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>>18442908
reward her for walking, go slowly about it
hard to do it if you're the only one in your family pushing for it, though

you can either try to lure her with treats outside like a horse with a carrot thing or just fucking eat her idk ur choice

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>>18442914
>>18442916
she is a little fat fuck and i wanted to steer clear of treats, but i'm willing to try at this point
>>18442912
i gotchu

>>18442900
https://youtu.be/7qAFjsTWqIg?t=95

Was he mentally ill? I can't wrap my head around how anyone could be convinced by that thing to commit suicide.

Well you guys aren't helping, but i'll bite

did that dude kill himself afterwards or something?

How long are you planning to do this? Will your health condition be cured?

You're gonna faint by day 5 max and you will get dizzy , disorientated, and hurt yourself.

>get weaker
>going back to eating 1500 calories will make you feel bloated
>breathing problems

soylent should let you survive for quite a while but it will get quite dull

would it make you feel better if they broke up? if so what do you think that means?

>>18442915
Yes. I'm positive it would. I went through a similar (but not nearly as bad or long) situation with another guy and immediately felt better when he and the girl he left me for broke up. In that case, I just let go of my anger immediately, but I wasn't depressed all the time like I am now.

I feel like it would be a giant weight lifting off me in this case. I'm not sure if its:

1) Just me being egotistical and selfish and wanting to be better, or at least not worse, than the other girl

2) Me still having feelings for him and hoping for reconciliation or at least being able to be friends (we tried and it doesn't work...I'm too bent out of shape over what happened)

or something else entirely.

I don't know. I hate that they're together but I don't want to do anything to break them up either, even if there was anything I could do. I just want them to break up.

>>18442885

These are all pretty classic signs of extreme dependence on one person. Yes, they were your boyfriend for a long time, but you were a person before you started dating him. Act like that person that used to be there.

>>18442880
if the first thought in your head isn't yes then don't do it. Or tell her to change her life style and you'll give it a chance. Its up to you though

Never Settle.
It will only lead to more complications in the future.

>>18442880
She's an alcoholic and is very unstable. Do not date toxic people or you might get destroyed as well, not necessarily form alcohol overdose, but your emotional health might be at risk.

Listen, I've had quite a few cases in which I had the opportunity to have a gf, but all of them seemed unstable. As the saying goes, you need to love yourself before loving someone else. Negativity around you will only bring you more negativity towards you. It might sound a bit cliche, but at the end of the day you kind of adapt to the people around you, your surroundings. You are who you spend time with.
Date women who are stable, it is your supposed life partner you're choosing after all. If you want to support her with her shit you can do it as a friend, no need to be her partner.

At least that's my perspective.

The man commited no crime why woulf you alert the police

>>18442857
Forgot to add that I'm a little hesitant because our company can punish calling out things like this because it draws negative media attention if people find out about it.

>>18442861
Because he threatened our establishment and staff?

>>18442843
2/2

here it goes
>she sends him private posts of girls sticking fingers in their mouths sexually
>she sends him her selfies and asks how she looks in them and if she should post
>she frequently calls my bf her best friend
>she begs him to go visit her at work which is like 45 mins away (he hasnt)

Bf seems to not be responding flirtaciously, but also not setting boundaries. He usually just responds sarcastically, pretty much as he does with all his female friends.

Upon finding that, I take a glance at texts and phone calls and recent snaps, she is in none of them.

I am fuming at this point. I don't think he's cheating, but like, he's not setting bondaries. This led me to feel super betrayed. I kept thinking, when she finds out she's side chick, she's gonna run straight to my bf and that's gonna be a big stupid thing.

I told bf I looked through his phone and saw convos of him and girl. From there, he didn't even want to hear me. All he did was say I breached his trust by looking through it. Yea, I did. But what he's doing isn't right either? I had a feeling there was something I wasn't gonna like about her and that was it.

Now bf and I are arguing, he barely wants to speak with me. I feel like I did so wrong. I feel fucked that I felt the need to look in his phone. But he was also acting really strange and also claims to see nothing wrong with his friendship with this girl. Like, there are lines being crossed.

Basically, my relationship has turned into a shit show. How do I go about this reasonably?

>>18442843
Also to clear this up, she is a side chick to one of my boyfriend's work buddies.

So that's why I refer to her as side chick

>>18442843
Boy that's a lot to take in. The thing is, he shouldn't be having secrets. You both should be willing to show your phones to one another at any time. Now, I'm not condoning snooping in his phone because you should have asked him for it and done it right in front of him. If he said no, then there's a red flag and you may be justified in snooping.
At this point, you have a betrayal of trust even if the texting was nothing sexual. I would explain all of this. Then try to work through it. If you can't then breakup.

>>18442828
are you suppressing your emotions?

>>18442858
I've never been an emotional guy I try to be as rational as possible so I guess I do supress my emotions sometimes in favor of the more productive and beneficial rationality I'd say.
I do have emotional outlets though.

Why do you ask?

>>18442874
i grew up suppressing my emotions it killed me inside. whats your relationship with your mom and dad like?

>>18442791
what was your relationship with your dad like, start there

>>18442791

>i feel like a teenager because I enjoy skinny men who aren't party goers

what? everyone has tastes, everyone has types. I like ginger hippies. you like me. whats wrong with that?

>>18442800
With my dad?
Well I don't feel like I was his favorite. He smacked me sometimes when I was a kid. It's getting better when I grow up but still awkward, I love him but I don't really know how to show it, I'm not affectionate type of girl, I don't like skinship, not only my dad plus my mom and my sister, I love them but I don't want to hug or holding hands with them or showing affection.

>>18442771
your school should have a guidance counselor, I'm pretty sure every school is required to have one. Ask your teacher how to talk to them.

I have the same problems when learning a new subject. I've figured out some ways of negotiating this problem. For one most schools only teach one way and that is on the blackboard. I'm a visual learner I need something to associate the problem with such as ( learning calculus by using bridges and other parts of my engineering class to use to associate numbers with). Another item or thing I've used is chewing gum in class my brain needs something pointless to somewhat focus on while I'm learning or reading ( ambient noises help for me when I'm reading a lot ). I use to do this all the time in middle school I went from straight C's to A's but, got lunch detention for chewing gum in class. Schools don't teach multiple ways unfortunately they have to get through each lesson at a good pace. Everyone else gets left behind and it's really sad honestly that is what happened to me and many other kids. Your problems are exactly the same as mine while going through school. You don't have a learning disability you just learn differently thats all. I wish I had figured this all out when I was younger ( now graduated high school currently 2 years out ). Maybe try some of the things I suggested if you get easily distracted in class ask if you can chew gum or something similar ( something that doesn't require any thinking to do ). If you have a hard time focusing on reading or other problems maybe try some ambient noise or instrumental music. Math for me was always the toughest subject I always fell behind. I had one teacher who taught math another way more visually. I scored higher than any other of my class mates during calculus problems and exams. All because I learned the same lessons a different way. In engineering there are multiple ways to solve a problem and, I hope this helped you out somewhat. Best Wishes

>>18442771
My brother is the same way. He is 10. He was in the special ed class. He wasn't retarded, but a frustrated learner who gave up easily. Took several times of repetition to understand something. And he too always got 1.5 of the alotted time for tests or quizzes. He recently was passed to the normal classes so thats good.IMO my brother is autistic (there are several forms) but has never been diagnosed. He just always got extra time, extra help. School also provided occupational therapy and speech therapy.

The fact that your teachers recognize it is a good thing, this could encourage you to get help.
Don't feel bad like you're stupid. Its a neurological thing far beyond your control, but there is help.

>>18442755
if you're over 10 years old it's a bad idea to wear that in general.

>>18442755
No.

>>18442755
Sexy as fuck, thanks for the eye candy

>>18442756
Fuck off dick head

>>18442741
Stay up until 10pm and go to sleep.
Drink a bunch of coffee or take caffeine pills.
Whatever you have to do but just stay up.

>>18442741
Melatonin

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Do you have a condition like insomnia or something? If so, see a doctor and do what he tells you. Or get checked out, maybe you have a condition and you should get professional help in that case.

If you don't and it's really just a shit sleep schedule then I have some experience. What worked best for me is pulling an allnighter once, then don't sleep for the entire day and only go to sleep at the time you want to go to sleep every night. To keep the schedule easier, you need to go to bed every night at the same time and wake up at the same time, sleeping is pretty much a habit that you need to keep after a week or two it will just feel right to go to sleep at that time and you will wake up even without an alarm. Sleep seven and a half hours (that's pretty much ideal), set an alarm and don't sleep in. Make sure to tire yourself out during the day, if you don't have to work then go for a run or go to gym or study something.

A good diet also helps your sleep, no need to obsess over nutrition, just drink lots of water, cut down on soda and junk food and make sure to eat some veggies and fruits every day basically just have a nice balanced diet. Watching your calorie intake is a good idea as well but that's beneficial for not getting fat/losing weight rather than improving sleep. Also don't eat right before you go to bed, you shouldn't eat within like 2 hours of going to bed.

>>18442716
I'd typically think that a cheater would regress sexually with their SO.

I'm typically much more sexual and dress prettier when I've missed my bf for a long time and finally get to see him

>>18442716
Are her old friends married and with kids?
You can always ask why she has been more open minded.

I've been in this exact situation before. Turns out she was fucking another chick.

>>18442710
stop thinking that way. Also go get laid then you wont feel "weird"

>>18442710

if you like what you like, you might as well like to like it.

>>18442821
Sure but I think prostitute won't work and I'm pretty hopeless with girls. I look pretty good but that's about it. No idea how to get laid. Tried clubs and tinder but failed because I couldn't get out of my shell.

i am waiting for my dog to die so i could finally kill myself and be done with life. there's no cure for this crushing emptiness. i can only distract myself from it with various activities.

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go to a doctor and get medicine for your illness

I had this issue in my sophmore year of college. I am going back to college to finish my associate's. Continue working on your studies even though it is painful OP. Take some medicine to help out with your schooling as you may have ADD or ADHD.