My conscience is a dick

>>18667427
bump same

>>18667427
i just behave according to my mood, who ever gets it depends on my mood. its so much easier that way.

You need to find you're identity OP.
Check out real social dynamics on youtube. It's mostly about pick up but I've learned some valuable life lessons from the group. The day you stop comparing yourself to people is the day you stop suffering.

>>18667518
Thank you for the rec anon, I'll have a look.

Also bampu

>>18667657
No problem. Hopefully it'll change your life for the better

>>18667427
>dedicated to self improvement... And basically the entirety of your post.

Alright. Youre me. Im 30 now. Ill tell you how it all ends.

>not being true to yourself

Youre right. Get off the not true to yourself track. It only leads to humiliation and self loathing when you burn out of being someone else and realise what youve done.

>cant be confident without being chad

Chad strikes out with 9/10 women. Theres a certain type that likes him and shes aggressive. If shes the 1/10, hell have 10 women all over him in a room of 100 women.. Like say a club. He also plays the odds. Approaches until he gets a hit. Its all in your perception. Too much 4chan doesnt help. In the long run no girl loves him. Hes very insecure. He isnt confident at all, he knows he has success in the short run but all his relationships fall apart and he feels its because hes a failure.


Forget chad. Hes meaningless and irrelevant to you.

>who do you be.

Whoever you are right now. Age and experience will improve you. You dont need to put effort into that because itll happen as long as you arent a dickhole.

Be better at organizing your life, work on being better with money, get a better job, always learn and research what opportunities there are, and never fear a new opportunity.

>socially

Hang with YOUR PEOPLE. There are people you get along with organically. No need to change or be better or be cool. They just like you already. You arent perfect, anyone you get really close to will find some shit annoying and even downright abhorrent about you and theyll still love you.

>>18667689
Thank you for the detailed post anon! I guess just letting myself mature naturally is as good as it can resonably get, but it's a frustrating idea when you're an insecure 18 year old who wants to be on top of his shit NOW.

>the women part
This doesn't bother me too much, I'm not hopeless with women but I'd like to think I could be better with a better grasp on who I am. The self esteem problem makes me feel depressed which is why it bothers me.

>always take a new opportunity
I'd like to think I have this down too, so that's another positive!

>socially
This is something I'm worried about. I'm going to uni this month and I'm not sure where I fit in, due to this identity problem. I'm hoping if I just hit all the societies I like the look of I'll find people.

Long story short I'm still figuring out who I am and it sucks.

>>18667689
>>18667724
Continuing because I'm retarded and thought of more shit to say. I think partially the overprotective nature of my mother (who pretty much did the single mum thing due to my dad's work) has prevented me from making all the mistakes I needed to make earlier on. I'm only just starting to understand how I like to dress because I was too used to going out with her and letting her talk me over with what to get. I didn't socialise that much as a younger kid and I'm only just now getting back in the saddle with being able to socialise competently. Still not there properly. I know this is just me ranting now but it's fucking 4AM and I'm only awake because of jet lag fuck

>>18667724
>>18667735

I replied in detail because even in your reply you sound exactly like me. Its kind of scary. So much so i know youll be checking it when you wake up too.

Itll all be fine. Also university people will surprise you. Even the party type. Its not like college films what with the antics and the hazing.

But people are past highschool bullying and extreme judgementalism and theyre opening up to new people. And theres a wide variety of people and everyone wants new friends.

Not to mention posters of social events of every kind imaginable hanging in every hallway.

Honestly everything good pretty much seems to fall into your lap if your attitude is good. It changes your perception and highlights the opportunities. And they are many.