When in a relationship how does the first kiss happen?
Will you naturally know when/how to do it?
>>18231233
Personally, my SO and I talked about it before hand and wanted to practice. So maybe try talking about it or bring it up? Good luck anon!
>>18231233
When you're man enough to make it happen
Shit, I've been stressing about this too. I've got a friend I'm getting super close with super fast, and it's reaching the point where I know I need to kiss her. I just get nervous about it and dont. It's now or never and I know the next time I see her I need to but don't know how
gonna greentext this to hopefully save some time and room.
>met gf (now ex) 2 years ago
>dated for a month then moved in with each other for the remainder of the relationship
>she moved from her city 4 hours away to live with me
>went well at first then things went downhill fast
>loud fights and throwing shit
>about 6 month ago we decide to have a break but still live together since it's a 2 bdrm house
>on my day off work go to visit mom and sister
>I get home then she gets home from work
>accuses me of talking shit about her with my family (she hates them)
>pushed me into my new tv I got for my birthday which shattered it
>pulls knife on me
>she didn't do anything tho
>I wasn't TOO mad bc I know she's got a lot of issues (childhood trauma)
>decide I don't wanna be with her now but still go along with it for some reason
>fast forward to last weekend
>out getting some drinks with my friends
>she told me to block her so I did (relieved)
>check my phone at the end of the night with a million texts saying she's in trouble
>unblock and call
>says she had a panic attack and was at the hospital but is home now
> tells me I'm a POS for being out with my friends drinking and basically shits all over me
>I go to her place to check on her bc I still care about her
>she cries and says she doesn't want me to be with anyone else
>tell her I haven't been with anyone since we broke up (lied bc I know that'll destroy her rn)
>we go lay and bed and talk
>tells me she's stress about her sisters and family which are 4 hours away in another city
>still says she doesn't want to be with me, I get that cus I don't really want to be with her either
>yet we still keep coming back to each other
>she told me she wasn't really in the hospital
>she told me on the phone she took like 4 pills and was gonna take more (she lied) to get my attention
>I'm so tired of it now
How can I end it for good without hurting her too much. I'm scared she will hurt herself or me or something.
>>18231220
It's not your fault if she hurts yourself. You are a man, you can protect yourself if she goes nuts. Do what's best for you and cut contact.
>>18231220
Anon stop trying to be this girls Superman when she is clearly rejecting and abusing you. Also
>>I wasn't TOO mad bc I know she's got a lot of issues (childhood trauma)
Cut that shit out. It doesn't matter if she has issues,in the end she does not care. Don't make excuses for her bad behavior.
If you truly care for each other you'd let each other go. Honesty goes a long way
I've met with this great girl from my home town on Tinder. She'll be coming to my campus this fall.
We connect so well in person, over text is okay, but skype is a nightmare
Over skype she has nothing to talk about. But she wants to skype every few weeks or so, which isn't a huge request on her part, but she relies on me to guide the whole conversation, and most of the time she's just saying "Uh huh/cool/whatever generic response you can think of that doesn't really add or contribute to the conversation"
I've talked with her about this, and she says skype is just "weird" for her and when I ask her to explain she says she doesn't know how. I come up with plenty of things to pick her brain, try to get her to engage in any meaningful conversation, but she just doesn't really engage in them. She's not bored, because when there's a silence for longer than like 10 seconds she says something that doesn't really contribute or start a conversation, like monologue-esque sentences. Eventually we end up in a good conversation, but fuck sometimes it takes up to like two hours to get to that point (Our skype calls are usually like 5 hours long)
We both acknowledge this is a problem, but how do we fix it?
Has nothing to do with Skyping or FaceTiming, but you guys can pick a new show to watch on Hulu or Netflix and watch the same episode over the phone with the multitask feature. This doesn't work if the show is boring, so make sure you guys decide on a very good show that's been rated high.
>>18231393
I dont want to just watch something with her though. I want to pick her brain, hear her thoughts, etc.
>>18232427
Dude, chill, that stuff comes naturally. Start by watching stuff together. Use rabbit instead of Skype and watch something good. You can't force conversation
I find myself always falling behind with current trends, events, pop-culture, music, fashion, movements and the like. I find that I am:
>always late or uninvited to events or happenings that don't exist
I've learned this from watching a Coachella livestream. An EDM artist came on stage and everyone I knew knows about them yet this was the first time I've ever heard about them. I look them up and they are all over the net.
So anons which outlets keep you in-check? How do you stay "current?" I feel, even in my 20's that I'm more along the lines of age 66. It may be because I may not have a lot of friends my age or not connecting with anyone similar to me. How does one stay on top of what goes on? I don't feel like a part of a pleb or mainstream river current and it's bugging me.
bumping for interest, i'm also ignorant
>>18231174
That's what I love about these high school girls, man. I get older, they stay the same age.
>>18231219
Seriously feel this way without the being a loser and hitting on kids thing.
I've lost contact of peers and I find I just don't much care for what's popular aside from certain things. But I feel "disconnected" from the world at large. A sort of claustrophobic existence. Maybe it's where I live? It's boring here and the bigger cities seem to be more lively with livelier people my age?
everyone tells you not to care whether or not people like you but what's life supposed to be if nobody likes you?
Give a damn about people and they will give a damn about you.
>>18231180
this.
Life is best lived in servitude to others. Care about others and be the guiding light in their lives. It's not about people liking you or not. It's whether you like and care about others or not.
>>18231171
>everyone tells you not to care whether or not people like you
they mostly just mean "don't stress or bend over backwards too much about it" not "be an unapologetic asshole because yolo"
So, at what point do I draw the line when being shit-tested? This girl has otherwise been slobbering on me while we've been chatting, but occasionally she'll go on a near bi-polar level of shit-testing, and I'm unsure about how to deal with it.
>>18231148
I think most likely you're misunderstanding her signals.
Can you give an example of "a near bi-polar level of shit-testing"? Because honestly giving someone shit and BPD aren't really totally related, but I see what you're getting at, I think.
>>18231148
First of all, "shit-testing?" You've been reading far too much PUA garbage. All women will shit-test. Women interested in you will test a you for sexual compatibility; it's almost like a primal instinctual drive.
Just enjoy the time with her. All women try to figure their man out. Try not to look like a creep by reading too much information. Try not to be an idiot and look good when she does test you. But don't give her the upper-hand. Remember, it is a way to de-level your stature. Throw a test back at her and reverse it.
>Yeah, you ask that, but do you do this-
>>18231163
Like out of nowhere, despite her basically calling me perfect for her, she'd basically ask me a bunch of reasons why I like her and get all depressive. She cancelled our plans once before because of it.
Another example recent example. She noticed I logged into my okcupid profile earlier and was giving me the whole "oh are you talking to other girls?" She was fucking with me, but she was acting like it was a big deal until she told me it she was just fucking with me.
I'm in serious need of money in the short term. I've been looking into surrogacy, and it's looking like a reasonable option. What do you think?
Some pros:
1- It's not prostitution.
2- It won't prevent me from being taken seriously when I try to get a real job later.
3- It won't leave me a social outcast.
4- It's a lot of money.
5- I can continue my schooling while I do it.
Not exactly short term you troll
it's also crazy
You mean you are pregnant now?
Just because of picture
Okay, /adv/ocates, collegebro here. Thinking about dropping $600 on a MTB (pic related) or $600 finishing up a new rig parts with a Ryzen 5 1600X and Radeon RX470.
Think I should become a fat PC master race advocate or become a /fit/ fag?
>>18230982
spend $300, save the other $300.
going the full $600 on a bike is just for autists and racers
I think you should spend the 600 on a gun to shoot yourself with
Summer is coming up and there are no good new PC games out right now. Buy the bike.
boyfriend essentially left his ex to be with me (no cheating), and that completely destroyed her. He now feels its his fault and responsibility and tries to make sure he doesn't hurt her further which is why he hasn't gone no contact, but instead tries to be friends. She instead messages him like 10 times a day, telling him whats new in her life, all cutesy and innocently and shit, and generally wants to talk to him constantly. He very barely responds, but it's still daily.
My guess? She wants to be the "bff" and weasel her way into the relationship and then be there when we're going through a rough patch or some shit. This bitched is hopped up on romcoms and romantic animes.
I need this shit to end, I can't have her third wheeling the relationship. I realize she was his everything for a long time, and he's still her everything, but Jesus Christ how much more of this?
I've talked to him about it and he thinks it's best if he continues to do what he's doing and let her type, and slowly fade out, because he's afraid she's gonna go ballistic otherwise and either hurt herself or ruin shit for us. I on the other hand doubt thats gonna work, its been months and she's still persistent even with minimal response from him, and I think he should tell her he has a new gf and she needs to dial back on the messaging.
Who's in the right here? What's the best course of action?
Ill fight this bitch if she comes here even though she has weight and height on me
Maybe you two should try to help her find a new boyfriend.
>>18230944
Does she not take a hint with him not responding? I was going to say maybe work out some sort of threesome thing to let her get over everything fully. But not if shes fucking crazy.
Fuck that bitch up!
Do you think a woman who snowflakes up individuates herself and increases her value? Do you think the same thing can apply to men who do this?
>what sparks this question?
I saw a woman with a split tongue and that looked extremely sexy/cool, but I am a man.
Don't be unique for the sake of being unique, be unique because it's what you truly want.
>>18231015
when you look at things like split tongues, it's like "to be unique or to not be unique." it becomes a question of "wow, should I even do this."
I got a tattoo I regret, but that's because they did a shite job. I wonder what being a split tongue weirdo would do for me.
The girl I saw with it looks very sexy to me, but am I ready to be even more different??
Don't just say "be yourself" friend. You know life and self-actualization is not that simple.
>>18231039
My point being don't do it because you want now be different. Do it because you think it looks good.
Personally I think you'd look like an idiot and I'd never take you seriously. But what difference should that make, it'd be like me not buying a car because it has some certain stigma behind it. I'd buy the car because I want the car.
So yes, just be yourself.
Are there significantly better things than video games in life?
>>18230791
not really. they are pretty much as good as it gets. also try scat porn. thats good too.
I enjoy painting.
films/videos, videogames, books, television, and movies are pretty much the pillars of escapism.
Anyone here succesfully go from introvert to extrovert?
I went from extrovert to introvert after some traumatic events in my life, working on being extroverted again, it's actually pretty tough.
Seconding this question. I was never extroverted though.
I was ok in high school when I managed to ride the waves of my extrovert friends, but college hit and everyone scattered across the country and now I'm just down right autistic.
>>18230781
you're misusing the terminology.
>>18230787
OP here, my advice for you is hangout with extroverted friends in public and get a feel for how they act, how they hold themselves etc. Don't worry too much on emulating while you're with them, you'll compare yourself to them and shy out. Practice when you're alone, not with your far more outgoing friends
How to get rid of dandruff? I tried all the shampoos and still have a ton of it
I really like my hair I want to fix it. The itchy scalp
Also the skin on my face is shit, I'm 23
>>18230706
send pic of your hairline
>>18230706
shower daily instead of weekly.
>>18230706
Memes aside, Head & Shoulders REALLY work
I swear by them
Should I go to college for culinary arts? I like the idea of practicing a craft that I can show off to people and being able to have a tangible product.
I'm also a pretty lazy fuck when it comes to math and complicated problems. But I'm a pretty smart lad and I want a career.
I have no real cooking experience, can I still do it? Is it worth the effort?
I am only considering now because I got an offer to go to college and do whatever I want for free (I'm 20)
if its what you want to do yea do it man go for it
>>18230694
most people imagine being a chef as this artsy fun casual gig where you get lots of money for cooking.
but you dont get to eat or enjoy the food nad instead have to be on your feet all day, and working as fast as you can and balancing several different meals at once, and dealing iwth the heat and sweat of being in a hot kitchen, and because its a restaurant you are ALWAYS working a horrible night shift and dont have a sense of normalcy.
it doesn't sound very pleasing to me. if you love ot cook, cook, take a class, but making it a career doesn't sound like it'd be fun.
>>18230733
Wasn't too interested in eating a bunch of food or anything. A lot of physical jobs I've worked had pretty shitty conditions and I didn't imagine a kitchen would be worse.
Do you possibly have a suggestion that would be a more 'fun' career? I'm not set on cooking 100% since I have no experience thus far.
How do references work exactly? My supervisor had given me permission to put her as a reference for whatever future job I go for, but this was about 6 months ago. I haven't seen her since. I'm applying for a new job, and I'm wondering if they actually end up calling these references or not. Also should I be giving her a heads up that someone might be calling? Is that weird?
>>18230652
Yea they will call her just give her a heads up.
ive applied for a lot of jobs in my six years but not a single one of them ever called my references, and I had literal celebrities listed.
>>18230666
Which celebrities?
Lindsey Lohan has not counted for 10 years now.