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Why am I incapable of connecting to people in my generation? 2017-04-16 08:11:57 Post No.18227792
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Why am I incapable of connecting to people in my generation?
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No matter how hard I try / have ever tried, I can never really "connect" with people in my generation "millenials" aka "18- mid 20s"
My inability to gain friends, gain entry into social circles, and my inability to get laid all stem from an inability to "connect" to these people
I know it isn't a looks problem because from the combination of my clothes, hair, and physical body I am regularly told I look incredible, am rated high on the 10 scale, have had a guy model tell me I should model, a gay guy called me hot as hell, and a 9/10 short jeans wearing tank top sporting lesbian girl at a club literally held my face in her hands and looked at me basically in awe and said I was beautiful and she wasn't even drunk because I saw the way she moved and talked and she was way too competent in the way she did so
I know its not an intelligence thing because IQ tests prove I'm not retarded and am actually a lot smarter than most people, and my number one thing is verbal intelligence mixed with reading AKA words and wording in general (can semantics people to death if I want to)
So what's the problem? I feel like the issue is way deeper, like at the core of my being I am just not like everyone else, I'm different, I've always felt this way and I still do, and as everyone knows the number 1 requirement for relationships with people is the feeling of a connection and that connection is just never there or at at most is only partially there
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For some reason I've never felt this with people who are significantly older than me (15+ years) or people who are significantly younger than me (not sure in terms of numbers but right now I turn 20 next month and pre-college teenagers are a lot easier to get along with than people at college)
Its more than just learning new words like "bet, true, word, tryna, flex" the music, the dances, the general culture
Its like how my mind works at a fundamental level versus how their minds work, its like how they view problems and how they come up with solutions vs how I do, its like how they interpret new information and process it versus how I do, its what they find entertaining and what I do, its almost like people's minds have operating systems and mine is different than the everyone else's, and they pick up on the difference and so do I
I just cant figure out what it is
Does any of this make any sense?
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>>18227792
>>18227796
Someone once told me that it was because I don't see people out of my age group as potential competition or as a threat, and they don't see me as such either.
I've definitely experienced the getting along better with older and younger people thing too.
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I'm 31 and never dated. 2017-04-16 08:00:45 Post No.18227766
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What's going on? I'm 31 bout to 32 next year...
and still a virgin groom...
I'm good stock but never see girl I see being wife potential.
There are no good women around....
I really want children...
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You're surprised you haven't found anyone yet even though you say you've never really looked.
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Did you get your wizard hat yet?
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>>18227774
ive looked where i live, on internet, no one is suitable desu
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>20 years old
>Not doing anything at all
>Work menial jobs for 7$ an hour
>Will never realize my dream of becoming an animator
>Not even a Normie, so I'm fucked
>Can't see a good reason to go to college because I'll waste my life whether I attend or don't
>Will likely go to a sort of vocational school
>Have no intention of reproducing into such a pointless, god-less world
This hurts.
There's no way to get what I want out of this world because the 2D animation industry is on life support, and only the best of the best succeed in it.
Does anyone know of something to do once your dreams are dead?
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>>18227701
Something no one that succeeds will really tell you is that dreams are interchangeable
The way it usually works in actuality is that you follow a dream, you fail, but along the way you found some that you enjoy doing just as much if not more. This process continues until you end up doing exactly what you were born to do or die. Do not fear death and sprint head on into uncertainty with the certainty of Kanye West.
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>>18227710
Wow, that sounds like some shitty advice and an inability to accept reality.
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>>18227714
Elaborate on that, I'm interested
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How do i destroy my ability to feel emotion.
So far ive been watching a lot of cartel gore and stuff.
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I don't think you have to do anything special; just live life normally and it should go away on its own
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>>18227669
Well thats why im asking, its not happening fast enough. Things that hurt before still hurt when they happen again. I think its slightly less but.
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>>18227646
Wrong question.
The right question is how can i find somebody to talk to so i have reliable source of stress relief and happiness.
Write something about your life or just
>bee yourself.
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How did you stop being depressed? Bonus points if your answer is not a boring cliche like "did some acid and travelled a lot"
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Yeah but thats literally exactly how i stopped being so depressed. Its cliche for a reason
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>>18227269
Did some travel and acided a lot.
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>>18227269
Slow incremental lifestyle improvements in my diet, physical activity and career.
Took FUCKING YEARS
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I split up with My girlfriend of 2 years about 4 days ago. She saw on my phone that I'd dirty chatted with this girl on snapchat. It was the biggest mistake of my life and I regret it deeply, she knows this. I ended it with her because I felt so shit. That was such a mistake. Today we had sex, told each other we want each other back. Really connected, was passionate.But wait until Saturday to say anything for sure. I just randomly guessed her snapchat password, (stupid for doing this)she's been talking to loads of guys and just finished sending naked pics to at least one. What would you do bros? I'm in no position to judge I know, as I made the same mistake while we were together
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was all of this discourse with other guys just over the course of the 4 days? Or was it taking place during the relationship?
If the latter, drop her bro
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>>18227194
you know what, if she 'moved on' that fast from a 2 year relationship.. shes not worth it period
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>>18227169
sometimes its good to let things end where they end
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>too socially withdrawn to bother dating in the real world like a normal person
>try online dating
>get very little responses or views or whatever
>don't bother taking the initiative and actually messaging anyone or messaging back anyone that does bother to message me (nine out of ten times I am pretty sure they are fake users or are super uggos with like five kids already or something that I am not interested in)
>still continue using dating sites despite the lack attention making me miserable because the scant few views makes me feel somewhat better about myself
How do I end the viscous cycle and just stop this shit all together?
Pic related is me I live underwater
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>>18226583
>don't bother taking the initiative and actually messaging anyone or messaging back anyone that does bother to message me
If you're a guy, you've screwed yourself over with this.
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>>18226583
>dont bother taking initiative
>how do i end this viscous cycle
try taking initiative.
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>>18226595
>try taking initiative.
And how do I do that? I would rather find some kind of alternative so I can just quit this nonsense outright
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Need some help.
I'm trying to have sex with my girlfriend for the first time. Normal condoms choked my cock, so we're trying with the large ones.
Still can't feel a thing.
Am i doing something wrong?
When I put it in, and I start thrusting, i don't feel anything, and i go limp.
What do I do!? Am I doing something wrong?
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Talk with her about pills. Maybe there will be difference. If not, then the problem is in your attitude.
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>>18225392
>normal condoms too small
>have to put even more rubber between the skin of your dick and the slicky sweet insides of your girlfriends wet pussy
>wonder why you can't feel anything
Condoms fucking suck. End of story. Find a different method of contraception or look into sensitivity sprays, they supposedly make those nowadays.
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What the fuck is this? Get in there, Opie, raw dog that shit. At least you'll be making more white babies.
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>try to have sex with girlfriend
only go in an inch and make her bleed since I lost some erectness.
>I try to fuck her on a few more occasions
>can't really penetrate since I get stressed before penetration.
>apparently going am inch didn't count as me losing my virginity
>7 inches with a vent dick
am I doomed to be a virgin forever? I'm about to be 19 in a few months and I don't wanna be a doof who only went in an inch and didnt rreally enjoy the penetration
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>>18225388
>apparently going am inch didn't count as me losing my virginity
>'m about to be 19 in a few months and I don't wanna be a doof
Fucking high schooler gtfo
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>>18225410
but I'm not a high schooler, plus I think my dick has a problem
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>>18225388
bump how do I accept I'm an eternal virgin
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So to be clear. I think I'm ugly. I personally hate the way I look. I hate my smile, and just cringe everytime I see a picture of myself. Oddly, I've had girls tell me that I'm decently attractive. Even my friends have said I'm decent looking. But I don't believe it.
So, for the past few months Ive been making changes:
>I've been going to the gym regularly. I'm a thin guy, but I've been slowly adding on lean muscle. So I have an ottermode appearance now
>clean and nice haircut
>bought good quality casual clothing, shoes, and watch
>seeing a dentist. Even tho I have healthy teeth, I'm going to have them professionally whitened and I will have them do a bonding to give me a nicer smile.
Even with the progress I've made, and the upcoming changes. I still feel the same. I'm really working my ass off to become as attractive as I possibly can. But even still, I don't feel deserving of a girlfriend. I don't feel worthy of having someone show feelings and affection toward me. Just the thought of someone wanting to do that for me makes me feel bitter.
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>>18223626
Post your pic.
Look at mirror each day and say yourself into face that you look good. Stare at yourself in mirror at least 5 minutes each day. The key is to make your rain used to your apperance. It will get better as time will go, i promise.
No matter how beautiful you will be, you have to learn how to love yourself first as you are.
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>Post your pic
I'm not taking a current picture because it will take me a very long time to take a picture that I'd even feel comfortable sharing with anons... so, here is a picture of me from this time last year. This is before I started the gym.
it's hard to just convince myself to like myself when I truly don't like looking in the mirror. That's why I'm going through with these changes. I'm about to spend $1,000 on getting my teeth whitened and 2 teeth bonded. I really hope that helps
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>>18223626
You should read the summary of Psycho Cybernetics
It's about appearance and self esteem from a plastic surgeon that had clients that were never satisfied no matter how many operations they had
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Should I go for a BS in physics or a BA? What's the difference?
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Bumping for interest
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BA exists mainly for pre-meds and people who wanna teach high school
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No difference.
In any case unless you can go to a good school, don't do physics.
The job search was horrifying.
People who say physics grads can enter finance or software easily exaggerated the situation.
The subject itself is difficult.
Better just do EE or Mech, they still teach you same physics.
t. did Physics in a great school, classmates were Olympiad medalists
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>have social anxiety
>more severe social anxiety around black people
how do i stop being afraid of black people, 99% of the time if they're around my age they aren't actually bad people at all and it makes me feel bad but i spend all my time on the internet so i have this internal paranoia around them
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>>18228705
You don't, op. Around blacks never relax
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I'm black and I don't really like black people too.
But what you have to realize is that not all black people are what you see on the internet. I have many black friends that are welll educated and not some good rat you would see on the web.
Don't judge someone by thier skin color but by thier actions
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>>18228713
Hood*
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I got this ol' girlfriend from 5 years ago. We didn't really have time to know each other back then, she broke up with me to get back 2 her ex.
Thing is i was pretty fucked in the head back then, drugs and shit.
Now im good and she is back, and she is getting REALLY attached to me, as i am too. It's been a month and we're already talking about moving togeather in september (both greekfags, both poor as SHIT, its simply practical)
I think i can do this and i feel i need this, had lots of troubling relationships and i've been cool, sober and single for over a year.
Thing is shes batshit crazy. She is a fucking nutjob. Daily psychotic crises, breakdowns, serious breakdowns 5 times a week. Smokes alot of bad weed, drinks alot.
What the fuck do i do.
Try to help her get well?
Ill strive if i need to and i can handle it i think
Bail?
I'll never forgive myself. Its this cheesy relationship "you're the one" thing, and i really want it.
I dont know if all this sounds like an adolescent thing, im 27, working, i have my own life now and i need some1 to share it with.
Im finally in control and i fear she will push me over the bridge.
Advice me wise ones.
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Help her but don't date her. NEVER stick your dick in crazy.
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>>18228639
I FUCKING NO RIGHT but we're alreadya eep in this. she met my mother, we're already dating fucking all the thing. she isnt JSUT crazy shes fucking woderful but with alot of crazy too.
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>>18228646
Bois please some advice from similar experiences, i want to do this,im not exactly helples but i have no idea how to handle this.
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I'm fairly sure that I have depression. My favorite foods,video games,and shows don't interest or give me joy anymore. I'm also tired all the time and sluggish. I'm very indifferent and apathetic to everything. What do I do?
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Same for me. I don't know what to tell to help. The only thing making me better is to see my friends and trying to never be alone but that's not possible all the time.
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I feel the same. But my therapist never diagnosed me and all he does is just tell me that it's important to try new things.
What does it MEAN to have depression though? I mean, okay we realized we have depression, or more like we self-diagnosed it, what's the next step? What does it mean, what does it change to "know" we have it?
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>>18228612
But like,what do you do if you have next to no friends? Or all of your friends are only online? I have very few friends irl and I'm always stuck in the house and I'm sure that hasn't been helping me.
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Is there any point in going back and asking someone you briefly dated if they want to give it another go?
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>>18228465
No. They're exes for a reason.
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>>18228471
I agree, there is a reason if you are not still dating. But I know your feeling, when we feel too lonely it is an easy thought to turn back to our exes.
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>>18228465
>Hey, wanna break up again a few months from now?