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>>18669449
I've gone to therapy, and it was really nice. It helps if you go in with a goal / some things you'd like to work on while you're there. It might be scary and it might suck to talk about your feelings, but the more you talk, the more your therapist can help you. Whether or not you actually achieve the goals you're wanting, sometimes it's just nice having a nonjudgemental person to be there and tell you that you're not a broken human being, yknow just giving support

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>met girlfriend online from X country in 2014
>Met her in 2015 in real life
>Fell inlove for real
>Made plans for the 20 next years
>Cheated on me in summer 2016 sexually (she still virgin)
>Her parents couldnt stand the dude because of his orgins so she decided to be with me also because she loved me
>Went to a huge depression with bad consequences
>Decided to forgive her
>Met her in christmass 2016 and spent the whole holiday and even christmas with her family in her X country
>I was sure that she was the one , i was the first one to be introduced to her family
> Decide to study in her country (x country) in september 2017
>She started telling me since mid august that she don't feel same as before with me
>Decided to break up but she was okay to stay friend with me because i couldn't go back to my country bcz i paid the unrefundable tuiton fees
>She admitted that she was with the dude that she cheated on me last summer 2016 and she did more sexual things with him (she still virgin)
>They do not date but they are friends with benzfits because of his origins so she has no futurz with him , she said its temporary with him
>She said there is maybe a possibility that we will return together if she feel something in real life with me , she study in the capital of her country and return each week in her hometown where the dude lives
>I am destroyed

What can i do , any advices please? , I am totally lost .
I fucked my life and i just need anything that could change that i am lost , help please

>>18669449
i had CBT in middle school for my (literal) autism
all i remember about it is playing around with play-doh that had marbles in it or some shit

dont think this helps you at all, sorry OP

Talk to other bitches OP

Bitches love to chase. Get her to think that dick is worth it

I would ignore her. She seems like the type of person that would flake on a date.

>>18669428

She said she'd call you. Give her time tocall you. If she doesn't, c'est la vie. Move on. Ball is in her court right now. If she doesn't do anything with it, it's her problem.

>>18669319
are you blind?

>>18669346
I know its big but how does it look?

Please be descriptive

What do they try to talk to her about?

>>18669317
Either she's giving them a vibe, you have a cuck appearance or both.

>>18669371
It's not so much the content, because they always initiate a pointless discussion; they just have a laser focus on her when approaching the both of us unsolicited.

What a fucking drama queen

>>18669289
You're a faggot and there's no advice to give you other than to stop being a faggot.

Tell you what - if she really is into you then she won't mind if you say or do something stupid, unless you happen to do something really fucked up like shooting a dog.

About your terrible "social skills" - meaning that you don't know how to act around normies ? That's fine, don't worry about it.

So mind giving us a little deeper backstory ? How did you two meet ? How old are you ? How is your life awful ?

if he won't give you the pills for a genuine need then he's a wack bitch bro

>>18669288
just tell this same post to him, it will be fine
you are not asking for something particulary weird

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>>18669296
>>18669307
Will it be that easy? I'm just afraid that my young age will make him averse to prescribing something. But I've already seen a Urologist who basically said lol its in ur head and gave me some beefed up ibuprofen (I also have weird pelvic aches/lower abdominal that started up when I tried to do kegels once to work on fixing this) which did fucking nothing. I certainly feel like an old man down there, Jesus Christ.

>>18669286
Flip a coin 3 times heads for Netflix tails for Spotify

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>>18669286
>Pirating/Torrenting out of the question
>Will watch the show on websites illegally hosting it
Lol

I guess you should go with Spotify then. It should be easy to use a friends netflix or some shit.

>>18669340
>>Will watch the show on websites illegally hosting it
not necessarily, could use Hulu or that Yahoo service

>>18669254

>start taking interest in the military because I liked the scouts, join reserves, actually have fun

>brother under a lot of stress as he is trying to get a spot on academy team for football

>we both get minimum (and I mean the worst you can do to pass) score on our school final exams to graduate

>Our career progressions
I do military for one year, finish training and leave because military life is hard and boring as it turns out

5 years of customer service jobs, then 4 years of college to get to decent job. Pretty much credit the military with making that possible and luckily managed to get part-time work during summers as well as a loan

Brother implodes, pro football career obviously doesn't happen, becomes drug dealer.. eventually house is raided and we have to get him out of the country to our family overseas in the US

He is a chad so gets married to a girl within a year of knowing her and lands a green card, gets a car sales job, actually makes bank

Dad's business crushed during recession after school, slowly loses everything. He basically never expanded it and overcharged his customers a lot so to them he was just an unnecessary cost. His family wealth disappears overnight because most of his family are complete lunatics who imploded. At 40 his friend lets him use his premises in exchange for doing tech support for his company

50 years old he just sits at home and drinks heavily in the evening, no friends and is basically a neurotic mess. Mum is still working and basically supports them both

While my career life is now going well, my social life is a shambles from years of neglect essentially. I have 2 or 3 core friends but I don't see myself ever getting a gril because honestly I'm just not the most attractive guy. I've had some flings but they're really just one night stand stuff

Over time I've become less and less interested in women and girlfriends.

I almost feel like I probably shouldn't have kids or a family?

>>18669306
If you start taking care of your body and continue focusing on your career, you'll be able to get a girl. You're letting how fucking sad the world usually is get in the way of your goals, I've been doing that recently.

Biggest lesson here OP:

>don't have kids
>if you do don't be a shithead

speed

>severe sleeping problems

elaborate?

what time is it where you are also?

>>18669378
I'm in Sweden. It's
20:41 here atm so I don't really have time to sleep anyway...can you help me?

>>18669227
He's got a clogged pipe retard tell him to quit holding it in

>>18669227

It's called blue balls, vasocongestion, Epididymal Hypertension or a build-up of blood flow or other fluids. With more stimulation, there's more blood flow to the genital region, including the testicles or even the vulva. The fluid wants to get somewhere, but without there being that release, it builds up and builds pressure. it causes the insides to stretch as they get engorged, and that's what hurts. Most men won't even experience any noticeable swelling, but the engorgement happening inside the testicles is what's causing all that pain.

It's called blue balls or blue vulva because blue is the colour of a bruise and that is basically what is happening, you're kind of bruising your genitals because of the intense pressure. It is relieved by ejaculation and then you can either take painkillers and then sleep it or wait it off. If there is intense pain like he's crying and unable to move (like braking a bone type pain) then get medical help ASAP.

I used to get it all the time, I just ejaculated and then went to sleep and the next day it was always better.

Try not to do it all the time. There is possibilities of causing damage to the vessels and organs down there but they're pretty strong.

I'm not a medical professional but I study medicine in my own time for fun using textbooks and I did A level biology for a year. I'm not that type of person who uses WebMD or stupid articles. Please do not self diagnose anything without consulting a Physician or GP unless you're intelligent enough or qualified to do so, a second opinion from a pro is always best though.

>>18669227

This could be a testicular torsion, which is when the testicle twists and blocks the cord that brings blood flow to the scrotum. It can happen when you're having sex or during another physical activity, but it would be a lot more pain like excruciating pain and swelling. This is very serious and requires immediate medical attention.

>>18669131

You can pretty much take anyone to court. Consult an actual lawayer to find out whether it's worth it or not.

>>18669131
Stature of limitations bud. Read em'

Sucks you had a shit dad but unless you have concrete proof it'll be hard to proceed.

Animal proteins. Exercise. Cold showers. And positive thoughts. You can do it, anon. Took me a while to go from full autist to debonair but living away at college helped.

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>>18669111
>neither my chest
for that bit you need estrogen pills, not testosterone

Stop fapping. Eat more nutritious food and more steaks. Take cold showers. Lift if you can

But mainly stop fapping

>>18669093

military?

your life is basically fucked already fyi by the sounds of it

go live with a relative or something, sounds like he's just having a negative affect on your life overall

if he's your only family and you're young then go for the military, get out now while you can otherwise you will just drift into drugs out of boredom and become a junkie

anything you do at this point there's a high risk of homelessness or living in a van, the military potentially can get you out of that situation

the fact that you're on here and not going to friends indicates you're either average or below average attractiveness, so yeh military or police.. welcome to the bottom rung of society

>>18669128
I have thought about it but I need to get fit and I also definately do not have the GCSEs to even get into military (you allegedly need 3 at C or above). I also wouldn't mind having the capital to live in a van and drive the UK till I find something but I don't. And on your last point it's quite the contrary, I am above average looking but won't go to my friends because they all live in the town I left and I never want to return there. I intentionally took myself to a remote island so that I can get away from societal norms and the drudge of their affairs; also to somewhat help my father. Thanks all the same.

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>>18669128
Also
>Smoke weed
>Become a junkie
Are you 16 sage

>>18669057
If you care about them go see them dummy.

> i think should i go with her?

No stay of of it and her life.

>>18669057

My sister killed herself this summer, so I can somewhat relate. If you care about this girl, then go see her. Let her know she's not necessarily alone and that there are people who care whether she lives or dies. It might make a difference.

Yes. It isn't the sex. It's the drop in test. Go fuck a hooker and get over yourself.

>>18669066

>Go fuck a hooker and get over yourself

People told me the exact same thing before "go fuck some slut and you'll feel better". So 3 years ago I made a tinder account thinking maybe my 2nd time would be better. Nope. The bitch made fun of me and turned me off of sex even more.

It's not my testosterone

>>18668966
You need to start loving yourself first. After that you got to realize that you shouldnt prevent yourself from enjoying what life has to offer. Even if women turn you down who gives a flying fuck? I'm still alive and your pussy don't prevent me from getting pussy.