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shit shes just getting a head start
nothing to worry about here anon

>>18443952
No one will want somebody that can't wipe their own ass or eat without food getting everywhere that would drive me fucking crazy

alright anon so here's what you should do. She literally my be autistic.

So best case scenario. your mother is a helicopter parent making your high functioning autistic sister completely helpless and developing in a productive manner.

Worst case. your mom is a helicopter parent who is making your autistic sister helpless on purpose and is also molesting her along side your father or her boyfriend.

What to do. First off have a conversation with her, start connecting with her and building a relationship. Ask her if she has any questions if she thinks anything strange is going on, help her grow up tell her how to clean after herself and that it's good/fun to do. if she is being molested/raped report that shit.

>>18443925
Improve your com,unicationskill by telling her exactly this. Maybe you two will figure out something together.

Ask her on another date.

>>18444039
Thing is i somewhat did, when we were two weeks on i was a bit worried and i said to her:
Dont you think we dont talk too much?
And she was like yeah... its weird..

Honestly i dont want to bring back again the topic because i feel there is no way to fix it and it might make things weird for us..

I've seen this happen before. She was spending all of her time chatting up her ex and ended up banging him. Run, OP. Run as fast as you can.

my friend is in a similar boat, all she does right now is talk to me, her hubs, play dnd or make food, she just went on vacay with her hubs. her husband is what keeps her sane the most.

Worst case you just have to stick it out, until you have the kid, sometimes life requires that from us.

>>18443922
My partner works late nights and sleeps most of the day so we don't get a lot of quality time together currently. I don't really have any friends either and I can't find any online friends. What do you think I should do to fill up the time since I've been so lonely?

>>18443930
She plays video games or trolls people on discord with me mostly, it's probably unhealthy but she also stays up at crazy hours of the day just to get quality time in with her husband(also the same situation as you partner working late). sometimes she'll go on omegle or typeaway(which is dead) and fuck with people on there

What are things you like? are you a normie? maybe look into online classes to help curtail the boredom, look into new shows? I know most gals just binge watch trash reality tv

After you have your kid maybe try frequenting a club gym? one might be in your area and rarely have a daycare, usually can make a lot of girlfriends there.

well first off you having a reason to exchange words is ideal, like if she is keeps sharing a glance with you(make sure you aren't being creepy and making her feel uncomfortable). or if she has a book you're familiar with.

Then go up to her and start up small talk, if she seems okay you should ask if she'd want to get coffee sometime or something. ask for her number or something. if she says no just say okay well thanks for the chat anyway and bye!

Don't over think it, it might seem like a lot to worry about but it isn't. worst case in any scenario is that you die, and that can't be that bad anyway.

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>>18443819
Step 1: test the waters
Say Hi (and smile) or something and gauge her response.
If her response ISN'T super negative, keep going.
If she doesn't respond, tells you off or whatever, smile and wish her a good day.

Step 2: Mid game
ask her her name or whether she's having a good day or not.
Whatever you want to ask her. It doesn't really matter what it is, now you are just trying to show her you're not a weirdo/robot. You can repeat this step a couple of times (not same question obviously) to build her comfort with you. This increases the chance of doing well in late game.

Step 3: late game
If she keeps responding well, tell her you're going to X restaurant/bar/coffee shop/whatever (RIGHT NOW) and wonder whether she'd like to join you, you believe she could be good company. If she says no, or she's busy or whatever, ask if you could take her out some other time. If yes, give her your phone so she can put her number in. If no, wish her a pleasant day and move on.

Good luck champ

>>18443871
>(make sure you aren't being creepy and making her feel uncomfortable)
I can't seem to succeed in that. I think it has to do with my inherent insecurity which makes me give off creepy vibes.

Wear latex gloves when ur by yourself at home? Find better ways to cope with stress? Wrap thin bandaids or something around the tips?

>>18443736
Get more sunshine, exercise more. Drink more water.

>>18443778
>Wear latex gloves
It's over 100 degrees where I live, I really can't.
>Find better ways to cope with stress?
I don't know if it's stress related, I've been doing it for as long as I can remember.
>Wrap thin bandaids or something around the tips?
Actually tried this with gauze before, I just end up tearing it off without thinking.

>>18443797
What does that have to do with nail biting?
Regardless, I have a manual labour job that's outdoors, can't do much more than that. I drink plenty of water, if I didn't I'd pass out pretty quickly.

>>18443698
>>>/adv/
>>>/r9k/

>>18443702
Oh fuck I thought this was /v/ carry on.

>>18443698
Op despite what movies say women will not complete you, you're 24. 24 is still very young, if you really care about finding a meaning in your life then put your life together. You might have wasted 10 years but if you kill yourself then you've wasted the rest of your potential life. In each life rain will fall but someday the sun will shine, maybe your rain is just lasting a little longer than normal. Or maybe you have the power to stop the rain yourself.

Make a Molotov Cocktail and throw it into someone's backyard or open window then just run. Should make you feel soooooo much better.

Is there any way you can visit a therapist? If you find the right one and build a relationship with them it would make a world of a difference.

>>18443677
Get exercise and start new hobbies. Put out Craigslist add for a buddy to play Frisbee with. By doing things like this youll expand your mind, find happiness, and meet new and interesting people.

>>18443642

if you can admit you are jaded and cynical then you know that its a false reality and all you have to do is start to acknowledge the actual reality.

>>18443648
Well, the fact that I'll never find love and be loved in return still remains so I don't know what to do about it.

>>18443652

what makes you think thstd true?

>>18443639
You should give up on smoking all together because it's retarded, useless and a waste of money (not to fucking mention in your health).
Just look at yourself you're trying to improve in life by having an *actual* job and this shit holds you back lmao pathetic

Fuk

>>18443639
>Should I just give up smoking all together?
regardless of whatever else is happening the answer is yes. besides the stuff the other anon said it can lower your test levels by half, reduce your sperm count, it saps you of ambition, and despite people saying its not addictive you're questioning quitting for a real job that would better your life.

I say this as someone that smoked pot, stop smoking it, it's fucking your life up.

>>18443638

we don't know. post a picture and we'll let you know. if you can't post a picture we cannot help you.

>>18443638

maybe they're just nice.

>>18443638
girls are taught to be nice to men even if they are creepy, it's socialization. Niceness does not mean that they are into you or flirting, too many guys get this idea.

>>18443637
>>>/lit/

Short answer is
>practice
Long answer is
>practice makes perfect

Start thinking in English. English isn't my native language either, but I write so well people mistaken me for an American or a Brit.
ALSO
Write in English. Not in a conversation, but a diary where you will express yourself in English exclusively.

>>18443637
read more of what you would like to write (fiction; journals; letters; etc)

get some guides online or buy one, there are plenty of books free online, although they may be a bit old-fashioned for the twitter/reddit/4chan generation.

still, the patrician choice.

Start trading cryptocurrencies full time.

>>18443645
go back to /biz/

>>18443633
I really wonder how does one self taught himself something he hates?

Maybe learn something you dont hate and apply to that job instead?

>>18443624
You sound like a cuck. Also
>omg guys I LOVE her
>cheated on her nonetheless

Get a grip m8

>>18443624
Lmao you sound like a high schooler move on you fucked up if you actually loved her your dick wouldnt have ended up in another women retard

>>18443643
>>18443671
I completely asked for this asking for advice from an anon online forum, this just proves how sad my life has gotten. I'm a female as well by the way. Nevertheless, thank you for your help?
I don't agree still, more specifically because I know how I felt/feel, it was mostly the consistent pain that drove me to the edge and I made sure to do nothing more than fluff level activities, however still not making it okay.

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bampf

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last bump

>>18443523

I found the book 'Feeling Good' by David Burns about as effective as talk therapy. It's focused on cognitive behavioral therapy, which is very effective if your main problems are related to cycles of irrational thoughts (which lead to cycles of irrational behaviors, which reenforce the irrational thoughts, etc.).

Can you heal a damaged psyche

DPS here
What's our battle plan? Do we need a tank?

>>18443302
Do you use mostly divine favor, healing or protection prayers?

Whats your secondary?