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identify what you do that is annoying and stop doing it lol

>>18162886
how do I stop being sensitive, selfish, and an over thinker?

>>18162897

You probably can't, they're personality traits and therefore hard to get rid off. However, you can learn to stop and acknowledge that you're acting oversensitive/selfish or over thinking and consciously change your mode of action. You can't control thoughts of feelings, but you can control how they reflect in your actions. Just stop, tell yourself "I'm being selfish now" or "I'm over thinking this", and change what you're doing or would have done. Do it often enough and it becomes easier to control yourself.

>>18162845
Tell her you're ready for some fun, no strings attached

Old ladies love sex. She'll never say no to a young pup such as yourself.

>>18162883
That's what someone else said, but I don't want sex, i want love and romance.

What makes you think she would just let me fuck her?

>>18163095
i guess you truly are a faggot. go get a manboi and stuff his butt then. dumb fuck queer. i rly hope you commit suicide

>>18162819
Hey I'm in the same situation right now expect I'm a girl. The guy I'm dating right now is soooo fucking boring, average in just about every way and has some bullshit major. I've known him for 5 months and hasn't said on funny or interesting thing that entire time on top of that he's like a typical redditor. He loves telling puns and I have to sit there and pretend they are funny.

It's easy to settle if you keep your self from getting to invested and while you are settling always keep an eye out for something better. That's how I do it, I also remind my self that attention is better than no attention and i like being sucked up too and complimented with out reciprocating and putting any effort into the relationship so that's what really drew me to the guy I'm with. The power dynamics of the relationship is in my favor.

>>18163105
he hasn't said one***

sorry for typos

>>18163105

Honestly, if you don't find any part of this person interesting or worth your time, why are you dating him?

It'd probably be better for the both of you to not waste time on one another.

I'm gonna do this as well anon. Start tomorrow because it's always a great idea to start things on a Monday as it makes more sense. You'll feel like you can recreate yourself on a Monday since it's the beginning of the week, kinda like a new week, new you type deal. Remember, the reason you get addicted easily to things is because of dopamine, you always want to get that dopamine rush so therefore you tend to get heavily addicted to things as you just want to keep releasing dopamine. It's gonna be hard (Not literally :D) because you'll feel like just giving up, and saying fuck it, or why do I really need to be doing this. But, remember that you need to take control of your life and of your addictions, so therefore, don't give up, it's bound to make you unhappy, but you don't always need to be happy. By the end of it you'll feel great because you'll finally be in control. But it's very tough anon, so you should start tomorrow like me, and not give up. If you do give up, you'll just go back to your beta self. Most addictions form because people enjoy releasing dopamine and when you are afraid of not being happy, then you just keep the repetition, be an alpha and take control of your life.

>>18162800
All its effects are most likely placebo.
Sure not fapping for few days will make you horny (so if you spot a qtie, it may force you to try and rape / date her), but after a while your body will adjust and it will be like before.

>4 times per day
You have too much free time. Try some sport, go to school or get a job.

What really works is no porn. If you consume too much porn, you risk that average qties will no longer make you horny. Also inability to ejaculate via vagina stimuli is a threat if you do death grip.

General advice is to live healthy balanced life while improving yourself however you can.

Good luck horny anon! Go get a gf :-)

>>18162825
Good to hear you're doing a no fap too Anon. God speed.
>>18162888
Well I make music, I have a job, and I go to the gym (not as much as I should). I just always find time to fap. And I've been off the porn for a while now. Wanted to try the nofap.

I moved cities last year when I was 28. It was difficult and I'm still trying to build up my social circle again. At times I get very lonely but I don't for one second regret moving here.

Making friends when you're an adult out of university is a challenge but you do find that the people you mix with tend to be through choice and therefore, very good friends.

Do you have a partner? Would you be looking to find one when you moved?

Last May I accepted a job offer at a small town 13hrs drive away from friends and family. I also have to drive 8 hours to get to a town with more than 10,000 people. The pay is extremely good, my life is comfy. But you are right. I have not made a single friend. The population of the city is much more important than anything else. You can find clubs, and real groups of people with similar hobbies that don't exist in smaller towns.

>>18162812

I don't have a partner. Completely single, not even a dog. I'd be open to meeting someone to be with, but I wouldn't say it's necessarily a goal. In fact, I'd be very concerned about moving away, immediately jumping into a relationship, and then establishing a social circle that completely revolves around her, that could disappear at any moment.

>>18162818
It's in the greater LA area, so I'm definitely not concerned about having people around to meet... just concerned about finding the right people that will have the room in their life for some random new friend at this age.

When girls talk like that, it's because they're not interested in talking to you and are only doing it for the attention/out of politeness

>boring person texting boring girl having a boring conversation wondering if he should ask for a boring date

dont know what to tell ya op

>>18162774
>I highly recommend it
>highly
The words you use will also affect what kind of messages they will write.

This anon has it right
>>18162781

But it also comes to your writing. If youre trying to hit it off with this girl then youre not writing very interestingly. You sound too official.

I want to abuse and mistreat others in the same way others have done to me. I fucking hate them

>>18162924
Hurting them won't make your pain go away

I want to be closer to my friend and help him but I don't know how to go about it. I just want to know in my heart he cares and not be a faggot

>>18162757
raising IQ is impossible

>>18162757
You train for the test. The more you train the more IQ.

Once you get to the point where you look at possible answers and pick up the right one without blinking an eye than you will have a lot of IQ points.

But in reality you will be more or less the same person with the same amount of brain capacity to solve logical problems.

You can't be skilled in everything in the world. What kind of topics are you most skilled in? Work on them and when you feel confident of every factor in the topic, move onto a new one. Example: Good at English. Try new stuff and start from bare minimum

>>18162753
Go see a psychologist

>>18162753
You're likely to give yourself a panic attack if you haven't already. You need to come to terms that it's all in your head and there's nothing physically wrong with you. Once you do that, you may be able to move past this in time.

>>18162753

You're probably hyperventilating. Get a paper or plastic bag and breathe in and out of it.

>>18162733
Every roommate is a gamble

You know shitty workers? How do you think they got the job? They acted not-shitty during the interview. Once they got the job, the charade ended

Sometimes you can immediately tell who's going to be an asshole, but some people hide it well until it's too late.

>>18162750
Thank you anon.

>>18162733

try to get nerds as roommates, the quiet shy types who just wnat ot stay in their room. the worst you have to deal with is a mess.

no perfect roommate mind you.

>>>/x/

Why do you want to live so long?
Also the usual stay healthy stuff won't get you anywhere close to 500+ years.

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a healthy diet and exercise will increase your chances of living a longer life with a better quality of life as you age, but there is no way to live anywhere near 500 years.

Get used to that reality.

>>18162687
Java, C#, JavaScript

Those are among the most popular languages used in the industry at the moment. So pick one of those and get good at it if you want a job.

If you go for JavaScript, keep in mind you must probably learn HTML+CSS as well if you go for webdev.

If you aren't looking to get a job, but just want it as a hobby, I'd recommend C++. Just keep in mind that neither object-oriented or procedural is The Way to do something. You can mix both in one project.

Don't waste your time watching YouTube tutorials, unless it's on more advanced topics. The beginner tutorials like thenewboston etc are worthless.

You should find forums like dreamincode, gamedev, etc... and ask questions and read threads that are posted.

>>18162687
Oh, and state what you want to achieve with programming. My previous post was pretty general.

I'm not amazing at programming so take my advice with a pinch of salt.

I've started out with python. It's a high level language which means it's easy but slow. It teaches you the basic concepts of programming and how to think like a programmer. So I think it may be best for you. Any of the c languages (c++, c#, C) are incredibly fast (200 times faster than python) but difficult so maybe try that once you've got the basics.

I don't recommend going into Web development.

inb4 babyboomer sermon about walking into a place in the 1970s which had a help wanted sign posted

>>18162675
The problem is you're strictly looking online. How about you fucking go into town and look at physical signs and talk to the god damn managers. Most places will do on the spot interview if you'd just fucking ask! You lazy cunt!

I sent out over 60 job applications before I got an unpaid internship and a job that had previously rejected me offered me the job because their first choice bailed. But I also only applied to jobs in the field I was interested in so it might be better for you

>>18162653
Yeah let her. Why wouldn't you let her.

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>>18162653
Storytime please

>>18162653
Gonna need some more information here, pal.

>>18162581
Have a wank every time that you start having these temptations.

Block her, if it's possible.

Think of her negative sides and the shit she has done. Focus on that.

Wank some more.

>>18162581
Is there a reason your trying to cut her off?

>>18162668
I'm trying to tell myself to not orbit her anymore. She is starting to date some guy, thought I didn't really feel anything for her but idk.