Hey /adv/ so I am in need of a some unique advice. I just want

>>18442828
are you suppressing your emotions?

>>18442858
I've never been an emotional guy I try to be as rational as possible so I guess I do supress my emotions sometimes in favor of the more productive and beneficial rationality I'd say.
I do have emotional outlets though.

Why do you ask?

>>18442874
i grew up suppressing my emotions it killed me inside. whats your relationship with your mom and dad like?

>>18442877
It's fine, they told me I could move back in with them to save money if I wanted. We've had a few rough patches and we don't talk much but I don't talk much to anyone really.

I don't think I am suppressing emotions in a harmful way, I still experience them, but I don't allow them or try not to allow them to influence my behavior or decisions most of the time

>>18442896
why do you feel the need to be alone? Im in the same boat. I have no friends and distance my self from my parents. Ive grown to enjoy the solitary life

>>18442909
It's just what I prefer, I grew up with plenty of friends I've done the whole social life partying drugs etc but it always felt like a chore. Like a job that I had to get up and do because that is what I was supposed to do or what society taught me is worth doing.

Eventually I stopped caring and only did what I wanted which 9/10 is be alone with whatever hobby I'm into at the time.

>>18442858
>>18442877
>>18442909
You're trying to give him therapy he didn't ask for.

You're asking the wrong community, OP. Statistically there have to be some highly antisocial, attractive guys on here, but the probability of them seeing this? Not great. I have never been in your shoes, but I've dealt with fallout of different kinds and I know how prepare for it. Identify people with personalities you can get along with and people who influence other people. Don't skimp on either category, perhaps ten to twelve altogether. Because of the phenomenon you're dealing with most of them will necessarily be male, but don't shun women. Get them on your side, invest lots of energy into this quickly because the payoff is greater when you're first interacting with people. Taper off you interactions after that and communicate that you are a withdrawn, introverted person and happy being such, but you do care about how other people perceive you. The reason you're doing this is because an individual almost can't sway group opinion, but a smaller group can sway a larger group's opinion. You need 'friends' to do the work for you. Done correctly this will create a feedback loop of positive opinion and the way people who aren't your friends see you will also be affected through osmosis of attitude.

Ultimately, this may not be enough.

>Every class im in there are girls who make it obvious they like me and men trying to be my friend
>Mfw they told me I'm good looking on /soc/ and I've never experienced this
Or maybe I didn't notice and rejected it which resulted in resentment
I was pretty much ostracised until I started socialising more

>>18442828
When I want to avoid people I do one of two things

1. Hang out with someone who is liked by very few.

2. Act very boring

Sadly the latter comes pretty naturally to me, so there isn't a lot of detail I can give you there. If people find you boring they'll usually avoid you unless they need something from you which is good for forming connections in the future.

>>18442928
cool, the best advise i could give you is say your taken , when getting advancements from women, or even better wear a ring. Showing that your "married". You need to make good excuses that make the people around you not feel rejected. Like your to busy on a project or you wish you could hang out with them. People like there egos stroked. Make them feel like you totally would hang out with them but you just cant because your mom has cancer (something you cant skip out on) But in general if you want to make connection in your career there in a certain amount of socializing you have to do. You cant completely get away from it. Think of it as part of work.

>>18442931
Gah, I may have been slightly vague on something: Your intent is to taper off your interactions until they've reached a recognizable minimum threshold. You just can't get away with no social interaction while maintaining contacts, so you will have to put in some amount of work. But if you did a good enough job in the beginning the inertia should take care of most of it for you.

>>18442931
i'm not giving any one therapy, just asking questions anon.
lets talk about your child hood. you seem to have a knack for jumping to conclusions.

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>>18442950
Jesus Christ you're retarded. He'll be in a graduate program with these people, which means long term contact. They will eventually know he's been lying about a lot of shit and you can't even predict what they'll conclude about him at that point. It won't be good, though.

>>18442931
wow this was really helpful, I've tried just being honest and telling people I'm a loner but they usually think I am just lying to blow them off, but if I add the vulnerable admission that I do care about what they think of me it will legitimize what I'm saying.

Thanks anon, I wasn't expecting much as you pointed out from this site but you came through

>>18442965
not if he keeps his distance which is what he wants to do. mama having cancer is just an example.

>>18442828
Try and make it obvious you arent looking for relationships while still sticking to your polite attitude. Be friendly, but not to the extent that people will want hang out with you. If all else fails, take up a hobby generally seen as undesireable.

>>18442972
The thing about being deceived is that it requires you cooperate with the liar, to want to believe what he's saying. What these people want out of him is interaction and using your method he'd be lying to them with the intent of selling isolation, which is not a product they'll be happy to buy. Tell someone a relative has cancer and they'll want to make you feel better because family suffering typically means you suffer too. Rejecting their compassion will further concern them, make them wonder if you're on a downward spiral. Tell someone you're married and they'll want to meet your spouse or see pictures. If you have social media accounts you'll have to shut them down or lie on them too. Your idea creates so many fucking loose ends it's not tenable and sooner or later people recognize a pattern: Excuses.

>>18442972
No he's right I can't lie like that it's too risky.

I'm not sure if there is a real solution beyond getting married for real to solve the female issue, hopefully once it's well known and believed that I am a good guy whos a loner it will turn off most women but I seriously doubt it.

If I get most of the guys on my side I think I'll manage though...

>>18443021
gods speed anon!

>>18442993
The vast majority of women cannot fathom the concept of a single straight good looking guy not wanting to be with hang out with or fuck women, and I don't blame them honestly.

All they hear when I somehow make it obvious I'm not looking for relationships but single is "you aren't good enough for me".

>>18443006
your right my method just creates more questions. Thanks for teaching me something anon

>>18443021
The idea in my suggestion is not really to discourage women from liking you, but from throwing a shitfit and poisoning the community against you when you reject them. The order of events, therefore, is important. Aggressively build relationships, taper contact down to a minimum, and then explain to people how isolationist you really are once they already like you. If you reject someone and they make a big deal about it, people will look down on that person and not you. I'm sorry, I have no idea how to solve your lady problem, only how to keep your professional life intact.

>>18443048
Got it,thanks again for the great advice!