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im feeling more and more hopeless when it comes to getting a relationship. ive spent the past 2 years doing all the usual advice on here (truthfully i wasnt too bad to begin with), including:

- gym
- haircut (had nice but long hair)
- hobbies (used to just play screen games, now i go to meetups every week, salsa dancing, travelling, writing, book club etc.)
- socialise/get out more, as above - i actually run a meetup now
- i was also good at talking, joking etc. anyway though have improved also
- expand social circle, including platonic female friends
- and so on

but despite this i still cant get a girlfriend. im on pof, okc, tinder, bumble, hinge and happn, but i rarely get matches or replies. i ask girls i meet in real life out but they turn me down. i dont understand why none of the work ive put in has made no difference. its very depressing to come no where and worst not be able to see what to actually do next. im 23, have a very good job and my own place (rented but i dont live with my parents, also living in the UK) so its not like im a burnout

can anyone give me some advice or tips or whatever all about this? i dont even know what im doing wrong so im not sure specifically what to ask for

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I really need help with my skin guys, this is starting to get really bad, feeling ashamed to go out in the streets level of bad

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>Graduated last year (EE)
>2 page resume filled with my abilities, volunteer experience, unrelated work experience, club involvement/leadership roles, and projects (school and personal)
>700+ applications later: ~10 interviews (no offers), hundreds of rejections, the rest don't reply
>I now have an inexplicable 16 month gap in my resume where all I've been doing is looking for work

I don't even know what I'm doing wrong at this point. I've evaluated everything I've been doing up till now. There's nothing else I can conclude aside from employers just not liking my face.

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How?

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Am I in the wrong to avoid people who list 'traveling' on Tinder, OkCupid, etc. or have lots of pics from their travels? They give the impression they're 'muh free spirit', easy/flighty, slightly degenerates who'll fuck people every place they visit, won't stand still because also 'muh-moving-across-the-globe', etc.

They don't seem the type who find a deeper meaning in embracing/contemplating nature, different cultures, sights. It's just so fashionable and trendy to travel now. I don't know, they just fucking put me off no matter how nice they look. How do I shake off this prejudice? There are plenty of them dating sites, maybe I'm missing out by swiping right.

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So I'm in a committed relationship with this girl. We got engaged one year ago, and just last night she tells me that her whole life she has never found sex to be anything but repulsive. She has endometriosis, so that makes it painful for her to have sex usually, but she says that even when it doesn't hurt, it's not enjoyable emotionally. So she's basically told me that we're never going to have sex again. And she says I can't have sex with anyone else because seeing me naked should be a thing only she can appreciate. I don't know what to do, because I appreciate sex so much. Not just the pleasure, but the connection with your partner. Not being able to feel that ever again will be agony. What do I do? What do we do?

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I don't have friends and I'm also a recluse and introvert so I don't go out. Should I just drink the pain away? Fuck why did I even get into a relationship? I shouldn't have entertained her to begin with. I was fine alone...

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I don't want friends
I don't want a girlfriend
I don't want my family around
I have always been alone, from a very early age, it used to bother me as a kid, now it does not, I'm not afraid of people or incapable of interacting with them, I'm not a teenager I'm an adult, I'm alone almost all the time, maybe I spend a couple hours a month with someone else but that's it I live alone, I eat alone, I keep to myself
I had friends before but I didn't really want them around so I stopped contacting them, same with my family
I know it isn't normal, I don't know why I am this way, I don't think I should change, I can't see how other people could enrich my life, is a life of completion isolation viable? Will I go insane if I keep like this?

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hey guys,
I've never used this board before but I really need help/advice right now...
I'm 19 and I'm going to college next year, I'm willing to become and university french teacher ( I live in the French part of Canada ).
I live with my parents, even though I haven't really talk to them since I'm 16 for numerous reasons. I've been in a stable relation with the same girl for almost 3 years now. I used to be really depressed and all before I met her. I used to dislike myself etc... she also saved my life when I tried to kill myself when when I was 16. the thing is that sometimes I feel that I'm nothing. and recently I found that image (pic related) and I really felt that I should/need to kill myself... I talking to you guys because I dont wanna talk about it with my gf...
thx guys

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I haven't had sex in 6 months... god fucking damn it.

My standards are tanking and my self-esteem is taking a dive. I can hire a hooker but that's the same as masturbation to me, i want to bed a girl without having to give her money for it, i want to CONQUER sex, just like i did 6 fucking months ago.

WHAT DO?

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My cum is full of these little yellow stones and everytime I cum it hurts a lot, especially at the tip ruining the orgasm completely
What the fuck do I have. Is it prostatis or something related?

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A really significant amount of people suck. I've seen a lot of people, men and women both, who make really shitty, borderline abusive romantic partners. I'm friendly towards most women, until I find out they're trying to get close to me. When they try to get close to me, I go full thot-patrol, and for good reasons.

So, why are all the women who end up dating me pieces of shit? They're all reasonably attractive.

At this point I would prefer a *less attractive* girlfriend who isn't going to be a malignant bitch, yet less attractive women don't even seem interested in talking to me. Are they just shy or something? I need some sort of new methods, to not be one of those people who only ends up dating shitty people. Can /adv/ direct me on this?

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I thought it was a rabbit destroying my garden but it's this guy instead. But everywhere I read on the Internet says to not kill the fucker. What do?

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What are some things that I can do in my spare time, beside lifting? I want to give up video games, and go after some more tangible achievements

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I've always had a darker kind of personality, when I was a kid I was edgelord and started using chans pretty early in my childhood since I didn't have any friends until college. Using websites similar to this one allowed nihilism to fully fester in my mind in a way that I'm completely convinced of the futility of life and the little value it has, to the extent that when some of my closest family members died I thought
>well that's too bad for them but at least I can take a few days off school
Because of health conditions I've also been near death a lot of times (not self harm at all) and I've seen my blood cover hospital floors so brutality doesn't faze me the slightest.

Now the problem is that in recent years I've grown an interest for biology and worked my ass off to get the grades required for a full scholarship into the most prestigious med school around (McGill). But I've been reading stories about the interview that they conduct before letting you in, especially in McGill, it's extremely psychological and tests your levels of empathy and morals to a degree that students sometimes with below average grades but the right personalities are accepted solely based on that.

So the question is : how do I regain a normal or above normal empathy levels and a more optimistic personality I assume I had as a kid, because I sure as hell won't be able to fake it.