Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 1889. page

>>18226772
I enjoy it. I can imagine if you hate working out it would be hard to stick to it. Maybe play pickup basketball or something you enjoy.

>>18226772
It's just near the end of me going to the gym I started to see little to no improvements, no muscle gain or fat loss for months and I started to lose sight of my goal and lose motivation.

>>18226772
Girls.

Sure I do have some ideal I wanted to achieve myself but I doubt I'd find enough motivation to do it just so I can jerk off to myself in the mirror.

>How do I make things better? Barring that, how do I prevent this sort of drama in the future?
By not making very stupid decisions in your life.

fuckbuddies = no emotions
Someone fucked up

>>18226722

>how do i fix the drama

no guarantees but the best route is likely to tell both that you're a slut, that they shouldn't let you get in the way of their friendship, and that your intention with both of them was just sex so they have no reason to feel like they should compete, but now you are not having sex with any of them. then you stop talkignto both of them and let them sort their own shit out. its self depreciating, but its probably the best way, dehumanize your self to them, make your self not an attainable potential gf and they will hate you intsead of each other.

>how to prevent this sort of drama in the future

generally you shouldnt sleep with two people who are on more than just a casual aquaintance relationship.

Many people join trades because theyre too fucking retarded to go to school. They can work drunk and smoke cigs and wear shit clothes and curse up a storm all day for a living and make great money. That doesnt mean all tradesmen are retards.

But yeah, sounds like you encountered a fcking retard.

>>18226646
Stop overthinking this situation. Stop being insecure. This is a fairly normal work conflict that happens all the time . The guy doesnt know you, you dont know him. Misunderstandings happen. Be a little forgiving, accept and admit mistakes. And with new experience, hope you understand eachother better next time. Takes time to grow in your job, m8. Youll do fine

>>18226738


I know any reasonable person would look at the situation and just say it was a misunderstanding. And any other other lead guy or foreman would have just laughed it off and let me fix it. The way he implied I was stupid really irritated. I'm no genius, but I'm not a moron either. I really wanted to fight him. I think it's because he is only 2 years older than me, I don't see him as an authority

>>18226645
>I've even crossdressed before and liked it.. Is that gay?
It's not related to your sexuality. Just a fetish.

>What's wrong with me? Is there any legitimate way to reverse this?
Nothing wrong with being a fag, that's just how your brain is, also not much you can do about it. Embrace it. Your parents will eventually get over it, or not but it's their problem not yours.

>I've even crossdressed before and liked it.. Is that gay?

Nah, it can go either way.

>Is there any legitimate way to reverse this?

No. Many people have tried very hard to come up with one, but all methods wind up being either severely damaging or just plain don't work at all, sometimes both.

Though, if you used to think you felt some attraction to girls and then switched to having an interest in guys, I don't see why it couldn't sort of swing back the other way. You're still young and likely working out your sexual preferences, there's a chance you could turn out bi or something. It cannot be forced, though. It has to be allowed to happen naturally and there's also a chance it just won't.

It may also be worth noting that sometimes gay/bi men do end up marrying women, though I'm not sure I'd say it seems like a good idea. I've got a friend whose dad was married to a woman for a while, but later divorced and went on to date a lot of men.

sometimes cross dressing is an extension of sexuality, sometimes its not. its beside the point.

your parents arent wrong. you are attractive. you can get any girl. you can probably get any dude too. and you can still marry a dude.

probably not what they had in mind, but you are their son, not their action figure. if this is a deal breaker for them, if they really care so much about what kind of genitalia your partner has, then why should you care about them? thats not love, thats imagination.

>>18226617
Are you sure that's a real word?

>>18226617
Its not a word.

But english can make up words.

Context is important but interpret it as people who wander.

I am looking for some name to my "company". It have to be something with travelling, wandering etc. and all of there normal names are taken.
I know it is not a real word

>>18226581

>the hardest dilemma of my life

oh boy you're going to be in for some real eye openers down the road

>>18226587
>hardest love dilemma

I know there are way harder dilemmas, but subjectivly its the hardest love dilemma i (personally) expirienced.

I don't want to be that guy but, your definition of love is like
"Tight snatch, hot fucking"
Or something else?
Cause if first, you defenetly should break up, after a while same "snatch" isn't satisfying
But if no
Well just try to not look at other girls, try to share her/your hobbies like try hard, don't let go of anything, be in general "school friends" cause time will come and your human nature will kick in and do the rest for you. Also try leave half destroyed fake "suicide notes" like half burned, she will never leave you then :P

>>18226566

romance / relationships are supposed to be unique, that is what makes them special. the reason online dating has been mostly distilled down to hooking up is because there is no natural chemistry involved with it. people have the same problems with speed dating.

in order to really date things have to arise somewhat naturally. not that you shouldn't pursue women, but if there was some 'step by step' that guaranteed a girl it would already be known first off, but it woudl also not make the relationship special.

the best we can describe it is
>meet people
>if a girl interests you ask her to hang out at some event / date
>when you are with her, don't be afraid to 'make a move', be close to her, tease her a little, put an arm around her. and if the vibe is right, kiss her.

now you're probably saying
>HOW DO I KNOW IF THE VIBE IS RIGHT?

trial and error. no, you wont get accused of raping someone for trying to kiss them on a date.

>the problem is: okay, we got to know each other a bit, but that date didn't do any progress

what do you even mean by this? like it didn't end up turning to a relationship? did you ask her on another date?

>18226584
>>18226584
Well, after the date I send her some photos we took on that "date" and write something like thanks for a good time.

I didnt ask her for another date.

>>18226616

okay, well how is it supposed to progress if you dont try to progress it?

or were you just not itnersted? because by your own account you only went on one date with one girl and would now be acting like that means NO girl will ever make you happy.

so which is it?

>>18226548
You're in for a fun time.

Enjoy the pussy

>>18226548

wait til their periods sync up, that'll be fun

>somehow I manage to call universety professor tities so I will be able to rewrite the exam.
Keep in mind that all this shit happening in one day
>after an hour or two my dad calls me and start yelling wtf how you manage to fucked up so hard
He knew about the speeding cause car was registered on him and police chucks phoned him like instantly
>April 15
>I forgot to go to last "pre-concert" playing with the jazz band I am playing in
>get chucked by the main band cuck

And today I was flying in school (like a ppl license school), and the fucking plane tyre poped the instructed cucked, I cucked 3 times harder, well atleast I don't need to pay for that.
And like what do I do? Do I just kill my self? I still don't know what is with my dog.

And I still need to pay a visit to that police cuck, and I read on the internet speeding above 30 in my country is like 160€ fine so yeah fuck me

buttstuff

>>18226540
She says "bought" something though

File: suicide-gun-full[1].jpg (60KB, 1000x750px) Image search: [Google]

60KB, 1000x750px

>>18226538

You're thinking to deep about this

She is hoping you want to fuck her in a bathtub full of ice.

If you want anal, just ask her in a flirty way if that's in the cards.

It's possible that she's thinking of more "out there" stuff than you've done so far. But more often than not this is just a horny expression and she means in whatever position etc. Extreme example but just pointing out that I'm quite sure she would not want you to fuck her while smearing shit on her. She is just thinking of the things she knows you like - and potentially some more "normal" stuff you haven't explored, but you'll have to ask her, even if only because anal takes preparation.

>>18226514
bump

>>18226514

get a better job

Focus on career. Improve your work ethic through sport. Adopt the idea of your working day doesn't finish until you go to bed. I don't mean work for the man 18hrs a day. Instead of fucking around on Facebook, 4chan, Netflix, video games do something which will make you a better person. Night classes, sports, reading, artistic outlets.
Matched betting is a good way to make a few extra pennies. Stressful but worth it.

You're living in fear that history will repeat itself. You have been betrayed big-time and it still weighs on you eminsely. But all you can do is take a chance because it you become afraid of what may be a good thing because of a past incident. You cant be afraid of what may happen and you don't exactly have to completely trust everything this person says or does, but you have to take the risk I trusting them enough to let them into your life.

This person is not your ex. This is a whole other human being. Take a chance and trust your intuition and heart.

>>18226534
Im trying
It's just hard sometimes. He lied to me about his baggage in his life when we dated, to emotionally manipulate me. Now I'm seeing someone with their own baggage and my instinct is to just distrust him. He's given me no reason to at all though and I really want this to work with us.
It's just so hard.

Just take things slow. Perhaps you're not ready to jump into another relationship. It's tough to trust anyone ever again if you've been manipulated. Maybe this new guy seems genuine and in time it will feel right. But those walls you put up are to protect yourself from anymore emotional damage.

Flirting is interaction. You don't fire away shots, you establish something between the two of you. Flirting is never creepy as long as you a) don't jump off the deep end right away before even knowing how receptive she is and b) don't ignore signs of discouragement.

Compare it to having a conversation. Talking to someone in itself isn't rude. Talking over someone when they have twice tried to do an "it was nice seeing you, but-" is. Talking to someone for twenty minutes while they nod unenthusiastically, avoid eye contact and don't say anything back is. Walking up to someone and springing a monologue about yourself on them out of nowhere is.
This is generally speaking. You might run into someone who for whatever reason is charmed and bemused by your tangent. But better to play it safe.

Safe, everyday ways of flirting mostly include not hiding your signs of attraction. Allowing her to catch you doing a quick up and down if she shows up in a cute outfit. Not hiding that just looking at her face makes you smile a little. Allowing yourself to make more and longer eye contact with her than you otherwise would. Not "cleaning up" the natural giveaways that you like her.

A next step that is more expressive but still in the "normal" realm is the league of nick names, innocent but technically not necessary touching (like always touching her shoulder/arm to catch her attention, playfully swatting whenever you can), teasing/banter.

If you do stuff like this and she likes you and is a good flirt, she might tease you back or say something mildly insinuating ("oh sure, I bet you get allll the girls", mentioning "your girlfriend" without knowing if you're seeing anyone, whatever). If she is more awkward, reserved, insecure, whatever, she won't react that explicitly but you can tell from her flushing, smiling, turning towards you more, being unable to hold eye contact but looking pleased etc that she likes it. good luck.

>>18226494

by asking her out. this isn't highschool. its not a 'DO YOU LIKE ME?' situation. you ask if she wants to go out. then you go out (assuming she said yes) and then you make a move.

>>18226512
>>18226603
Idk for me exactly, these "interactions" are more like soft bulling. Cause I have seen a lot of jerks (who just want some tight snatch) doing like you described, and so little actual people trying to get in relation ship

>>18226493
Be friends or cut contact thats all you can do if she isn't into you

>>18226493
Some people will be attracted to you, some people won't. Put yourself out there - if it doesn't work out, be glad you weren't a pussy and take solace in the fact that you're now more experienced at handling rejection.

dont fucking do it.