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I broke up with my boyfriend three months ago because he cheated on me. Radio silence fell between us for two weeks after that until he texted me again.
I replied to him, furious about how he didn't even make an effort to earn my forgiveness, not even by telling me the whole truth about the cheating when I confronted him about it (I had to discover it personally later).
I told him that if he made an effort to prove he cared about me, I could have found the strenght to forgive him and trust him again. But he did no such thing, even going as far as telling me that we should not getting back togheter at all. He rapidly found another relationship while I still remain single.
To this day, he keeps writing me every three days, like clockwork. I still love him very much and I can't find the strenght to send him away for good, yet I realize that until he disappears I will never be at peace with myself.
The real question that bugs me is: why does he keep texting me? I told him that I find it strange, awkward and unnecessary and he replied saying that he doesn't believe finding a reason for everything makes sense. Of course I don't fucking agree.
I just don't understand why he lied to me in the first place if he didn't want to stay with me anyways. He says that he realized he's better off without me. And yet he keeps coming back.
I don't understand, anons. Please speculate.
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>>18105697
He fell out of love with you - couldn't cope with the pain of breaking up with some one so he did the cowardly thing of making it "so bad you had to break up". Trying to lessen the guilt he's feeling he tries to regain some control by keeping you around. "It can't be that bad if she's still responding to me". But don't be mistaken, the guilt is not about you.
All in all this guy is a manlet and an emotional coward. He doesn't have the balls to make the hard decisions and so he keeps returning to you to make it seem less obvious that's the case.
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>I still love him
Fucking why? Fucking have some self respect my god.
Tell him to fuck off, block him on everything and move on with your shift life.
I was cheated on and once I found out I never have that bitch a second thought. Just the thought of her fucking someone else after claiming she loved me was outright disgusting.
I didn't even hear her side of the story. Told her to pack up and get out.
Grow a sack and do the same.
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Block him absolutely, from all modes of communication. Phone calls, texts, social media, hell delete your facebook if you have to or even have one. Give him absolutely no option to keep sapping you. He's using you as his emotional crutch, and you're letting him.
DON'T let him.
I had an ex gf fuck me up for years, and she moved on in less than a week, already dating someone and didn't have the courage to tell me, had to find out from a guy who was hitting on her a year later. Lost 5 years of my life needlessly on someone who was simply NOT INTERESTED.
You have immense value, don't throw your love away on people that use you.
18 year old here. how do I find lowers like me who aren't in college yet or have no job?
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>>18105686
Why do you want that? You could try to move on in life and hang out with people that actually do shit with theirs.
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>>18105691
they're so busy. plus their continued existence reminds me I'm beneath them and why I wasn't able to stay for Two jobs beyond seasonal. I actually just found out today that my girlfriend is able to go (even tho she also missed the fall semester like me) but I can't. Part of me wants to leave her.
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Been dating my girlfriend for a few months now. I've noticed one of her "close" friends in pretty influential to her, manipulative even, and not in a positive way either. She's also the ex girlfriend of one my girlfriends brothers.
In the beginning, they were just going through the breakup, so she wasn't really in the picture. Then she starts leaning on my gf for emotional support maybe? and my girl gets it in her head that she needs to help her get over her brother
Cool, alright, they were friends before so whatever. Then my girl starts spending more time with her, after work happy hours, girls nights.
I tell my girl that there's a reason her brother dumped this broad and upgraded, don't let her pull you down either. "These guys she's crushing on are only using this girl to get to her friends and eventually you" "Anon, stop being so insecure, they're not like that!"
I've told her my feelings toward this and if this sort of things continue, then I'll end it sooner than later. She's 27, so I don't need someone easily influenced by others anyway in the long term. I'm also wondering what the relationship with her brother is? He's moving away, so I wonder if my girlfriend is using his ex as a filler for the brothers less contact too..
Are my thoughts justified here?
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>>18105672
>I tell my girl that there's a reason her brother dumped this broad and upgraded, don't let her pull you down either.
What the fuck, anon?
Don't insult your fucking girlfriend's friends. You're rude and coming off as a huge asshole.
Let her enjoy her time with her friend.
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>Hook up with girl at a party
>Only foreplay cause I was too drunk to get it up
>Awkward.png
>Exchange numbers anyways
>The next day, she ends up messaging me in the middle of the night
>Wants to come over, but we don't end up meeting because I replied too late to the message and she had gone to sleep
>She doesn't reply for almost a week and I figure that she lost interest in me since all we really did was fool around
>Just as I'm beginning to forget about her, she messages me apologizing for how she was super busy the whole week and asks what I'm doing for the weekend
>I reply about 30 minutes later, and she goes silent for another 3-4 days
>Messages me yesterday night apologizing again for the slow response
>Wants to hang out sometime this week
What's the deal here? I'm interested in this girl, but It's become increasingly difficult for me to believe that people can be so poor with communication if they actually give even the slightest ounce of a shit. I've had a string of people ghost me in the past year or so, and I'm beginning to get tired of ordeals like this. Should I try to setup a time to hangout, or am I just going to keep getting jerked around?
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>>18105658
Your giving her bad responses. The contents of your messages are bad. That's my analysis.
Be more "manly" if that makes any sense. glhf
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Could be shes playing hard to get, but 4 days to respond is fucking bullshit. Anyways, just tell her you can meet at when/where and wait for a yes or no.
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Sounds like bad timing in between responses. Just be firm on setting something up and if it falls through then maybe start looking for a date else where.
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>At GFs parents house (she lives with her parents)
>She's getting flirty
>Make out some, then I start to go down on her
>Tell her if she wants more, we are going to need some privacy in my apartment
>She's just pouts and goes to sleep
Did I fuck it up or was it her? My apartment is less than a mile away and I just don't want to be face deep in her legs if her sister busts in. I was trying to tease a bit to. She's now mad, because this was her only day off.
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If her parents were home then it's more respectful if you don't, if it's just her sister and she's in high school or older then it doesn't matter at all. I've never met someone who cared about their siblings having sex at home.
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>>18105654
She's an exhibitionist. The possibility that you'll get caught turns her on and makes it more exciting. Next time just quickie it right there and she'll love it.
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Alright, so quick story
>Shy but cute girl in my class
>Need date to a dance I am invited to
>Ask her a little awkwardly because my friends egged me on, she agrees and has me put my number in her phone
>A day or two later she finally texts me asking when the dance is
>I tell her and she says she is so sorry because she can't go because she has some retreat or whatever on that day
I am still interested in getting to know her, and I don't know if she just lied and didn't want to go with me. Should I tell her that I'd still like to get to know her?
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>>18105637
abandon. If a girl is ever remotely interested in a guy, she's try to make it so that she spends time with you. Universal advice here, if she's giving excuses, ANY excuses, she's not interested. It's really easy.
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>>18105644
Well, I mean she has a set plan that's already a month in advance. She also did want my number, and when I say she's shy I mean it. She doesn't even know me anyway
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>>18105648
>a month in advance
>a month
Just more time to give her a reason to cancel or make up an excuse.
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how do I get over my feelings if loneliness? I have a girlfriend but she's going to be really busy now. nothing has been working out for me and now I'm jobless and schoolless. how do I deal with my current situation? how do I accept that I'm just a suicidal lonely faggot?
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>>18105633
forget it I give up
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I'm super depressed in school. I started crying in the library today and had a teacher comfort me. I have mostly A's, but I can't deal with it. I fucking woke up every hour last night sweating and I'm not doing anymore work. My anxiety is kicking in really hard and yes something bad did happen. I can't continue right now. I want the semester to end right now...should I do it? Already cried two hours today fml. I only lose like 1 grand...hehe, halfway there but it's so far away. Gonna talk to my parents later
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Fuck no. Stick with it and do it, shitststain. Your future self will be proud, so stop thinking about your sorry ass for a bit and think about your future ass.Fag.
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>>18105594
I'd kill to get your grades. The shit I went through in school, plus my social anxiety... I powered through despite getting the worst grades without actually failing and getting written out of the school.
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>>18105594
You fucking asshole. I had to power through GAD/Panic Disorder and ADHD in order to have a paltry 2.85 GPA in community fucking college, in a liberal arts field. Fuck.
Well anyway, if you know you're having a nervous breakdown and you aren't going to get shit done, then withdraw and try to salvage the situation as best you can. Talk to admissions or counseling and see if you might qualify for some medical withdrawal and maybe a reimbursement of your fees (lel doubt it).
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So I was here the other day asking whether College or Trades, and Im back again.
My only goal in life is to have a large family and raise them right. I want to get my sons into the Special forces and my daughters married to successful men. Im 19 and a volcel.
I have been hesistant to go to college because my bad experience with high school, however I am inspired by the Winklevoss twins making a fortune through their college experience/connections. I figure if I make a lot of money my family will become more influential in society, which would make me happy.
Your thoughts on shit like this?
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>>18105583
>I want to get my sons into the Special forces and my daughters married to successful men.
Stop micromanaging the lives of people that don't even exist yet. Live on today a bit more, dude.
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>>18105583
google search: how to be a cuck
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>>18105583
You believe you can control what your life, your family and your future will be like. You can't. Whatever comes at you or whatever life brings at you will most likely be totally different from what you imagine now. Either you can acknowledge and accept that now, or you can grow old and bitter in time. Your choice.
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How does /adv/ deal with obsessive exes? Me and my gf of 2 years split mutually yesterday evening. But she calls me at like ten last night screaming and crying for me to take her back. Her mother even came in to stop her episode. I had to hang up in the middle of it. I felt like an asshole for it. How do I tell her to move on? Or is it even my place to tell her?
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block her. she doesn't want or need anything you can give her anymore.
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It's the insisting that she does is the issue. She claims to be an emotional wreck without me. Is negligence the answer?
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Damn, that sounds really hard to deal with but it's certainly not unusual. Maybe before blocking her explain that you're doing that because she's clearly unstable and will need to clear her head before you two can talk again
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gib moar
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>>18105553
i think i'm autistic and I don't know if I should seek treatment, or continue to adapt and learn from mistakes.
i want to take the easy road, but don't know how much self respect I'd have if I did it that way
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>>18105557
is it interfering with your daily life? if it's not having a negative impact, there's no pressing need to address it and the live & learn route is fine.
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Hello,
Please help, i usually fuck up with girls and i finally think i found someone nice. Unfortunately thanks to my unmeasurable amounts of social deprivation and lack of interaction+ lack of confidence i might fuck it up.
Here it goes:
I met a girl in a club. I couldnt talk to her then cus i was high as fuck on LSD. SHe was staring into my soul. Next day i add her on Facebook by searching her from the club attendee list. I find her, i add her, i talk to her a bit, next thing you know shes in my appartment.
I wanted to meet her in a bar, she says she doesnt do bars so she came over, she pops a joint, we smoke, we kiss, almost fuck then she has to leave. BLUE BALLS fuck yeah. ( she did tell me before the exact time she has to leave so no doubt there).
Problem is, she is barely 18 and i am 26 almost 27... i dont know... what to do how to talk to her, how to interact. SHe seems into me but very avoidant. She came once more to my apartment but she was on her period and she didnt want to do anyhting. I might have said something wrong or done something wrong i dont know but after that we havent met and she seems to be avoiding me. What should i do ? Maybe she doesnt find me interesting enough ? im an artist, i have money and i am, above average looking. she seems to be the popular type of girl. I am clueless. Help me anon ... please....
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maybe invite her to do something other than go to your apartment, try to have fun then maybe more attraction will be built up enough for you to have sex but idk
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also if shes the popular type she probably wouldnt like to hang out at your apartment only
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>>18105454
lol literally everything about this is fucked.
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How do i stop watching porn?
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By just stopping it. If you watched it now, just try going for a week without it but you can fap. When you watch porn, you also will edge and that isn't good for you. A fap session of 3 mins is just right. Anything above that is edging and makes you a weaker and lazier person for the next few days. Then if you want to stop fapping, slowly decrease the number of times you fap.
>Source
My NoPorn/Porn Free - 3 months
NoFap - I fapped today but I feel okay and not like a weak person.
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>>18105414
Just stop watching it.
Also, why do you want to?
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Op, I have the same problem, I even have a long term girlfriend who I enjoy sex with however when she is not around ill spent 3-4 hours edging. I could get so much done in that time but I fucking waste it
Monday morning, panicked again. That same feeling like I'm gonna throw up - and I normally do.
I'm 5 weeks into a new job, and I really don't feel comfortable in it. They really pressured me to take it, and now I'm very unhappy, and can't get motivated to do anything. I'm behind on three major projects, have one due today, and three due tomorrow. I was out sick during the week and should have made up for the work during the weekend, but I just got drunk and ignored it. I want off this ride.
I have a call at 10 AM with my boss. I've worked with her at my previous job and she's a very nice person, but I think she'll yell at me and ask what's up. Should I tell her I'm considering leaving and that this gig isn't for me...?
I just don't want to get yelled at and I'm so overwhelmed. I've already told one person that I'm overwhelmed, so this wouldn't come as a total surprise.
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>>18105305
Is there something about this specific job, or is it that you just can't handle employment?
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>>18105427
I've been in the workforce for 12 years, so I can handle it. For some reason, over the past couple of years, Mondays have been particularly bad, but I can work.
I think if I really put my back into it, I could succeed here, but it's not what I was expecting or what I was sold.
Also, working from home is killing me. I just get drunk all the time now and spend the majority of my time alone, or trying to manufacture post-work activities with people.
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>>18105305
Bumping for thoughts... call in 45 minutes with boss... Help. :(
What do you think it means to be a man or a woman, socially?
What is the difference between being a boyfriend and being a girlfriend in a relationship? What do you like about your role and what role would you want your partner to fill?
What is the difference between being the man and being the woman in sex? How does it feel to imagine being the other?
What do you think makes you attracted to one gender and not the other? What traits does one have that the other doesn't?
I'm just curious to know what different people think. Answer as few or as many as you like. The questions are trying to get at more than just the genetalia difference.
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Being from one of the most equal countries in the world, I don't see many differences. I honestly believe women and men can do the same things equally good, sure there might some some physical aspects that makes it harder for a woman to run a mile faster than a man, etc.
The general conception I believe is that men should take the lead in the bedroom, but I don't think many men would complain if a woman took the leading role. Not in a western country at least.
I'm bisexual so both genders are fine to me. However, I'm attracted to a certain personality. I like independent and dominant personalities, which is most commonly found in men and I believe that is a society thing. Women are thought early to be pretty and groom themselves, while men are thought to explore, play and be curious. Although I see a shift here as well, men are starting to groom themselves a lot more.
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What do you think it means to be a man or a woman, socially?
Dealing with the social norms expected of a person of that gender.
>How does it feel to imagine being the other?
About the same as trying to imagine being anyone I'm not.
>What do you think makes you attracted to one gender and not the other?
Whatever number on the Kinsey scale my brain's hardwired to.
>What traits does one have that the other doesn't?
Whatever traits that are developed as a result of growing up under that sort of identity.