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>>18441131
More sleep, better schedule.

Not freaking out when you realise you're in a dream- work out how you can tell.
For me it's light switches not working.

Waking up in the night can do it- I can pause the dream, go to the toilet and play the dream again when I get back into bed.

>>18441131
Amphetamine withdrawal

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>>18441131
Don't stress about it. Try to read about it and get as exited as you were when you heard about it in the first time.

Well you're not a sociopath because you actually care what they think of you (otherwise you wouldn't have made this post). Damaged on the other hand.. eh, maybe? I kinda see it more like that's the kinda person you've become due to your upbringing and your dad made you a 'hardass' because you were raised not to cry or get emotional because that's not 'men' do, and you've internalized that so much that it's become a part of you. You don't cry - but you can still express your emotions. They're not any less genuine just because you don't cry.

Try telling her that. To be honest, as a guy, I'm fucking envious. I have cried maybe like five times in the past few months... It's been a tough year, but that's getting off topic.

>>18441116
>I guess, how do I convey to these people, my gf included that I'm genuine, and that I feel emotions too, I just can't reciprocate with tears, and dramatic display?
Emotions are universal even with animals, of course they fucking know you feel emotions. No need to convey, also maybe you really are not as sensitive as they are (I reckon 20% of the population has a more sensitive psyche)
Also, it is a weak move to cry in front of girlfriend or even wife, the only exception is maybe death of close people.
Men should remain men and not show their vulnerability to the world, because if a woman has her man to protect her, he only has himself (and maybe friends).

>>18441123
>well you're not a sociopath
That's good, I was kinda worried that they might think that.

I think she's gotten used to me, I mean we have been dating for years.

>>18441128
I think I repress anything that would make me look weak, largely for what you stated, my dad was extremely harsh and frequently told me I was garbage, and beat me when I was younger. Since then, I've done everything possible to be successful in life and I'm well off.

I have been trying to have Christian values as well, I guess I just don't want to feel like an asshole anymore, although I probably inject mean statements occasionally and of course accidentally, but I wouldn't ever intentionally try to hurt someone's feelings.

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>>18441102
Sounds like you don't accept your self. You need to learn to love your self. Why are you so ashamed of your self?

>>18441152
I don't know. I guess I don't like being different

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>>18441074
Damnnn

Travel back in time, don't lie to the police, and buy a gun and better locks for your home.

>>18441074
just tell the police dude, what the fuck? it's $5,000. are you seriously going to let someone steal that from you just because you "might" not be safe?

>>18441072
Dying by poisoning is painful as fuck.

OP, it's a pretty low moment but it does go better.
Do you have any relative that can help you financially? Why don't people like you? What's holding you back from finding a job? Can you fix things with your mom?
Maybe there's an easy solution you aren't seeing.

My boyfriend wanted to off himself for similar reasons when he was your age, 5 years later he has a girlfriend, a whole bunch of friends, a nice job and things are going good for him. Don't give up.

>>18441080
She told me she never wants to speak to me again for the rest of her life.

>>18441082
What happened?
Do you have someone you can go to?

samefag

gonna lurk here for some answers

>>18441041

you'll need to stop expecting romance straight off the bat. A true relationship starts out as a friend because most couples that says they've been " mesmerize " by each other the first time they've met will raise their chances in the long run.

It's OK to have an attraction to someone but if you're trying to hook up to have a girlfriend... take it step by step. Don't expect anything because everything takes time. trial and errors. You'll be friend zoned sometimes, it's part of life.
Work on improving yourself, slowly you'll get the hang of it.

>>18441120

will raise their chances of breaking** Sorry about the missing part, I didn't double check.

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> No reply for a day, send her a message and photo showing off the uni campus I have been living on

> Another day passes, send her a message saying 'You're very quiet, don't know what to do with me? :^)'

>Today, she replied 'Eh, yeah, that's right. I'm already bad at keeping in contact with friends. I'm not really looking for more people to be in touch with. Don't mean no offence, but it's the truth, sorry!'

So that's a very long story, but basically, I wanna give it one more try, to convince her to at least have a chat conversation with me. She has been stuck in my head for more than a decade now, and this might be my last chance to talk to her and maybe even meet her before I emigrate to the other side of the world forever. What can I do or say to make her reconsider or at least keep her talking to me a while longer? I know it's unhealthy to be after a girl for so long, and I've tried to forget about her, but she's engraved into my brain. I'd do anything within legal and reasonable means to pull her into my life. Using tripcode to be recognizable as OP

Stop being a creeper

I don't know who's the bigger freak in this story, you or the bint.

just please make this stop already.

She's jerking around with you. Get some self-respect, cut off all contact, and move on.

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i don't know how to use the snapchats or trumbles

Whenever guys stop responding to my snaps I cut all contact. If you keep sending them you just look like a desperate bitch.

>>18440952
Why do you need to confess? Just keep it quiet, it's a collaborative lie, you both obviously find other people attractive but saying you don't is shorthand for 'I'm committed to you'.

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>>18440952
Nah man that happens to literally every guy. You aren't different. That being said dont say it because while we all appreciate someone else's looks we certainly don't fucking spout our opinions on them in front of our partners.

You can look at the menu, but you just cant order. And no point in saying to your gf that someone else's meal looks good.

>>18440958
I'm not sure if she finds it as obvious that I find other people attractive, which might make her feel like she's perpetually lying non-collaboratively and we know what lies do to relationships. The atmosphere has been kind of poor lately and I think that this font of guilt and self-betrayal might be the reason for it, which is why I feel the need to talk to her.

besides, secrecy enhances passion so her attraction to some dude might grow out of proportion as a result and I really don't want that.

Don't go to uni
Get a trade

Journalism is an extremely difficult field to make money in and find good work. I'm at the end of a biology degree and my job prospects are non existent.

Don't study at university unless you are doing STEM; and even then finding work is not guaranteed

>>18440938
Journalism is dead m80.
Do a degree in something you're interested in, but nothing too niche (eg do it in English not just journalism) and make sure you get lots of stuff on your CV such as you can eg volunteering, summer jobs, clubs etc.

Yea if you want a fulfilling career as a Starbucks barista, go for it.

>>18440912
>I'll never have
Wrong. You can at any time. You just dont want to. If you wanted, you would have done it all already.

So make up your mind, make a list of what you want to do and stick to the plan. Or enjoy being boring shutin introvert. Works too. Once you become bored of being shut in, find gf and enjoy.

>tell me what to do
Nobody can tell you how to live your life. YOU have to decide what you want to do. And remember, doing nothing is ok option too for a while until you figure it out.

Guide to worrying
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=k5RH3BdXDOY

And now go and do something.

it feels good to be in your comfort zone...but that's not the way to evolve as a person.

sooner or later, life has a habit of pointing out your flaws, so if you hide in your comfort zone it will be harder and harder to enjoy life as you age.

Fuck your sister. I didn't read your post, but that solution seems to work for everyone else on this board.

You must be as thin as a teenage girl

>>18440873
> it looks like I'm playing dress up.
> i break out no matter how soon I wash it off.
My bad...

Hard to say without a pic.

What colour palette do you wear?

Style?

Haircut type?

What's the problem exactly, that you look too young for your bf?

I know this sounds severe but his depression is his problem. I'm guessing you focus all your attention on him and his issues and don't make any time for yourself to talk to other people, so a major part of your life revolve around his mental problems - I'm not saying you should break up, but tell him he needs to get serious about getting help for his issues. You do need space and time to talk to people who won't exploit you for sympathy. I'm not invalidating his problems, but I speak from experience, relationships crash and burn over this kind of shit.

>>18440871
Maybe he just need to breath fresh air a little bit, why did you restrain him?

>>18440895
He broke through the mosquito net

>>18440894
Thank you, I asked for space so we can start over our relationship. Start going on dates to the park or museum as if nothing bad had ever happened. Just move on and try to act normal, I'm not a stunning example of an adjusted individual, but I want to try, I wanted to have a future together

>>18440827
>fuck
>observe

>fembot
No such thing. All women are normies.

>How do I tell if he actually likes me or wants to pump and dump me?
Who gives a shit? It's probably your only chance to get a dick slide in your pussy so just take it in

>>18440827
The part of your mindset is that you are super insecure.

One easy solution is to ask him on date, buy condoms and later let him fuck you. It will probably be terrible experience and he will left you after few months of fucking (maybe if you make him eat you out, you will start to like it) and this way you will get rid of fuck ton of your insecurities. So you will basically let him do whatever he wants and hopefully gain some confidence and experience from it.

Other way is to ask him on dates and persistently denying him sex until you know for sure he likes/loves you or ghost you.

Eitherway, work on your insecurities femanon. Good luck!

>>18440776
You could get into retail with no experience and no skills. There are quite a few other places like restaurants, movie theaters, or factories that might hire you. You just need to find them and apply.

>>18440778
What's it like being a cashier? I've been considering applying to the nearest supermarket actually.

>>18440790
I'm a cashier actually, so you asked the right guy. I started out as a bagger and then was promoted a few months later after I asked for a promotion from my manager. Being a cashier is a pretty easy job for the most part. The only time I have any problems with it are when I get rude and difficult customers. Money counting is very easy, even as someone with minimal math skills. At the grocery store chain I work for , we are tracked on the speed with which we ring up customers. I am very skilled at my job in this regard and consistently perform as the top or one of the top cashiers in my score. If you end up being tracked by speed it is very easy to do a good job, as long as you are clever and know what you're doing. Another thing about being a cashier is that it gives you the opportunity to develop your interpersonal communication skills. You typically have the chance to talk to other cashiers during downtime and of course can chat up any customer you'd like as a part of your job. Of course, you don't have to. Typically I keep to myself when chatting with customers, but the occasional small talk is nice. When starting out as a bagger, I was extremely shy, so being forced into a cashier position where I needed to speak clearly and talk to people was very good for me, personally. I think that other people who experience anxiety would benefit from the social experience of being a cashier.