> be me
> overthink situations
> overthink causes social anxiety which translates to awkwardness
> be Asian and grow up with emotionally unavailable parents
> have the emotional intelligence of a robot
Yeah so. I'm actually good looking and girls have thrown themselves at me for sex but I overthink everything and cock block myself. How do I stop doing this? Also, how do I not overthink on solving my over thinking problem?
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And yes that is me in picture
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>>18468843
Honestly get some alchool in you. Not so much that you're totally drunk but enough that you loosen up.
And just stop thinking about it. If a girl is throwing herself at you the only thing you should be thinking about is the moans she'll make when you're pounding her.
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>>18468843
Idk dude, realise that it doesn't matter. Even if you make a fool out of yourself in front of a girl, it doesn't matter. Stop talking everything so seriously, realise that we're here only briefly and just have fun with life
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>come up to a cutie
>smalltalk
>ask her number
>she gives it to me
>fuckyes.png
>try to call her the day after
>it's a number for an organisation who finds lost pets and keep them
>Yell "Fuck this shit man" and throw phone out of my window
>it's now broken along with my heart
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>Co worker
>smiles a lot
>REAALLLLYYYY cute and hot
>build up the courage for MONTHS
>I heard she's about to leave this job
>Gathering my courage
>She's now at break
>I go to her
>"Hey, wanna go out sometime?"
>"Sorry, already have a bf"
She was really cool about it later on. She was sure I hated her or something up until then (despite the fact i'm friendly as fuck).
It was the first time I asked a girl out too. The rejection wasn't as bad as I thought it would, but that's because I usually don't fall for bitches.
Hell, it even built me up for the future. I felt HAPPY that I even tried.
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Girl rejected me once and almost called the police, because I only said "Hi, how are you"
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I worked at this small restaurant, a luncheonette.
a regualr customer would come in and me and her had some decent convos, nothing flirtatious but always pretty relaxed. I thought she was cute, she seemed to be pretty cool with me and a coworker thought she was digging me too.
I say, hey we should get together sometime at school, we went to the same college, and she kinda hesitated but agreed and gave me her number.
the next day when we were supposed to meet i txt her and she said she had things to do and was busy but maybe another time.
later that day she came into the store i worked at, and talked to me as if nothing happened. I brought it up and she said yea shes swamped with so much school work and we both kinda left the issue alone.
she stopped coming in to the store after awhile.
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Friend is batshit crazy, therapy a problem. 2017-06-29 04:05:35 Post No.18467005
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Hey /adv/. I while back I met my friend, we'll call them N. We really hit it off, great friends, relationship, yadda yadda. Over time, I found out they are.. batshit insane. They have obvious symptoms of schizophrenia, self-harmed (they might still, but we dont talk much anymore). They obviously suffer from some form of depression, and was asessed with a low risk for suicide. She also believes she is vampirekin, dragonkin, and fictionkin. They count as religious beliefs I guess, but I wouldn't be so concered if they didn't have negative compulsions and hallucinations, that they say they can't control it. Now all of that being known, you would think their family would try to, you know, get them into therpy. Even with just the suicide risk, you would think their family would make it an immediate priority to get them help. Not even a little. If it matters, I've been told their mother has Multiple Personaliy Disorder. So anyways, they don't like the topic of therapy. I have no clue, but they get very irritated when I bring it up. The first therapist their family tried said they could get them in to make an appointment. If any of you know about therapy, you know that you call in to make an appointment. You don't make an appointment TO MAKE AN APPOINTMENT. That's just not how it worked. I dropped the subject for a few months until a few days ago. I recently moved away to halfway across the country. I'm nowhere near them, and school's out, so the counselor can't do shit. Right, so a few days ago, I found out they're fictionkin. That's not really bad, I just feel like it could be attributed to a need for escapism. That's not what stood out to me, though. I asked about therapy, and they told me their grandmother called 5 therapists, and they all just blew off the call. Immediately, my bullshitometer went off the fucking charts. No way a seemingly schizophrenic, suicidal teenager would be blown off like that. Hitting max length, will post response.
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I tried suggesting that they ask their grandma to mention they are seemingly schizophrenic. Response? "Fuck off."
MY IDEA:
Their family has a history of neglecting them, as well as not giving half a fuck about them. I think their family is purposely rejecting her treatment for whatever reason. I can only assume it's to hide the gross negligence they treat their child with.
They are a great person and I would hate to see them suffer. I care about them greatly and I want to get them help. What do I do?
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Bumping before I go to bed. If you have any questions I'll have them answered around 10:30 AM CST. Goodnight.
btw please help i really want to help them not suffer
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A few hours ago, I was cleaning the apartment that my boyfriend and I share, and when I went to dust one of the drawers in our bedroom off, inside of it I found a suicide note that he recently wrote. I immediately confronted him, and he told me everything. He said that he planned to die on Friday. He said that he felt completely hopeless for the future, and also that he felt worthless because of his family life (his mother's side was very abusive to him growing up until he cut them out of his life, and his father and paternal grandparents have all died in the last 6 years).
The scariest part is that he was showing absolutely no signs of having unhealthy thoughts. He has shown no history of mental illness. He comes off as being absolutely the most optimistic, easy going and happy person, every single day, except for today. Even when his father died last year, he was doing his best to show absolutely no negative emotion and put a smile on people's faces.
Everybody that gets to know him ends up liking him. He has a career he enjoys that pays well (he took this week off from work, saying that he "just needed a break"). He is the perfect combination of being a loving and sweet boyfriend while also being confident and showing absolutely no dependence on anybody but himself. I have been with him for 5 years and he has always kept my interest, and I'm hopelessly in love with him.
Right now, he is laying in my arms after crying himself to sleep. I have never even seen him cry before. I have been crying nonstop since I found out. I have already called into work so that I can spend the day with him tomorrow.
I don't know where to even begin. All I want to do right now is give him a million kisses and feel his heart beating and tell him just how much he means to me. But I'm literally shaking terrified for what the future holds for him.
Any suggestions to help him are welcome.
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>plan
>date
>means
take him to the hospital
he's going to be there for a few days
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>>18466639
I asked him if he wanted me to take him, and he is very serious that he does not want to go.
He is asleep right now anyways.
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>>18466649
>he is very serious that he does not want to go.
He also seemed very serious to kill himself, so I don't think he's the best judge of what is good for him.
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I just graduated high school, and i'm a girl. I have always been extremely shy and reserved and up until senior year I had very little friends. I met this guy and he always walked to class with me everyday and talked to me. He asked to sit and eat lunch with me on multiple occasions. He would always find discreet ways to touch me or bump into me. He would always ask if i ate and offer me snacks. Whenever I looked at him, he would always look off and smile.
I began to like him. I've never felt this way about anyone before. He is two years younger than me. I even gave him a gift and he said, "I'd like to get a gift for you too."
I texted him a few days ago saying I was at my college orientation and that I missed him. He completely ignored it and is ignoring any other form of social media interaction with me. I started self harming earlier in the year (because of stress) and relapsed last night because of this.
I'm not sure what I should do. I don't want him to hate me but I do not think that saying I miss you to someone would cause this. I feel like I didn't do anything wrong and if he's done with me, he should say it instead of just ignoring me.
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maybe he's just sad you've gone off to school(the connotation of girls going to college is 50% great and 50% horrible) considering the distance, time apart and reputation of girls getting gang banged in college, It's likely he wants to move on from you which is the reasonable thing to do.
Don't let it get to you, I'm sure it's for the best for both of you, and it's not personal, remember the good times and opportunities you have now.
How long has he ignored you btw? maybe he just couldn't get to your messages and you really over reacted? the amount of time some one has freaked out because my social media broke is too damn high.
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>>18466252
Thank you for your reply. :) I texted him Sunday afternoon.
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>>18466222
>I started self harming earlier in the year (because of stress) and relapsed last night because of this.
That poor fucking guy has no idea just how insane you are. Get a fucking grip you psychopath, your emotional well-being should not be dependent on anyone else.
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Asshole brother poured baby oil in my hair. I took a shower and used a fuck ton of shampoo but my hair still feels greasy to the point of being gross.
How do I fix this?
Side note, hair isn't too long, maybe 2 inches
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you're just overthinking it. if you scrubbed it with warm water and shampoo it would be gone. you're probably just not used to your hair being soft.
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>>18471626
No when I feel my hair my fingers feel greasy.
I use good conditioner so my hair is always soft.
This is greasy. Not soft.
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Greasy or grea-hee-hee-sy?
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Hey >/adv/,
How do we learn to accept ourselves?
>TL;DR: I'm trying to be content with the knowledge that I will never be the man I want to be and want to try just being myself instead
Here's my story:
>All my life I've felt near useless as a man
>Never really been able to grasp or become good with manly things like working on cars, carpentry, working with electricity, etc.
>Feel like I'm a disappointment to my male family members because of lack of skill, particularly father and grandfather
>Whenever there's occasion to fix a car or something with them I mostly just stand around with my thumb up my ass because I don't know how to do a damn thing
>Usually fuck up things I do know how to do
>Got fired from my job at a machine shop today for incompetency
>Whatmakesamanphilosophicalquestion.jpg
You probably get the idea: I can't do shit with my hands, and I'm just not a handyman; as much as I'd like to be one.
I excel in other places, but things like English and law do nothing to make me feel more manly or more accepting of myself: in fact, it's quite the opposite.
I'm useful in my own way, but not in the way I want to be. And I'm trying to come to terms with that: I'm tired of trying to be someone I'm not.
But I'm finding it's hard to let go of that idea I've been chasing; hard to steer myself in another direction; that it is hard to just let myself be myself.
So I ask you, if you are okay with being who you are, comfortable in your own skin, what made you so? Are you proud of yourself, of your life, of whatever it is you do? How did that come to be?
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>So I ask you, if you are okay with being who you are, comfortable in your own skin, what made you so? Are you proud of yourself, of your life, of whatever it is you do? How did that come to be?
I'm vain. Not proud of it but keeps me from serious depression because I always can just be content with myself which apparently is difficult according to fwb. To get better at something I usually have to personalize the fuck out of it, same with car. It's an expensive toy that can kill you so it's not surprising some aren't as interested and that's fine, different strokes for different folks. You said it yourself, we all have our strengths and weaknesses. Just play to your strengths.
If you get free time you can always try to learn new shit. What was it, takes about ten thousand hours to become a master of something, anything, you just got to want it bad enough, and that drive varies per person.
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>>18471581
stop trying to accept yourself and learn how to change yourself. you can only do it by practice. nobody gets things on the first try.
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>So I ask you, if you are okay with being who you are, comfortable in your own skin, what made you so?
I accepted a fact that I couldn't possibly give everyone/everything my attention and from there I began to feel comforting gazes from all eyes around me.
>Are you proud of yourself, of your life, of whatever it is you do?
I think everything I've done and doing are not really something be proud of in sense that compared to maybe nobel-prize winners, inventors, and frontiersmen, but I find comfort that when I'm done with something I kinda proving to my older self that I'm able to complete the thing/defied the old self expectations in better ways.
>How did that come to be?
I learn to be like water while still doing what's important to me, then I found inner peace.
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My boyfriend tells me everything going on his life vice versa. Lately his ex has been acting weird(they had a child together). It was ever since he posted something on facebook about how he wanted to marry me one day. After that his ex sent a raging paragraph of a message talking about how she should come before me because she came first and she gave them a child. He just didn't respond. Then she sent a message from her secret account(secret from her husband and full of slutty pics) asking him to friend her on that account so that he can 'see pictures of his child'. She has big tits so her tits are displayed all over that account. He didn't respond again and this just made her calm down but still persist. The last thing she said was that he is being difficult and it wouldn't be that hard to just accept her friend request. What is the best way to deal with this situation? And why is she doing this?
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>Why is a lying, manipulative, whore ALSO a creepy stalker??????
>liek for srs????
Do you really need that question answered or did you just turn 15?
As for what to do? Nothing, your guy is handling it the most flawless way you can possibly handle stuff like this - inaction.
Just let it slide, long as he says nothing to her then she can't do anything.
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>>18471566
This is why you don't get involved with people who have previous ex-wives and children. They are attached to that person for life via the child. You will always be second to the child. This drama will most likely persist throughout the relationship. And if will get worse. You will have no say in parenting the child and the mother will most likely pit the child against you as she seems like a real shit person. So either move on or get ready for a lifetime of drama, arguing and abuse. If you two have s kid together it will get worse. His first kid will feel like an outcast and act up as a result.
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I just find it weird because she never said anything before
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Helll, first time 4chan user here and is like some advice/ assistance. So this dipshit on twitter leaked the phone number and address of a friend, and he's just loving the attention he's getting now. Sir Bunty King and others tweeted about it and his account is still up. He's also been suspended a dozen times apparently and well to be blunt I want to teach him a lesson that he'll remember more than just getting his account banned. If any of you guys could do something or have any advice I'd appreciate it because this dude is s complete sack of shit.
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Go to /b/ if you want a chance at revenge. /Adv/ isn't suited for this type of task.
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Thanks, I might just do that. Again I wouldn't ever normally consider doing this kinda thing but this guy is such a smug prick. He literally said he leaked this girls address and phone number because he thought it was funny that she was crying
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nobody doxxed your friend you dumb dweeb, your friend probably has that shit publicly posted and is just one google search away.
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How do you learn to accept the eight hours you need to work and still be motivated enough about it to come in early and do everything with a passion like most of my coworkers seemingly. I'm serious, I'm not just complaining
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That's an easy one, friend. It's because there's no other reasonable choice. You don't have a choice. I mean you do, but it's the illusion of choice, like the choice to drive your car into the ocean.
If you don't handle your shit, you get owned. Your personal survival and ability to maintain your quality of life should be motivation enough. If you have everything handed to you, of course there's no motivation to do anything, but if you're a normal person, if you don't get motivated enough to work and take care of your home, then you're not even treading water. You sink and drown, to use a turn of phrase.
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>>18471336
If your job sucks and you don't like it, you can't be motivated to go above and beyond, or look forward to work.
You need to start looking for new opportunities that excite you. It's a great feeling when you find a company you love, with bosses who are awesome, coworkers you want to be friends with, etc. That's what they mean when they say you get paid to do what you love.
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>>18471367
Shit man, that's harsh. I'm not really disputing the fact I have to work. It just is really difficult to drum up enthusiasm to wake up so early and work for so long and you don't really enjoy it at all
>>18471396
>You need to start looking for new opportunities that excite you. It's a great feeling when you find a company you love, with bosses who are awesome, coworkers you want to be friends with, etc. That's what they mean when they say you get paid to do what you love.
That's actually a really good point. It not like I'll ever get my dream job as a certified pussy licker but I'm sure dealing with decent people who don't yell at you every time you slip up is helpful
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I only like white guys. I never found a person of any other ethnicity sexually attractive.
I sometimes find men of other ethnicities good looking, but in the same way I'd find a girl good looking. I don't feel any sexual desire for them.
Is it bad? Is it racist?
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Your aesthetic sense has nothing to do with morality. You're not racist. It's ok.
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>>18471129
I'm the same way, anon. It's not bad, or racist. The way I see it is that I'm attracted to what I grew up around because that's what I was used to as a kid. So for me, it's whites and the occasional Latina. I eventually came to realize it was in the bone structure of the faces.You can't help what you're attracted to.
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It's not racist because you don't choose your own feelings of attraction and just because you don't want to fuck them doesn't mean you harbor racially charged negative feelings or opinions on them.
Having said that, any race has so incredibly many people who are so different among one another, I find it hard to believe that you wouldn't like any of those at all even after getting to know them better etc. I used to feel the same way as you for a long time but it changed when I got older, though it is still much more rare for me it does happen that I feel very drawn to a man of another race.
Either way it's not a big deal, many people have a strong preference here.
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OK, I'm stuck /adv/.
I reeeeeally want to bang my gf, and she wants too.
Problem is, she's real fucking shy and doesn't want to bang in any other place that isn't my room. But then I live with my parents and she gets all upset when someone is nearby and fully stops de action.
I need some /adv/ to either empty the house so we can fuck or convince her to fuck somewhere else.
When we get dirty I'm sure she won't even think about it, but convincing her before the act is the tough part.
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23.
Fuck off.
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>>18471096
then you should be able to go get an apartment like a proper adult.
or go get a hotel room
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girlfriend cheated, I forgive her... mostly.
I hate the guy she cheated on me with, they only cheated through snap/text. Unless she's actually seeing him now because I noticed she's out really late lately.
Only her, the guy, and me know what they did. I screwed up though. I could've easily gotten revenge by posting somewhere for guys to get in contact with her for snaps/sexts too before I found out what she did. That way the only person she could point at was this other guy. Now what to do....
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Break up or remain a cuck faggot forever
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Moving on is the easiest way I hate cheating bitches so I would revenge too but I don't have any idea.
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>she's out really late lately
She's fucking him OP and other people know and all are laughing at you.
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I completed my apprenticeship last week and started working so now I want to spend my first real check on my parents and closest friends.
I dont really know what to give to my father, i dont like courses or adventure holiday type stuff so thats pretty much out of question. Ive been thinking about buying him a watch but im not looking to spend more than 200 yurobucks, any recommendations or tips? Currently im looking at stuff like armani or tommy hilfiger
Maybe even a necklace or similar
>he likes cooking, skiing, running and cycling, garden work
But i dont really see suitable gifts that are actually useful that he doesnt yet have or needs
>tl;dr need gift for father like a watch for the jewish price of <200€
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>jewish price of <200€
Was thinking what a nice guy OP is to do this for his family and friends...and then I get to this and see what an asshole you really are.
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My problem with Mia Khalifa is that shes so pretty but approachable. Like her pictures from youth, she's basic as fuck. Little makeup and tit surgery made her look so fucking good it's intimidating.
Uh get your dad whatever you want remember parents care more about the thought than the actual gift.
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>>18470945
Cooking class with a big name chef
Classy dinner for just the two of you
I'm thinking about suiciding but I can't bring myself to doing it while sober.
When intoxicated I usually stop caring and I guess I could do it while drunk.
But I hear lots of people commit suicide on LSD
Is LSD a good idea?
I'm just plannjng a this atm, nothing more.
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If you are forfeiting your life anyways, why not do some people favors before you die? Go on a vacation. Get crunk. Give a bitch the best head of her life. Idk create a metal as fuck bucket list. Maybe living a more fulfilling life will help you kill yourself when your sober. Worse case scenario it backfires and you don't kill yourself but hey least you had fun trying
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>>18470940
Do us all a favor and kill some evil people before you do please.
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>>18470940
If you can't bring yourself to do it sober, you're not really ready to do it.
Start thinking about alternatives, like improving your situation, and see which of them you can do sober