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>>18447958
You sound Familiar, USA?

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>>18447958
You're not alone friend. I was cheated on and dumped 5 years ago. Honestly tho, it has started going better. I was depressed for about 3 years and dealt with it with weed. I realized I wasn't getting any further away from the depression after a while (it did keep it mellow tho, instead of bawling depression and thoughts of suicide), so I started lifting weights religiously.

I still haven't been able to fall in love again, but I'm starting to be fine with everything that went down. The only things that fuck me up now are the dreams where she shows up and reminds me of everything good that we were.

Not sure if the dreams will ever stop, any dream-magicians here with good tips?

>>18448002
Yes sir. Cali specifically

>>18447834
>irrational annoyed
Period. Welcome to girls world. Half the time she will be irritated and other half horny (hopefully) or just clingy.

>doesnt know what she wants
Again, welcome to the girls world. The solution for this is easy. Decide yourself what you want and let her tag along. Girls love manly man who doesnt give a fuck about what girl wants. Just do your thing.
>ask her on date?

>i dont want to lose her
Easy. Next time she tells you this bullshit, hug her tightly or cuddle her. Doesnt matter what she talks about, she just needs to feel like you care about her.

Ask her on date, cuddle her a lot and hope for best.

break up with her she's already cheating

You still having sex with her or tells you off anytime you want some. Hate to break it to you if she does those things then the other anon is right and she found somebody else. If you love her and if she does really loves you, talk to her about your issues in the current relationship and how it's not normal and what you expect out of it, if she makes an excuse or doesn't see a problem, then you deserve better, girls can be a little dyfunctional but that's not an excuse to sabotage a relationship.

Realize that no one gives a shit. At least not after high school.

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>>18447806
Rest in piece op. I would love to tell you that some girls love short guys, but they dont.

Get yourself into movies. They are looking for people with various body characteristic all the time.

Start working on your personality. Not dictating your life by some internet height meme is a good start.

>>18447767
I put some genuine feelings on to this thread, sucks to see no advice or thoughts.

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I'm sorry bro, but what you've been doing to get women has been wrong all this time. Forget what you think you know, its wrong. Love is a lie. Find and take the red pill, it just might fix your problems

>>18448082
problem was that this is a hard read, formatting is really shit. You need to put in some paragraphs and some more specific questions would help. Will be lurking a bit, AMA, I think I have good insight you can benefit from.

>>18448089
was me

>>18447713
I'm confused, do you want a girl or friends?

>>18447738
Think I'd be fine with just a gal at this point, even though it might be a mistake or make it harder to achieve.

>>18447713
>How should I look for a soulmate?
There's no such thing, its all about probability.

>>18447656

maybe she is feeling sadder than usual? maybe she just needs time. be patient. remind her you miss her but don't be overbearing.

>>18447656
Both from my personal experience and the experience of others, not responding even for 2 or 3 days usually is a clear sign of a break up. I understand that that you're shocked and confused, and there is nothing wrong with that. The first time it happened to me was back in hs when my gf didn't reply to me for about a day or two, and when I went out with my friends she passed right by us, looked at me and didn't even say hi. They do that mostely because they want to avoid the awkwardness of a break up, or they themselves are confused in general.

Best advice I can give you is to move on. I understand if you don't feel like doing that just yet, but there is nothing sensible left. This way you can "stay classy" and next time you see her, don't give in and don't let yourself be jaded. Try not to stress yourself too much about it. It's a shit advice, I know, but that's the best I can do.

>>18447691
yeah ive tried to not say too much. im not sure if shes sad right now, shes been doing a lot of stuff lately. like hanging with friends and she even went aon a little 2 day vacation. usually if shes sad she wont respond for like a day or something. i dont want to be overbearing like you said. but she usually texts me like every day or every other day. i am beyond confused and im starting to lose all hope. but i will keep waiting

>>18447522

Don't drink booze while on them. If you combine them with alcohol you'll blackout while still awake and possibly end up in prison or a psych ward or some other trouble, so don't do that.

>>18447543

At all? Even if we split a cap? Obviously not a shitload of alcohol but a beer or two is still a no go?

My cousin drinks beer all night when she's Poppin and she looks like shes having a good ass time. I even get a little jealous.
I think it rlly depends on the person. Split them and see how your next couple of hours are and then go from there.

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Secondary bump with doggo

Record things like this secretly on your phone.

You could stand up for yourself and ask him to stop but I don't know the whole situation so it might not work, or just stop talking to him until he realizes he'll have no one to talk to/cover shifts at work.

>>18447282
Verbal agreement? Well I don't know if you have any chances of getting back that money legally, much less take the pet.

>>18447300
Verbal agreements/contracts are legally binding. I highly doubt you have any background or knowledge in the legal field.

>>18447300
Verbal agreements are legally binding. The only problem is with enforcing them because you have to prove it's existence. Which will be easy considering I have multiple messages referencing this "loan".

I hear learning to crochet a noose is all the rage in hobby communities out there.

>>18447238
>Gay guy sexually assaults a guy in another thread, and we all assumed he was a woman at first
>"Aw it's okay buddy! You'll learn from your mistakes"
>Says he gay
>People continue acting nice

>Straight guy possibly sexually assaults girl
>First reply is telling him to off himself

The sexism is very real. Since this dude is a straight male he's evil and should kill himself, according to you, but I doubt you said anything to the gay guy in the other thread.

Look man, I think you're in the wrong here, but not knowing the situation, I'm going to go out on a limb and say this girl knows how you are and wants to make you feel even shittier about the situation.

Truth be told, no doesn't always mean no. I learned that recently. A no can be a playful "See what works with me".

You, however, sound like you got into a situation where your girl wasn't in the mood and you kept trying til she submitted. Grey area stuff. I've heard many stories from girls that were friends of mine where guys acted like this and they didn't act like it was "rapey" or "sexual assault" just annoying. It confounds me to this day. So this guy you didn't want to have sex with at the moment, you just gave in because of persistence? Well okay then.

So she's taking advantage of the fact that you're probably a guy who would feel bad about what she's saying. She wants you to feel like shit. And you know what? Maybe you were in the wrong here. But to me, the text isn't doing a service to the whole story. Guys beg for pussy all the time to many rejections and it's not making girls go cut themselves when they finally concede.

>She never really talked to me about it

And that's the big thing here; communication. There was a huge lack of communication in your relationship and it's why you're in the situation you're in. You pressed on when she said no, and that was your first mistake. She should have been more clear, but you should have stopped at the first hint of reluctance.

>>18447274
I just wish there was something I could do
I never meant to use her and it makes me feel awful that we did shit when she wasn't in the mood
So I'm just lost and confused
I had no idea about any of this and when she told me I just felt sick, still do 2 months later
I don't know how to fix this mess or if I even can so that's why I came here

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Forgot to mention: I did originally say I'd be tripping with him

You need to calm down bro. You're wayy too upset about the prospect of waiting. You sound super dependant on drugs. I mean it doesnt even matter in the scheme of things and you're freaking out over waiting 3 weeks to do drugs? You have other problems

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>>18447225


I'm not angry or anything. Since passing my exams I have been dealing with some burnout issues. I now have flattened emotions. Everything seems boring.

I want to be able to feel things, after the tedium of studying everyday, refusing to socialise with people so that I could work instead I am left craving something interesting. One of the best ways to cure apathy is to break out of repetitive habits. LSD is is the perfect drug for this.


I also would say I have no drug dependency. I don't smoke, drink, and only very rarely smoke weed. The only drug I occasianly dabble in is LSD.


Maybe I should wait. But what If I'm not in the headspace in 3 weeks? Then I can't do the acid. I will be in an alien envoirment.


Fair enough if you think I am being too greedy impatient. I want honesty.

>>18447209
Yep. It's called depression. Learn about it so you can understand what it really means, and it'll become a lot more manageable

>>18447213
I don't think it's real depression though. I'm bipolar and take a lot of medicine to treat it and I've felt really bad depression before, the type where you feel at the bottom of a endless pit, and this isn't it. This is more of a i've lost interest in life and I'm having existential dread about it sort of feeling. I don't know maybe it's the same thing though.

how old are you?

>>18447200
Why are you calling this guy your friend while subsequently asking what to say to get his wife to fuck you? At least put the word friend in quotes. Kill yourself, lowlife.

Question,how good of a friend is this?
Anyway she wont likely open up too quickly if you do try chasing her. You put the idea of rejection into her drunk brain and if you go for it now it will be harder to get your dick wet.

>>18447200

Well if you have any respect for your friend you shouldnt do it, you will feel like shit forever because of it. However if you dont really like the dude i guess go for it, its still a scumbag move but hey it takes 2 to tango.

>>18447142
>I am a fucking maniac, aren't I?
Yes.

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>what are my options
I get the feeling you couldn't get laid if your life depended on it.
to answer your question, literally anything else

>>18447153
We'll help! What should I do? Like I said. I am sure I wouldn't mind making out with a woman but having sec is where I would be scared.

>>18447086
Just get on the train, see where it ends up, have an adventure then do it.

>>18447091
Sounds like my life will become even more complicated, which is why I don't want to fail in the first place. I have (diagnosed) a severe anxiety disorder, with minor depression. It's not simply "being bored"

>>18447096
It doesn't matter anyway.

Why a train? Why not a gun?
It's quicker and won't affect the train driver just whoever discovers your body.