide.

March 4th 2017, I enter the ER because I freak out over losing hearing on my right ear. I have a panic attack. I call my ex and tell her where I am at. I soon realize that she never showed up and continued to be distant. This made me furious.

I called her the next day and asked wth was going on. I asked her why she was doing what she did last year again and she had no answer for me. I asked "do I even have a girlfriend still?" and she replied with "I dont know."

I lost it. I ended it with her right there. I felt forced.

The next day I call her, and told her how forced I was to do it. I never wanted to leave her and that I wanted to work things out. She fed me the same bullshit she said last year. "I love you but I am not in love with you anymore." In a matter of a month you change your feelings?

She also expresses to me that she has an internship coming up and that she needed to focus on that for school. And also something going on with her Dad which she never disclosed or talked about with me. She said she could not be with me anymore, and that maybe down the line we can be together again. and when those words were uttered I went off the deep end. I wanted to kill myself hearing those words. She calls the cops and told her that my heart belonged to her. All she can tell me was "I'll never forget how strong we made me and how you made me feel." I told her numerous times to say goodbye to me but she refused. She hung up the phone and I havent heard from her since March 16th 2017.

The aftermath of the break up lead me to the cops taking me away and into psychiatric care. I was diagnosed with clinical depression. I took the break up hard, a break up I never wanted. The last 6 months have been brutal torture for me. I've been trying to find a reason to hang on but to no avail. These last 6 months Ive had numerous anxiety attacks and been in the ER a total of 4 times. I was diagnosed with an anxiety disorder and currently on medication.

The hardest week was this past week. I realized how much I truly miss and love my ex and that I was in denial for 6 months out of anger.

I reached out to her cousin who was the original matchmaker in our relationship existing. She told me that my ex still cared for me, but talking to her is not the right time. Shes not sure when well talk or even if well get back together.

Anyone?

>>18667373
She's your ex. Her well-being is no longer your responsibility, nor should it be your concern. There's lots of people suffering in the world, and now she's one of those "other people."

Anonymously gifted therapy sessions (if that's even a thing) are a little tacky and presumptuous at best, and outright insulting at worst. Plus, even if she doesn't know who gave them to her, YOU do, and it sustains an emotional connection you should no longer have. Spend it on yourself OP

>>18667373
therapy is $15 an hour, theyre either going to pocket it or tell you what the fuck

>>18667366
Very hard to tell without more context

Tell us more

>>18667430
Literally all the context.

I was talking to her about her band's performance. She kept saying she was terrible when she was actually amazing.

She kept avoiding the compliment so i pointed it out that she was avoiding, she sent that.

Shes fairly anxious and all that mental stuff.

Don't get scared

>>18667325
Most climbing gyms will have a range of walls of varying difficulty. Start with the easiest one and progress as your skill/confidence develops. Having the various gear like shoes and chalk helps but as a beginner you don't need to spend money on that stuff. If you aren't sure about some safety aspect just ask.

Not much to it senpai.

>>18667325
don't be afraid to leap for an extra hand hold, you're safe as long as the person belaying you is paying attention. worst that can happen is that you leap and miss, or your hand slips off, and you go back to where you were on the wall.

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Why don't you have a girlfriend?

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>>18667348

Honestly, the severe like of opportunities. It is so hard to find women around my age who don't have kids and aren't like obese or unhealthy. I don't want to date any woman who isn't 5 years within my age and I am 27. Is that too strict of a requirement?

I also don't beleive I would be able to keep a woman interested. I am a boring guy by others standards. The perfect day to me would be laying in bed on a rainy day without having work the next day and just relax.

It seems most people freak out if they have to stay at home for a day. Not me though. Laying in bed is one of my favorite past times. That sounds horrible doesn't it?

>>18667376
It's best to find someone with similar interests and habits in the internet. Me and my bf like going to sleep late, getting up in the afternoon, lazy weekends, we don't care much about mess in our rooms. We met online. Also, SESH.

I know that feel man. I don't have the answers for you I'm sorry. I still feel the pain each and every day. I wonder if I'll every feel for someone else how I feel for her. Praying helps, and distracting myself. But I don't know if I'll ever get over it. At the very least, I'm here with you anon.

>>18667370
Thanks brah. It doesn't help that she didn't even believe me when I said I love her but knew how miserable I felt because of her.
I'm tired of being such a loser in love. I think I'll stick to awkward one night stands and disappointing sex. Not sure if I can take this another time any time soon

In my experience hookups don't help. They are empty and lacking not only emotion, but a connections as well. It's unfulfilling and not a healthy coping mechanism. But then again, what do I know. I'm in a painful situation too...just my two cents on that.

When you drink, your subconscious takes over. You change from thinking with your left part of your brain to your right part which steers intuition. Be careful man, i was healthy, young and had good genes, and suddenly my heart messed up and i got artial fibrillations. I almost got a stroke at the age of 23. Now i can't drink anymore and it's liberating as fuck.

>>18667346
Honestly, I stopped reading after left brain right brain bullshit. That isn't real.

I wasn't trying to be a dick by writing off what you said. I just don't believe in that. Still drunk as fuck, though. I need psychological platitudes.

>>18667225
I don't think there's much chance u got it. Who cares tho, doesn't like everyone get oral herpes sooner or later?

you probably already had it

afaik it's only contagious should you make skin-contact when the infected person has an outbreak. If she didn't have an outbreak when you kissed her, you're likely fine.