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>>18162577
don't fuck her

>>18162577
fuck her to get it out of the way

>>18162577
I worked with a girl who thought I was making advances on her. I never even did anything and it would drive her nuts that I wouldn't ask her out or move things forward. I never did anything the whole 3 years I was there and she went absolutely spastic.

I wonder if she killed herself

>>18162557
Are you adopted? Just ask your parents what hospital you were born in.

What?

Why on earth would your parents lie about your nationality?

>>18162561
You would be surprizes how often parents lie to their children to protect them from outside world and cold unforgiving truth.

>>18162538
Also interested in this.

>>18162538
>Will I regret it? Will I not?
We don't fucking know, we're not fortune tellers.

Consider this though: is the fact that you had to pay a woman to pretend to like you enough to have sex with you going to make you feel better about yourself? Is anything ACTUALLY going to change once you have sex?

>>18162538
Not worth. No kissing or any intimate feelings. Just lame. They can't even give you a bj without a condom. Condom bj is lame. Afterwards you feel disgusted cuz you know they've been with someone Polly right before arriving to you.

Use the internet

>>18162524

craigslist.

>>18162524
Put an ad on craigslist, newspaper, etc

Girls wont bunk with guys by the way. They're too afraid of rape

I also found that she has been emailing an old high school teacher of hers that is an older guy into good music and noise/punk music etc. She mentions in an email to her gay best friend that English teachers are so mysterious and she likes them but he is too ugly and too smart.... This made me feel a little bit sick since I have frequently dealt with stupid crushes of her in the passed and usually call her out when I find these emails etc.At this point I haven't called her out because I'm at the point that I don't even care anymore and am constantly thinking about breaking up with her everyday.

She also doesn't allow me to masturbate or look at porn/chaturbate because it's cheating. Yet she does this????? I have also stopped caring lately. Jerked off earlier today when she was gone. I haven't told her yet but it helps me cope with all the anxiety of her cheating and relationship with gay friend that I'm having. She's out right now with her mom who is visiting and I keep thinking about just leaving and taking the bus home.

Also this is my first serious relationship. Before this I don't think I ever had a relationship last more than 3 months or so. I'm scared that I wont find any girl like her that will skate/play old video games wtih me etc.... But I guess that's what friends are for and I shouldn't focus on that in a girl? idkk

I also have a lot of sex dreams (has been going on for awhile) and I don't think they ever involve my girlfriend.

>>18162446
>I find it hard to talk

I'd say just start practicing small talk with random people. It feels awkward at first, but you'll get used to it.

If you fuck up the small talk or don't make friends, don't take it personally and feel guilty. They won't remember you after a couple of months or a year. Just learn from your mistakes and move on to next person.

>>18162495
>Random people
>Couple of months to a year
Lol they won't remember him a few days later

>>18162508
Yeah, I always tend to overestimate the capabilities of people.

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Yes OP, clearly nothing will go wrong when you "get into" the most addictive class of drugs on the planet.

Yes.
Sell them third party.
Grow with your community.
Become Batman and slice your enemies down.

Don't do it.

Actually, do it, BUT, wait until you are 70 years old. Think about it.

Tell yourself that when you get to 70 (hell maybe 60, why not?) you will give it a shot. This way, now you can live your life up to that point taking care of your finances etc so that when you get to 70 you'll be able to just retire and spend all day experimenting with whatever the fuck kind of drugs you want. No need to worry about addiction, or rent vs fix vs heat vs food dilemnas, and no one will try and stop you because you can do whatever you want with your time at that age.

So yes, do it, but no, not yet. You'll thank me later.

Pull yourself together: either deal with it or get it checked out. It's human, so many people suffer from it. Talk to your doctor about it beforehand. It's ok.

Buy some ointment from the pharmacy and change your diet so your shit isn't so hard, it should go away. If it doesn't then see a doctor

Go to a doctor. There aren't any home remedies that are going to help you at this stage.

>why I shouldn't be embarassed
Because it's an asshole. Everyone has one, even the doctor looking at it. They've seen worse, anyway.

>>18162390
vape bro.

Tough situation because you absolutely should stop smoking pot, but at the same time she is wrong to try and force you to

Start complaining about the shit that she does. Tell her that if she doesn't stop leaving her hair clips and shit everywhere in the apartment you will leave. Tell her the next time you see one of her goddamn yogurt cups tipped over on the ground with the spoon inside you will leave. Tell her to stop asking to be picked up from work and take the bus like everybody else or you will leave.

Then leave anyways.

Or not. Whatever.

Smoke a bowl bro

You actually sound like aomeone who really values her first time and or intercourse at itself. Like many girls and women do. Nothing wrong with wanting to build a relationship before diving into having sex and sealing the deal emotionally as well.

BUT, in our society it's very uncommon for men to behave that way. In fact, as a woman, I'm trying to picture myself in a potential love interest's shoes. Us women are so used to being desired physically (in most cases faster and more often than mentally), I'd start thinking if you're either a sexual person or if you're attracted to me. I wonder how you come across to women; do you let them notice, vocably and with your body language, you desire them physically? This is a big deal in relationships, especially to women as they especially like being validated for their appearance. I wonder whether women really lose interest in you when you feel you're still building up your relationship, or if they grow bored by the lack of a physical click and the lack of sexual validation from you.

What can you do you ask? The first hunch that comes to mind, is to speed things up a little. One, max two months of dating before bedding a girl is the longest I suspect you can stretch building up an emotional relationship for a man your age before a woman wants to test your sexual compatibility as well. How you do it is more up to you; maybe you need to put more trust in a girl, maybe you should have a more laid-back attitude, maybe you should lower your standards a but, maybe you should have a bit more confidence. And then just go for it.

I wouldn't just "waste" it on an escort though; for some guys it's great to pop their cherries so they get more confidence not being a virgin anymore; for you it sounds like a very deliberate choice.

>>18162482
Well the thing is that I knew this girl for 2+ years and we were quite different in terms of socialization. She really enjoys drinking, hitting up bars, dressing to show off her looks and smoked. I enjoy staying in, going for walks/hiking and thinking about things before committing. She knew what I was like and I knew what she was like too. But it just kind of happened and we got very close, but the very first night she got drunk and was adamant that I sleep with her. It was a huge turnoff(for me) and I asked at that point to a) Give our mutual "friend" that she'd broken up with, time to heal and B) That it was a big deal for me and wanted to get to know her better first. We hung out a lot, I complimented her, teased her and we talked about sex maturely. It got to the point even where I would flirt heavy and tell her about these things I wanted to do to her and so on. But in the end when I confronted her about this, she said "I'm sorry I hurt you. But I didn't know how you felt about me." And we of course then had a huge fight about it and I apologized after, told her to enjoy her new man and we haven't spoken since. It's just all so stupid to me and I feel like maybe if I'd had sex with her, she wouldn't have gone to this new guy. The fact that she threw away our friendship and our budding relationship without even talking to me about it is what left me spinning.

don't do it anon, you've waited this long. when you find the right girl she'll love being the first. trust me normal people like you are hard to come by and like a golden nugget for classy girls

you're a little fucking bitch

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I'm going to let you in on a secret.

Morality is subjective, and justice is a human abstraction.

Because they tend to be good at lying and manipulating people. Sociopaths will also apply to high level positions they have no idea how to do thinking they deserve it, and often not enough people apply and they end up an uneducated crazy as fuck boss.

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>>18162339
Unless you have a specific reason for being in New York, just move somewhere else. The cost of living in New Jersey (where I grew up) is batshit too, so I moved to Ohio after finishing school and now I live in a modest apartment with my wife for under $500 per month. Milk is $1.09 a gallon here.

If the local economy is too hot, get out of the kitchen.

>>18162392
This.

Assuming that there's nothing keeping you in NY and you have the finances to move, get the hell out of there to somewhere with a lower COL.

>>18162326
Look, it's pretty simple - is your identity as a self-described "pothead" more important to you than your relationship with your girlfriend? Do you feel that she's just being judgmental and unfair, or do you think that she has a point?

If she's been clear about her dislike of your marijuana use from the beginning of your relationship, which it sounds like it has been, I don't know why you thought that would never be a problem. You sound incompatible with one another on at least that issue, so either one of you needs to concede or it's time for you both to move on to other people.

>>18162326
who gets triggered over smoking weed o an occasional basis?

>>18162395
Controlling bitches who need to be dropped

>>18162318
You wanna get expelled?

>>18162318
what is Dolphin multiplayer about?

>>18162318

Have you tried a proper VPN like ExpressVPN? Theoretically, that should work, though your connection will be slower. Better than nothing though I guess.

>>18162251
I doubt you've been here that long because the only thing that's changed is what boards are shit and what boards aren't.
The internet is shittier though. It's a combination of everyome being on to hide themselves from the end of the world and corporations trying to monetize everything.

Yeah I'd agree it's pretty fucking horrible now, but it's definitely due in part to you getting older. Just dial back your reliance on it, because it won't get better.

The magic is gone for you. You enjoyed wasting time on the internet before because you were likely younger and has less cares and frustrations about the world.

Now you are older and have more to deal with, you are likely more stressed out and subconsciously don't get as much pleasure from surfing the web because deep down you know you're just wasting your life, when before this didn't occur to you.