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>>18445831
She is definitely right.

>>18445831

She is. Almost no question. Refusing to insure a second car is some cheap ass shameful shit. You don't get to claim it is a money saving tactic when you have 6 vehicles.

>>18445831

Yeah, I also think that she is in the right

6 children is a fuckload

And it seems ridiculous that she can't drive because he is cheap

yes it's normal to have a panic attack if you're not used to doing drugs. you may have smoked too much and that can cause high heart rate which can induce a panic attack. and getting really introspective is common when high. don't worry. weed isn't for everyone. all I can say is that eventually those things will stop if you continue smoking, or you can just avoid it altogether.

>>18445882
maybe "normal" isn't the appropriate word. "common" is probably better.

>>18445890
>>18445882

My one question is whether these thoughts were something Im repressing IRL and potentially valid, or if theyre irrational paranoid thoughts

you can't do anything. either he gets over it and stays or he won't and leaves. either way, it's a win. so don't beat yourself up for wanting closure.

an hero

>>18445693
So you really wouldn't be interested in having a 3some with him and another girl?

>>18445674
Depends on how social or ugly you are

Best Women:

pros
------
>sex
>fun
>social status
>cooking
>emotional support

cons
-------
>expensive or unattainable
>require maintenance and work
>get old and ugly after a while

Best Videogames:

pros
------
>fun
>cheap (after you own the console)

cons
-------
>social stigma

I think you can't really compare the two, to be quite honest.

are root beer floats or foot massages better?


the two are entirely unrelated and not at all mutually exclusive.

The question is would he even recognize you, depends on how bad it was for him, maybe like 3 months after he just brushed it off and forgot about you, maybe it is a long lasting wound. Depends on his character and you know him more than we do. But if you do, you should send him a facebook message like "Long time no see, man :) I hope you aren't still angry at me for what happened. I know it's my fault, but you are a dear friend for me, I would like to hear from you again. How are you doing? What have you been up to lately?" and you can either expect " Yeah man, long time no see. I'm glad you came to your senses, it's past, I would like to see you soon" or he just sees your message and doesn't answer, or, "Please fuck off" or something in that style, which probably won't happen since he got married so I guess he's not a full blown autist.

>>18445575
Move on. U done fucked up the relationship.

>>18445575
If they are married he most likely won't ever trust you or her around each other ever again. Best of luck, I guess.

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>>18445544
U beta cuck, u deserve to get ur heart broken by random roasties.

>>18445608
Woah I just got rekt.

Might as well kill myself.

>>18445544

forget about her and focus on yourself. go ride a bike or play some sports or suck a dick. who cares. literally anything besides think about her

>>18445534
Best advice I can give is simply act like you don't give a fuck at all, as if their dead to you. People tend to verbally bully because they want to trigger you and get a reaction from you, the less you show that you care the more they will get bored with trying to piss you off, don't enable them.

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Learn to laugh at yourself.

People don't really see point in bullying someone who attacks them selfs.

>>18445554
I've been doing this in all of my interactions with them and it's been working well on most of them, but because the main guy personally knew me he keeps doing it even if I show that I don't care and don't react. The others tried to push my buttons alone and failed to get me to react, but when they're with the main guy that start making fun of me again. When they're in a group I still don't react and I ignore, but if they see me again they'll do it again. They just take out their self-esteem issues on me because they can.

>>18445504
>examples

they say that I am
-obviously a 4channer
-conceited and ugly
-pathetic and a lowlife
-stupid
-aspergers
-slightly lazy eye

The insults are a little bit simplistic, but there is a grain of truth to each of them. Why would they want to throw insults at me, though? Is that what friends are supposed to do?

>>18445504
>They're so helpful
>put me down so much

Pick one.

>>18445513
I never quite understood why people use Asperger syndrome as an insult. It doesn't come close to regular Autism.

I've had pretty much everything you gave as an example told to me by what I thought were good friends. I broke it off with these people because I have friends to be there for me and to have fun with, not to be put down because they have an incentive to.

It'll be really hard at first, OP, but it's the right decision.

cont.

>today after dinner
>been wanting to buy a guitar
>have no money
>ask my dad for money to buy a guitar
>he tells me he doesn't like my grades this semester and that he'll buy me one if I improve my grades.
>tell him that my grades are my personal responsibility, and that it isn't really relevant to giving me money for a guitar
>he says I'm still not buying it
>I say ok and leave. I don't even argue
>5 minutes later he comes to me yelling if I think my grades are my personal responsibility then everything is my personal responsibility and makes an empty threat about not paying for my college anymore because I don't appreciate anything he does.
>I shut up and wait it out until he leaves.

>be in college 4 months ago
>dad comes to visit
>as always he's analyzing and criticizing the way I do every single fucking house chore
>he goes off at me because I don't organize my washed underwear in pairs of underpants and undershirts, starts yelling because he can't find a certain undershirt and accuses me of losing it because im unorganized
>I look at the clothes hanger where I leave shit to dry
>it's there
>show it to him so he shuts the fuck up.

>he's a hygiene freak. when we were kids, every time we went out of the house for anything and came back in he would make us sit outside in the door way until each one of us took a shower and was deemed clean enough to sit anywhere inside the house. he no longer does this for some reason.

>he constantly argues with my younger brother because he plays a lot of vidya.
>my brother is a straight A student
>note that he does this even during summer break
>keeps telling my brother to do something else with his day, but provides no alternatives. we live in an apartment building in a crowded city so my brother can't really go out and be active.
>he can't really go to his friends's homes and hang out with them often because they all live far away.
>no nearby youth centers or clubs because we live a third world shithole.
so besides house chores and studying my brother has nothing to do at all. I've tried to explain to my dad this situation and he only responds with "I don't care if he sits down all day and does nothing but not play videogames all day".

>he once called an uber driver for me since I was visiting I friend (whenever he gets the chance he HAS to be the one to call a driver for me. he always wants to track me). I was going to the friend's house for the first time so I wasn't too familiar with the way. The driver was following his GPS and I guess it gave him longer than usual directions. My dad proceeded to call the driver and yell at him for "taking the long way on purpose to cost us more money".

anons i'm fucking sick of this. this has become my everyday life. Pls help.

>>18445424
I know I'm gonna get REEEEEEE'd at for this but
>all men are autistic

The trick is to find a way that you and your old pot and pan can communicate. Trying sitting him down when he's in a good mood and having a couple of kings together.

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>>18445305
No doubt, some of you will try to pick this apart and argue every niggling little detail or even criticise it for being too general. Well, to those of you so inclined, I simply have this to say: this is what worked for me and it may work for you. I make no claims that this will fix your relationship problems but it may just help you if you follow this advice.
My wife and I have a few very simple ground rules when it comes to disputes. I will outline and briefly explain them here.

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>>18445308
1. Absolutely no physical aggression. There is no reason at all for it. No hitting slapping biting spitting or throwing things around. All this does is assert physical dominance in an attempt to bully one another into giving in.
2. Don't involve friends or family.
It isn't fair to bring someone in on your side. The fight is between you two and seldom is the occasion where a third party will be fair and objective. 1vs1 becomes 2vs4 and so on and it only serves to make things worse.

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>>18445313
3. No name calling and insults.
They don't further your point and the only outcome is offense. This behavior is only ever harmful and has no place among people who love each other.
4. Don't try to "win". You are arguing because you don't agree. You may or may not be "right" but bullying people into submission does not change their opinions. It goes to the old adage: "a man (or woman) convinced against his (her) will is of the same opinion, still."
Your goal should be to foster a greater understanding of your thoughts and motivations behind your own actions and you have a responsibility to try to understand your partner's as well. That leads me to the next point

What's your biological sex, orientation, and preferred sexual role?

http://www.strawpoll.me/13257722

You can answer even if you haven't had sex.

Girls,

You wake up to find out your bf/partner now looks like Henry Cavill. Thoughts?

>>18445280
yuck

>>18445235
Are you both really into each other? The past is the past and you can't change that anon. She doesn't owe you any explanation nor justification for her past relationships cause she has the right to date ( no matter the body count )
So chillax my dude and don't over think it

>>18445235
This isn't a great place to ask for advice about this kind of thing. A significant % of the dudes on this site honestly, legitimately believe that any girl who has ever been fucked by another dude is undateable, even if she's only ever had sex within the confines of a committed relationship. You're probably going to get a bunch of replies from them, and they'll validate your insecurity.

I'm going to give you the "normie" advice, which happens to be correct in this case:
>You can tell me to stop being such a huge faggot if you truly feel that way on this matter
Stop being such a huge faggot.

6 isn't that many (I mean, it'd be a lot for an 18-year-old, but if you're in your 20s it's not extraordinary). 6 especially isn't that many if she's telling the truth and they were all boyfriends and not just random hookups.

Put the fact that you were previously a virgin out of your mind. You think ANY dude likes the thought of his sweetie getting fucked by her prev. boyfriends? No. Of course not, except for a tiny minority of literal cuckold fetishists. Most men don't end up marrying virgins and so most men have to learn to just get the fuck over the fact that their penis is not the first penis that has entered their sweetie's vagina. You can start by putting it out of your mind. She's with you now. Stop thinking about other dudes' dicks.

>>18445271
>>18445295
I'll reply to both of you momentarily but I thank you both for the input. Really I do.

>>18445193
there's a big difference between "reading" something and truly experiencing a book.

>>18445193
When I was psychologically unwell, I read entire books and didn't remember a damned thing. My grandmother experiences the same thing. She thinks it's senility, but I know it's because she's stressed and depressed all the time.

I would always be able to have conversations with people, but that was probably because I was so excited to take a break from my isolation. Anyway, they say that poor attention and memory is another sign of issues like fucked up sleep, malnutrition, depression, lack of exercise

MGSV could have been good, but Konami was in the process of falling apart and they put no-fail and regenerating health shit in the game.

>>18445208

How did you become psychologically well though?

I think I loved MGS V even though it was unfinished. Granted, the open world was empty and shitty but the sandboxes were really well made.

>>18445203

I can watch youtube videos too and not remember a thing,

>>18445149

Pure is either 100% or not at all.

>>18445149
Neither?

>>18445149

The concept of 'purity' is bullshit for religious nuts. Avoid any man who cares about 'purity'. He'll be rent asunder by the Madonna-whore complex and forever doomed to hate and fear what he loves, for one cannot have their cake and eat it, too.

Klutz! Lol!

>>18445139
The bill for the stuff she broke

>>18445152
>The bill for the stuff she broke
She actually didn't break anything we were trying to move. She tried to grab a box to catch herself from falling, but kinda missed. lol