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>>18104863
I was thinking about something to make her sexually active that can bring happy sex to the relationship not making me feel like a predator

I had the same thing with my ex-wife. You can see where that went...

Going the other way, I'm actually starting to be that way with my girlfriend. I'm just not interested in sex, though I'm not at all sure if I'm not interested in sex at all or if I'm not interested in sex with her.

Sad to say, deep adult talking is the thing to do.

>>18104841

She's a cunt OP. I don't know what to say cause every fucking thread here pans out the same way. Just forget her. Do what you love in life. I know that's cliche as fuck but so many people just fucking fall in line with everyone else because they're too afraid to do what they want. It's not easy any of this but fuck, who do you want to be when all of this is over?

She's not happy, just pretending to be. That's how chicks act on social media, but if you actually talk with them you realize they are lonely as fuck. Forget about her, go to the gym, start eating healthy and get enough sleep. In 1 month you will feel much better and have forgotten all about her

stop stalking her FB more than maybe once a month.
deactivate notifications from her and stop her appearing in your timeline and activate two factor authentification for security reasons.
Don't answer calls, as you see this one was only trying to get you jealous so you come back.

If a partner in a serious relationship is actively using tinder, that is a valid reason to end the relationship. Don't go back, stay strong and try to direct your mind to other topics.

You thinking she is much better of without you is exactly what she is trying to make you think, her manipulation is working. Deep down she is probably hit but trying much more to make it seem like she is doing ok. But partying, booze and meeting new people is basically a sign of compensating inner problems.

>>18104824
Bump for help

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pomodoro_Technique

>>18104877
Not OP. But is this a meme. I've seen this get tossed around frequently but doubt it works.

>>18104801
Just say you're going to try walking without the stick for once to test yourself even if you might come back (in saying that there's no promises to return and she'll see it as it's not her but you). Also gratz on working on your drinking.

Everything is confidential right?
Tell her she is a really shitty therapist that doesn't even pay attention to the person paying her to do this. That also makes her a lazy, greedy, fraudulent bitch.
And the best part is she can't tell anybody about it because of confidentiality.
Just stew in her own juices.

Well another soul saved.
Off to another thread.

Carpe Diem.

>>18104783
Sounds good. God speed.

Well my job is done. Off to another thread to save another condemned soul.
Carpe Diem.

>>18104803
Ave

Send her a text every other day, continuing your conversation until the weekend

>>18104744
Yeah, but saying what? Do you know any decent conversation starters that won't make me come off as clingy?

>>18104769
Say anything, mention something funny that happened at work, tell an interesting story.

Has* been

Performance anxiety, you sound like me. What got me over the hump was communicating that it happens (and not making a big deal out of it) and that it's nothing that she does. And leave it at that, eventually you'll be more comfortable with her and you'll lose the nerves.


Also get her off the pedestal, she's special because she's your gf, but there are plenty of women like her out there.

>>18104699
Good advice. When I'm not thinking too much about it we do fine but when I give it too much thought I end up nerving myself soft. Also, the pedestal thing is completely true but it's a hard thing to shake since us bring together is fairly new.

Pt. 2


Allyn and I are going back and forth of how the place is because they just opened. At one point, I sent him the msg saying, "Enjoy the food." Allyn flipped on me. He said something like: You could've been here if you actually wanted to hang out with us. You still think there's still a three of us?. I replied back saying "I'll contact you back when I get my shit done." He said something like "We're not gonna fall for it again." I haven't spoken to him since. It's been three months.

You see... the last couple of years, I've been saying I'm gonna get my drivers license during whatever (winter, summer, etc). But I haven't. I'm afraid to drive. I'm 20 and still haven't gotten a license. I've been doing this shit since 19. The only reason I was doing it because Allyn would ram it down my throat. "ARE YOU GONNA GET YOUR LICENSE? WHEN ARE YOU GONNA DO IT." I just hate driving. Also I don't work. I just go to school, do well in my classes, and just be me.
I'm alone, 20 years old, with a boring life. Every time I got to Hollywood with my family for shopping or eating, I would just imagine myself being there, only me. In a car, having a good time. But I haven't lifted my brush to paint my own picture. I ask myself, why I don't have a GF. Then I realize my situation and I don't blame them. If I was them , I wouldn't me. i'm lost with myself even my anti-depressants won't even help.

You have to suck it up and take initiative. It's the hardest part of being depressed but it's the only way to improve your situation. Force yourself to get your license. You simply can't be self sufficient and involved without driving. It's terrifying at first but you will get used to it. Your friends think you don't like them because you're withdrawn and probably moody. If they're really worth it to you, make some effort to live better and communicate your feelings.

if you've got money, take some adult driving classes

adult driving classes tend to understand the fear of driving thing more, and they will take you outside of your comfort zone, in a safe environment, to teach you how to fight what you fear


you're probably not gonna do the full amount of hours required with them, you'll still need relatives or older friends to help pad that out
but a real driving instructor on a closed course will probably help you clear some big fears

>>18104664
its usually a matter of time, thats what I read/heard.
Meaning people eventually get better by trying out shit and figuring out which works the best for them.
How old are you ? im kinda in a similar situation.

As someone who's used anti-depressants, they don't fix your problems, they only numb everything. Life gets a bit easier, you don't notice your pain quite as much, but the problems aren't fixed, and there's possibly really bad side effects. I know for me, they numbed basically every feeling I had. I was completely apathetic to everything when I was taking them.

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>>18104664
You should always rely on your own mental and bodily strength. Medication might help at first glance, but it dulls the mind and creates an anxiety to quit for fear of relapse.

Masculinity has nothing to do with depression, one cannot be 'man enough' to overcome a depression. However, do not let your depression grow into an entity of its own; it is still a thing in your mind.

My Imperial advice: Find a counsellor that you can open your heart with, talk, make progress and let go the counsellor that offers you medication within the first 5 sessions.

Keep your mind sharp, for it is the best blade you have to cut through your depression.

>>18104657

Then who was phone?

>>18104735
rare quality meme
+1 point for you sir

>>18104657
Because, being a businessman, he was more accustomed to hearing people answer the phone with an identification - "Jones Company" and the like - and your casual Hello startled him for a moment.

>>18104655

You may have aspergers.

>I like to talking about ethics and philosophy
>how do I socialise

Nigga u dumb

>>18104661
Had it tested in the past multiple times, I don't. I don't fall on the autism spectrum. I am a straight up to the book INTJ-I personality though. Just don't like people, they tend not to be logical or able to keep up when I start brainstorming on things.

I'm just an elitist prick, or come across that way at least, either way, result's the same. People don't like me, I tend not to like them because they don't like me.

You don't need a visa to go there so just get your passport, go there, and make your way to the dangerous areas, then you can get yourself involved in the conflict and probably die. I am assuming you speak the local language...

Tried it.
When the conflict was real heated, they would talk to people in English speaking countries and help them get from A to B. They do not do this now.

>volunteering to murder civilians

Stay at home dumb yank.

You call him up and tell him you want to quit. Say "I really hope you find someone else for the job" and say you'd like to quit as soon as possible

The whole two weeks thing is only for people who have been there for ten years or more

I just left my job at a supermarket. My manager knew I was leaving, but she got me to write a letter just so it's on my HR file

>>18104651
>The whole two weeks thing is only for people who have been there for ten years or more
>>18104651
>The whole two weeks thing is only for people who have been there for ten years or more
Did you not see the part where OP said he doesn't want to burn bridges? Plus, it might be in his contract that they can withhold pay or something until he formally resigns, plus it's just a dick move to leave without giving the proper notice, no matter how long you've been there.

>>18104666
Burning bridges is walking out on the job. Just call him up and tell you wanna quit. You'll sign a form and you'll have your freedom

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Fuck her by the pussy. Easy D!

>>18104616
You know what to do

Is she hot?

Off yourself.
Oy!

Real life doesn't work like your video games. A lot of skills are interdependent, sometimes in ways that aren't always obvious.

>>18104607
No, you can't grind life.