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>>18105619
Ask her out for a coffee or lunch, treat her.

Got nothing to loose

>>18105619
Can't you get her out without officially asking her out? That's probably the answer to this dilemma.

But you don't seem to have the game to pull that one off, though.

Never date at work.

>>18105551
You are wrong to think your therapist will relate to you at all. That's not their purpose, nor is it something they will ever say to you. It is inappropriate and sways the intention of therapy, which is to remain entirely objective. Stop viewing your therapist as having a gender, because that is entirely irrelevant. You should seek the most qualified, most highly rated therapist for your condition, regardless of their gender.

contrary to >>18105563 , therapists are humans, and usually but not always they are some more empathetic humans. To a certain degree he's right; your therapist isn't your friend, but you can still find a relatable one.

I've heard the same thing that women therapists are judgemental and I just have to say, that's bullshit. Probably some are, maybe even most idk, but the therapist I've clicked the best with was a cute woman who just liked her job and listening to people

Don't let other people sway your idea of who a good therapist is, just try different ones, and if one fits, you'll know.

OP, first of all understand that nobody can help you because nobody has your experiences and can completely relate to you.
>He was firmly of the belief that I need a female therapist
Why? He's a normal guy having a normal life. He's the type of man that thinks you go to a bar to find women. He can't understand the sort of issues that is plaguing your soul. There's admittedly a few people like me and you who are almost completely unsalvageable, and the only thing therapy and medicine does for you is numb you down to acceptable levels.
>there was a sense of quiet judgment rather than understanding
Yes, but people who don't deal with your shit can't understand that shit. They think that an introverted person is "cured" by going to clubs, a guy who is lonely is "cured" by being around people, a guy who is almost perpetually romantically single is "cured" by being around girls. You and me both know that's not true.

All that being said, I suggest you do whatever the fuck you want. This is a piece of advice for the entirety of your life. Do whatever the fuck you want, you know why? Because nobody gives a shit, nobody will truly understand you. At best they'd be able to relate to a small percentage of your experiences, vague shit such as going to the same highschool or living in the same city, and either validate what you say or act against it.

It's a good reason why "just b urself bro" in the "normie" (I hate using that word btw) sense is never a good advice, and the very fact that this board exists is testament for that. Being yourself will never work for you and me because ourselves are not in tune with the rest of the people. People like us simply don't resonate well with others.

you want to risk your job to spend money on a busted car?

save your money you fucking retard, a car is the dumbest thing to spend a ton of money on unless you're a literal millionaire or retired guy or something

>>18105367
After 4 months on the job, you don't ask for ANY special favors for any reason. You're still on probation, buddy.

>>18105317

Are you over or under 20 years old? Also, have you ever spoken to her before?

>>18105331
18, so under, and no

>>18105317

Have you talked to her before this? If not, then do that first. Girls are more likely to say yes to a date invitation, if they know you a bit and trust that you aren't a serial killer.

Also, do not take it personally, if she says no. Just accept you're not her thing and move on to find someone more suitable.

Nah, but the window is closing on somethings. Get to it and don't wait any longer.

>>18105286
Never too late to turn your life around.
Starting early, or later is a difference of starting point. Never too late to start, but don't expect to overrun someone else who's started earlier than you.

It also doesn't mean some of your windows of opportunities not closing though.You can't reasonably think you could be a pro athlete starting at your age right?
But you could be a better version of you. Say, you're a broke student, you could turn it with getting your finance sorted and start saving to invest for fortune... kinda like that.

>>18105286

If you're lucky, at 28 you've still got 2/3 of your life left. Sure you've got time, so if you feel the need to turn your life around, do it now and you'll have plenty of time to enjoy your efforts.

Wouldn't eating less and light exercise help you lose weight regardless of your insulin dose?

>>18105148
It would, but if I eat less without dosing down my insulin, I'll have low blood sugar all the time.

>>18105141
be more specific

why does your doctor refuse to cooperate

did they give a reason why they felt reducing insulin dose and calorie intake would be a bad idea?

It's far more likely they're worried about the repercussions of rapid weight loss or a reduced dose of insulin with a quickly-failed diet.

>>18104879

You're fucked OP. Can't get out of this one. Good luck.

>>18104880
Fug

>>18104880
I knew it was stupid. The best i can do is just quit my job??

>>18104787
Don't ride in the rain.

>>18104790
Unfortunately, it's not like I have a choice
I'm not going to hold that post against you because I would probably have done the same

By finding another girl.

>>18104747
How

>>18104767
>how do I find another girl

uh, you get off the internet and go interact with people.

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>>18104492
Jesus dude.
I come check out this board every couple of months and then leave.
Good luck, I'm outta here.

Unfortunately you just gotta cut out that oh-so-perfect high you get from your fetish. The pain will recede eventually.

>>18104497
Hahaha, great scenario right?
>>18104503
I found some posts online about that high (mostly on NoFap forums).
The thing is, this isn't some kink I developed as an adult. I've been into fat girls since 3rd grade. I remember watching an episode of Billy and Mandy as a kid where Mandy eats Irwin and getting turned on. It's deeply ingrained in my soul.

I want to add that this is my first relationship (early 20s).

I know that I will get a lot of
>Don't fall in love with the first person you meet
's in response- but I waited this long to be sure I had someone good. She's really really good. Like really really really good. I love her so much.

I wish I could have seen this coming though. I guess I can't get rid of this part of myself

I'm thinking maybe I should talk about this with her. I really don't know what else to do. She has no idea I have this fetish.

I've heard a train of thought that if you want to find wife-material women that you should seek out women who are working some sort of nurturing profession.

Women who work as teachers (love children), work as vet technician or animal clinic (loves animals) or maybe a healthcare professional (nursing, etc. loves to take care of people).

Those qualities are generally seen as desirable in a woman

>>18104353

Can't argue with that.
Seems like sound reasoning.

I'd avoid medical professions though since the stress level seem to be high.

>>18104359
>>18104255

Definitely not sound reasoning, let me tell you why.
I've worked in both the medical field and at a vet's office and I can tell you first hand women who are in nursing classes/nurses/cna's are the worst kind of people.

Most of the women who are in nursing took it as their second option because their first didnt work out. Most of them are single mothers who needed a job they could support themselves and their kid on. Most of them do drugs outside of work and hate their patients/taking care of people. Most of them are so sick of caring for people that they hate any kind of nurturing.


The animal thing- most people who I found to be working at the vet's office like the power of being able to manipulate something smaller than them.

The teacher thing - every person I know who's become a teacher did it as their last resort. They usually had a shitty major in college and the only thing they could find a job in was in teaching.

>>18104096

yes

Only if your life is more important than your friendship.

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>>18104096
You need to re-evaluate your life if your only friend is a fucking 15 year old girl.

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>gf from Japan
Weeb detected. Please die

>>18103994
Send her home early. It's on her to figure out how to make that happen. She needs to contact the airline and see if she can move her flight up. She also needs to call mommy and daddy and tell them an emergency happened and she needs an earlier flight, if it's going to cost her to change her flight plan.

>>18103994

call your parents and ask if your girlfriend can stay with you guys for a week.

and if not, ask a friend to shelter her then.

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>>18099009
Take it from someone on the opposite end for completely different reasons; neither of you are entirely to blame here.

"Life-long" friendships like these are typically unhealthy and can lead to a bad fallout if one becomes uncomfortable with the attachment. People grow apart, especially those who've known each other since adolescence. It's natural. He possibly felt this way about you for a long time, but also felt conflicted.

That being said, from the sound of it this person is leading a pretty unsavory path. Perhaps he's cutting you out not only for his sake, but your own. I say it's in your best interest to take him up on it. If you really do care about him, let him go and give him the chance to come back if the space changes how he feels. It might not sit right at first but ultimately you'll be better off.

>>18099009
Are you the same person you were when you were a kid? Neither is he. And it is totally natural (if sad) for people to grow up in different directions, so that the people you are now do legitimately have a lot less in common than you once did.

Friendship and nostalgia can disguise that growing-apart for a while, but not forever. And maybe the too-muchness he senses in you has been your unconsciously desperate attempt to keep alive what was dying.

It's not inevitable, but it is common and natural. You can be sad about it, but you have to move on.

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>>18099229
>"Life-long" friendships like these are typically unhealthy and can lead to a bad fallout if one becomes uncomfortable with the attachment. People grow apart, especially those who've known each other since adolescence. It's natural. He possibly felt this way about you for a long time, but also felt conflicted.
I guess you're right... It just really hurts because all this time I really saw him as a brother, as family.

>>18099277
>Are you the same person you were when you were a kid?
Sorry, I just wake up. He berated me because "I can't change", because "I'm still the same" and thus he was "wasting his time", so I dont know what to tell you.

Why did you have to cheat on me. We were perfect for each other. Now you want me back but fuck I'd have no self-respect if I went back to you after how you treated me.
I hope I meet someone I like soon. It's been a long time

I'm frustrated.

I need to train.

Don't feel so sorry for yourself. You fucking deserved to go to jail. Don't blame me. I'm not the one that kicked the front door in. Also you weren't in jail a week. It was 4 days. I'm sorry you lost your job, but don't blame me for it. You should've known I wasn't even there. You didn't even check to see if my car was gone. So that whole story about worrying I would hurt myself is bullshit. And if you were so worried, why didn't you call the cops? No. Instead you break into my home causing more than 100 dollars worth of damage. And all of this was just a day after you raped me. And you don't think you did anything wrong. You're sick. I probably won't press rape charges, and I have no choice on pressing the burglary charges. But if I did have a choice, I would. Because there's no other way I could get your scummy ass to pay for the repairs. I hope one day you realize how fucked up you've treated me and I hope you can get help. I don't ever want you to act like this around another person. The only time I'll ever see you again is in court.